Choosing 31st October as their wedding date, Lauren and Galen opted for a spooky Halloween theme. With a £10,000 budget they planned a wedding that was quirky, creative and a hell of a lot of fun. They had hints of the 1950s and rockabilly too.
“Our wedding was It was a bit of a mish-mash of industrial vintage (particularly with the venue we chose) mixed in with 50s rockabilly and a bit gothic”, said the bride. “We wanted to squeeze both of our broad interests in there somewhere! Our main inspiration was Halloween. It has always been my favourite day of the year, so having it on this particular day was always something I had in mind. It suited the style we wanted completely so I was overjoyed the venue had this date available!”
The day started with a small, intimate ceremony with just 45 guests. They decorated the ceremony room with lanterns running down the aisle and mini white squashes and flower-filled pumpkins scattered the room. “We kept a lot of traditional elements of a wedding and just gave them our own gothic, Halloween twist. We didn’t want to go too crazy but did want it to be different enough for people to talk about the day and remember it. I was very nervous before the ceremony but once my father had walked me up the aisle, I was absolutely fine!”
Is planning your wedding turning out to be a massive drag? Are you struggling to choose your suppliers, arguing with your family over your ‘wacky’ ideas and tearing your hair out wondering how the hell you’re going to get all those DIY projects done on time?
No matter how chill you might be in everyday life, there’s just something about planning a wedding that makes even the coolest of babes have at least one meltdown. And it’s not your fault! It’s a stressful time anyway but the majority of wedding media only perpetuates that myth that this needs to be “the happiest day of your life” and that if it’s not perfect you’ll regret it forever.
This is exactly why I started Rock n Roll Bride in the first place – to cut through the bullshit and share ideas and advice that would actually help you plan your wedding.
Here’s what some of our readers have to say about Rock n Roll Bride magazine:
“I honestly wish I found this magazine sooner. I always knew my wedding would be different and that there were aspects of the traditional wedding that I wanted to reject and it’s been the best tool for inspiration in my planning process. Wedding magazines became my guilty pleasure once we started planning a wedding but so many magazines focus solely on white, heterosexual couples with massive budgets advertising everything from fancy fountain pens for your guests to sign your guest book to monogrammed suitcases for your honeymoon.
When I found Rock n Roll Bride, I cannot tell you how much it meant to me to find a magazine with quirky couples that focused more on the couple and what they wanted than the concept of spending so much to impress other people. My cousin is also planning a wedding and, since she’s the digital content editor for ELLE magazine I thought she’d be diving head first into the mainstream bridal magazines – however I found she was having the same experience as me. These mainstream bridal magazines just didn’t resonate with her either. Your magazine stands out in so many ways and is so refreshingly different from everything else on the stand. I’ve converted quite a few brides already!
It also honestly means so much to see queer representation in your magazine. For us, same sex marriage hasn’t been around long and other areas of the industry are still trying to catch up to this. So few magazines feature same sex couples and so I knew this was the magazine for me.
Thank you so much for all you do – from a fellow cat owner and renovator of a newly purchased house. Even when I’m a wife, I’ll still be picking up copies.”Gabrielle Leimon
“As a plus-size future bride, I struggled with trying to find wedding magazines that weren’t focused on thin brides, and there was always a guaranteed three-page spread on ‘shredding for the wedding’. That’s until I discovered this magazine! Not only does it include all body types, but the diversity in other areas is out of this world! I don’t think I ever could have felt accepted as a bride if it wasn’t for Rock n Roll Bride. I’d call it a ‘magazine’, but this is a movement. Thank you Kat, Gareth and the whole Rock n Roll Bride team!” Sam Leigh
“Rock n Roll Bride is definitely the best bridal magazine around! When I first got engaged, a friend bought me a couple of wedding mags and as much as I loved her for thinking of me, I HATED the mags with a passion. They weren’t me, there was nothing in them that excited me and I just felt so out of place, as if I wasn’t a real bride or I’m odd because I didn’t want to do certain things.
I then stumbled across Rock n Roll Bride, it’s completely changed my outlook on wedding mags! I’m always so excited to go out and buy my copy, and my fiancè loves it too! It’s great to find a mag that focuses on the grooms and same sex weddings too! Everything about it, from the colourful weddings to the hints and tips, even the ads, are brilliant! It really focuses on the fact that it’s your wedding – you do it your way.
Kat is wonderful, she asks opinions, and actually listens to the feedback that we offer. She’s on the same page as us, as she’s been in our position and it’s so refreshing. It’s completely changed my wedding planning experience and I’m so thankful I accidentally found this magazine.”Dannielle Robertson
“Rock n Roll Bride magazine has actually brought me and my fiancé closer together. He loves reading it too, and we find all sorts of great ideas. It also gives us a lot to think about after reading the real wedding articles. You grow up thinking weddings are a certain way, and that’s just how they are done, but reading Rock n Roll Bride has inspired us to discover that weddings can be whatever we want them to be! The thing I love about it the most is that there is something in there for the men too, as I feel they can be so excluded and removed from this side of marriage. I feel like part of a wider community with Rock n Roll Bride, it’s made wedding planning really fun!”Nicola Burke
If the Kardashian-Jenner’s and the Bridget Jones’s of the world have taught us anything, it’s that today, the unconventional family is far more conventional than ever before. However when it comes to planning your wedding, many elements only seem to work for a very traditional family set up. Zoe Wells is here today to help us navigate what can be very tricky waters.
