New Orleans has a lot of sentimental meaning to both Emily & Courtney. Although their wedding day in Virginia, they wanted a New Orleans/Mardi Gras theme for the event. Their wedding photographer Crystal George explains, “Emily had been through some pretty difficult years and took a trip to New Orleans on her 28th birthday. During that trip she said she hit a turning point in her life. The city itself has been through so many difficulties and still perseveres with it’s culture and beauty, and she said it was an inspiration to her. At a large cathedral, St Louis Cathedral, there in the city she had a spiritual moment.”

“On her 31st birthday she revisited the city, bringing Courtney along. They had a civil ceremony and then visited the cathedral together. For their church celebration at Grace Memorial Episcopal Church (the images here) and their wedding party they wanted to continue that New Orleans theme. With an unpretentious black tie celebration and masquerade.

The reception was held at The Aviary, VA, and the couple crafted as much as they could themselves to fit the theme. “Emily is super creative and she says that her wedding she wanted to do her way, and feel like it had her fingerprints all over it,” Crystal continued. “The decor for the reception was all from the bride and groom’s own collection of things from New Orleans, including the dress and lingerie the bride wore for the civil ceremony.

“Emily wanted vivid color and a comfortable feel. She handpainted and blinged out the bridesmaids shoes and masks to match each girl’s personality. She also as customizing the earrings for the girls.”

“The bouquets were made by Skull Fly and had 5 removable pieces in them for the girls to keep and use later. They were a necklace, 2 hairpieces, a brooch and a hair clip. Skull Fly also made Emily’s bouquet and the boutonnieres for the men.”

“Emily & Courtney were working on a budget. They did specialty drinks for their bar, serving beers from New Orleans including Turbo Dog and Black Voodoo, and Hurricanes etc. Anything other than the specialty drinks was paid for by the guests. Their food was made by friends of the bride and included blackened Cajun shrimp, chilis and a sweet potato bar.”

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“A weekend of celebration” was how Jen & Rob described their festival wedding to me, and that couldn’t have been a more perfect description. Stokes Barn, specialising in self-catering group accommodation, in the Shropshire hills played host.

“We knew we wanted something different,” explained the bride. “We wanted to celebrate with the special people who enrich our lives and who share and understand our values and beliefs. We had the idea of a festival type celebration where we could create a magical, memorable and warm weekend (whatever the weather!) of celebration, relaxation, much merriment, Peace and Love!”

After the ‘legal ceremony’ at a register office on the Friday morning, the couple had a humanist ceremony outside, on the Saturday afternoon, in front of all their guests. “We made our commitment to each other, and shared our aspirations with our guests as they sat on rugs and chairs in a semi circle around us. My brother was our celebrant and our daughter read ‘the Owl and the Pussycat’ and my son read ‘The Art of a good relationship’.”

“We are not practising pagans but are pagans by heart and believe deeply in our connection with Mother Earth,” Jen continued. “Therefore we wanted to find a peaceful and natural environment where our friends and family could also share with us the beauty of nature and of the countryside. We found Stokes Barn, the most perfect location imaginable, a place which provided shelter but also allowed our guests to camp while enjoying views stretching across Shropshire.   Our daughter came up with the name ’Joyfest’, a perfect description of what we were hoping to create: A Festival of Joy!”

For catering, the couple asked their guests to bring their favourite dish instead of wedding gifts. This not only meant they had a really unique and delicious meal, but that everyone was able to feel involved in the day. “We asked people to bring a dish for the Friday night buffet and, if they wanted, to bring something to decorate the courtyard or marquee. We wanted to make the whole event very personal to every single person that was there. We wanted our friends and family to feel like they were truly a part of it and that they could make themselves completely at home!”

“We hired a bouncy castle which was a complete success with not only the 46 children who celebrated with us, but with many of our adult friends and family too,” the couple continued. “We asked people also to contribute to the entertainment so our guests organised tug of war competitions and rounders. We also put on a morning of archery.”

