Why You Should Have a Gift List (Even if you Already Live Together)

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For many couples, the idea of creating a wedding gift list probably feels a bit awkward… like you’re expecting your guests to buy you something. Believe me, I know the feeling. It was my birthday last week and I felt so awkward about the whole “So what do you want for your birthday?” question that I just told everyone the same thing and ended up with three Jo Malone Oud and Bergamot candles. Not that that’s really a problem mind, it smells freaking amazing.

Believe it or not, the majority of your guests really do want to buy a present for your wedding. So here are six reasons why I think you should suck up the awkward and start that gift registry!

Lots of your guests will want to buy you a gift

Your wedding is one of the most special in your entire lives and most of your guests do actually want to give you a gift to commemorate that day. It’s also a chance for them to help you build your lives as a married couple and maybe even buy you a future heirloom that will forever remind you of them.

It’s makes it easy for your guests

A wedding gift list makes it much more straight-forward for your guests and you get what you want. It can actually be harder if there’s no gift list at all, since many of your guests will wonder what the protocol is, how much to spend, what you’ll find useful etc. Having a list also avoids my problem of duplicate gifts because once someone buys something for you, it comes off meaning you won’t end up with 37 Jo Malone candles (although OMG how good would your house smell?)

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You’ll have gifts to keep for ever

There aren’t many special occasions when you get to choose gifts that will become family heirlooms in the future. This is the time to register for something you might never have the money to buy for yourself.

You can ask for exactly what you want!

Gift lists are no longer boring or old-fashioned. Nowadays you can tailor-make a gift list to reflect your personal style. If you don’t want or need a new toaster, then you don’t have to ask for one! A Prezola gift list can include anything from homeware to honeymoon contributions, cash to charity donations!

Some guests think asking for cash is rude

Although there’s less of a taboo with asking for cash as there used to be, some guests (maybe your older ones) are often less keen on giving cash. They might not be sure how much to give, or are worried it’ll just go on boring things like bills! While you can add cash contributions to a Prezola gift list, you should still include plenty of physical items for your more traditional relatives.

Online gift list services are great for busy couples who like to do their ‘wedmin’ online

Unlike gift registries in high street shops, online gift lists tend to offer way more flexibility as you’re not limited to one store or chain. With Prezola, the UK’s leading specialist online wedding gift list company, you can add items to your list from anywhere online. They list over 30,000 products from 300 different shops including Wedgwood, Le Creuset, The White Company, Graham & Green and Soho Home. Using an online gift list is also super easy and means you can create and add to your list on the move or at home on the sofa, without having to go into a store to do so.

Using Prezola is completely free, including using their dedicated Personal Shopper service, free delivery of all your items and optional gift wrapping. If you want to include cash contributions, a honeymoon fund, charity donations, gift vouchers or to add bespoke gifts from sites they do not already represent, then there’s a flat one-off fee of just £59.

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Fifteen

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When I tell people we’ve been together for fifteen years, they’re usually either surprised, impressed or a combination of the two. “Yes he was my first real boyfriend”, I say, “No we didn’t go to school together” and “Yeah, actually, I did get married pretty young.”

When you’ve been together as long as we have you find yourself counting on your fingers to work out exactly how many years have passed. Fifteen took me by surprise though. I was just sixteen years old when we first met (although we started dating shortly after my eighteenth birthday because it took you a while to convince me to go out with you!) so that means that on our next anniversary I will have known you literally half of my life… HALF OF MY LIFE! How is that even possible and when did we get so goddamn old!?

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Colourful & Casual September Wedding

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Amy and Patrick had a very short engagement; they decided in April that they would get married in September! They wanted their wedding to reflect who they are, to be at a beautiful venue, and have amazing food and great music. It was also important to them that it was a relaxed, casual day that included all their guests. They decided to source and plan it all themselves, to make it truly reflect ‘them’, which also meant they could tweak things and push more money into the ‘guest experience’.

