Self-love, body positivity, feeling confident being in the skin you’re in – it’s such a huge roadblock for so many of us and there’s so much to unpack, where do we even begin? And that’s not even taking into account how much your self-worth can nose-dive when you get engaged and realise how much toxic bullshit is (still) so prevalent in the wedding industry!
The brand-new issue of the magazine is now available for pre-order (they begin shipping next week!) and we’ve themed it around this very important topic. We want you to feeling like your most fabulous self while planning your wedding and we hope this collection of articles, accompanied by stunning inspirational imagery, will help you with exactly that.
“If you think you are too small to make a difference, try sleeping with a mosquito” – The Dalai Lama
Can I be honest with you? I am really nervous about putting out this issue of the magazine. Why? Because I am terrified of getting it wrong.
As someone who has spent a lot of time on the Internet, and has experienced first-hand what happens when an angry mob attack you for not upholding an absolutely impossible standard of moral perfection, it’s scary to speak up about a topic like sustainability and environmentalism. The fear of getting dragged across the Internet for making a potential misstep has stopped me from even trying in the past.
But the truth of the matter is none of us are perfect, least of all me! None of us is getting it 100% right all the time, and unless you live off the land, eat vegan, don’t have a phone, never use anything plastic, don’t drive a car, wouldn’t dare consume fast food, never buy any piece of fast fashion and you don’t have or plan to have children (one of the worst things you can do for the planet is add more people to it!); then you are not perfect either.
Issue 41, the gothic issue, featured one of my all time favourite shoots (do I always say this? Yes, probably!) We wanted to elevate the idea of a gothic bride and to create a shoot with a high end, high fashion feel, yet something still super attainable for anyone wanting to embrace the dark side.
Its important to us that the shoots we put together for the magazine aren’t just beautiful, but that they feature wearable pieces which you can incorporate into your own wedding day look, whether you’re going for something more traditional with a subtle gothic twist or you want to be a full-on gothic princess.
Our stunning non-binary model, Nan, has albinism and when we found them, we know they were the perfect face to bring our gothic meets high fashion vision to life.
January can be such a dreary time of year but not at Rock n Roll Bride magazine, oh no! We were determined to start the new year off with a positive bang and what could be more positive than a magazine cover like this!? We’ve done a complete 180 on the last issue – going from all things dark and gothic to all the colours of the rainbow!
And guess what? This is also a BUMPER ISSUE which means it has more pages and more content than usual, all for the same bargain price of less than £6! YAY!
Our starting off point for putting the content for this together was the shoot, and we’re beyond stoked to share our first ever male cover star with you! We’ve had the idea of playing with colour and gender norms for a while so we were thrilled to finally be able to make it happen. Our model, Kit, was the perfect person to bring our vision to life. He loved playing dress up and seeing his face light up when we told him he was in big colourful dresses was just so wonderful!
The super-saturated colour palettes were so fun to put together and after such a tough, dreary few years, we can’t think of anything better – anything more needed – than going into 2022 making a bold and bright statement.
When I decided to start theming each issue of the magazine, doing a gothic/ emo themed edition was a no-brainer. I mean If there’s one aesthetic that screams alternative bride more than any other, it’s this.
The shoot for this edition was so much fun. Accompanied by the Throwback Thursday Emo Spotify playlist, my team and I relived our teenage years putting together these looks on the gorgeous Nan.
Speaking of Nan, they are a non-binary model with albinism and when I found them, I knew they were the perfect face to bring our gothic meets high fashion vision to life. I also spoke to them for our Meet the Contributor’s page, and their answer to this particular question was so great (and too long to publish in full) I wanted to share it here too.
As a non-binary model with albinism how do you feel the fashion and bridal industry could be more inclusive and make everyone feel welcome and seen beyond tokenism?
Unfortunately, in the western world wedding traditions are often rooted in patriarchal values that celebrate traditional representations of beauty. This has led to minorities feeling pushed out, as if their version of love holds less value when compared to white, cis, heterosexual love. In the wedding industry people of colour have always been chronically underrepresented. From bridalwear designers never breaking through and have their work recognised, to bridal magazines actively choosing not to have couples of colour in their publications. Even on a personal level, black brides struggling to find a hairdresser to work with their hair or finding a dress that compliments their skin tone or figure. Our perceptions of beauty and wedding tradition are centred around the white ideal.
When the intersectionality of queerness and gender fluidity comes into play, the problem deepens. This has led to minorities and members of the LGBTQ+ community feeling pushed out and underrepresented.
Even in progressive countries, queer couple are still often forced into the binary by the distinctly heteronormative and conservative nature of weddings; often being asked ‘Who’s the man in the relationship?’, ‘Who’s wearing the dress/ who’s wearing the suit?’. Forcing these gender norms and stereotypes on queer couples is so harmful and particularly problematic for non-binary people. Queer love doesn’t have to resemble cis-het love to be understood, valued and respected.
It’s clear more representation of BAME and LGBTQ+ communities is needed, not in just showing and displaying black and queer love in publications but by brand putting in the effort to embrace and accommodate all types of beauty. It’s not hard to change mesh lining to suit a deeper skin tone. It’s not hard to design gender neutral garments for weddings. Despite the belief that black and/or queer love doesn’t sell, there is demand and there’s a whole demographic of people whose expressions of love are being undervalued. There’s space for everyone in the bridal industry. We all deserve to feel beautiful and special on our wedding days.
WE COULD NOT AGREE MORE!
So, what will you find inside the issue? Well, as well as ideas on how you can add some more macabre elements to your wedding day look and style, you’ll also find real wedding inspiration for whatever kind of theme you’re going for. Not all the weddings are gothic themed as we want every issue to feature a broad and diverse range of weddings and people. There’s also plenty of practical advice on how you can bring your own creative vision to your day, especially if your loved ones aren’t exactly on board with your ideas!
FORTY ISSUES? How on Earth did that happen? It’s wild to think back to when we published the first issue of the magazine (waaaaay back in January 2015!) and how much has changed since then. I can now to look at all those magazine stacked on my shelf and realise just how much content we’ve produced, just how many people have read a copy and just how many weddings have been influenced by it. Blows my damn mind!
I’ve been thinking a lot recently about what the wedding industry will look like when all this Covid crap is finally fully behind us. Will lots of people still choose to have smaller gatherings? Will elopements continue to be popular? Or will people go entirely the other way and want to have the biggest, most ostentatious party ever? This got me thinking about the Renaissance (a fervent period of European cultural, artistic, political and economic ‘rebirth’) following the Middle Ages (also known as the Dark Ages)… History tends to repeat itself, after all.
Now I don’t know about you but that all feels very familiar to recent times so that, alongside one of my favourite childhood movies, Labyrinth, inspired the theme of the issue and it’s cover shoot!
If you want a fairy tale wedding day style that’s got an edge of tradition but still feels unique and creative, then you are going to love it. I know I always say this but could this be my most favourite shoot ever!?
Although we’re starting the theme each issue with the shoots and articles (the next one being goth and OMG you are going to love it!), one thing which will remain as diverse, inclusive and eclectic as ever are the real wedding stories we publish.
It’s always been really important to me and my team that we share a wide range of wedding styles, themes and people in every single issue, and nothing about that is changing. Just you wait until you get a load of these beauties!