A big, fancy wedding was never on the cards for Monya and Erika – it just didn’t appeal to them. So, when they began planning for the February nuptials it was Las Vegas or bust! The chose the Viva Las Vegas Wedding Chapel as the location for their private vows, and hired Jamie Y for a portrait session at the iconic Neon Museum afterwards.
Monya wore a custom black dress made by a friend which had a high-low front, a long train and patches all over the sleeves. Erika’s trouser and vest set were also made by the same friend. They both wore personalised leather jackets made by The Mermaid Effect and with their wedding date and ‘Rock n Roll Wifey’ on the back! Monya even wore a necklace with an engraving saying ‘Rock and Roll Bride, Las Vegas February 29, 2020’ and they both rocked a ‘Rock n Roll Bride’ Rock n Roll Bride x Veronica Dearly pin!
This morning I posted in our private Facebook group checking in with everyone and asking if there was anything particularly worrying people right now. Overwhelmingly, the responses were that there was a general feeling of anxiety and apathy about having to postpone and re-plan their weddings. I figured if that’s going on in there, it’s probably going on out here too, so I did something I haven’t for a very long time and sat down to write and publish a blog post in real time!
Here’s my advice if you’re feeling very anxious and stressed out, or if all the excitement of planning your wedding has all but disappeared right now:
IF YOU ARE FEELING ANXIOUS
I read once that depression is thoughts about the past and anxiety is thoughts about the future – neither of which you can control. The only thing we CAN control is what happens here and now, in this moment. Anxiety robs you of feeling good right now and the things you’re worrying about may not even happen! I know it’s not as simple as waving a magic wand and those feelings go away, but realising this a while back really helped me reframe how I let my anxiety control me.
I’m sure you are doing everything you can to make sure that your wedding goes ahead on your new date, so trust in yourself and your suppliers. Write lots of lists (to get those stresses out of your head – this is especially important if you’re struggling to sleep because you keep going over things in your head) and if something out of your control DOES happen (like having to postpone your wedding again), well, its literally out of your control so try your hardest to stop worrying about it. You got this!!
IF YOU ARE STRUGGLING TO FEEL EXCITED
If you’re feeling bored, apathetic or kind of numb about the whole wedding planning thing – can you plan something else to look forward to right now? If your wedding has been postponed for example, you may have a long time to just sit around and wait for it to happen. What else could you look forward to? A mini break? A new house project? It’s OK to not be a super excited bride all the time. That’s not realistic, even if you DIDN’T have a worldwide pandemic to deal with.
This LA couple met at Disney while both working on Moana; Alyssa was an artist and Dave was brought into help manage her department. Once the movie was released, they were an item, and they married in April 2019 at HNYPT LA, a studio space location in downtown Los Angeles.
They went for a colourful meets industrial vibe for the day. The bride explains, “We put both of our personalities into our wedding. We wanted everyone to feel welcome, as if they were coming into our personal space. We brought Filipino traditions from my side and some Jewish traditions from Dave’s. Dessert was a soft-serve ice cream truck which was a huge hit!”
A long time friend of Dave’s, who is an actor, led their ceremony. Alyssa walked down the aisle to the theme from My Neighbor Totoro, accompanied by both of her parents. “We prepared our own vows”, she continued, “I went first and asked for our gathered friends and family to raise their hand if Dave had ever helped them. The amount of hands was overwhelming that Dave couldn’t even look. Dave finished his vows with a quote from one of my favourite movies, The Nightmare Before Christmas.”
After not getting the photos they really hoped for at their actual wedding, Anastasia and Kenny decided to do a shoot to re-stage their day to do just that! They chose Moreton Corbet Castle as the location, Fran Hansen to do the most insane (in a good way) viking inspired makeup on them both and Birgitta Zoutman to take the photos.
“For our ceremony we wanted something from the heart and soul, and we were drawn to waterfalls for the handfasting location”, Anastasia explained. “Our re-shoot was an amalgamation of themes that we both loved, merging the possibility of a post-apocalyptic dystopian future with Norse / Celtic heritage. The idea that if society crumbles, once the electricity fades, the last battery runs flat and the gods of technology abandoned us. Mankind will turn again to the old gods for guidance and protection.”
I know, I know, I can’t quite believe it’s that time again already either! 2020 may be a lot of things, but slow and boring it is not. HOWWWW is it almost September!? You do know what that means though – the brand-new issue of Rock n Roll Bride magazine is now available for pre-order and we are PSYCHED!
What’s the actual benefit of pre-ordering? Well, in short, it means you’re guaranteed to get one and if you’re in the UK (international shipping takes a little longer) you’ll get your copy before it goes on general sale. Pre-orders also help us out a lot, because we’re able to track how popular the issue is going to be to ensure we’re printing enough copies!
But, even better than that, if you wanted to subscribe instead (it doesn’t cost you any more AND you won’t have to remember to place your order every time) you’ll officially become my new best friend. We now have over DOUBLE the subscribers that we had this time last year which, quite frankly, is rather bonkers and amazing and I’m so very grateful to every single one of you. Your continued support means the entire world and I don’t take it for granted. You have no idea how difficult it is to make a print magazine profitable in 2020 and I love you all SO MUCH!
But enough about me, let’s get on and see a sneak peek of what you’ll find inside this issue…
We LOVE Megan and Phil’s unique and stylish wedding theme. A mixture of yellow, blush and nude tones with citrus fruits used as decor, they created a really beautiful, yet totally ‘them’ summer celebration (plus Phil is a chef so incorporating ingredients into their table settings felt very fitting!) Having the bridal party all in white really let the decor touches shine too – sometimes (sometttimesss!) less really is more!
Choosing The Boiler Shop, a unique event space and music venue in the centre of Newcastle, was a stoke of genius for their theme. The warehouse provided the perfect blank canvas for their theme, they were really able to transform the space and make it their own. All the flowers were done by a friend, Moira, using a mix of dry, fake and real flowers. Some were bought and others were home grown in her garden.