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How to…Pose in Your Wedding Photographs – What to Do (& What Not to Do)

kathownottopose1010Before I start, I just want to say one thing…ARGGGH!

Yeah that’s right, I’m posting some pretty hideous (and ahem hilarious) photographs of myself today. I hope you’ll find this slightly scary post both helpful and funny…that’s the idea anyway! So, ready to see me looking haaawt!?

Looking naturally beautiful on your wedding day is something that’s often referred to by some as a bit of a given. “On your wedding day you’ll be so glowingly happy that you will look as stunning and radiant in the photographs as you did when they were taken” they say…and they’re right…right!?

Well yes and no. I’m sure you’re all with me in some degree on this one, that there are certain areas of your body that you’re never going to be happy with. No matter how often your fiancé says you’re beautiful, when you look at a photograph of yourself your eyes are always first drawn to your arms/nose/chin/stomach aren’t they? Yeah me too…

Let’s be honest with ourselves here and say that we are all a little bit worried about how we’re going to look in our wedding photographs. Looking at yourself in a photo can be seriously HARD if you have a hold ups about how you look, and actually even if you don’t. There isn’t a person in the world who hasn’t taken a bad photograph, but if you’re anything like me, you’ll be praying that the happiest day of your life will be reflected as such in the photographs. Not to freak you out any more, but after all these are the photos that will remain on your parents’ and grandparents’ mantelpieces forever.

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“Now come on…!” I hear you cry “Kat Williams we’ve seen you in hundreds of photo shoots and you always take a good picture.” Well I’m here to burst that little bubble for ya right now ladies (and gents.) If you could see the photos that end up on the proverbial cutting room floor after one of my shoots…well…you certainly wouldn’t be saying that! And before you say so, no I’m not just being modest. I can take a seriously BAD picture. Just ask all the photographer’s I’ve worked with!

However what I have learnt over the past few years of prancing about in front of the camera, is how to pose (and be posed) correctly. I now know how to position and angle my body to accentuate my good bits and hide my wobbly bits. Today I want to pass that knowledge onto you. The point of this post is not to make you dwell in the parts of yourselves that you dislike, but to celebrate the parts you do like and to learn how to look the very best you can. I am a firm believer that everyone can take a beautiful photograph – all it takes it the right photographer (for you) and some clever posing. I seriously hope you will thank me for it too, because sharing some photos of me looking well…awful…is quite a momentous thing for me!

So last week I met with my friend, photographer David McNeil to take some good and badly posed shots in order to show you what to do and of course not what to do in your wedding pictures or bridal/engagement/trash the dress shoot. Thank you so much for all your comments on last Friday’s post about this subject - we’ve tried to cover all the areas you asked for so I hope you get some ideas of how to look as smokin’ as you feel in your wedding photographs.

OK, deep breath…

Chin / Neck

I was both surprised and comforted that so many of you seemed to have the same most hated area as me! I detest my chin and neck area (what is it with my fat neck!?) It’s so easy to get that awful double and/or dimply chin look in photographs too… argh!

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In order to combat this, raise your chin by a few degrees and twist your head slightly away from the camera. Then, either focus your eyes a point above your natural eye line or look back down the lens. Tilting your chin upwards will elongate the neck, pull the skin tight and smooth out any wrinkles/folds. Even if your photographer is shooting from a low angle (argh scary!) or straight on, this pose will look a million times better than looking straight at and directly down the camera. See…?

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“Hello, my Name is Kat and I am a Twitteraholic”: The Latest Social Network Trend – The Twidow™

Photography Credit: Chris Barber Media – Full wedding can be seen here

“Hello, my name is Kat and I am a twitteraholic”

It’s true you know. I unashamedly and utterly love tweeting. I revel in how it connects me with my friends and adore how I can directly speak to my readers on a personal level. The best part however is that when I’m working alone in my nook under the stairs, it makes me feel a lot less of a looooser in my wedding/photography/blogging obsession. You guys are always there with me to respond to my random musings and validate my ridiculous ideas.

However I’m sad to report that there is a scary new trend as the result of my ever expanding twitter-verse…my husband has become has become a self-proclaimed Twidow™

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Taking Over the World with the One You Love

I’ve had your 100% support from the moment I finally admitted to you that I was a secret wedding geek who had started a wedding blog because I’d loved planning our own wedding that much. For that I will be eternally grateful. I know that without you here by my side, there is no way that Rock n Roll Bride would be where it is today. Without your logical advice and technical know-how, I certainly wouldn’t have been able to create and maintain this little corner of cyber space like I have…

You helped me set up my site properly when I deleted my Blogger account by mistake.

You convinced me that Twitter was the ‘next big thing’.

You create custom widgets and sidebars and layouts and all kinds of fancy behind the scenes geekery that I can’t even begin to pretend to understand. Because of you my website looks the prettiest it ever has.

You’ve indulged me with my weird ideas and often questionable opinions.

You’ve corrected my terrible spelling and kept my grammar in check. Hell, you even occasionally read my magazine articles (even though I know the subject is totally boring for you), critique my photo shoot ideas and approve my video blogs.

You’ve attempted time and time again to explain tax and VAT to me…and I’m so sorry but I still don’t really get it.

You’ve always been by my side in this crazy blogging adventure, even when we didn’t speak for 24 hours because I was stuck at my computer trying to hit some crazy deadlines.

…And now you’ve quit your own business to work with me. Full time. Words can’t express how proud I am of you for taking that leap to leaving a job that you hated…and words also can’t express how excited I am that you are officially my bitch. (Ahem, now where’s that coffee I ordered?!)

I promise to always appreciate you and all you do for me, our business and our little family. I’ll try my hardest to not be the worst ‘boss’ you’ve ever had…and I promise to always be willing to drop everything and go to Nando’s for lunch with you.