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Bethany & Eric’s carnival-themed wedding was held at their home, Antebellum Farmhouse in Granville, Ohio. “The inspiration for our wedding really started with our pre-civil war home”, Bethany told me. “When Eric and I first saw our house with our realtor we both stood on the front porch with tears in our eyes. We had not even walked through the front door but we knew this was our home. Eric looked at me and said ‘we could be married here.’ He then carried me across the threshold. Sounds like a fairy tale…. But so real.”

The theme may have started with their home but over time ‘a day and night at the fair’ became their manifesto. Royal Steamline provided the perfect stationery to fit the idea. “We wanted to create a vintage carnival feeling for all ages of guests to enjoy,” the bride continued. “I have an antique and interior design business named after our home, so I incorporated many antique and vintage items, furniture and props to create the scene. I searched auctions and estate sales for real vintage goblets, punch cups and plates for our guests to enjoy. I used vintage furniture outside to create a living room area that was a fabulous photo booth for all of our guests as well as the bridal party.”

The ‘outdoor living room’ was a particular highlight for all the guests. “We NEVER realized how much of a hit the backyard living room would be,” Eric explained. “I would have bought five more couches and cocktail tables and candelabras had I known it would have been so popular a place to sit! We also used it as a makeshift photo booth area — it was perfect!”

Bethany wore a vintage handmade lace dress that a friend found in a suitcase that she had bought at a garage sale! “When I tried it on, it fit like a glove and I knew it was meant to be,” she explained. “The only problem was that it was so old that it was pulling apart in places and no seamstress wanted to touch it because it was so fragile. I finally found a lovely woman named Peg Smith who had sewn the costumes for the Columbus Ohio Ballet for decades and was willing and able to hand pleat the tulle hem and hand mend the lace.”

“We had a bar under a maple tree where we used a vintage wood bar and stools lighted with globe lights and feathered lamps,” continued Bethany. “The gazebo was an iron structure from Mexico that Eric gave to me as a gift before the wedding. We used hay bails from our farmer neighbor topped with oak planks from a local mill for our ceremony seating.”

“We wanted the food to have a carnival feel as well,” she remembered. “We chose Leslie’s Creperie, a local food truck, to serve our guests fresh made to order crepes. It was a visual experience to watch the crepes being made as well as being delicious. We also served fresh baguettes made by our neighbor who has a bakery called Lucky Cat. The children (and adults) enjoyed the spun cotton candy, popcorn, and shaved ice cones.”

“There was something for all ages at this wedding. The children played vintage carnival games as their parents danced the night away to a live band. The night ended with a spectacular fireworks display that lighted up the sky over the farmhouse.”

“The best thing about our theme was that it gave the kids something to do, ” Eric confirmed. “Our bestest kid-sitter Sarah brought a friend and helped the kids win ‘carnival coupons’ that would be drawn from a hat to win some prizes. All they had to do was spin an old carnival wheel I bought and get above a certain number, or put the softball in old milk jugs that were in the barn when we moved in, or put the bean bag in the corn toss, each ticket making them more eligible for a prize. Yes, we sugared them up with cotton candy and snow cones and a lot of candy. But then the kids had THEIR area and the parents had their area under the maple tree bar or on the dance floor, or on the big front porch.”

Even though their wedding looked spectacular, like most newlyweds there are a few thing they wish they could have done differently. “I wish we had a ferris wheel and I checked into hot air balloon rides,” the groom explained. “I bought fireworks — it was soooo much fun to just let them rip toward the end of the evening. My simple addition was antique lanterns that I bought while I travelled. I went from Oklahoma to Boston to Arizona antiquating before work and finding old railroad and barn lanterns to hang in the lights. I packed them gently and travel them like gold in the airplane overheads. Many times I had to explain to TSA that is was for a wedding and that they could test away for explosives. I already had my fireworks! However I think the simple lanterns, torches, and lights in the trees and tents presented a very easy way to light our 3 acres. An outdoor fire-pit added to the romance as well.”

