Tag Archives: Boudoir

Let’s Get Real About Wedding Night Sex

Your wedding night is for one thing (wink wink nudge nudge) right? Umm, actually…probably wrong. Dr. Caroline West, a lecturer in sexuality studies and host of the Glow West podcast, is here today to talk abut how your wedding night doesn’t have to be a night of passion.

Picture this: It’s been years in the planning. Your wedding day is finally over and it’s wedding night time. You slip out of your beautiful dress, allowing your new spouse to strip you of your silky, special wedding night lingerie, and you consummate your marriage. You slip into exhausted sleep, both happy at such a lovely end to the day.

Well, wake up babe because this is a fairy tale and, as we know, fairy tales don’t often match up to reality. According to a 2019 survey conducted by thevow.ie, more than half of 3030 people (52%) said they didn’t have sex on their wedding night.

Here’s the truth: you’ll most likely be drunk, exhausted, cranky, delirious or a combination of all four. You will most likely pass out the minute your head hits the pillow. Even if you do manage to have sex, it’ll probably be a quickie that isn’t exactly the fireworks you were envisioning. Those cute neck-to-floor buttons on your dress will be a nightmare for your drunken mess of a spouse to undo, and foreplay…? HAHAHA! Forget it.

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A Gothic Bridal Meets Boudoir Shoot

It’s September (WHAT!?) which means its basically Autumn and nearly October which can only mean one thing… HALLOWEEN IS JUST AROUND THE CORNER! I know you’re just as excited as we are, which is why we’re pleased as spiked punch to be sharing this spooky yet sexy goth bride shoot with you today.

Organised entirely by photographer Heather Pippin based in St. Louis, we know you’re going to love this one just as much as we do. Fierce doesn’t even cover it.

The relatively simple shoot took place at an old church turned intimate wedding venue called Salem Baum Church in Waterloo, IL. The smoke, the stunning Maggie Sottero black wedding dress and a whole lotta sass make this shoot what it is – no bells, whistles or over the top props and ‘stuff’ required.

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Body Positivity for Boys: A Dudeoir Photo Shoot!

Boudoir shoots have never been my favourite things but DUDEoir? Now this is something I can totally get on board with! There is definitely not enough wedding content aimed at men and there certainly isn’t enough body positive content for them so I am SO HERE FOR ALL OF THIS.

This total bad ass, Oskar, wanted to do something fun for his bride-to-be, Britny, as a wedding present. As many women have done before him, he decided that his own version of a boudoir shoot would not only be funny as hell but would help his self-confidence as well.

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Dark Boudoir Bridal Shoot With Greenery and Florals

When we hear the phrase ‘boudoir shoot’, there have been enough bad ones gone before to throw up connotations in the mind of something tacky, pandering to the male gaze, and overly sexualised for the wrong reasons. Today’s editorial couldn’t leave this further behind with its strong female subject who isn’t looking for anyone’s approval or attention, fresh and contemporary greenery, and a bright palette of whites, greens and pinks. And if that entire sassy black underwear range isn’t in your online shopping basket by the time you’re done here, we need to have words.

Taking place at The Prettiest Pieces in Greensboro, North Carolina, this shoot aimed to show that bridal boudoir doesn’t have to be ‘all white and bright’, that it can be darker, moodier, and be just as beautiful. It’s all about rocking your individual style, no matter what that is, and proving wrong the assumptions that these things must look a certain way or they’re not ‘bridal’. Which is what we’re all about here, as you know!

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A NSFW, Super Intimate Engagement Shoot

This article features explicit images. Those of a sensitive disposition might want to check out some of the other engagement shoots we’ve featured in the past instead.

I must preface this feature by letting you all know that this is an explicit photo session, and one that not everyone will be comfortable looking at. But in the spirit of Rock n Roll Bride being about self-expression and doing whatever is right for you and your partner, I really wanted to share it! There are a lot of NSFW photos featured below and while I personally think they’re really tastefully done and the story behind them is one worth sharing, I understand that not everyone will agree.

