Call us vain, but we love hearing how Rock n Roll Bride magazine has helped with your wedding planning, but this may be a first! When Kirsty proposed to Vicky last year she used a copy of the magazine to do it!
She told us all about it, “On Sunday 17th November 2019, we were preparing to celebrate our one year anniversary. Vicky was keen for us to do a cute couple’s photo shoot (I do a fair bit of modelling so photo shoots are a fairly regular occurrence for me). I decided to take this idea and run with it, going all out with hair, makeup and wardrobe to give her the full VIP experience.”
“I knew I wanted to propose, and had actually bought an engagement ring several months earlier and had hidden it at my friend’s house! I’d also been meeting up in secret with my photographer friend Debbie to plan how best to capture the moment. I’m naturally quite a showboat whereas Vicky is a little more private so a photo shoot in our beautiful home seemed like the right balance of intimate and ostentatious! To give the proposal a strong element of tradition, I’d discussed my plan with Vicky’s parents who were quick to give their enthusiastic approval.”
Are you a woman thinking of popping the question this month? Take a leap of faith in the comedy writers at Speechy, who tell us why a leap day proposal is not the one.
Wait, what? Every four years thousands of women celebrate a patriarchal tradition that grants them a lame 24 hours to show some agency and ask their significant other for his hand in marriage? What kind of low-key aspirational feminism is this? Sorry, I’m done.
Here’s five reasons why women should absolutely propose, just not when we’re told to…
What’s the craic?
So the story goes, an Irish nun lobbied St Patrick – or Paddy as he was known then (probably) – till he agreed that women, bored waiting for their altar-phobic fellas, should be allowed to do the deed themselves. But only on one day. Every four years.
He even weaved in a caveat so men could refuse the proposal if they gave the woman asking a pair of gloves (to hide her embarrassment at not sporting an engagement ring). Still want to do what some bloke in a funny hat told you?
Tommy Fury (of Love Island and boxing fame) recently told OK! Magazine ‘any man who lets a woman propose is not a man’. Sorry mate, you’re cute and everything, but any man who finds a woman taking charge of her own destiny emasculating needs to get in the bin.
There’s a long history of societal aversion to confident women. It doesn’t help that the narrative surrounding marriage is often centred on women trying to ‘trap’ men, who mostly recoil in horror.
Tommy also said, ‘if you weren’t meant to follow your gut, you wouldn’t have one’, which we can’t argue with to be fair. If your instincts are telling you you’re ready to propose, go for it. But do it your way, on a day you choose.
Hear the sound of retailers rubbing their hands together with glee? Yep, everyone from Premier Inn to Poundland is exploiting this quadrennial trend, with proposal packages and men’s ‘token’ engagement rings. Capitalism has never been friendly to women – tampon tax much? A leap day betrothal might sound like Hallmark Heaven but it’s nothing less than fuckery for feminists.
It’s about as original as a romantic snog in the rain
If a Hugh Grant film is the epitome of your relationship goals, you probably should get yourself down to Poundland for some bling. But there are cooler ways of proposing. Do something hyper-specific to the two of you. Board game pub regulars? Mime asking for his hand in marriage during a round of Articulate. If he’s in a band, get his mates to tie your proposal in with a bespoke performance of The Clash Should I Stay or Should I Go Now, complete with seething mosh pit.
‘I have to do it now cause like… in another four years I’ll be…’ gasps
What? More awesome? With better taste in table décor? At the peak of your career? Financially killing it? Time is not the issue here.
When people ask me what makes a ‘Rock n Roll wedding’ I always respond by saying its not all about jumping out of airplanes… but that sometimes it is! Just check out Andrew and Ariel’s incredible wedding video if you don’t believe me!
It’s been a long time since I featured just a wedding video, but I think you’ll all agree this one is amazing enough to stand on its own. This high impact, adrenaline junkie’s dream is a proposal and wedding film all in one!
You are going to love watching this, it’s more like a high production value movie than a wedding video. But when the groom owns a production company, what do you expect!?
Here’s their story:
“Ariel and I were set up four years ago by two mutual friends and early in the first date I knew we were very similar”, said the groom, Andrew. “We had both lived in 5 cities and 5 years and constantly yearned for adventure. Quickly our dates turned into road trips, camping, back country flying and airshows, which only cemented the fact that I needed to officially make her my partner in crime.”
“So in January 2015, on our way to the mountains of North Carolina, I asked if she would help me get a shot for a film my production company was putting together. It was an odd request, since I am not the cameraman, but she did not think too far into it. It was freezing, so she was not thrilled to do a yoga scene; however she obliged. Quickly into the shoot, I told her that it was all a big joke and she stormed off. Luckily I was able to corral her back over in front of the camera, where I dropped to the knee and asked if she would marry me. She said yes and the adventure planning began.”
Have I got a set of photos that will make you go “awww!” today!? Photographer Jamie Allio told me the story of the real proposal that happened during this shoot! “I actually contacted this couple to do a shoot for my personal portfolio. I had been following Natalie for a while on Instagram and was obsessed with her style and her flawless features. Her boyfriend, Zach, was always making appearances on her feed and I couldn’t believe these two weren’t models!”
“I sent them an email along with a Pinterest board I had created for inspiration and within weeks we were meeting up for a shoot in my home, followed by a trip to Southern Arizona to visit some creepy abandoned domes. The night before the shoot Zach sent me a message telling me to call him as he had an emergency. As soon as he spoke he blurted out, ‘I’M GOING TO PROPOSE DURING OUR SHOOT!'”
There is a lot of pressure surrounding weddings. Pressure to have the most gorgeous celebration, to spend the most (or least!) money, to DIY up a storm and for everything to be utterly picture perfect. So it doesn’t come as a shock to me that proposal expectations can also be sky-high for the soon to be betrothed.
With viral proposal videos hitting the headlines on an almost daily basis, this is hardly surprising. It can be hard, if not impossible, for us normal folk to feel like we’ll ever measure up!
Don’t get me wrong, I love hearing the stories of the flash mobs, the sky-writing and the treasure hunts. I’m an old romantic after all. But the fact of the matter is that a proposal doesn’t have to go viral for it to be utterly incredible.