Holly and Toby wanted to forego the pomp and ceremony often surrounding weddings, and so chose to invite only their closest family and friends to their actual wedding day. They had a big party in the pub where they first met in for everyone else a month later. Not wanting a lot of fuss, they didn’t have an engagement, engagement rings or even tell anyone bar their nearest and dearest that they’d tied the knot until afterwards, wanting to maintain a degree of intimacy and privacy, and concentrate the process on their commitment to each other.
They gave themselves just six months to plan and organise everything, and focused their £6,000 budget on areas that meant the most to them; for Holly, it was investing in pieces of Tessa Metcalfe’s feminine yet macabre jewellery that would hold sentimental value for their day and could be passed down generations. They saved money by using dried flowers instead of fresh throughout their decorations – with dried flower crown, bouquet and buttonholes by The Artisan Dried Flower Co., and buying dried flowers wholesale for decorating the reception venue from Essentially Hops.
The inspiration for James and Cherry’s wedding was “doing it our way”, which for them meant colourful, informal and relaxed. They focused their attention to doing what they love – eating, drinking and dancing, and spent less time on the formal stuff. Doing the legal bit days before gave them the freedom for their day that they so craved. “We couldn’t even tell you the date we officially got married!” explained Cherry. “For us it was just a box ticking exercise – our wedding anniversary will always be the day we made a promise in front of our friends and family.”
Their day was held on a working farm, with an outdoor ceremony and reception in a marquee on the grounds right after. Cherry wore a navy ombre sequin dress from Phase Eight, with Monsoon shoes and beautiful dried flower bouquet and matching flower crown from Folkey Dokey. James’ outfit and their adorable blush pink flower girl outfits were from Next.
Kerry knew it was love when Nick took her Alpaca trekking as a date. They met on OK Cupid and bonded over a shared love of Moomins and both having siblings in Hong Kong, In fact they turned away completely from tradition, because, in Kerry’s words, “not to be cool but because we found it all a bit sick-in-your-mouth and cringeworthy.”
They cancelled plans for a huge wedding in Budapest and got married in secret at St Pancras Renaissance Hotel, with just 12 guests present, and their two Chihuahuas as ‘dogsmaids’ instead of bridesmaids! They spent the night before, and morning of the wedding together, and walked down the aisle together. They ‘said yes to the dress’ together, Kerry didn’t do a ‘pre-wedding diet’ (“in fact, I ate and drank more in the run up!”), they had no cake cutting or planned speeches or first dance… and they didn’t invite the brides’ parents.
“I made the decision not to invite my parents to the wedding which caused a lot of upset and hurt but I decided not to do it just to ‘tick a box’,” explained Kerry. “While I love them dearly, I haven’t had the easiest of relationships with either of them and nor do they with each other. I didn’t want to bring drama to the day and families usually spell drama. It was the best decision I made because since that point, I have had more meaningful conversations with my mother than I’ve had in a decade, so sometimes it pays to make a difficult decision.”