Basing their decor on a high school dance (think the dance in the gym from the movie Grease), Jacky and Wes wanted to celebrate their big day with their favourite meal – brunch! Surrounded by paper streamers and disco balls, the couple kept a free and fun vibe while partying with the people they love.
The couple had eleven groomsmen and bridesmaids, ensuring their friendship group were all part of their celebration. With an emphasis on having fun, they wanted everyone to feel relaxed and comfortable.
Jacky told us, “We didn’t want to make anyone involved wear a random dress or suit they would never wear again. Everyone picked out what they wanted to wear, as long as it was all black. They could wear any shoes or accessories they wanted.”
Planning and getting excited for your upcoming wedding is fun (even when it’s stressful) but what happens when that to-do list is done, the wedding is over and you’re on the other side? Post-wedding blues are something all couples need to consider.
I love a plan. My desk is littered with lists, tasks and schedules, and ticking things off gives me more satisfaction than I think is natural! Wedding planning is no different; that sense of achievement when you’ve completed those tasks and done a mini fist pump is heavenly. But what happens when it’s all over? It’s perfectly normal to feel a sense of melancholy once a big life event is over, and planning for this should definitely be added to that wedding to-do list.
All the hard work, preparation, planning (and COVID re-planning… and re-planning…) has led up to your wedding day. Big or small, fancy or simple, the day passes and you should be left in an utter dream-world of immeasurable bliss, right?! Well, for every major high point in life, there has to be a comedown. With all the drama of the pandemic too, the build-up has been even greater, which can make the comedown even harder.
With so much uncertainty, couples have been reluctant to make post-wedding plans, delaying the big party or honeymoon for fear of having to cancel or rearrange (AGAIN!). It’s easier to focus on the day itself, but once that’s done, there is the risk of feeling a huge, sad void. Now don’t get me wrong, the promise of being married to and forever living with your one true love is a beautiful notion, and one to be honoured and celebrated, but once the busyness is over, you may feel a real sense of loss. So, how can we manage those post-wedding blues?
Heather and Veronica chose to have a best man each, rather than bridesmaids, for their small, 30-person wedding. The day was non-traditional and uniquely ‘them’; spiritual yet non-religious. They took inspiration from Celtic and Infinity symbols with a handfasting ceremony in the gardens of The Lavender Inn in Ojai, CA.
The couple were determined to only include the things they wanted in their day, but were surprised to find how tricky it still was to steer their suppliers away from the traditional. They told us, “We had trouble communicating with vendors about how we wanted things; they assumed we wanted to do things a certain way. It was important to us to make the wedding our own and not do something for the sake of tradition.”
Karina and Mike met during their social work studies at a ‘bahnhofsmission’ – a refuge for people experiencing homelessness. After three days they attended a rock concert together and fell in love. They booked their photographer, Axel Link, only two weeks before the big day, just wanting a memory of their celebration, rather than formal pictures of the ceremony. Axel told us, “They thought this would be boring and just wanted pictures of the party!”
With a minimalist, natural theme in mind for their wedding, Karina and Mike kept things simple. They knew they wanted to incorporate all the things they loved, and just have a great time celebrating with their friends and family. Love and nature were their inspirations.
Kennedy and Mitch were set on a quick and simple elopement and they chose Las Vegas as the place to do it. Kennedy told us, “No vows, no music, just us, Breena our officiant, Brandi our photographer and all our family and friends on livestream.”
They chose The Neon Museum in for their ceremony, a gorgeous venue with plenty of scope for Brandi to take some incredible shots. Vegas has so many spots for epic photos, and the couple were keen to get to as many as possible.
The couple did their day completely their own way, citing their theme as ‘The Addams Family meets Rockabilly’ with a DIY coffin ring box and fake flowers from the craft store to create a bouquet. Kennedy’s ring was her Great Aunt’s and they celebrated with pizza afterwards.
Jordan and Isaiah wanted an intimate wedding. Having met very young and not realised the crushes that they had on each other for many years, they reunited and fell in love over a decade later. Their elopement was an adventure, with no traditional wedding planning.
They chose to self-solemnise their ceremony too, which means they didn’t have an officiant. This is actually legally recognised in in Colorado too making it the perfect extra-intimate choice!
“We wanted to have time together, just us. We’re from and live in Ohio so we wanted an escape and both have love for the mountains. We had our first look and setup a picnic in the woods with pizza and beer. We then self-solemnised (married without an officiant) in the mountains and hiked to a explore a cave and finished off our day dancing in the rain to our wedding song Tennessee Whiskey by Chris Stapleton.”