If this is your situation then my first piece of advice would be to immediately let go of your expectations and pains that your family dynamic does not living up to societal expectations. As someone planning their own wedding for an unconventional family, I can tell you first hand this part is not easy…but that planning for the inevitable that could play out at the wedding is better than ignoring the enormous elephant in the room.
Arrange for people to meet in advance
Don’t let the wedding itself be D-Day. If your partner’s parents haven’t met yours, if your divorced parents haven’t seen each other since the separation, if either party has a new partner then I’d recommend arranging a meeting before the wedding. This will (hopefully!) mean that any potential awkwardness or conflicts can come about before the wedding and they’ll then have time to work through them, rather than there being a blow out on the actual day!
Gathering in an informal space without the pressures of the big day can really help to diffuse things and will also put your mind at rest. Engagement parties and bridal showers are the perfect opportunity for this.
Set your own boundaries and rules
You may have a few people that are overbearing, so set your boundaries in place early. Know what your non-negotiables are and make these clear in advance with an explanation of why these choices are important to you. Let family members know how much you love and appreciate them but also make your limits known.
Make your own traditions
Don’t be afraid to set your own rules and make new traditions. If you want your sister to walk you down the aisle because your parents can’t – do it! If your best friend is male, definitely forget gender typecasting and have a dude of honour. If you want to have eighteen bridesmaids or two mothers-of-the-bride – go for it! Just be aware that older generations may hold traditions a little closer to their hearts so give it some thought and warn people in advance if need be.
Get the right seating plan in place
Getting the seating chart sorted is one of the most headache-inducing parts of the wedding planning process and it’s only made worse by the complexity of the modern family. In saying this, most of the time, as long as your guests know and get on with at least one person on the table, or have something in common, they should be happy.
Most people will be more than happy to sit wherever they’re put for the duration of the meal but obviously, you don’t want to seat people that really don’t like each other together! There are have many options on how you can address this.
Before you plan anything, you could ask your family and friends who they would like to sit with. Although you should never promise you will be able to accommodate every request or it’ll turn into a logistical nightmare. If either sets of parents are divorced, or have new partners, then ditching the traditional top table completely might be a good option. One idea is to have each of them hosting their own table and you having a ‘sweetheart table’ for just the two of you.
Another idea is to have long tables with guests sitting opposite one another, rather than round ones. This is a good option for limiting the conflicts that can come up in a group seating dynamic.
You could simply mix everyone together with no hierarchy at all, or you could ditch the seating plan entirely and tell people to sit wherever they like! This blended format is really good for encouraging your guests to mingle with one another too.
‘Before’ – no we had absolutely nothing to do with that awful yellow mural!
Wow that’s a lot of words beginning with R right there. I am so very VERY excited about this project though so all that alliteration is worth it to share the news!
Revamp, Restyle, Reveal is an interiors challenge which I was asked to take part in by interior designer Lisa Dawson (I mentioned her in my favourite interiors Instagram accounts a few months ago, isn’t it funny how these things always come full circle!?) and blogger extraordinaire Bianca Hall of French for Pineapple.
The concept is simple: 10 bloggers, 9 brands, 1 room, 4 weeks. It’s kind of like Changing Rooms meets 60 Minute Makeover but without Lawrence Llewelyn-Bowen, Linda Barker or Peter Andre (didn’t he present 60 Minute Makeover for a hot minute? It’s probably quite shameful that I know that…)
Now because Gareth and I are suckers for punishment, and also because one of the sponsors is one our all-time favourite appliances websites (seriously, we’ve bought every appliance we’ve ever owned from ao.com – their service is quite frankly brilliant)we decided to bite the bullet, dive in head first (and a million other clichés) and do our kitchen. Yes, in a month!
And we have a door that needs bricking up and turning into a window…
And the entire room needs plastering…
AND we’re doing as much of it as we can ourselves…
I can all but guarantee you won’t have seen a wedding quite like this one before! Sijin and Paul had a big budget, seriously creative wedding complete with the bride arriving on horseback! They were legally married on August 17th at Lambeth Town Hall in London (not pictured). Following this they had their main celebration at Bran Castle in Brasov, Romania!
The bride wore TWO amazing one-of-a-kind dresses, made for her by Brighton-based designer Joanne Fleming. Her accessorises were something else too – a seriously impressive headpiece, shoulder pads (!) and a skeletal-inspired corsete that she wore over her second, 1930s inspired gown. These were all made by Osipa Agnieszka Philippe Pfeiffer. Her shoes were from Gianvito Rossi. The groom wore head-to-toe Dolce & Gabbana.