When an engagement shoot brings this much joy, you just know their wedding is going to be all kinds of incredible. Sofia and TJ, who met at a house party and then found each other online afterwards (truth time: it was TJ who did the stalking!) are both musicians and are actually getting married TODAY!
“It turned out we had been playing in the same circle for years, we even went to the same little beach town college, just a few years apart”, the bride-to-be told us. “I remember telling my best friend about him, and she said, ‘Oh I remember him! What a hunk, always walking around in those little red shorts.’ TJ invited me to meet him at a beach in Alameda – he had a chess board sticking out of the tote bag he was carrying over his shoulder when I arrived, I had a Scrabble board sticking out of mine. And just like that, I started falling in love.”
Call us vain, but we love hearing how Rock n Roll Bride magazine has helped with your wedding planning, but this may be a first! When Kirsty proposed to Vicky last year she used a copy of the magazine to do it!
She told us all about it, “On Sunday 17th November 2019, we were preparing to celebrate our one year anniversary. Vicky was keen for us to do a cute couple’s photo shoot (I do a fair bit of modelling so photo shoots are a fairly regular occurrence for me). I decided to take this idea and run with it, going all out with hair, makeup and wardrobe to give her the full VIP experience.”
“I knew I wanted to propose, and had actually bought an engagement ring several months earlier and had hidden it at my friend’s house! I’d also been meeting up in secret with my photographer friend Debbie to plan how best to capture the moment. I’m naturally quite a showboat whereas Vicky is a little more private so a photo shoot in our beautiful home seemed like the right balance of intimate and ostentatious! To give the proposal a strong element of tradition, I’d discussed my plan with Vicky’s parents who were quick to give their enthusiastic approval.”
Perfect wedding venue? Check. Gorgeous wedding dress? Check. Constant bickering with your betrothed? Double check.
What? Fighting? That’s not on your pre-wedding checklist! Yet, unfortunately, having a few squabbles with your partner usually comes with the territory of planning your wedding, and it’s nothing to be ashamed of. To prevent your fights from becoming fully-fledged feuds that make you think ‘let’s just call the whole thing off and elope’ there are some tactics that come into play. If your stress levels have reached an all-time high, keep calm, collected and read on. Here’s how to keep the peace and ensure your wedding is fantastically fight-free.
Set aside time for wedding talk
I’ve seen it a thousand times: someone who uses every excuse under the sun to bring up the wedding – and it drives their partner absolutely crazy. It’s natural to be fully invested in creating your ideal wedding, but a line has to be drawn somewhere. It shouldn’t consume your entire life to the point that you’re so sick of your wedding months before it’s even happened.
The feeling that your partner is not invested in your wedding can also lead to a serious disagreement. To avoid this, set aside time for the two of you to discuss it. Set a reminder on your phone, get cozy on the couch and communicate everything wedding-related that’s on your mind. No in-laws or best friends allowed! This sacred time is for the two of you to feel totally comfortable to express your expectations, dreams and concerns for your big day.
Don’t sweat the small stuff
It’s no secret that planning a wedding is a big project. From the venue to the bridesmaid dresses to the date of the wedding, there are big decisions that need to be made. Then there are also the smaller decisions like the colour of the napkins or the tiny flowers you want as part of your hairstyle.
The sheer number of decisions you have to make is enough to make anyone go crazy – especially if these decisions are to be shared with your partner. To keep the peace (and your sanity) don’t place a huge focus on the tiny details. I can tell you now, none of your guests are going to notice if the colour of your tablecloths is ivory or eggshell.
One of you wants a traditional low-key, low-cost wedding with close family and friends. The other wants an extravagant Game of Thrones wedding with everyone from your gym instructor to your second cousin twice removed in attendance. Although you’re going to try your best to avoid fighting with your fiancé, disagreeing on something is bound to happen. When it does, it’s how the two of you react to the argument that sets the tone for your wedding day (and the rest of your lives together).
When you and your partner have a squabble, it’s important to think win-win; how can you both benefit from the optimal solution? Don’t try to achieve a personal victory of getting your own way – remember, you’re in this together. If you’re at a stalemate then this is where the art of compromisation and knowing when to pick your battles comes in!
Like many of you reading this, Denver-based photographer Ashley and her fiance Jonathan have been forced to postpone their wedding due to the COVID-19 pandemic. When it came to telling their friends and family about their change of date, they decided to do a silly photo shoot with – what else? – bottles of Corona beer!
Ashley told us, “My fiancé and I had to postpone our wedding but we had to find humour where we can. These are our new ‘Save the New Date’ photos…When a wedding gets postponed, a Corona gets a lime!”
Molly and Christopher’s engagement shoot is just about PERFECT for today’s post, what with it being International Star Wars day and all.
The couple made the costumes themselves! “We are both huge geeks who go to a lot of conventions”, she said,” so it was easy for us to find pieces we already owned to channel some Sith realness.”
“Chris and I were both HUGE Star Wars fans before we met one another and our love was forged in the fires of our space opera fandom! We met right before the Force Awakens came out (and haven’t seen a Star Wars film in theatres without each other since), the first gift he ever got me was a robotic BB-8, we run an inter-sectional Star Wars Club together (it’s called the Star Wars Dumpster Fire). He also proposed to me with a fan made Star Wars video – perhaps the only proposal video in history where my husband-to-be makes out with my fictional husband (Kylo Ren). So CLEARLY Star Wars is a HUGE through line in our relationship. We wanted to honour that by making our own real life fanfic with our engagement photos!”
Ahead of their big wedding day in China featuring a traditional tea ceremony, Anna and Alex decided to have some engagement pictures taken in Brighton with Manon Pauffin. The suuuuuuper cute results are below!
“In China, it is popular to do a pre-wedding shoot to show your photos at the wedding because on the big day it’s often too busy to have photos of just the two of us,” Anna explains. “For us, this shoot was like a wedding present to ourselves to capture the sweet moment of our love story forever, and it gave us a chance to enjoy some time together and just be who we are.”