Romany found Andy under a tree on Hampstead Heath at an ‘Alternative Picnic’ and a year and a half later they were engaged. Their wedding concept was inspired by rich fabrics, autumnal colours and the history of their venue, The Charterhouse in London.
Romany told us, “We wanted it to feel like a step back in time – candles everywhere. We wanted everything to feel timeless and romantic, as well as warm and cosy—but OTT and lux all at the same time. Originally our concept was ‘faded arcadia’, inspired by Victorian garden cemeteries. Our wedding was in Autumn (our favourite season) so we wanted that feeling of evenings drawing in and being cosy as well.”
Including personal moments in their day was important to this pair, and Romany chose a special tune to walk down the aisle to. She explained, “I walked down the aisle to a recording of the music box that my mum would put on to help me fall asleep when I was a baby. It’s a deeply personal music box to me, a beautiful sound I’ve known all my life, so walking down the aisle to that music meant a lot to me.”
Jacci did not want to plan a wedding, but as a Disney event producer, she loves planning a fun event. Luke suggested throwing a fancy Halloween party in New Orleans, with friends dressing up for an evening masquerade over All Hallow’s Eve Weekend.
They wanted their guests to feel completely at home attending their wedding, and used their actual home as inspiration for their day. Jacci explained, “One of our guests said that they had never been to a wedding before that felt like walking into someone’s house. We love a moody black, red and gold colour scheme and just really leaned into our favourite time of the year.”
Inspired by the people and places they love, Ella and Ben chose a woodland glade to say their vows, surrounded by their friends and family. Ella explained, “We wanted to make everyone feel they were part of something special, exclusive, intimate and family orientated.”
Planning to marry in 2020, their plans were derailed and changed many times. Ella told us “I’ve learned that you cannot control every little thing and as long as you have good music, speeches and enough food and drink for everyone – nothing else really matters. Oh and that a global pandemic can happen at anytime so be prepared adapt your plans!”
Cat and Tom’s elopement was all about the detail – but the right kind of detail! They eloped in Iceland in October.
Cat told us, “We had a loose Hitchhiker’s Guide to the Galaxy theme (my favourite book, growing up), with travel and adventure at the heart of the day. The bouquet and buttonholes were all made from a copy of the book, along with Tom’s pocket square being the front cover. We had a small line from the book in our vows, and of course, the mantra of planning an elopement during a pandemic being ‘DON’T PANIC!’”.
Cat realised that the more traditional details didn’t matter, telling us, “There were so many little things that I’d rushed out and bought to ensure the day was ‘perfect’, and when it came down to it, most of them were forgotten and it had zero effect on the day. I forgot I’d packed pearl hair clips and false eyelashes or that I’d planned to paint my nails, because those were the things I thought ‘brides had to do’. It made no difference to the day, as we were too busy enjoying ourselves, and it definitely won’t be something we’ll look back on and sulk over!)”
Basing their decor on a high school dance (think the dance in the gym from the movie Grease), Jacky and Wes wanted to celebrate their big day with their favourite meal – brunch! Surrounded by paper streamers and disco balls, the couple kept a free and fun vibe while partying with the people they love.
The couple had eleven groomsmen and bridesmaids, ensuring their friendship group were all part of their celebration. With an emphasis on having fun, they wanted everyone to feel relaxed and comfortable.
Jacky told us, “We didn’t want to make anyone involved wear a random dress or suit they would never wear again. Everyone picked out what they wanted to wear, as long as it was all black. They could wear any shoes or accessories they wanted.”
Planning and getting excited for your upcoming wedding is fun (even when it’s stressful) but what happens when that to-do list is done, the wedding is over and you’re on the other side? Post-wedding blues are something all couples need to consider.
I love a plan. My desk is littered with lists, tasks and schedules, and ticking things off gives me more satisfaction than I think is natural! Wedding planning is no different; that sense of achievement when you’ve completed those tasks and done a mini fist pump is heavenly. But what happens when it’s all over? It’s perfectly normal to feel a sense of melancholy once a big life event is over, and planning for this should definitely be added to that wedding to-do list.
All the hard work, preparation, planning (and COVID re-planning… and re-planning…) has led up to your wedding day. Big or small, fancy or simple, the day passes and you should be left in an utter dream-world of immeasurable bliss, right?! Well, for every major high point in life, there has to be a comedown. With all the drama of the pandemic too, the build-up has been even greater, which can make the comedown even harder.
With so much uncertainty, couples have been reluctant to make post-wedding plans, delaying the big party or honeymoon for fear of having to cancel or rearrange (AGAIN!). It’s easier to focus on the day itself, but once that’s done, there is the risk of feeling a huge, sad void. Now don’t get me wrong, the promise of being married to and forever living with your one true love is a beautiful notion, and one to be honoured and celebrated, but once the busyness is over, you may feel a real sense of loss. So, how can we manage those post-wedding blues?