Wedding planning advice can be found everywhere, but the best source of advice surely has to come from past brides who have actually had weddings similar to the one you’re hoping to have too.
Whenever I interview couples for their real wedding features, I always ask them if they have any advice for future brides and grooms. Here are some of my favourites!
You don’t have to invite everyone
Source: Intimate mountain cabin wedding
“Don’t be afraid to not invite someone. Make a list and stick to that list. People will generally understand, and you can’t be scared of hurting somebody’s feelings when you have a budget to keep or space limitations. Also, things will go wrong. We got a ticket the moment we pulled out of the courthouse when we got our marriage license. We were so pumped and then immediately so bummed. Just shake it off and eat some flapjacks. It all becomes a part of the story, and you’ll love those parts in the end.” – Elia
Ask around for great deals
Source: Handmade budget savvy wedding
“We got so many great deals by just asking around so if you’re stuck for an affordable venue check local farms and country b&b’s with land or camp sites. And don’t underestimate how much work it is putting it all together. I’m not sure the wedding would’ve happened without our AMAZING groomsmen and bridesmaids. We love them. SO MUCH. Keep your goals in perspective too. Some homemade things ended up just as expensive as if we’d bought them and can take a whole lot of time and work, but there are lots of things that can be made thriftily” – Naomi
With a vintage black dress as the starting point, photographer Amy Cloud set out to style and shoot an alternative, yet elegant wedding inspiration session. The shoot took place on The Great Salt Lake in Utah.
“I love untraditional weddings and knew I wanted to do a shoot with a black dress”, she explained. “Once I found the dress everything else fell together. I wanted a slight dark yet romantic feel. I incorporated golds and purples to tie the theme together.”
Taylor and Derek wanted a glamorous destination wedding so they flew off to the Florida Keys. The day was held at The Key Largo Lighthouse and the ceremony was officiated by the bride’s uncle which made it extra special.
“I really wanted classic elements and a neutral color palette for our wedding because the venue was so beautiful”, the bride began. “We really wanted to highlight the gorgeous ocean, palm trees, and stunning orchids. I wore a Vera Wang White Collection gown and my bridesmaids all wore off-white. All their dresses were different. My only other requirements were that they were not be full length, and have some kind of texture. The end result turned out so beautiful.”
“One of the most unique elements of our wedding would definitely be some music choices. We came up with a really fun mix for the reception and had some untraditional songs play during important moments. For example, we played The Smiths song There Is A Light That Never Goes Out when we cut the cake. I am a Morrissey fanatic and how do you not play your favorite music on your wedding day? We had such a romantic meaningful ceremony and after we kissed we walked out to White Lies song To Lose My Life. It started at the chorus. This was the perfect transition from romance to rock and roll party time.”
I’ve seen a lot of Day of the Dead themed weddings in my time, but hand on my heart, none have been as incredible as this one! From the bride’s black dress with hidden rainbow petticoat, to the extravagant and gorgeous DIY decorations and the holi powder war (!), this is a wedding I KNOW you’re all going to love.
“Between the two of us we share a few cultures – Indian, Afrikaans, Polish and good old everyday South African”, began Tash. “Mashing the cultures, and therefore the traditions that accompany the various cultures, with our own individual likes and dislikes, was inevitably the inspiration for our day.”
“A few eyebrows were raised when we shared our ideas with family and friends, but we stuck to our guns and created a day that reflected who we are as individuals. This to me was what made it ‘alternative’ (besides the black dress, unlimited vodka and skulls everywhere).”
The day was held at the Mckenzie farm in Lions River, South Africa. The ceremony was in the nearby woods and the reception was in the barn. “The thinking behind our wedding theme was that we got engaged in India, we both love colour and we both love to dress up”, she continued. “I love skulls and Neil dislikes anything fancy and elegant. I also love DIY and power tools! From that process evolved our theme: laid back, unpolished, colour explosion, Day of the Dead dress up barn party!”
I’ve spent the past seven days in New York and I’ve been having the best time! After teaching over the weekend, Shauna had to head to Palm Springs for a design retreat, so Gala and I have been exploring the city as a terrible twosome all week. It’s been pretty rad although we’ve missed our third!
By the way, this update comes to you from an Amtrak train speeding through the American countryside! We’re teaching our final US class of the year in DC this weekend (er where has this year gone please?!) I’ve never visited the Capital so I’m preeetty excited to see the White House and have some touristy fun times all day tomorrow. Any other recommendations of what we should do while we’re there?
I fly home Sunday night, so I have to go to the airport as soon as the workshop is over. I have two awards ceremonies to go to next week – the Cosmopolitan Blog Awards, where I’m co-presenting (!!) an award as well as being nominated for Best Wedding Blog, and the Wedding Magazine Blog Awards where I’m also up for a couple of gongs! It should be a fun week, for sure!
Weddings & Weddingy Things
♥ A beautiful wedding dinner
♥ The littlest boho
♥ Moody forest wedding inspo
♥ 60s mod, math and science fair wedding
♥ Homespun Bohemian Canadian wedding
♥ Gorgeous Joshua Tree wedding
♥ Black sand beach elopement
Rachel and Ally won their wedding photography though a contest hosted on this very wedding blog, so when Rachel excitedly emailed me with the resulting gorgeous photos, I couldn’t wait to post them! The wedding was held in Ally’s parent’s back garden in Surrey.
“When we first got engaged and I started to look at possible venues I got so downhearted that I abandoned the search for 18 months”, began the bride. “Every couple wants a wedding that represents them, and we were no different, but I felt everywhere I looked we either couldn’t afford or wouldn’t let us choose the things that were important to us. They all seemed to insist that you use their recommended suppliers. We are both laid back and wanted something that wouldn’t be stressful to organise.”
“Rather than start at what we wanted, we started at what we didn’t want and built from there. We didn’t want formality or to subscribe to tradition. I didn’t want a wedding dress and Ally didn’t want a morning suit. We wanted it to feel very natural and relaxed so cut out many of the usual parts that make up a wedding. I didn’t want to be a princess; the only thing I wanted to be on our wedding day was Mrs Jowett.”