Obviously a huge undertaking, the couple called upon friends and family to help plan and execute their wedding. “The day before the event, all of Eric’s family, sisters, brothers-in-law, their kids and grandkids showed up early to start the set up,” said Bethany. “They set up tents, tables, carnival games, outdoor bar, cotton candy and snow cone machines, lights, dance floor, hay bales for seating, etc. They were an amazing team. They left the farm looking absolutely fabulous.”

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Jenni & Alex’s wedding celebration began with a Mendhi ceremony held at the groom’s parents house a few days before the wedding. Their photographers Madlove Photography were there to capture this intimate event as well as their actual wedding, which was held at Rancho Guajome Adobe in Vista, CA in November.

“They were such a sweet and fun couple!”explained photographers Mike & Nickie. “Their day was filled with so many beautiful details, many of which were handmade by Jenni. She DIY’ed the boutonnières, table settings, wedding favors and so many of the cute decorations. They were really able to achieve a beautiful, vintage aesthetic for the whole day.”

The bride wore a Dolly Couture short wedding dress and Wild Diva shoes which she customised herself by adding flowers and other materials bought from a craft store.

“We loved working with Jenni & Alex because they are the type of couple who just keeps you smiling and laughing the whole time you’re with them. Their ceremony, which was officiated by a friend, had their guests laughing the whole time, yet it was also so beautiful and heart-felt. Besides the awesomeness of having food from Whole Foods and an ice cream truck, our favorite part of their day was the first dance. Alex sat Jenni down in the middle of the dance floor and danced to/mimed ‘I Put a Spell On You’ around her in front of all of their guests. It was hilarious!”

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For their December wedding, Janelle & Liam wanted an aspect of heritage and an element of the handmade. They chose Eryldene Historic House and Garden in Gordon (Sydney, Australia) as the place to host their celebration. “Most of our wedding was handmade – assembled and painted by bridal party,” the couple explained.

“We made our own vintage fabric bunting and table cloths as well as hand made fabric napkins. We sourced over 100 vintage plates from op shops and collected jam jars from family and friends. For favours we had home made seed pouches and home made orange flavoured lolly pops. The seating chart was a window from an old home in Epping and some fence posts. We wrote on the window panes so people knew where to sit.”

Janelle wore a silk crêpe de Chine dress, hand dyed in tea leaves, which was designed and made by her sister, Louise Welling. Her baby’s breath flower head garland was put together by her Mother.

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Lavender Princess

I came across the work of Kirsty Mitchell via flickr a few years ago. It was her ‘Lavender Princess’ image (above) that I first saw and I was immediately hooked. I’d never seen anything like it and I was smitten…head over heels in love in fact! It’s actually hard for me to articulate how Kirsty’s work makes me feel but needless to say she transports me to a magical world with every image that I’m lucky enough to see.

If possible, Kirsty’s story is even more moving than her incredible images. Get ready to be inspired…

The Faraway Tree

Hi Kirsty, can you tell us your story – how you started in photography and a little bit about your journey from then till now?

I studied analog photography many years ago when I was 18 at art school, but this was before digital became mainstream. It was my first contact with the medium, and sadly I felt defeated and frustrated by my tutor’s focus on the technical processes rather than creative expression. I saw photography as an art form not a science, and so in the end I followed a career into fashion design instead. It was another 13 years until I picked up a camera again in the summer of 2007. I was in the process of recovering from 4 months of chronic insomnia brought on by posttraumatic stress. The drugs I had been prescribed, had numbed my senses to the point where I had pretty much lost all awareness of touch, temperature and interest in the lives of the people around me, I was a zombie. I was undergoing hypnotherapy and slowly things began to return, but my sensitivity came back at an almost heightened state. It’s hard to describe without it sounding like a cliché, but it was like I was seeing the world for the first time, and I had an overwhelming urge to record everything around me.

