I’ve been away from Gareth for three weeks today – the longest time we’ve had apart since I was at University. I’m not going to lie, it’s been really, really difficult. As a couple that spend 99% of our time together when we’re in the same country (!) I’ve missed him terribly. Although I’ve been busy working and having an awesome time with my girls, every night I’ve been going to bed wishing he was beside me.
9. Time Apart
For many couples, spending a lot of time away from each other is an unavoidable fact of life – it might be that one of you travels a lot or works away, or it could just be that you work very different shift patterns and have limited time together each week. So just how do you do it without the relationship suffering as a consequence?
I think the most important thing is that you still need to make quality time for each other. I’ve written about this before in this series but I feel that it’s even more vital when your schedules clash or you have a lot of other stuff going on.
So how do we personally make it work? Well it sounds simple but keeping that communication going is vital. While we can’t speak on the phone when I’m on the other side of the world, daily emails and scheduling in time for online chats has been really crucial (we used to do this for hours at a time while I was at Uni – on MSN Chat, remember that!?) Otherwise, it can be very easy to get into the habit of not thinking about them because they’re not there with you. Daily communication where we share what we’ve been up to, as we would if we were together in person, has made being physically apart a whole lot easier.
I’ve got a really fun and unique wedding for you today and I’m pretty sure you’re going to love it. In all my years of wedding blogging I’v certainly never seen a sneaker themed wedding!
“We wanted our wedding to really be a reflection of us and our favorite things”, wrote the bride. “Since we are both avid sneaker fans and collectors, it was only fitting that we wear sneakers, specifically Air Jordans, to our wedding. We joke that the theme that day was ‘Love Is In the Air (Jordans)’. Our wedding invitation also incorporated Nike’s tag line ‘Just Do It’ with the highlighted words ‘I Do’. The sneaker theme represents more than just our shared passion for shoes. It also serves as a reminder of our walk with God, first as individuals, and then as the ‘perfect pair’.”
“I know a lot of brides that want to feel particularly poised and elegant on their wedding day, but we were more focused on making sure that we were comfortable and we were going to have fun”, she continued. “Having our entire bridal entourage wear basketball shoes to our wedding, plus our 200+ guests, was going to require a little convincing. Thankfully, everyone was in on the theme and we didn’t have a hard time telling them to wear kicks. It was awesome. We were basketball fans, but even then it still came as a huge surprise when he proposed to me during half time at a Lakers game in Los Angeles (he got down on one knee and asked me to be his ‘Barbie Q’ since his last name was Quizan. I seriously thought he wanted to go to a barbecue!”.
Photography: Jel Photography
Since we last spoke I’ve been in three different cities, two countries and taught over 90 people… Not what you would call a low-key week! After saying goodbye to our Melbourne digs at 5am last Friday we hopped on an early flight to Auckland. Our time in this city was short – only two and a half days, and with the majority of it spent teaching there wasn’t too much time to take in the sights.
Luckily, Gala used to live there and our apartment was in a really central location so she was able to quickly show us a few key highlights. Burger Fuel (yum!), Tanuki’s Cave (even more yum – the cabbage and Japanese mayo, although it sounds gross, was life changing) and Shaky Isles which had some of the most fun branding and décor I’ve ever seen.
Our Auckland workshop wrapped at 6pm on Sunday night and we rushed to the airport to catch our flight down to Wellington, where Gala grew up. We spent two blissful days in her childhood home being spoilt by her gorgeous parents. Having time with literally nothing on the agenda was just what we needed after two weeks of non-stop travel.
We’re now back in Melbourne and teaching our final class on this Antipodean adventure. It’s been an exhausting few weeks but completely amazing too. Of course, I’m really missing everyone back home now too, it feels like I’ve been away forever and I can’t wait to see everyone again next week.
Photography: Jel Photography
Weddings & Weddingy Things
♥ LA weddding at Marvimon
♥ Gorgeous Ace Hotel wedding in Portland
♥ Indie Spanish wedding
♥ Woodsy Catskills wedding
♥ Vintage Adelaide wedding
Photography: Kate Pardey Photography
Abbie and Daniel were married at The Paintworks in Bristol, a converted industrial building in the city’s creative quarter. They didn’t set out to have a theme but the bride’s outfit was quite 50s, they served fish n chips and had an ice cream tricycle for desert, and they had a DJ who played only 90s music – so I guess you could say the wedding was all the things they liked!
“We knew our wedding had to have a few vital things – a fun, a relaxed atmosphere, the best DJ ever, a 50s prom dress as a wedding dress, hot-rods and friends and family”, Abbie explained. “This was the inspiration for how we wanted our day to look and feel.”
“We made the details quirky to match our personalities. For example we had a bottle of orange squash on every table because Daniel doesn’t drink and we had tea cups and saucers from charity shops which we made into candles to light up the tables. I also found a broken typewriter in a charity shop, fixed it and it became our guest book. We used our childhood Lego toys as cake toppers and had enough sweets to send everyone crazy on sugar. We invited all our family and friend’s children so made sure they were well occupied with a giant Jenga, hula hoops, space hoppers, connect four and a bouncy castle.”
I’ve written about many amazing alternative gift list services before, but I’m yet to find one that allows you to register for literally anything you want… until now. When Gareth and I were engaged we went with the surprisingly traditional option of a department store registry. While we had a lot of fun running around pretending we were on Supermarket Sweep, I do wish we’d know about some more alternative options. I guess they just weren’t around in 2007!
Wanting to offer engaged couples a wider range of options for their gift registries, Olivia Knight had the idea for Patchwork Present when she got married two years ago. Not wanting homewares or the usual generic gift list junk, she came up with the idea to allow couples to register for anything they might want – from a True Love Tattoo to a Honeymoon on Route 66 or even to help fund the Wedding itself. In a nutshell, if you can imagine it, you can register for it.
I always have a bit of a soft spot for Steampunk weddings. Although they’re not my personal style, I love how much effort the couples that plan them put in. The attention to detail is always incredible! Sadie and Kyle’s wedding at Fiddle Lake Farm in Thompson, Pennsylvania was no different.
“Our wedding was an absolute dream come true”, began the bride. “It couldn’t have been more perfect. We think the Steampunk theme really defined the wedding. Our theme was inspired by the Wild West and our own imaginations. We both have wild imaginations and having a theme really let us run away with it.”