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How to Carpe the Diem Out of Your Wedding and Your Life: Three Ways to Seize the Day

Carpe Diem. Seize the day. It’s such a grand phrase, like you should be swanning about in white robes and an excellent beard, but in reality, when we’re flinging ourselves from work to school run to the gym (ha! Or not), ‘seizing the day’ seems to fade to ‘fumbling at the day with your jumper on inside out and your skirt tucked into your knickers’. Throw planning a wedding into the mix, and it’s a wonder that our brains can function at all. But seizing the day isn’t about seeing how much we can squeeze into 24 hours; it’s about doing something meaningful today that makes tomorrow a better place to be.

Weddings are beautiful occasions that mark the beginning of a wonderful new era, but for a lot of couples, the planning can feel stressful, overwhelming and as far from ‘seizing the day’ as a person can get (oh hey Covid, we see you). With so many decisions to make, feeling confident and secure about making the right choices can bring on waves of anxiety. But it’s all about taking one day at a time, focusing on what we’re doing in the here and now, and taking care of ourselves and our busy brains so that we are able to function from a place of self-assurance. So, how can we be intentional about taking action today to make our tomorrows a bit brighter?

I like to think about three things when it comes to (fanfare please) Seizing The Day.

Be thankful

It’s so easy to take life for granted. Often, the ordinary everyday slides past our senses. Starting from a place of gratitude, with a positive state of mind means we’re approaching the day with hope, rather than stress. Every morning, list three things you’re grateful for – speak them out. Step outside, feel the fresh air in your lungs and be thankful for a sunrise, the wind in the trees or the changing seasons – life moving. Gratitude helps us look outside ourselves at the world around us – at the people, places and things we ‘do life’ with. So, on the flip side, what are the things that aren’t so important? Can we set them down to make our tomorrows clearer and less intimidating? Look again with fresh eyes at your wedding planning – is there anything that’s really stressing you out? How can you simplify, amend or edit your plans to relieve that pressure you’re feeling?

Do one thing every day that scares you

We’ve got Baz Luhrmann’s 1990s hit, Everybody’s Free (to Wear Sunscreen), to thank for highlighting this one, but I think it’s a sure-fire way to feel a sense of achievement every day. It doesn’t have to be extreme – you don’t have to be throwing yourself from a helicopter on the daily, just a little thing you can be proud of. Have a think, compile a list and go for it! Make a phone call, go to that taekwondo class, smile at a stranger… Or have a go at something on your wedmin list that you’ve been putting off. A growing sense of achievement builds confidence in our own abilities and encourages us to be bold, with a positive outlook each day. We CAN do this!

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A Covid Inspired Editorial with Floral Masks

This isn’t your typical styled wedding shoot… which is why we love it! A team of wedding suppliers from Baltimore wanted to get together to create something to reflect how they, and others in the events industry may be feeling during a global pandemic. They also wanted to showcase this ‘new normal’ that we’re all experiencing, but in a really beautiful way.

The idea was the brainchild of Kate Ansari, the owner of Haven Street Ballroom She had the forethought to create a shoot around the new concept of having to wear a mask, and even if you have to on your wedding day, it doesn’t have to be uncomfortable or unstylish. In fact, these photos make us want to rush out and stock up on masks to match every outfit we own TBH!

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Chicago Conservatory Elopement with a Leopard Print Dress & a Surprise Act of Kindness

They were always going to elope and luckily, even though a lockdown was imminent, Jodi and Terry were still able to go ahead with their intimate March wedding. They’d booked into have their quicky ceremony at Garfield Park Conservatory in Chicago (which didn’t cost them a penny!) and a friend, who got ordained especially for the event, hosted the proceedings. They had no guests at the ceremony, which was always their plan. They really didn’t want a big wedding or any fuss. The idea was for it to just feel like a fancy day out.

