A Mean Girls New Orleans Wedding with a Groom in Stilettos!

Please excuse me for one second while I FREAK OUT over this wedding. Seph and Jason completely epitomise what Rock n Roll Bride is all about, and no it doesn’t matter one little bit that there’s no ‘bride’ in sight! The single thing that makes this wedding awesome AF is them… Oh and the fact that Seph wore goddamn crystal embellished stilettos for the day and looked way better in them than most women I know… Oh and all the Mean Girls references. OK OK there are many, many things that make this wedding slay my entire existence and I KNOW you’re going to love it to.

Seph and Jason met on a blind date… but it wasn’t actually their date at all! “I was on a blind date at a midnight showering of a Harry Potter movie… with someone else!”, laughed Seph. “The guy I was with knew Jason and said hi to him and they talked for a bit. The next day I got a message on Myspace (yes that’s how long ago this was) from Jason. We started talking then we went to the movies for our first date. Many movies later he asked me to marry him. We had our first non-legal wedding on Halloween in 2009 at a movie theatre in my hometown. Then in 2015 when it became legal for us to get married we decided we wanted to do it again, for real this time.”

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Cultural Appropriation and Diversity in Weddings

Diversity is most definitely a hot topic right now, we have our socio-political climate to thank for that. Rock n Roll Bride has always been about accepting everyone that feels marginalised – regardless of whether that’s because you identify as LGBTQ, you’re from a minority group, you’re plus sized, disabled or just a little bit goth! Basically, if you don’t see yourself being represented by the mainstream wedding media, at Rock n Roll Bride we want to say pull up a chair and join us.

But we don’t always get it right. There was a VERY heated discussion on cultural appropriation in regards to weddings in our private Facebook group recently. The reason I think it can cause such uproar is because often these things fall on a sliding scale – what offends one person may not offend another and the cultural history of something in America, for example, might not have the same significance to people that grew up in the UK.

For me personally it is a very difficult thing to discuss publicly. I will be 100% transparent with you here and admit that it actually makes me extremely uncomfortable. I don’t want to get it wrong and I don’t want to cause even more offence. However, I do think it’s something that needs to be addressed, least of all so we can all become better educated about it in a non-judgemental space. I don’t know all the answers, no-one does, but I hope that by opening up this discussion we can learn something and become a more actively inclusive group.

After a recent (very lengthy!) discussion with my friend Nova of Nu Bride, I’ve invited her to write this article. Nova is a diversity advocate and does incredible work on raising awareness around race and culture. She is a wealth of knowledge when it comes to this stuff and I’m honoured to publish this piece for her.

Over to you Nova!

I often get asked how to fuse cultures together without them looking like, ‘mish-mash’. How to respectfully celebrate cultures that might not be your own without appropriating.

Nu Bride is all about celebrating difference and encouraging you to have a wedding that acknowledges your western side and is also representative of who you both are in a way that at times honours more than one culture, something more and more couples are keen to do. So, with a growing online cancelling culture, how do you do that without culturally appropriating?

What exactly is cultural appropriation?

In black and white (no pun-intended): Cultural appropriation is ‘the unacknowledged or inappropriate adoption of the customs, practices, ideas, etc. of one people or society by members of another and typically more dominant people or society.’

The key component to cultural appropriation is remembering that it only becomes problematic when a dominant group of people (for example, white people) take on the culture of a minority group of people (for example Native American Indians) who have historically been marginalised / oppressed in some way and who still face discrimination pertaining to their culture. It could be anything from clothing, food, sacred religious artefacts or hairstyles like braids or dreadlocks, for example. It is generally considered offensive when it is done in a way that stereotypes, exploits for commercial gain, or is taken without consent.

Here some examples to bite your teeth into:

Beyoncé Slammed For Cultural Appropriation After Performing At Indian Wedding

Gucci Criticised For Cultural Appropriation On A Global Scale

The jury is out for if this wedding example is appropriation or not, I will let you decide after you have digested this article in full.

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Picnics, Punting & A Potting Shed Reception: A Glam Meets Relaxed Un-Wedding

With their careers in hospitality and production for the entertainment industry, Gemma and Howard know a thing or two about organising events. “Though to be honest it’s best not to think about it too much and just get on with it,” said Gemma, “otherwise you’ll end up curbing all your ideas and never realising your plans!”

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Moorland Themed Cornish Wedding Fit for Rock n Roll Royalty!

Melissa and Nathan’s Rock n Roll love story starts seven years ago with a post-gig high-five gone wrong. Nathan was in a band at the time and Melissa was front row for the after show celebration, but ended up with a little more than she bargained for and getting accidentally smacked in the face! Undeterred by this initial hiccup, their relationship blossomed over the next 18 months and culminated in Melissa meeting Nathan off the plane from his stint on an American tour. They’ve been together ever since!

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