So I simply started with a little point and shoot I kept in my handbag, and just took as many pictures as I could on the way to work, on the train, the bus, wherever I was. It was a sudden and very emotional awakening, that I still can’t explain, but it was utterly addictive to me. It was shortly after this that my mother was diagnosed with a brain tumor and I was thrown into the horrors of her treatment and decline. My camera became my escape and my only outlet for self-expression. As well as street photography, I began photographing myself, creating more and more elaborate pictures, to push the real world as far away as I possibly could.

Tragically my mother died in 2008, and that was the catalyst for beginning my project ‘Wonderland’ in her memory. It is such a complicated story it is impossible to explain everything in a short answer, but it is this work that 2.5 years later has gained a world wide following, and led me to leave my career in fashion to work as an artist.

The Queen’s Armarda

I’m so sorry to hear about your mother. Wonderland is such an amazing thing to dedicate in her memory. Can you tell us a little more about the overall artistic idea and direction for the series?

The project and its origins are extremely personal and emotional to me on levels that might not always be apparent to the casual viewer. The series is my tribute to the memory of my mother who as I already mentioned passed away in November 2008. She was my best friend; and died miles away from her family and friends in the UK, after moving to France for her retirement.  She was too ill to bring home, and so she had a tiny funeral that broke my heart. I remember walking away on that day wanting, and needing to do something that would let people know who she was, and how she had touched the lives of so many children. She had been an English teacher all her life, and spent years inspiring her students, and myself with her passion for literature and her captivating stories. She had read to me everyday until I was too old to admit it to my friends, and instilled a belief in beauty and wonder that has now become the root of my work. So I decided this was how I wanted her to be remembered, to create something that would celebrate her gift to others – magical worlds full of colour and endless possibility.

Six months after her passing I began work on the concept of creating a visual storybook without words, of unexplained beautiful strange characters, each within their own magical worlds. I never planned for the series to grow in the way it has, or to last over 2.5 years. It just evolved constantly, and seemed to capture the imagination of so many online, that it began to have its own following.  The support of so many kind people has spurred me on, and I am now entering into the final stages of the project. The final focus is the publish a book and create an exhibition of the entire series in her memory.

How many Wonderland shoots have you done so far and how do you come up with each idea?

There are over 54 pictures in the series that are currently public, with another 15 scenes to come, which I have already shot and am in the process of editing and uploading. I have lost count of how many actual shoots we have done, but I’m guessing it’s around 40. You see every single picture is more or less a whole shoot. I treat the images as individual artworks like paintings, so I don’t take endless pictures of the same thing. Each character has its own part to play in the series and won’t be repeated constantly, unless the image is completely different or re-shot on a different location. Sometimes it’s so hard to do this after months of work, to only choose a maximum of 2 pictures from a shoot, but I want everything to have a high impact, and not over saturate an idea.

With regards to the ideas that’s the easy bit, I have too many, and they are almost always the result of dreams and the broken fragments of the memories of my mother’s stories – the hard bit is making the idea once I have it!

The Fairycake Godmother

There is a real sense of the journey you have been on since 2008 on your blog. Are there other images that are too raw for public view?

Yes, I have since taken down some of the self-portraits I had on flickr during the final weeks of losing mum, simply because they were just too personal. At the time the pictures were my self-expression and although the Internet is obviously public, I somehow felt more able to bare my soul in that forum than talk to any of my friends about what I was going through. I needed a place to let rip, and I did … but now my life is different and I don’t want them seen anymore. Some pictures never made it out of my computer and I look at those sometimes and they break my heart, they are so sad.

I imagine that when some people first see the Wonderland images, they would assume that a large team was involved and there were masses of post-production for each one. However because it is just you and a very small team, do you think that you are able to keep a sense of intimacy despite the large sets? Is there a particular reason why you’ve kept the teams small, worked with mainly the same people and that you still choose to hand make everything yourself?

