Set Healthy Boundaries With your Family (Whatever Family Looks Like to You)

Before we get started, I want to caveat this piece by saying I’m going to be using some of the traditional family names such as mum, dad, grandparent and sibling, but please feel free to input whatever caregiver is relevant in your world. These rules for good boundaries apply to anyone if your life including the families we make ourselves. Essentially, whatever ‘family’ looks like in your world, these rules will help you feel happy and sane before, during and after your ‘I Do’s’.

Oh families… Can’t live with ‘em, can’t live without ‘em! There can be few more challenging times to manage family relationships than when you find yourself planning a wedding.

There’s not only the trickiness of the guest list and the sudden wishes of your dad to invite his important work clients see his little girl get married (this actually happened to someone I know) but there might also a bit of parental money put into the pot, and that can mean a fine balancing act of their wishes being granted and your wishes, full stop.

It’s tough getting a group of (let’s be honest, often awkward) people to wear what you would like them to, eat what you would like them to and listen to whatever music you would like them to! So, here’s some advice on how to put in healthy boundaries:

Learn to feel when a boundary has been crossed

We’re very conditioned, especially with any parental figures, to go along with things. If you’ve been told as a child not to question a parent’s authority (i.e. ‘because I say so’) then, even as an adult it can be very hard to stand up for your needs. If you’re not sure when it’s time to set a boundary, take note of when something trips your emotions into play. You might feel uneasy, angry, sad or anxious. Physical sensations might be your belly dropping, heart increasing and dry throat. Give yourself permission (and space) to feel your feelings and these sensations because they’re trying to tell you something. Important side note: Anything too much for you to deal with on your own, then please seek out professional support.

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Colourful “Piss Up in a Brewery” Wedding

It’s no secret that we LOVE a colourful wedding here at Rock n Roll Bride, so Jess and Rob’s day, which took place in July 2019, was right up our street. They were married in Lancashire at Holmes Mill, Clitheroe, an old textile mill and has the longest bar in Britain! As the bride studied fashion at university and the groom loves beer, it seemed like the perfect spot. “We literally had a piss up in a brewery!” Jess laughed.

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Sixties Disco Themed Wedding with a Moon Photo Booth

The couple’s love of 1960s decor and 70s disco inspired Simon and Xanthe’s September 2019 wedding. In fact, their reception venue, Caroline Street Social Club in Saltaire, was the first thing they booked and based the rest of their theme around.

With it’s super cool retro decor; original ’60s wallpaper, plush faux velvet seating and dark wood clad walls, the couple needed to do little in the way of dressing the venue. They bought in a variety of paper garlands and hanging decorations to frame the stage where their pièce de résistance was placed; a crescent moon seat made by Simon’s dad and grandad.

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Issue 33 is Available for Pre-Sale Early!!

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Exciting news! Issue 33 (July/August) is now available for pre-order! Our last issue sold out in just TWO WEEKS and as so many of you missed out, for the first time ever, we’ve decided to release pre-orders for the next one early. This means we’ll be able to gauge the demand a bit better and we can print enough copies to make sure everyone who wants one, gets one. If you want to guarantee that one of these babies will drop on your door mat then please pre-order yours now. UK postage is free and we ship worldwide. They will begin to ship from June 26th.

We have also made the decision not to put issue 33 in to stores, if you want this one you MUST order it from us. We feel so much better about having you order online right now rather than making you rifle through stores to get it. Many of our stockists are still closed, and those which are open are only offering limited inventory to help reduce the workload on their staff, so this makes the most sense all round.

The theme of the issue is REBIRTH because that’s what we feel is happening in the wedding world right now. While gatherings are on hold we’re seeing a huge shift in the attitude of couples and the wedding industry alike. For brides and grooms-to-be, the general consensus seems to be that you just want to get married already! Your wedding plans are getting smaller, your days will be more intimate and, arguably, even more special and heartfelt, too. You’re focusing less on the ‘stuff’, the extravagance or on throwing the ‘best day ever’. You want to make things simple and personal and to be with your loved ones.

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