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The wedding was held at The Grounds of Alexandria, a garden event space in Sydney that was the perfect backdrop to their casual celebration.  “As both our fathers are deceased, Patrick and his mother walked down the aisle to Salt Strings Quartet playing Coldplay’s Viva La Vida before I walked down the aisle with my mum to Lady Gaga’s Poker Face“, explained Amy. “During the exchanging of vows, Goldy Horn, the goat at the grounds, decided to jump up on the fence and also witness what was going on!”

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Spend the Day Together

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Hey you, loved-up-engaged-planning-my-wedding you, can I have a word please? I hope all your planning is going well and that you are gearing up for the day of your dreams. Me? I’m a wedding photographer and I have been for many years now. And here’s a funny thing that after all this time, I’ve only just realised. Like, it’s hit me smack in the face like a wet kipper, realised.

NOBODY TELLS YOU TO SPEND THE DAY TOGETHER

And you know what? Unless you make a concerted effort to, then chances are you simply won’t. Think about weddings: Most couples spend the entire morning apart, they come together for the ceremony (you won’t actually remember much of this bit) then as soon as the confetti has been chucked, you will be talking to the people you know and your lover will be talking to all the people they know. Then apart from your portrait session, chances are you won’t come together again until it’s time to sit for dinner.

Take a good look at most of the weddings on Rock n Roll Bride over over and over again the images with the couple actually together are portraits and formal moments. Cake cutting, speeches, first dance.

Now why do I care? Well, because as a wedding photographer this is the conversation I’m probably going to have with you:

“We love your photography, it’s really natural looking. We hate being in photos, so don’t want to do lots of posing. It would be great if you could just capture us in little moments over the day.”

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I love a challenge but natural and little moments is pretty tough when your couple are on opposite sides of the room or the only significant time they are together is the obvious ‘wedding moments’. I feel like I’m always doing my best to orchestrate ‘natural’. In your couple session, I’m actually hoping to catch those little seconds in between when you think you are being shot, when you are lost in a giggle or just finally looking your favourite person in the face without 100 guests trying to congratulate you. I’m thinking I will get natural when we are walking back from the couple session and you are relaxed as you think formal photos are done with. I’m stalking you all day, camera poised ready but more often than not, I won’t get another shot with you both in it until you are sat at the dinner table.

Once I really thought about it, I began to wonder, is there anything I can do to make a difference?

I shot a wedding last Saturday and I knew that the couple felt super awkward at their engagement shoot. So in the morning I explained to my very lovely bride that if she wanted lots of natural photos to consciously spend the day together with her husband. I told her to make sure they walked together from the ceremony venue to the reception, that they worked the drinks reception together talking to both of your friends and families, that they didn’t just do a first dance together, they did a few. I told them spend the day together to be present through it all.

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Bohemian Medieval Wedding with Archery & Snail Racing!

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Sarah and Arran were married in August, after two years long distance between Manchester and Brighton. They wanted their wedding to just reflect them, have a venue with a brown sign, and be beautiful. For entertainment they had snail racing (!) and even made a DIY snail arena for the day!

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Sarah told us all about their wedding. “At the start of our ceremony, I walked down the aisle Baba Maa, followed by lovely readings by Arran’s dad, and our brilliant friend Marie Harris who reworked Baz Luhrman’s Wear Sunscreen to describe how we met, as well as dishing out some great advice to guests and couple alike. At the end of the ceremony we danced back down the aisle to some banging Psy Trance!”

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Romantic Memento Mori & Skull Wedding

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Amber and Chris were married in October and took inspiration for their wedding from Amber’s vintage skull engagement ring. They wanted their wedding to feel old worldly, and described their wedding theme as a ‘Memento Mori Romance’. Roughly translated, ‘Memento Mori’ means ‘remember you must die’ and Memento Mori jewellery was given to loved ones to remind them that life is fleeting so to live each day to the fullest.

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“We had a hard time describing the vision for our wedding to other people”, said the bride. “The second you say skulls in October everyone assumes Halloween or Day of the Dead. Don’t get me wrong we’re obsessed with both of these things, but we wanted to do something different for our wedding. Our family owned business, The Cupcake Gypsies, shows our love of Dia de los Muertos in full force! But we wanted our wedding to feel more old worldly so we thought ‘Memento Mori’ was the perfect sentiment to bring into our marriage!”

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