Making Peace with Wedding Photos

If there’s one piece of advice I would give any couple getting married it’s this… get a bangin’ photographer. That’s not to say you can’t also have Uncle Raj or Cousin Joe also take some to ‘build up their portfolio’, but I urge you, if budget allows, hire a professional.

I say this because a professional photographer will make you look like rock stars. I love having my photo taken by a pro because even though they’re a relative stranger, it makes me feel safer. As a recovered insecure person, I still get nervous about the end results so I like minimising the risk of a ‘bad shot’. Photos hold power over our self-esteem unlike anything else I can think of (trumped only by video maybe).

Ooph! How quickly a badly taken snap can steal your joy.

Recently I was at my Mum’s house and had the urge to look through some old photo albums (remember them?!) Some random photographs of me aged 18 years old fell out of one of the books. In these photos I’m the fattest I’ve ever been.

I’m sorry to say that even as a body acceptance coach and Anti Diet Riot Club Co-director my immediate reaction was horror. I hid the photos away quickly because I felt genuine disgust at how I looked. I continued to go about my day but I couldn’t stop thinking about these photos.

I realised that having spent years talking to other people about how to make peace with photographs, it was time for me to practice once again what I preach! I went back to the albums and took the photos home with me.

I want to share my tips with you because I believe that ALL photos taken on your wedding day should be enjoyed whether they’re ‘perfect’ or not.

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Red, Yellow & Blue Cardiff Covid Wedding

Like a lot of couples, Helen and Jordan’s original June 2021 wedding plans fell through due to the pandemic. While they’ve pushed their big humanist celebration back to 2022, they kept their original register office date and decided to still make an occasion of it, but just do something small, quirky and meaningful and not worry too much about traditions. “I’ve never really wanted a wedding that was super traditional anyway,” Helen told us,” so planning this small ceremony and just doing it the way we wanted was a very freeing experience.”

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Laidback & Intimate Red Rock Canyon Vow Renewal

When Kiesha and Stephen originally got married a decade ago, only a handful of their loved ones were able to make it due to short notice and Keisha wore a Target clearance dress that wasn’t her favourite. “Ever since, I’ve wanted a ‘redo ‘ where we still keep things small and intimate, but I get a beautiful dress and we have everyone we love surrounding us!”

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Is It Too Late Now To Say Sorry? Dealing with Conflict Within Your Relationship

It’s important to remember that conflict within your relationship is normal, but there are certainly ways to deal with it that are better than others! Natalie Lee explores how to successfully deal with conflict within your relationship.

Newsflash: You are separate individuals. You have been brought up by different people, maybe in different areas, and maybe from completely different cultures with your own unique way of doing things. The aim here is not to eradicate disagreements but rather learn how to navigate them more effectively without them escalating or building those big bolder blocks of resentment, which will only serve to slowly strangle the life out of your relationship. Trust me, I’m speaking from experience.

What are you really fighting about?

It’s also worth remembering that often, the thing you’re arguing about is rarely about the real thing you’re arguing about. On the surface you might be arguing about the cost of wedding flowers, but try to strip it back and look at what’s lies underneath. Yes, flowers may seem trivial but if they’re not understanding your point of view, or why you want to get certain ones, is it inadvertently giving you another message – that they don’t care about your feelings or opinion, that they’re the one that earns most of the money so it’s up to them how it’s spent, that they don’t respect you? It is unlikely that they are saying anything to deliberately to hurt you so try to identify the feeling/s rather than focus on the action and (probably when you’ve calmed down) communicate this to your partner.

When you are planning a wedding, emotions are high. There’s a lot at stake, a lot to think about, agree on and pay for. Is it any wonder that pre-wedding squabbles will happen? In fact, I think you’d be pretty weird if you had no arguments during this period at all!

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A Collision of Galaxies: Celestial Glam meets Bowie Inspired Wedding

Tom and Geneva have a metaphor for their relationship: ‘a collision of galaxies’. “We swirled around each other our whole lives,” the bride told us. “He played at the venue I stage managed and we had all the same friends, yet we don’t recall meeting until the time was right years later. Once our gravitational forces took over, we were inseparable; we started dating while I was working SXSW festival, which was crazy because I worked hours like 9am-2am that week, but I still wanted to see him after!”

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