Confessions of a Second Time Bride

The wedding industry will have you believe that by achieving wedding day perfection you will ensure your happily ever after. But let’s be realistic for a second, we all know that for some couples, that simply isn’t the case. Being a second (third or fourth!) time bride is nothing to be ashamed of. The good news is that in most cases partners are often wiser and know themselves even better having gone through the wedding – and marriage – process before. Alicia Porter is here to share her experiences of wedding planning second time around.

When I got married the first time in 1996 it was, for lack of a better phrase, ‘planning chaos’. We had location battles, I had a ‘friend’ wanted me to pay her to be a bridesmaid, my mother told me I was too fat for my wedding dress and people constantly wanted to ‘help’ by faxing me pictures of suitable dresses. So, I went on strike. We flew from Alaska to New Zealand and eloped. It was pretty, there were fun cousins nearby, and the florist was a star. The wedding dinner was a random restaurant, and there was chocolate log for a wedding cake. It was wonderful.

My family then threw an elegant garden party reception on our return. However, my parents attitude was it was their party, therefore their choices prevailed. My mother chose the invitations, the cake, the venue and what everyone wore – including me. This is how I found myself in a borrowed dress with a gardenia on my shoulder in a receiving line with outright strangers.

In hindsight, I now realise that although an elopement was easier, the result was we were two very independent people who didn’t know how to work together on big projects. Obviously, this wasn’t the only issue in the relationship, but a lack of being able to work together as a team compounded the fact that the marriage simply didn’t work. Planning for a future together requires work and communication. Child rearing is nothing if not a joint effort. Wedding planning in some respects is a safe practice run to make sure that you know how to work with each other for the bigger picture.

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Summer Garden Party Wedding at Elmore Court

Richard and Melvin went all out for their July 2018 wedding. They hired beautiful Elmore Court, a grade II listed mansion in Gloucestershire, as their venue. Then, 10 days later, they had a second party at a private members club in London (where they had their first date) for 250 people who couldn’t attend the main event!

“We had a summer wedding built around a garden party with an informal vibe and a strong musical presence”, the grooms told us. “We had opera singers in the service and a jazz band with friends (and one groom) singing during the afternoon garden party.”

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Winter Beach Elopement with Celestial Elements and A Floral Decorated Jeep

MaryAnn and Braden got married on the beach at Cape Hatteras on December 9th 2020. It was an intimate elopement which was very much inspired by Rock n Roll Bride. “You guys inspired us so much while we were planning”, the bride told us. They also played homage to their love of adventure and the colours of the night’s sky. They used a lot of blue, purple and silver to give the look of both the starry night sky and the ocean, and used wintery textures in the florals.

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Pretty in Pink Comic Book Lovers’ Wedding with Star Wars References

It was really important to Sarah and Parker that on their May wedding, they felt the most ‘them’ that they had ever felt. “We wanted the day to be beautiful while also being comfortable,” the bride began. “For us it meant – elegant, but simple. Easy. It was more about incorporating all the pieces that were significant than having an official theme, but if I had to put it into a few words – personal, local, and real.”

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