Your wedding night is for one thing (wink wink nudge nudge) right? Umm, actually…probably wrong. Dr. Caroline West, a lecturer in sexuality studies and host of the Glow West podcast, is here today to talk abut how your wedding night doesn’t have to be a night of passion.
Picture this: It’s been years in the planning. Your wedding day is finally over and it’s wedding night time. You slip out of your beautiful dress, allowing your new spouse to strip you of your silky, special wedding night lingerie, and you consummate your marriage. You slip into exhausted sleep, both happy at such a lovely end to the day.
Well, wake up babe because this is a fairy tale and, as we know, fairy tales don’t often match up to reality. According to a 2019 survey conducted by thevow.ie, more than half of 3030 people (52%) said they didn’t have sex on their wedding night.
Here’s the truth: you’ll most likely be drunk, exhausted, cranky, delirious or a combination of all four. You will most likely pass out the minute your head hits the pillow. Even if you do manage to have sex, it’ll probably be a quickie that isn’t exactly the fireworks you were envisioning. Those cute neck-to-floor buttons on your dress will be a nightmare for your drunken mess of a spouse to undo, and foreplay…? HAHAHA! Forget it.
Born and bred in Maine, Alissa always knew she wanted to get married outside in a beautiful space, close to where she grew up. Her and fiancé Hayden found the perfect spot in Cunningham Farm near Portland, packed full of New England charm.
“I’d describe our wedding theme as quirky with a rustic charm,” the bride told us. Bad Rabbit Flowers provided tonnes of gorgeous colourful florals, festooning their ceremony archway, the swing that their first look took place at, and even a rowing boat that the couple stole a few minutes away from everyone to take a row in!
Content creator Natalie Lee of Style Me Sunday was diagnosed with alopecia in 2016, a condition that effects 1 in every 500 people in the UK. Keep reading if you’re experiencing the same issue and are worried about it affecting your confidence on your wedding day, and beyond.
In May 2016 I walked out of the dermatologist’s office having just been told that the hair follicles were dead and there’s no hope of them growing back. Apparently, people of African/ Caribbean decent have less hair shafts than Caucasians meaning they are much more susceptible to hair loss. I didn’t know this before I’d started to lose mine. I came out of his office and I cried in the street as people walked past me. I was on the own, having dropped the kids off at school earlier and had almost skipped along to my appointment after being referred by my GP a couple of weeks prior. I was feeling positive, hopeful even, that I’d get some answers and be able to take a load of vitamins and my hair would slowly start growing back like I heard had happened to friends of mine. After all, I’m otherwise healthy, never had any hair loss issues before and had never known anyone in my family with alopecia so I was pretty confident it could be easily fixed.
The doctor told me it was traction alopecia due to damaging hair techniques – pulling my hair back into ponytails, tight braids, chemically straightening it, hair extensions (which I personally haven’t done) and many other hair practices particularly prevalent in black hairdressing but used by people of all races and hair textures. Stress also doesn’t help. My eldest daughter had been diagnosed with a rare genetic condition and she was losing her sight, we were having a particularly difficult time with her school at time.
After that first appointment I got another diagnosis from Dr Sharon Wong, founder of Get Ahead of Hair Loss. I have something called Frontal Fibrosing Alopecia. It’s a type of scarring hair loss that affects the hair margin at the front of the scalp, mine is getting further and further back – it will never grow. The cause is unknown.
Alex and Sarah stuck to their guns for their August 2020 wedding, and despite planning it for over two years, decided to go ahead anyway. “When we originally booked our Thursday date, it was because we both work in the music industry so summer weekends we’re usually working at festivals,” the bride told us. “Not only did it end up being way cheaper than a weekend wedding, but our friends and family were more than happy with the idea of making a long weekend of things as they had plenty of notice.”
“As the year unfolded and it became apparent that we weren’t going to be able to have the celebration that we originally planned, we decided to go with the flow and have our day as best we could, which was of course stressful at times with the ever-changing goalposts. Reduced numbers meant we ended up being able to claw back some of our budget, which was a relief as in the planning we’d nearly doubled our intended spend! We now have a nice little starter for a honeymoon, once it’s safe to travel again.”
Jade and Pete drew inspiration on how they decorate their home for their October wedding day. The bride told us – “firstly we love Halloween, so that influences our personal decorative style, which we wanted reflected in our wedding theme. We’re very much into a dark, romantic, antique style with touches of goth so to do this we incorporated plenty of candelabras, moss, books etc. We thought deeper with the personal details, too – forfor instance, the feathers shown throughout the tablescapes are from my mum’s chickens. I also try my best to be as sustainable as possible so I bought items that I could reuse in our home.”
Every aspect of the wedding had personal touches woven throughout. Jade and her bridesmaids made the floral arrangements, they had custom wedding rings made especially for them, and Pete’s outfit was custom, too. Jade wore a Sophia Tolli Australia gown from Alessia’s Bridal during the day, changing to a jumpsuit from Lulu’s paired with a Nasty Gal leather jacket for the evening.
Print advertising used to be the go-to avenue for wedding industry advertising. Nowadays though, many companies might worry that ‘print is dead’ and that consumers are no longer engaging with magazines like they used to.
There’s little question that overall the number of readers of print media has declined, however Rock n Roll Bride magazine was specifically created after unprecedented demand from our online audience for a print edition! We launched with an audience already ready to buy which is why we’re bucking this trend.
Print ads have a larger impact on the consumer
Print ads are much more likely to stick with a reader. You generally have more space to create an impactful ad design than you do with an online banner ad, and people reading magazines are MUCH less distracted than those browsing online. They’re not simultaneously chatting to their friend on Facebook, browsing ASOS or scrolling through YouTube as they’re reading a magazine. The magazine has their full attention which means they’re much more likely to notice and pay attention to your advert.
It’s tangible, and therefore more trustworthy
The internet is flooded with fake advertisements that can lead you to getting a virus or signing up to a dodgy subscription website. Print advertising can’t do any of this, so people don’t view them as potential scams like they might do with some internet ads. Print advertising has been around forever and so people have no reason to mistrust it. There’s more of a barrier to entry for a company to advertise in magazines, over just being featured online, which creates an automatically higher level of trust between you and your potential customer. Being featured in a magazine also still conveys a certain level of professionalism. If you want to be respected, print is still one of the higher quality mediums.