Category Archives: Wedding Planning Advice

How to Stop Inspiration Overload

Wanting to have a ‘Instagrammable’ or magazine-worthy wedding isn’t a bad thing, but how do we stop ourselves from getting too swept up in making our wedding ‘cool’ and forgetting what the day is really about?

I have a confession for you. If I was to plan another wedding today there’s quite a lot of things I’d do differently. Don’t get me wrong, my wedding was an amazing day and one full of personal creative touches. I was beyond thrilled when it made it onto the Rock n Roll Bride blog (who knew that I’d be writing for Kat all these years later!) but looking back, I totally lost my head to wedding inspo. I stressed myself out unnecessarily because in my heart of hearts, I wanted it to be the coolest, most Instagrammable wedding any of my guests had ever been to and here’s another confession, I dreamed it would make it onto a blog.

If I think hard about that, that’s kinda wild, right? Why should we care whether or not our guests think our wedding is ‘cool’ or social media worthy? Why did bust my bridesmaid butts in a homemade pom pom sweatshop simply to create something as good as the professional one I saw on Pinterest?

The thing is, I hold my hands up and say I got entirely swept away in the (alternative) wedding circus. Yup, I really wanted to get married and not only that, I really, really wanted a fabulous wedding.

The biggest budget I’ve ever had for a party? Er, yes please! I wanted the perfect dress that suited my ‘quirky’ personality, the perfect venue, the perfect wedding favours, the perfect entertainment all topped off with fire dancers (for real, this happened).

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How Not to Be a Bridezilla (Hint: There’s No Such Thing!)

Worried that you’re becoming a bit of a Bridezilla? Well, fuck that! Kate Forsyth of Good Day Club explains how we’re not down with that kind of BS shaming here at Rock n Roll Bride. NOPE NOT ONE LITTLE BIT.

Event planning is rather well known as a terrifically stressful profession. It routinely pops up in the top 10 most stressful occupations alongside jobs like airline pilot, emergency services and military personnel and surgeons.

So, by all means, now that you’re engaged, just take on ONE OF THE MOST stressful jobs in the world. Alongside your regular job, relationship, family commitments, being a contributing member of society, getting regular exercise, eating healthy, drinking enough water, listening to the voicemails your mum keeps leaving, flossing your teeth, getting the right birthday gift for your nephew and watering your indoor plants. By. All. Frigging. Means.

Sure, you want to have a kick-arse wedding celebration that achieves the required amount of justice for your love story. Sure, you’re a BIT of a high achieving perfectionist and you want it to be beyond amazing. Sure, you’ve spent 257 hours on Pinterest in the past month and you’ve become a wee bit obsessed with the raddest wedding ever.

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Let’s Get Real About Wedding Night Sex

Your wedding night is for one thing (wink wink nudge nudge) right? Umm, actually…probably wrong. Dr. Caroline West, a lecturer in sexuality studies and host of the Glow West podcast, is here today to talk abut how your wedding night doesn’t have to be a night of passion.

Picture this: It’s been years in the planning. Your wedding day is finally over and it’s wedding night time. You slip out of your beautiful dress, allowing your new spouse to strip you of your silky, special wedding night lingerie, and you consummate your marriage. You slip into exhausted sleep, both happy at such a lovely end to the day.

Well, wake up babe because this is a fairy tale and, as we know, fairy tales don’t often match up to reality. According to a 2019 survey conducted by thevow.ie, more than half of 3030 people (52%) said they didn’t have sex on their wedding night.

Here’s the truth: you’ll most likely be drunk, exhausted, cranky, delirious or a combination of all four. You will most likely pass out the minute your head hits the pillow. Even if you do manage to have sex, it’ll probably be a quickie that isn’t exactly the fireworks you were envisioning. Those cute neck-to-floor buttons on your dress will be a nightmare for your drunken mess of a spouse to undo, and foreplay…? HAHAHA! Forget it.

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The Rock n Roll Bride x Veronica Dearly Wedding Planner is BACK!

Much like a ’90s boyband dusting off their combats and mic stands again, the Rock n Roll Bride x Veronica Dearly Wedding Planner is BACK for a limited time only! The good thing about this though, is you don’t have to go anywhere near a Butlins to get your fix. Hurrah!

If you’re new around these parts, my best babe Veronica and I first designed these planners in 2017, and they were an instant success, selling out in just 24 hours. We’ve since done a second drop, which was snapped up, and we gifted them to the lucky lot that attended Rock n Roll Bride Live last year. To say these are like hens’ teeth would be an understatement. Whenever planning is mentioned on our Instagram or in our Facebook group, the planner gets requested to make a comeback. Well after a brief hiatus because well, 2020 happened, it’s finally back in stock!

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Alopecia and Me

Content creator Natalie Lee of Style Me Sunday was diagnosed with alopecia in 2016, a condition that effects 1 in every 500 people in the UK. Keep reading if you’re experiencing the same issue and are worried about it affecting your confidence on your wedding day, and beyond.

In May 2016 I walked out of the dermatologist’s office having just been told that the hair follicles were dead and there’s no hope of them growing back. Apparently, people of African/ Caribbean decent have less hair shafts than Caucasians meaning they are much more susceptible to hair loss. I didn’t know this before I’d started to lose mine. I came out of his office and I cried in the street as people walked past me. I was on the own, having dropped the kids off at school earlier and had almost skipped along to my appointment after being referred by my GP a couple of weeks prior. I was feeling positive, hopeful even, that I’d get some answers and be able to take a load of vitamins and my hair would slowly start growing back like I heard had happened to friends of mine. After all, I’m otherwise healthy, never had any hair loss issues before and had never known anyone in my family with alopecia so I was pretty confident it could be easily fixed.

The doctor told me it was traction alopecia due to damaging hair techniques – pulling my hair back into ponytails, tight braids, chemically straightening it, hair extensions (which I personally haven’t done) and many other hair practices particularly prevalent in black hairdressing but used by people of all races and hair textures. Stress also doesn’t help. My eldest daughter had been diagnosed with a rare genetic condition and she was losing her sight, we were having a particularly difficult time with her school at time.

After that first appointment I got another diagnosis from Dr Sharon Wong, founder of Get Ahead of Hair Loss. I have something called Frontal Fibrosing Alopecia. It’s a type of scarring hair loss that affects the hair margin at the front of the scalp, mine is getting further and further back – it will never grow. The cause is unknown.

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Wedding Traditions: What Are They Good For? Absolutely Nothing!

What’s that snarky and also 200% true saying about traditions? They’re just peer pressure from dead people. And if we stuck to all the things ‘we’ve always done’, there’d still be six-year-old coal miners who smoke pipes, chain smokers on airplanes and people tuning in to Two and a Half Men.

While we’re often more than happy, nay, gleeful to chuck out traditions that are way past their use by date, when it comes to weddings it’s a different story. Even the most modern human persons begin to fret over what calamity will happen if they see their betrothed prior to the wedding ceremony, whether their future children will be born with tails if they forget to include ‘something blue’ on their person, or if there’ll be a plague on their house if mum AND dad walk them down the aisle.

It’s time to piss off these weird, superstitious traditions that have no meaning for you and go to work on what does feel meaningful. Because hot tip: The best weddings are not the ones with the most expensive Champagne – though who doesn’t like a bit of fancy plonk? – they’re the ones that really feel like the couple in question. The best weddings are the ones created with considered decisions that reflect them, rather than stuffy traditions they’ve been peer pressured into by living and dead people mind you, often with quite awful backstories of misogyny and the patriarchy gone mad.

So, let’s chat about traditions that ought to get in the bin.

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