Wonderland is obviously deeply emotional for me, and I started it at a time when I was very ill with grief. My ‘team’ at the time was basically me, and a complete stranger Elbie Van Eeden who was a hair and make-up artist I had met online. Neither of us knew when we finally met in person what was about to happen to us, and what the project would become. Elbie became a sudden special friend to me through some of the worst months of my life – Wonderland was our baby and our escapism from jobs we were unhappy in and my grief. It was our playground, where we would run off to the woods at the weekends with our long suffering muse and model Katie Hardwick, and just made up our own magic.

As the project progressed I had no intention of changing Elbie for anyone else, we were in it together, and we grew as a team and as friends. Over the months lots of people wrote to me asking to be assistants, but I didn’t want a huge crowd on set. Usually the locations are quite private places in the woods, and I don’t want to draw attention to us, or disturb the wildlife. I also think you cant get that emotional connection with the model if you have a massive entourage. I want to be around people I trust, who respect the surroundings and understand the sentiment behind it all. I’m very protective over what I do and quite private in some ways (hence no twitter account!)

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From Kat & Gareth’s Beloved shoot, full set here

One of the biggest fears for photographers (and I’m referring to photographers as that’s my reality, feel free to substitute a camera for whatever is your passion) when making the transition into a working professional is the doubt about whether doing something for a living takes the shine out of it. Whether in a few years you will start feeling like a new assignment is just ‘another day in the office’, and that in the end you lose that passion you have for your craft. For me this was one of the biggest psychological challenges to get over when I was thinking about starting my business. I was so protective of my craft, my creative process and my artistic outlet, and I was so afraid of potentially compromising all that I loved about photography if it was to be the provider of my main income. Eventually a switch flipped in my head though, and it seemed like madness to sit in an office doing a job that wasn’t fulfilling, while I could spend all my days with a camera in my hand doing what I love. Making that leap was at the same time scary and overwhelming, but also freeing, like stepping into my true self.

In all fairness, it definitely hasn’t been all about spending my days on cloud 9 with a camera in my hand. But now, after a few years of the hard graft of building a business from the ground up, having lived through a lot of highs and lows – including moments where I can’t believe how lucky I am to be living my dream, to moments where I’m so busy I feel like I’m losing myself while doing my best to service my clients – I’m finally approaching a balance. And now that I’m in a place where I can see a bit more clearly, where I have some more space to put things into perspective, it has become clear to me that two of the most important components to achieving both success, and retaining your own identity as an artist, are curiosity and courage.

Whether you’re an artist or not, but especially if you are, it is vital to stay curious about the world. To always keep an open mind and to always look at the bigger picture and consider different angles. If you don’t, life can start feeling very small indeed.

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Perhaps one of the biggest issues that those of us who are self employed and supplying a service rather than selling a specific product, struggle with is How Much to Charge? It can be very difficult to put a value on your time and skills and of course a lot of areas in the wedding industry are over saturated with keen part timers and hobbyists. How do you find your place in the market and still make a decent wage?

I did a talk last year in London and at the end I got asked a lot of questions but one that sticks out in my mind was from a girl who wanted to know how to set up as a wedding photographer going straight for the top end of the market. She wanted to charge £3500 and up per wedding yet had no qualifications and very little experience. Erm, I was like I have no idea. Was she thinking there was a magic formula or ultimate place to advertise that would reel in the richer clients? She had no concept that the more someone spends on their wedding services, the more they want to feel assured that they are investing in a business that has proved its worth. Part of what you pay for at the top end is a high level of experience not just a fancy logo.

Your price has got to realistically reflect your level of skill, experience and equipment. A photographer goes from one challenging light condition to another at a wedding. You need to shoot at low light levels often without the use of flash in ceremonies and then go straight out into super bright sunlight. You have to be creative in bad weather or able to photograph a winter wedding which might mostly be inside. You just need to look at this disastrous set of images to see how easy it is to get wrong. Imagine you had paid this photographer £3500.