Couple’s boudoir shoots are actually nothing new. For many, they are a really beautiful way to capture their relationship and genuine connection in an unforced, natural way. Some of the more raunchy shoots, such as this one, feature the couple mimicking having sex.

OK for those of you still reading, let’s begin by hearing from the couple themselves. I was keen speak to Charlie and Mark and find out what made them want to be photographed in such an intimate way for their engagement shoot.

“We chose to go with a more intimate shoot for a couple of reasons”, they said. “Both being creative (he is a photographer by trade) we actually take a lot of photos of each other and together, some being nudes and certainly more intimate. We both feel pretty comfortable in front of a camera and also we both felt very comfortable around Sarah, who photographed this session.”

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Why Every Bride Should do a Boudoir Shoot

Boudoir shoots are nothing new. Hell, I had one when I was engaged in 2007 (and no I’m not going to show you them!) While lots of brides might consider doing them, I’d have to hasten a guess that a lot of you reading this might have dismissed the idea as something silly, vein and super embarrassing. While in 2007 the main marketing push for boudoir photos was an “a gift for your man” (vom) ten years later and I’d still like to encourage you to consider doing one, but as a gift for YOURSELF.

A boudoir shoot is a great way to celebrate what a gorgeous bad ass you are and to create some amazing photographs to reflect that. It’s often easy to get swept up with work, life and current insecurities and not celebrate who we are. It’s a cliche, but when you’re much older I guarantee you’ll look back at photos of yourself now and think “Wow what a babe I was back then!” This is your chance to take some photos for you, but also for future you!

I was submitted this gorgeous set of images by Italian wedding photographer Ludovica Lanzafami recently, and I thought as well as sharing them, I’d use this post to share some things to think about if you’re considering your own boudoir shoot.

Choose the right photographer

This is obviously really important. You want to find a photographer you feel happy with, who will make you feel comfortable. You also want someone who’s on the same wavelength, who understands the style of imagery you want to produce.

Meet them in advance

If possible, I think its always a good idea to meet any photographer before you hire them (whatever the shoot) but especially if you’re doing a boudoir session. It doesn’t matter if the shoot is going to be tame or risque, you’re going to be in a potentially vulnerable situation so you need to be sure you feel good about who you’re hiring.

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When This Couple’s Wedding Photos Sucked, They Did This…

Couple’s boudoir is nothing new, but what I love the most about Taryn and Adam’s photo session is the story behind it. The fact that they’re a totally babing tattooed couple doesn’t hurt either does it?!

Photographer Tanya told me all about the shoot. “I like boudoir but hate how it often takes a human (often female) body and chops it into pieces. Bum, boobs, arched back… There’s nothing wrong with these gorgeous body parts but for me there is no connection and humanity in this expression. I wanted do make this shoot moody, a bit gritty and deeply focused on the connection between two people.”

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Couple’s Boudoir & Intimate Photo Sessions: Would You Do One With Your Partner?

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Have you heard about ‘couple’s boudoir’ or ‘intimate couple sessions’? They’re nothing new, although the media has recently been batting them around as a crazy new trend in wedding photography! Yet intimate couple sessions have been going on for years and can create some of the most special, beautiful and emotional photos of you and your beau.

Today I wanted to chat to photographer Dustin Cantrell, who specialises in these kinds of photo shoots, to ask his advice on doing one. It was also a good excuse to share some of his gorgeous photography with you!

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Why would a couple want to have an intimate photo session?

The goal of an intimate session is to capture your connection and love you feel for your partner. Shooting the session in your home allows intimacy to occur. In the past (and still for lots of couples) the point of a couple session, also known as an engagement shoot, was to capture a nice photo for something like Save the Dates, or to display at their wedding. However lots of couples don’t have engagement photos done at all because it’s just another thing on the checklist of things to do in preparation for their wedding.

