Author Archives: Sophie Cooke

Pretty in Pink Comic Book Lovers’ Wedding with Star Wars References

It was really important to Sarah and Parker that on their May wedding, they felt the most ‘them’ that they had ever felt. “We wanted the day to be beautiful while also being comfortable,” the bride began. “For us it meant – elegant, but simple. Easy. It was more about incorporating all the pieces that were significant than having an official theme, but if I had to put it into a few words – personal, local, and real.”

As Sarah had worked in the wedding industry for many years, this was her time to shine – “I had seen too many of the same wedding to ever want to choose something because tradition said I should. Helping Parker understand the vision was more of a challenge, though. Having not attended many weddings – a white dress and a tux in a banquet hall walking down the aisle to Canon in D were all he had to reference. It’s nearly EVERY wedding the mainstream media feeds us. As we got into planning and I was able to share options with him and help him understand that we could break the ‘rules’ if we wanted to – decisions started falling into place seamlessly. He was very active in the planning process.”

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I Do … & I Don’t: A Feminist’s Guide to Being a Bride – Getting Engaged & Splitting the Cost of My Ring

Introducing our brand-new real bride columnist! Rachel is getting married in September so we’ll be following her journey of planning a feminist meets rock n roll wedding, culminating in us sharing the big day in our last issue of the year! Over to you Rachel

The first time I learned about Rock n Roll Bride was at a wedding show in 2015. I was exhibiting with a vintage wedding band and caught sight of Kat’s bright blue hair. I went looking for her, intrigued by this exhibitor, who looked so unlike the wedding industry I’d been used to after five years of wedding singing.

I found the Rock n Roll Bride stand and learned what it was all about: how these friendly people were on a mission to change the face of the wedding industry; to make it more inclusive; to celebrate individualism. With no ring on my finger and no boyfriend(!), I subscribed to the magazine immediately. Five years later, in 2020, it was my turn to be a bride.

Though I believe I would be perfectly happy to be ‘not married’ to this excellent man ’til death us do part, the Disney Princess-loving, Nora Ephron-viewing, Notting Hill-quoting romantic in me really did want to be married to the person I loved. And, luckily, H really wanted it too. “Let’s do it,” we said, “But let’s do it our way.” (Like everyone who reads this magazine says!).

The reason I’d been dubious is feminism. Long and short: I was worried that wanting to be married made me a bad feminist.

I don’t feel I need to explain why I had any reservations about marriage and feminism to the readers of this magazine. If you’re here, clearly you understand that there’s a lot that’s wrong with many marital traditions and you’re up for breaking the status quo in your own special way. One quick Google of the origin of the word ‘wife’ was enough to make me wonder if I was letting the sisterhood down.

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I Said Good Day Sir! How to Avoid Wedding Advice That You Did Not Ask For

It’s a little-known fact that when you get engaged, your aura changes colour to alert people that you are ready and willing to hear all of their unsolicited wedding advice. Pay no mind to the fact that the would-be-advice-giver got married four decades ago. Ignore that much of it is second, third and even fourth-hand advice, “Oh so your work friend’s son’s friend got married at a caravan park and they saved heaps of money? Awesome they definitely sound like someone I should listen to.” Obviously, you have to completely disregard the fact that they have the literal opposite tastes and interests than you, and just stand there and Take. All. That. Advice. Right?

NO FUCKING WAY.

Like I said to my mum when I was pregnant, ‘The advice I want is the advice I ask for,’ and it was the best boundary-setting I had ever done. It made me realise that politely listening to the unending stream of other people’s opinions about what you should do about your life, doesn’t serve anyone. Meaningful connection is not made through the one-sided pushing of opinions, nor through the simmering resentment that builds from feeling accosted with opinions that you never asked for and that are not at all appropriate for your life.

Add in that little thing called social media, and you’ve literally got the whole damn world giving you their opinions. Lordy, it’s enough to make the chillest of the friggin’ chill run for the hills.

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Intimate, Dog-Lovers Backyard BBQ Wedding

We were the cliché of not looking for love, but we found it…on Tinder!” Kandace and Cade told us. “We knew we wanted a non traditional wedding, but initially were planning a larger affair. However when Covid-19 hit, it was ALMOST a relief that we could have a small wedding without offending friends and family. It had gotten to the point where we almost felt like we were inviting people as an obligation to anyone that met us. As it was, we ended up with a guest list of 40 that have really impacted our lives and will still be in our lives down the road.”

A ‘backyard BBQ but make it fancy’, was the couples’ inspiration for their day. They didn’t care much about things like cake or stationery– but they did care about infusing their personalities into the wedding and throwing a freakin’ awesome party for their loved ones!

“We wanted it completely unique to us,” Kandace continued. “Our flower girl and ring bearer wore unicorn and bear onesies respectively, complete with light up shoes. We had temporary tattoos with our surname on, custom aprons made for everyone so they could get stuck into the BBQ fun without worrying about ruining their attire, even our rings were different; Cade’s is made with dinosaur bone and mine has a London Blue Topaz as the centre stone.”

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Steampunk Wedding with a Custom Built Chapel & Lettuce for Decor!

It was wonderful to work with this couple,” said Jen from Pink Light images as she signed off her submission email, “but in real life, this pair are just SOMETHING ELSE!” Let’s just say, our interest was officially piqued, and we’re delighted to share with you one of the most unique weddings we’ve ever had the pleasure of being submitted! 

Chris and Elizabeth are artists and proprietors of LizzyGator, an art house and events venue in Pilot Point, Texas. “We create just about everything around us, including our own whimsical world,” the bride began. “It was definitely not easy getting married last year, but it gave us the time to create the latest LizzyGator statement, our ‘twisted chapel’. We built it as a gift to each other, and with the hope of sharing it with the world once things are brighter.”

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Secret & Scenic Colorado Elopement

As wanderers, Karie and Jared wanted to encompass their desire to explore the majestic mountains of Colorado for their September 2020 wedding. Their secret elopement was romantic, scenic, and most importantly – unique to them.

Katie wore a dusky blue Chantel Lauren dress with hiking boots, of course, and an aquamarine ring from Zacchariah Zypp & Co. Jared wore a Men’s Wearhouse suit and his ring was from Jewelfire Diamonds. Karie reminisced; “changing into a wedding dress and suit in the back of a rented SUV while hurricane-force winds threatened to steal anything that wasn’t nailed down kicked off our adventurous and unforgettable day.”

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