When we hear the phrase ‘boudoir shoot’, there have been enough bad ones gone before to throw up connotations in the mind of something tacky, pandering to the male gaze, and overly sexualised for the wrong reasons. Today’s editorial couldn’t leave this further behind with its strong female subject who isn’t looking for anyone’s approval or attention, fresh and contemporary greenery, and a bright palette of whites, greens and pinks. And if that entire sassy black underwear range isn’t in your online shopping basket by the time you’re done here, we need to have words.
Taking place at The Prettiest Pieces in Greensboro, North Carolina, this shoot aimed to show that bridal boudoir doesn’t have to be ‘all white and bright’, that it can be darker, moodier, and be just as beautiful. It’s all about rocking your individual style, no matter what that is, and proving wrong the assumptions that these things must look a certain way or they’re not ‘bridal’. Which is what we’re all about here, as you know!
This article features explicit images. Those of a sensitive disposition might want to check out some of the other engagement shoots we’ve featured in the past instead.
I must preface this feature by letting you all know that this is an explicit photo session, and one that not everyone will be comfortable looking at. But in the spirit of Rock n Roll Bride being about self-expression and doing whatever is right for you and your partner, I really wanted to share it! There are a lot of NSFW photos featured below and while I personally think they’re really tastefully done and the story behind them is one worth sharing, I understand that not everyone will agree.
Couple’s boudoir shoots are actually nothing new. For many, they are a really beautiful way to capture their relationship and genuine connection in an unforced, natural way. Some of the more raunchy shoots, such as this one, feature the couple mimicking having sex.
OK for those of you still reading, let’s begin by hearing from the couple themselves. I was keen speak to Charlie and Mark and find out what made them want to be photographed in such an intimate way for their engagement shoot.
“We chose to go with a more intimate shoot for a couple of reasons”, they said. “Both being creative (he is a photographer by trade) we actually take a lot of photos of each other and together, some being nudes and certainly more intimate. We both feel pretty comfortable in front of a camera and also we both felt very comfortable around Sarah, who photographed this session.”
Boudoir shoots are nothing new. Hell, I had one when I was engaged in 2007 (and no I’m not going to show you them!) While lots of brides might consider doing them, I’d have to hasten a guess that a lot of you reading this might have dismissed the idea as something silly, vein and super embarrassing. While in 2007 the main marketing push for boudoir photos was an “a gift for your man” (vom) ten years later and I’d still like to encourage you to consider doing one, but as a gift for YOURSELF.
A boudoir shoot is a great way to celebrate what a gorgeous bad ass you are and to create some amazing photographs to reflect that. It’s often easy to get swept up with work, life and current insecurities and not celebrate who we are. It’s a cliche, but when you’re much older I guarantee you’ll look back at photos of yourself now and think “Wow what a babe I was back then!” This is your chance to take some photos for you, but also for future you!
I was submitted this gorgeous set of images by Italian wedding photographer Ludovica Lanzafami recently, and I thought as well as sharing them, I’d use this post to share some things to think about if you’re considering your own boudoir shoot.
Choose the right photographer
This is obviously really important. You want to find a photographer you feel happy with, who will make you feel comfortable. You also want someone who’s on the same wavelength, who understands the style of imagery you want to produce.
Meet them in advance
If possible, I think its always a good idea to meet any photographer before you hire them (whatever the shoot) but especially if you’re doing a boudoir session. It doesn’t matter if the shoot is going to be tame or risque, you’re going to be in a potentially vulnerable situation so you need to be sure you feel good about who you’re hiring.