With an intimate session, it’s just about the two of you. You are probably not going to send cards out to your guests with these photos on so you are able to really cherish the beginning of your lives together with no cheesiness is involved (save the date signs, fake picnics, tandem bicycle riding). Years down the road you don’t want photos to remember the time you staged or posed for photos that weren’t capturing the real you, you’re much more likely to want to look back and see who you really were.

This type of session doesn’t have to replace your engagement shoot though. An intimate photo shoot can be part of your engagement photos. You can start or end the session with some intimate photos at your place. Intimate sessions can be for newlyweds, anniversaries, a way to take reconnect with your partner.

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Milk Bath Bridal Boudoir

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I’ve got something a bit unusual to share with you today – milk bath boudoir shots! Photographer Melissa Mullins explains, “I was inspired to create a unique twist on bridal boudoir. Something different for an independent girl who wants to showcase her rebellious side, without being totally out-there. I wanted to create something soft and romantic but also a little edgy!”

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“I chose vintage lingerie straight from the 1950s and loved the delicate lace and flattering shape. To keep things simple and elegant, I used a white milk bath and brought in some natural elements – fall leaves and flowers in shades of pink – to add in bright pops of colour.”

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Marilyn Monroe Boudoir

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There’s definitely a fascination with Marilyn going on at the moment. Just two weeks ago I shared a shoot recreating her wedding, and today I have another, this time of some of her most iconic boudoir photo shoots!

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The concept and styling came from the mind of Corie of Vigilante Cosmetics. It was photographed by William of Six Hearts Photography and the model was his wife Schellie! “I wanted to do this shoot because it turned me on”, William explained.

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From Sunrise to Sunset – A Day in the Life of Us: Joelle & Jake

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Joelle & Jake’s shoot was described to me as “intimate, organic and unique” by their photographer Anna Jones and I really couldn’t say it any better. Somewhere between a boudoir, a day in the life and a wedding portrait shoot, these images that took my breath away as soon as I saw them. Perfectly honest and stunningly peaceful. They are just utterly, utterly beautiful and everything a couple shoot should be.

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Angry Panda Boudoir {NSFW}

That may well be the oddest blog post title I’ve ever written but either way…

I have a love/hate relationship with boudoir. I’m sure I’ve written about this before, but while I love the thought of girls celebrating their bodies, stripping off and feeling sexy, I’ve just seen all to many boudoir shoots that are, forgive me, but so so wrong. A bit tacky, kinda cheesy or just plain slutty. Yeah, I said it… so sue me.

But this is not one of those cases.

Hanh aka ‘Angry Panda’ really wanted to show off all her bright and colourful tattoos. She loved the work of wedding photographers The Willinghams and so booked them to do just that. “Angela rocked this session”, wrote photographer Drew. “This shoot is the beginning to an awesome addition to our offerings to our unconventional clients.”

So I’ve come to a conclusion. These are the key things to making a boudoir session awesome and not awful:

♥ Tattooed bodies – always and forever.
♥ Simple styling – setting the shoot in a plain, unfussy and unpretentious environment (no satin sheets – vom!) Your own bedroom is perfect.
♥ Cute but not overly sexy underwear – boy shorts, vest tops, cotton bras, pull up socks (absoultely no suspenders, lace see-thru knickers or peek-a-boo bras).
♥ And a panda hat never hurts either…

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Risqué Boudoir {NSFW}

I have a love/hate relationship with boudoir photography. On the one hand, I think every gal should have the opportunity to feel sexy, and being photographed with that pre-wedding glow – either as a gift for your beloved or a treat to yourself – is a great way to boost the confidence. However I don’t generally feature that many of these shoots, because, forgive me, but a lot of the ones I see are somewhat tacky… or trashy… or just not very sexy at all. Whoever decided feather boas can make the transition from hen do tack to boudoir class needs a stern talking to. There are exceptions of course, but in my experience they are few and far between.

Well I’m pleased as punch to report that, again, I’ve been proved wrong with today’s shoot. Submitted by portrait photographer Meredith Wullkotte is is elegant, classy, sexy and effortlessly cool. These simple shots of model Staci Gibbs are just perfect!

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