Josh met Emma at a burlesque club in London. Both being performers, when they came to marry on April 5th this year, they wanted their day to reflect their entertainment backgrounds.
“As I’m a burlesque dancer and Josh plays guitar in a rock band we wanted to incorporate these loves into our wedding”, Emma told me. “Although we didn’t really set out to have a theme, we just picked things we both liked so the day ended up having a sort of vintage-rockabilly-burlesque-rock theme.”
“We had three burlesque performances by our lovely friends, we had a vintage jazz singer, we had a psycho-billy band and we had the amazing eclectic playlist created by Josh. Our first dance was a mash up of Elvis Presley’s I Can’t Help Falling In Love With You and Little Richard’s Tutti Frutti and we walked out of the ceremony room, as newlyweds, to the Star Wars Throne Room music complete with a Wookie roar from one of the congregation!”
There was also plenty of DIY in this wedding – in fact nearly all of the wedding was home made! “So much of the wedding was DIY that I don’t know where to start!”, Emma laughed. “This was initially in order to save money however it soon became clear we weren’t particularly saving money by doing it! It did, however, make our wedding personal and individual.”
Well that’s a wedding theme you don’t see every day! Claire and Neill both love wrestling and gothic culture so that’s where they started when it came to planning their March wedding.
“We had many different inspirations for our wedding”, said Claire. “Both of us are massive wrestling and rock music fans and we wanted to reflect this in our style and theme. We also both identify as atheists and feminists and really wanted a ceremony to reflect this too. Both our parents walked us down the aisle as we wanted to do away with any old symbolism associated with weddings.”
The wedding was held at Belleek Castle in County Mayo, Ireland. “Our celebrant, Bridget Carlin, was fantastic”, she continued. “She created a tailor made ceremony reflecting our love and belief system. We had a Celtic binding ceremony and both took soil from our respective grandparents’ houses. We are then to use this soil to grow a tree as a representation of our love.”
Logan and Hope were married at the Wharfinger Building, on the harbour of Eureka, California. They didn’t want a cheesy theme, they just wanted to include things they love. The result was this amazing leopard print and motorbike mash up!
“When we first started planning our wedding, I knew there were quite a few things we weren’t overly fond of”, the bride said. “My vision of a wedding has always had one plan: a party. We always joked that we would throw a giant fancy party and get married at the beginning of it… And that’s exactly what we did!”
“I took each detail of a ‘normal’ wedding and twisted it to satisfy what Logan and I wanted. We didn’t like any of the vows or ceremonies we read and since Logan’s dad was becoming ordained specifically to marry us, we worked with him to write our own, non-secular vows. I searched, and read and researched so many different vows and ceremonies and we wanted to be silly and personalised.”
Australian tattoo artist Dean and his partner Lillian wanted to do something very ‘them’ to celebrate their relationship. So Lillian asked Dean to tattoo her and they invited wedding photographers Helm and Anchor and film makers A&Y Video along to capture it!
“Last March we travelled to Australia,” Alberto of A&Y Video told me. “We spent a month in Melbourne, and during this time we met a lot of people including these two.”
“Dean has his own Tattoo Studio in Cranbourne called Unanswered Ink and Lillian has a blog all about healthy and organic food. When we first meet them our intention was to make a film about her recipes, but when we arrived at the studio, and we saw Dean tattooing her, we instantly knew that this had to be the shoot: love and ink! When the tiger tattoo was finished we took them to the streets to shoot their love in a very different way.”
Emily and Josh met in Melbourne, where Emily lived and where Josh was visited from Auckland, New Zealand. Within six months of first meeting, he moved over with his band and they picked up from where they left of!
“We were heavily inspired by the 1940s for our wedding, especially the working class side of this era”, Emily explained. “The whole day was on a farm with animals, fruit trees and we held the reception in a barn. The girls all had mismatched floral dresses and 1940s styled hair and make up. The boys wore black work wear boots, heavy linen shirts, and fade to zero military haircuts – definitely referencing the prohibition era of American working class for the boys.”
Hurray, you’re engaged! Have you started your pre-wedding weight loss regime yet? YOU HAVEN’T!? Oh my goodness, there isn’t a moment to lose – make sure you read this before it’s too late!
1. Look in the mirror everyday and tell yourself you are beautiful and incredibly blessed to be marrying the love of your life. Even if you don’t believe what you’re saying at first and you feel utterly stupid even thinking about doing it, do it anyway! If you fill you brain (and your mouth!) with positive, lovely words about yourself rather than ugly and nasty ones, you’ll eventually start to believe them.
2. Realise that losing weight will not alter how you feel about yourself long term. Sure, you might get into a smaller size wedding dress, but you’ll still have the same insecurities. Instead of fixating on how you can make yourself thinner, become obsessive about working on your self-esteem and confidence instead. The results will last much longer.
3. There are no quick fixes or miracles cures. As alluring as it might sound, you won’t undo thirty years of bad choices, behaviours and habits in thirty days. So take all those magazine articles promising that shit and throw them in the bin. Or better still, have a sacrificial burning in the back garden.
4. Talk to your fiancé about how you feel. Let them reassure you that they love and want to marry you the way you look NOW (and they will, I promise!)
5. Rapid weight-loss is almost always followed by rapid weight gain. Realise that even if you do lose weight for your wedding you’ll likely end up putting it back on afterwards when you revert back to your normal eating habits. Who wants to look back at their wedding photos and think “Gosh, that doesn’t even look like me”, or “UGH I was so thin then, now I’m just a fat wife”? If you do end up losing weight then putting it back on you’ll only end up feeling bad about yourself again – it’s a vicious circle!