I have been photographing weddings since 2000 and started out charging £600-£750. I had already been a photographer for 10 years so was pretty adept but that had been in music. While some of the skills were similar, like being able to shoot on the hop and only have one chance to get it right, I was aware that I had some new skills to learn. My rates reflected this as did my clients’ expectations. If someone knows they got you at a reduced rate while you are still gaining confidence, they are a lot more likely to forgive any mistakes you may make. I certainly made a few along the way but as my experience grew so did my rates. I still don’t charge as much as some photographers (my prices range from £2000-£4000) but I am comfortable in that bracket. Occasionally I get told I should charge more but I like to pick a good range of weddings to shoot. I love a grand Stately Home wedding but also love to shoot quirky creative weddings. The overall budget of the weddings I have shot range from £5k to 100k. If someone really wants your service they will push themselves to afford it, for others it is a drop in the ocean of their budget. It is however important that you feel you are worth your rates.

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You know Princess Lasertron right? Inventor of the felt & button bouquet (yes, the original inventor of the concept!) and fashion designer from Omaha. Jeez, it’s hard to put into words how much I adore Megan, the lady behind the brand. After falling in love with her over the internet, and a mutual respect that grew from expanding our respective businesses at the same time, I was utterly flummoxed when she invited me to model in her catwalk show at Omaha Fashion Week in August.

At the time I thought the trip would be a shrewd business move and nothing more. However yes while it certainly was, what I didn’t expect was the epic and genuine real life friendship that would blossom from that trip. I love her, I love her family, I love her outlook on life and work, and I love love love that she’s agreed to be interviewed in The Inspirations.

My sister from another mister, I adore you…

You can see more of Megan all over my blog here, including the posts related to my Omaha trip if you missed them at the time too. Also, if you haven’t seen them before (and you should!) click here to check out her wedding to Mr Lasertron. It’s all kinds of wonderful.

Me & Megan after our ‘Morning Blend’ appearance during Omaha Fashion Week. You can watch it here and see some more behind the scenes photos here.

Hey Megan! So, what’s the Princess Lasertron story?

Throughout my life so far, I can see that I was constantly receiving clues about where I ought to be, what kind of career would make me happy, and which pursuits were really allowing the creative possibilities in my mind to unfold. I’m 25 years old, and I’ve done many of the things I was “supposed” to do. I graduated college (German and Intercultural Communication), worked passionately in several jobs (bakery, radio station, hot air balloon chaser, record store clerk), and traveled around Europe (where I picked up textiles, paper, and beautiful dyes…not postcards). I got married and I have a baby. I own a house and I drive to work every day. But there is little about my routine that is conventional.

When I met my ultimate dream dude and proposed marriage to him in 2007, I didn’t realize that I was on the precipice of a new career that would bring so much joy and inspiration into my life. I started my business, Princess Lasertron, in 2005 to bring project ideas and handmade accessories to modern brides, such as the original felt flower bouquet which I designed and just became a gigantic trend in the wedding world. But it wasn’t until after my own wedding that my aesthetic and vision became more known in my industry and my orders skyrocketed as blogs and magazines reprinted my wedding photos, shared my project ideas, and published interviews about my “wedding party” and “make it pretty” philosophies.

Since my small beginnings, Princess Lasertron has grown to a three-person company serving hundreds of brides each year. My designs have been featured in countless blogs and magazines, I have had the opportunity to speak in conferences and classrooms around the country, and I have enjoyed the greatest honor of creating real connections with readers around the world through my blog.

Where did the name Princess Lasertron come from?

The name Princess Lasertron came to me in a dream. I thought FOREVER about what to name my business–it had to be something feminine, but badass. It had to be memorable. It had to be scalable so I could apply it to other ventures I pursued down the road (i.e., not “Megan Hunt Floral Design” or something), and it had to have a good cadence–just sound good when you say it out loud. Personally I’m more of a “Lasertron” than a “Princess,” but I think the name represents my brand perfectly.

You had your daughter Alice 2 years ago. How do you make running such a successful full time business look so effortless when you have a child? Has she changed you, the way you work or your motivation? And do you have any advice for anyone struggling to juggle children and working for themselves?

