Amy and Earl were married at Legend City Studios, an art gallery in Phoenix. “We wanted our wedding to be one big Party”, explained the bride. “We went into the planning stage with one goal in mind. We wanted to have a wedding we’d love to attend. Our goal was to have fun and make sure everyone else had fun as well.”
Amy wore a stunning black wedding dress which she had custom made by someone on Etsy (the seller sadly no longer exists) which she wore with amazing galaxy print shoes from Modcloth. Her bridesmaids were the ones wearing white! They all picked their own dresses. “The thing most people have pointed out was the black wedding dress”, she said. “I chose black for my wedding dress because I wanted something I was comfortable in, and I like the way I look in black.”
Charlie and Barney wanted a fun and laid back wedding that was all about being themselves. Their dress code was ‘come as you are’ and their invitations made it clear that it was going to be a party wedding! “We got everyone drunk by 3pm because of the Jagerbombs”, Barney wrote. “By the time the DJ started in the evening, it felt like a giant house party, which is what we always wanted.”
“Almost everything was unusual”, he explained “and the most important thing for us was to make it a true reflection of our personalities (we are somewhat known amongst our friends for throwing parties, for always being the last ones standing on a night out, and for enjoying a Jagerbomb or five). We were also determined that no one should be bored. Charlie wanted it to be a handfasting ceremony, which started to shape the day because it meant we would have two ceremonies. The first was a small, very intimate and very secret civil ceremony in the morning, attended by a handful of immediate family, just sat around the library of Oxon Hoath, casually perching on the sofas. It was meant to be as relaxed as possible, and despite Charlie turning up half an hour late, it was surprisingly stress free!”
Iris Apfel, American businesswoman, interior designer, and fashion icon is a pretty amazing woman. At the ripe old age of 93, she still consults and lectures about style and fashion, and she continues to rock the same inimitable style that she became so well known for.
I might have said it to you a million times before, but looking at someone like Iris only reinforces my belief that you need to wholeheartedly be yourself. Standing out in a crowd is awesome, but in life (no matter how you choose to present yourself) you’re always going to come across people who are threatened, intimidated, offended or annoyed by you. You need to keep prancing along doing your own thing anyway. If you don’t, you’ll end up being a carbon copy of everyone else and just as bitter as the rest of them.
I’d rather people disliked me for who I actually am, than have them dim my sparkly light because it might – GASP! – offend their boring sensibilities. I already know my style, opinions and choices are going to annoy some people, so I might as well just be myself and enjoy life on my own terms regardless!
Jason and Alexis’ home grown wedding was held at at The Sargent Center in Hancock, New Hampshire. They wanted a weekend long affair, with all their guests camping and staying with them. With the bride being a writer, the wedding had a literacy feel. She wrote the ceremony herself their were book and poetry references throughout the wedding.
“Home grown and alternative are the first words that come to mind”, began the bride when I asked her about their theme. “We wanted something different, while still appealing to older family members and those who expected a more traditional wedding. Most of our friends have been married in the woods, in fields, in barns, so this was expected for their inner circle, but their families were blown away by the whole weekend affair.”
“As a writer, I wrote the ceremony, which consisted of quotes from Harry Potter and Hugo’s Les Miserables. For their vows, we took turns reading from the children’s book, I Like You by Sandol Stoddard, a book which I had given Jason several years ago.”
The couple really wanted to put themselves into their wedding, with nods to all their favourite things throughout the weekend.
Aaron and Cariad were hitched at Willesborough Windmill in Ashford, Kent. They fell in love with it as the owners were super laid back and allowed them to do whatever they liked! Their day was fun, casual and all the colours of the rainbow.
“We actually got married on the weekend of our 10 year anniversary”, began the bride. “Our inspiration for the wedding was just to be unique and alternative. When we started planning a wedding we soon realised there was no way we could afford a venue big enough to house everyone we loved, so we invented this thing called The Wedding Tour. We got married at the windmill with our close, local family and friends and then we packed up all the decorations and took the reception on tour!”
“We had parties throughout the rest of the month, which was cool because we got to wear out wedding outfits a bunch of times and had four colourful wedding cakes! It was a bit more money on top (but nowhere near as much as a big wedding in a venue that asked for £3000 just for hire) and it was more tiring that we had expected, but we definitely got more quality time with guests and made a lot more memories than if it was just one day.”
DIY Village Hall Wedding
There are a few things about planning a wedding that can come as a bit of a surprise. Things you just assume are one way but you then find out are actually completely the opposite! So to try and eliminate those “What the hell..?” moments, I thought I’d tell you about them right now!
Here are some things you might not know about weddings.
1. The confetti shot will need to be staged
Those fabulous, spontaneous looking confetti shots outside the ceremony – all totally staged. I don’t know why I assumed these would just happen, but no, they need to be set up by your photographer. Not least of all because you normally walk back up the aisle and leave the room before your guests do!
If you’re doing a confetti shot, your photographer will organise your guests once they’ve all come out. You’ll then go back inside and walk back out again – ta da! spontaneity at it’s pre-staged best!
The other thing worth noting for this iconic shot, is that if you want it, you’ll need to provide the confetti. Some guests will bring some, but most of them will forget. Oh, and when it comes to confetti always remember, the more the better!
2. If you want to provide your own booze you’ll have to pay for the privilege
Corkage? What the eff is that about?
If you want to try and save money by bringing your own alcohol into your venue (instead of buying it from them) you’ll have to pay a fee per bottle to do so. I think it’s usually around the £10 mark, which means that your £3 bargains from your booze cruise to France no longer seem like such a cheap alternative after all.
If you find a venue that doesn’t charge corkage then book them immediately I say!
3. You need to apply to be married at least 16 days in advance
In England and Wales you need to give notice to marry at least 16 days in advance at your local registry office. Your dream of rocking up to the court house and saying “I do” that same day isn’t actually possible. If you want a church wedding the notice period is even longer. The Church of England required that the banns of marriage are read at four consecutive Sunday services before they can legally marry you.
4. Children cost just as much as adults