Call us vain, but we love hearing how Rock n Roll Bride magazine has helped with your wedding planning, but this may be a first! When Kirsty proposed to Vicky last year she used a copy of the magazine to do it!
She told us all about it, “On Sunday 17th November 2019, we were preparing to celebrate our one year anniversary. Vicky was keen for us to do a cute couple’s photo shoot (I do a fair bit of modelling so photo shoots are a fairly regular occurrence for me). I decided to take this idea and run with it, going all out with hair, makeup and wardrobe to give her the full VIP experience.”
“I knew I wanted to propose, and had actually bought an engagement ring several months earlier and had hidden it at my friend’s house! I’d also been meeting up in secret with my photographer friend Debbie to plan how best to capture the moment. I’m naturally quite a showboat whereas Vicky is a little more private so a photo shoot in our beautiful home seemed like the right balance of intimate and ostentatious! To give the proposal a strong element of tradition, I’d discussed my plan with Vicky’s parents who were quick to give their enthusiastic approval.”
Perfect wedding venue? Check. Gorgeous wedding dress? Check. Constant bickering with your betrothed? Double check.
What? Fighting? That’s not on your pre-wedding checklist! Yet, unfortunately, having a few squabbles with your partner usually comes with the territory of planning your wedding, and it’s nothing to be ashamed of. To prevent your fights from becoming fully-fledged feuds that make you think ‘let’s just call the whole thing off and elope’ there are some tactics that come into play. If your stress levels have reached an all-time high, keep calm, collected and read on. Here’s how to keep the peace and ensure your wedding is fantastically fight-free.
Set aside time for wedding talk
I’ve seen it a thousand times: someone who uses every excuse under the sun to bring up the wedding – and it drives their partner absolutely crazy. It’s natural to be fully invested in creating your ideal wedding, but a line has to be drawn somewhere. It shouldn’t consume your entire life to the point that you’re so sick of your wedding months before it’s even happened.
The feeling that your partner is not invested in your wedding can also lead to a serious disagreement. To avoid this, set aside time for the two of you to discuss it. Set a reminder on your phone, get cozy on the couch and communicate everything wedding-related that’s on your mind. No in-laws or best friends allowed! This sacred time is for the two of you to feel totally comfortable to express your expectations, dreams and concerns for your big day.
Don’t sweat the small stuff
It’s no secret that planning a wedding is a big project. From the venue to the bridesmaid dresses to the date of the wedding, there are big decisions that need to be made. Then there are also the smaller decisions like the colour of the napkins or the tiny flowers you want as part of your hairstyle.
The sheer number of decisions you have to make is enough to make anyone go crazy – especially if these decisions are to be shared with your partner. To keep the peace (and your sanity) don’t place a huge focus on the tiny details. I can tell you now, none of your guests are going to notice if the colour of your tablecloths is ivory or eggshell.
One of you wants a traditional low-key, low-cost wedding with close family and friends. The other wants an extravagant Game of Thrones wedding with everyone from your gym instructor to your second cousin twice removed in attendance. Although you’re going to try your best to avoid fighting with your fiancé, disagreeing on something is bound to happen. When it does, it’s how the two of you react to the argument that sets the tone for your wedding day (and the rest of your lives together).
When you and your partner have a squabble, it’s important to think win-win; how can you both benefit from the optimal solution? Don’t try to achieve a personal victory of getting your own way – remember, you’re in this together. If you’re at a stalemate then this is where the art of compromisation and knowing when to pick your battles comes in!
Like many of you reading this, Denver-based photographer Ashley and her fiance Jonathan have been forced to postpone their wedding due to the COVID-19 pandemic. When it came to telling their friends and family about their change of date, they decided to do a silly photo shoot with – what else? – bottles of Corona beer!
Ashley told us, “My fiancé and I had to postpone our wedding but we had to find humour where we can. These are our new ‘Save the New Date’ photos…When a wedding gets postponed, a Corona gets a lime!”
The exchanging of the rings is one of the most exciting and personal moments in any wedding. You also have to look at your wedding band every day, so making sure your rings are personal and authentically you is super important for even the most non-traditional couples. Whether you want something minimal or a ring that’s never been seen before, there are plenty of unique ring options out there.
The Great Frog
Chances are you’re already familiar with The Great Frog (and if you’re not, check them out immediately – their skull rings are legendary) but you might not know that they do their own range of wedding rings, too. All of their wedding bands can be created in silver or gold, and each is handmade for you. They have everything from the deceptively simple to more unusual geometric styles, so you’re bound to find something that speaks to you.
One way of making sure your wedding bands are unique to you is to get them engraved. Sofia Zakia has a range of out-of-this-world wedding rings, including these utterly beautiful constellation bands which you can have etched with the constellation of your other half’s zodiac sign – I can’t think of a better way to match without really matching.
If the zodiac’s not your thing, there’s also a huge range of gorgeous rings made with different stones and diamonds, inspired by everything from goddesses to the cosmos. A ring inspired by a Greek goddess is definitely something I’m on board with.
For those of you a little more inclined to head towards the dark side, you should head over to Kipkalinka’s Etsy page. Her wedding bands are dainty but still full of character, with an amazing variety of metals and jewels so you can find something that suits your bad ass personality. Those simple skull bands would make amazing matching couples rings, whilst her various coloured diamonds would make the perfect showstopper.
If you’re reading this, the likelihood is that you don’t want your wedding to be super traditional. Maybe you’re wearing a coloured gown, sashaying down the aisle to your favourite metal song or putting skulls on the tables instead of flowers. All of these things, and many more, are really fun yet fleeting ways to showcase your individuality. After all, once the wedding itself if over they won’t exist in your everyday life.
If you want a more permanent way to showcase that uniqueness as you go on into your marriage, then you might want to consider an engagement ring that feels more ‘you’ too.
Ken & Dana Design, a family-owned and operated wedding jeweller (based in NYC but working with couples all over the world) have a HUGE selection of some of the most unique, alternative and beautiful engagement rings I’ve ever seen. I’m personally loving their range of nude, soft pinks and grey stoned rings, and a raw or rustic diamond gives a very different, much more subtle, overall look than a cut stone would. They’re often a much more affordable option too. I’m here for it!
Molly and Christopher’s engagement shoot is just about PERFECT for today’s post, what with it being International Star Wars day and all.
The couple made the costumes themselves! “We are both huge geeks who go to a lot of conventions”, she said,” so it was easy for us to find pieces we already owned to channel some Sith realness.”
“Chris and I were both HUGE Star Wars fans before we met one another and our love was forged in the fires of our space opera fandom! We met right before the Force Awakens came out (and haven’t seen a Star Wars film in theatres without each other since), the first gift he ever got me was a robotic BB-8, we run an inter-sectional Star Wars Club together (it’s called the Star Wars Dumpster Fire). He also proposed to me with a fan made Star Wars video – perhaps the only proposal video in history where my husband-to-be makes out with my fictional husband (Kylo Ren). So CLEARLY Star Wars is a HUGE through line in our relationship. We wanted to honour that by making our own real life fanfic with our engagement photos!”