I have a daughter, Alice, who will be two years old in May. (And we share a birthday!) While pregnant, I was in the process of scouting locations to start a coworking space for other entrepreneurs and freelancers, and we had our opening party for CAMP was when Alice was four weeks old. So having my child definitely came during a hectic time. I was moving my home studio into CAMP, I was making contracts for tenants, I was shopping for furniture and setting up utilities–and meanwhile, I had fifteen brides to take care of that month. I worked while I was in labor, and I worked the day I got home from the hospital. And that’s all to explain the kind of energy Alice was born into.

Until Alice was a toddler, I took her to work with me every day. My productivity was slower, but I was there to manage my workers and have a presence in the space. I got a lot done when she was napping or nursing, and my husband took over when he got home from work so I could go back to the studio all night. Alice is used to going to events with me–gallery openings, launch parties for many of the other thriving businesses here in my region, and she comes to conferences with me as well. My ambition has not died.

I will say that this has been a bit of a sacrifice. I have missed more bedtimes than I was there for. I rarely have dinner with my family. But I am with Alice every day, and I am proud of the example I am setting for her.

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I’m going to start out by saying I’m not here to tell you that this is definitely the right way to get a good work/life balance. However this is the way that I (try to) do it so I wanted to share it with you – who knows, hopefully I can help someone! It’s what works for me at this moment in time and enables me to switch off when I need to and not being all-consumed by my work.

It’s really difficult being a freelance photographer. Right I’ve said it. We all know it. We all love it, but lets face it, it can be tough as hell sometimes. I can only imagine it’s exactly the same for people in other areas of the wedding industry. We love our jobs so we spend most of the time on our own sat in front of a computer…at any time of day or night. As business owners we often need to work for long hours over the weekend and still be expected to be sat at our computers at 9am on a Monday morning to answer emails.

I know most of us could spend a whole 24 hours at our computer editing images (if your’re a photographer like me), being on Twitter, reading blogs etc. We also wouldn’t think twice about leaving for a wedding on Saturday morning at 08.30am and not getting back until 01.30am the next morning. That’s what being your own boss does to you. You don’t mind putting in the long hours, because you love what you do…and let’s face it, it sure beats working in an office!

Being freelance or owning your own business is a 24 hour profession. I know I’ve spent many a sleepless night thinking about work – planning the next shoot or making lists in my head about what needs to be done. It’s very very difficult to switch off sometimes isn’t it?

But switch off we must…

However in saying all this, we do really need to allow ourselves time to switch off. It sounds obvious saying it out loud but how many of us and really say we do it enough? It can’t be a good thing to have your whole life consumed by work. At some point you may crash and burn, turn your back on the job you love because of the stress, or even worse let it affect your relationships.

So what can you do? Well I think the best thing is to find a way that works for you. You should set some boundaries in your work to make this an easier thing to do and monitor. Some examples could be:

To work a set amount of hours a week
To reassess how accessible you are to clients
To get out of the office a couple of times a week
To delegate some of your workload
To do some physical exercise
To find a hobby/activity where you can really forget about work

However what you must do is something, anything that’s not all about the job!

Kids and family

I’d like to tell you a bit about my situation so you can hopefully see where I’m coming from. I’m a married Father of two beautiful kids (ages 1 and 2). As you can imagine, we have our hands-full at home but for me, it is really really important to spend time with my family.

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About The Green Room

The Green Room is the backstage area of Rock n Roll Bride, a quiet place to read about and discuss all things related to running your own wedding-related business.

I strongly believe that the most important thing in any business is being your own person, standing out, having a different outlook or opinion and giving your clients a reason to invest in you. This is what I want to achieve with The Green Room - to give you a place to figure out your personal path in a non-judgmental and friendly space.

Each week we'll discuss topics related to running your own business as well as read interviews with some of the most inspirational people I know.

So sit down, grab a cup of coffee and lets muddle our way through together!

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