Welcome to team Rock n Roll Bride Gareth. Let’s take over the world together shall we?!

Photo by Me. Have I got the hottest employee or what?!

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Bridal Fluff, Air Kisses & Wedding Industry Fakery

The Hengrave Collection by Terry Fox (Images by Adam Alex Photography) – Marie Antoinette-inspired awesomeness

So yesterday I was invited to a prestigious industry preview event in London. Basically a posh trade fair where wedding designers (mainly dresses but a few bridal accessories too) congregate to sell their newest lines to the gaggle of press and various bridal boutiques across the world. People come from all over the globe to attend and get the first glimpses of the designs by some of the most decorated British bridal designers. It’s billed as a great place to go to spot new trends and to meet anybody that’s anybody in the wedding industry.

So I went along and even though I wasn’t sure it would be ‘my thing’ I felt it was an event that I should be at. I got up early (for me…hey, I work from home in my PJ’s usually!) and boarded a commuter train to London.

I walked in at 10am, looking forward to seeing the first catwalk show of the day but was instantly met with a feeling of depression…not the giddy, excitable feeling that I usually get when I go to work events. I couldn’t put my finger on it, but something about this show left me cold. Something was missing and had been replaced by clinical white booths, air kisses and expensive cups of coffee.

Matthew Williamson‘s first ever bridal collection stole my heart

I have to say a few things at this point. I toyed for hours whether to post this or not. My mind was plagued with thoughts of ‘Will I get ostracized for saying these things?’ and ‘Am I cutting my nose off to spite my face/ biting the hand that feeds me’ (and other such metaphors) by saying how I really feel? However I do think that sharing my experience can overall be a positive one, and that even though I left yesterday feeling disappointed, that these feelings did confirm to me that actually I LOVE that I’m different and not swayed or influenced by what everybody else is doing.

So let me get one thing straight, I did get to chat to some lovely people yesterday – the girls from various wedding magazines mainly and a select group of amazing designers who were, interestingly, mainly the new kids on the bridal block. These were the kinds of people that were actually genuinely interested in me and my blog and didn’t simply turn away when I entered their booths…pink head, inked arms and all.

These are the kinds of designers I’d encourage you to check out for your own weddings (I’ve listed my favourites at the end of this article and images from their latest collections illustrate this page.) However apart from these few choice rock stars, the majority of what I saw was pretty much exclusively pretentious and (as I like to call it) expensive ‘fluff’.

Claire Pettibone‘s ground-breaking designs

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Three Year Marriversary Love

Photography Credit: English Rose Weddings

Today is Gareth’s & my ‘marriversary.’ We were married 3 years ago on our 6 year anniversary (yeah, we kept the date the same…so much easier to only have to remember one date!)

Happy 3 year marriversay/9 year anniversary baby. I love you all of it and I couldn’t do this without you.

Best friend

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Lover

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♥  ♥  ♥

When we first started dating, 2002

A ski holiday, 2006

The night Gareth proposed, 2007

Our Engagement Shoot, 2008 (full set here)

Photography Credit: David McNeil Photography

Our Wedding, 2008 (full set here)

Photography Credit: English Rose Weddings

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Kat & Gareth’s “Beloved” Session with Marianne Taylor

It seems like forever ago now, but last year my friend Marianne Taylor sent me an email to let me know about an amazing and life-changing workshop she’d just completed. Hosted by Canadian photographer Jesh de Rox, the Life {as an artform} workshop had taught her some new techniques that she was desperate to try out and she asked if Gareth & I would model for her. This workshop wasn’t a technical or a ‘how to run your business’ one. It didn’t teach her a new technique with her camera or show her how to be a more successful photographer…it taught her how to use emotional exercises in order to bring the couple together, in the moment, and into a state where they are not afraid to show their true selves and explore the connection they have.

This was to be a completely different style of photo shoot than I’m used to – no make up artist, no hair stylist, no props (well, except for some cake pops – it was hard work and we needed a snack!)…just me + Gareth and our love and emotions laid bare.

Marianne explains, “Since Kat & Gareth have been together for nine years, of which they’ve been married for 3, they were the perfect couple to explore the Beloved experience with. Beloved sessions consist of different exercises, or invites, which have a way of bringing the couple into the present moment and into a state where they are not afraid to show their true selves and explore the connection they have. I’ve used some of the more physical invites in my engagement sessions to break the ice, but this was the first session where it was 99% Beloved techniques as opposed to traditional posing, so it definitely felt like a big step.”

Instead of posing us, Marianne took us through a variety of exercises and asked us to call upon certain emotions in order to interact naturally with each other as she photographed. We actually got into it quite easily really threw ourselves wholeheartedly into simply feeling. Some of the the exercises were sad, some funny and others were tender and loving. A few tears were shed, but I really do think that because of this our emotions come though in a really genuine way.

It was like nothing I’ve ever been a part of before. It was actually really nice to not have to worry about ‘posing’ or thinking “ooh does my nose/chin/arm look weird in this?” and simply focusing on Gareth completely. Even now, looking back at these beautiful and genuine images, I’m ignoring my initial thoughts self deprecation and just remembering the affection for my husband that I was feeling at the time.

These are the photographs we’ll be showing our Grandchildren. It’s kind of magical really.

Words can’t express how grateful I am to Marianne for asking Gareth & I to experience this wonderful day with her. We have always been a bit of a lovey-dovey couple anyway, but since the shoot (and this sounds totally cheesy but I don’t care) I do actually feel like I’ve fallen in love with him all over again. I literally can’t recommend the experience enough, and for an anniversary shoot doing something like this would be perfection.

I really hope you enjoy these photos…be sure to check out the slideshow (turn your speakers on) and Marianne’s blog post for a few extra photos.

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