“We wanted to keep things cheap and simple but finding a venue in Chicago in March isn’t easy”, Jodi explained. “The conservatory was perfect, because it’s free but also lush and beautiful year-round. My dream look would have probably been wearing a Maison Valentino haute couture gown, in the woods or on a cliff somewhere, but a 90s-meets-Old Hollywood-meets-pinup vibe combined many of my styles into one.”

“The day began with me going on my own to get my hair and makeup done, while Terry took time to get ready, pick up our flowers and have lunch. I then drove myself to the conservatory. On the way, I listened to the US president address the country, announcing a national emergency due to the pandemic. We stood in front of a little waterfall in the ‘fern room’ for the ceremony. It was very humid and my hair flattened and frizzed pretty quickly. Terry and I read the words that we wrote about one another and our officiant wrapped things up perfectly, speaking to how we’ve chosen to be with one another and go through all of life’s ups and downs with one another.”

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A South African Elopement Planned 24 Hours Before Lockdown

Dinka and Renier, who are German but live in South Africa, realised that their marriage license was going to expire during lockdown. Not wanting to start the whole planing process again, they decided to bite the bullet and get married the very next day, before lockdown came into effect. Although it was different to what they had in mind for their wedding, they don’t regret the way they did it at all!

“It was magical”, Dinka told us. “We didn’t have time to organise a lot in 24 hours, but we managed the most important part – signing the papers. We got in touch with everyone the day before (photographer, marriage officiant, witness, hairstylist and makeup artist). All of these beautiful people confirmed to be there the next day to help us to make this happen! We’re so thankful for this as we worked a whole year through this process of paperwork from Germany and South Africa and I just didn’t want to imagine having to organise all of the papers and documents again!”

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Intimate & Kitsch Madonna Inn Wedding

The Madonna Inn, located in San Luis Obispo, California, might just be our dream wedding venue. Perfectly pink, kitsch and retro, it was also the ideal location for Chelsea and Tim’s whimsical wedding too. They were married in July 2019.

“We embraced the craziness of The Madonna Inn and had a full on Madonna Inn wedding theme”, Chelsea began. “Since we knew that all of our guests would be travelling, we wanted to create a weekend space where everyone could stay, hang out by the pool, dine at the restaurants and mingle with each other and get to share in the bizarre experience of staying in one of the 110 unique rooms. Guests who had never met would invite each other to check out the crazy rock shower, their shag-carpeted spiral staircase or the glitter wallpaper in their room; instant ice breaker.”

The bride wore a dress made from vintage lace by Saldana Vintage with vintage hair pins and rings. They opted not to have a bridal party. “Tim and I really looked at all of what goes into a traditional wedding and boiled it down to what actually felt meaningful/memorable to us, what was an old trapping of superstition and what was done only for the sake of tradition,” she continued. “In this process we eschewed the bridal party, bachelor/bachelorette parties (we took a trip to New Orleans together instead), a wedding registry, being walked down the aisle and a ton of other things we felt didn’t suit us.”

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Wedding Hair Tips and Recommendations for Afro & Textured Hair

Dress by Rita Colson – Hair by Something Blue

There are so many amazing hairstyles that look great on black women, yet it can be difficult to know where to start. Whether that’s with looking for a stylist who is comfortable working with your hair (especially if you live in more rural parts of the UK!) or knowing what products or styles will work best for you.

At Rock n Roll Bride, we believe that ALL marrying couples, deserve to have a wedding day that makes them feel like their most fabulous selves, so we reached out to some hair stylists who are experts at working with textured and afro hair to put this feature together. They are all linked at the bottom of the post so please do check them out and consider hiring them for your own wedding!

Finding a hairdresser who will know how to work with your hair

Picking your suppliers is one of most important things to do when organising your wedding, and when it comes to hair (and makeup), it’s really critical that the hire people you hire know what they’re doing!

♥ Look at potential stylist’s social media feeds and portfolios. Do they have lots of examples of past clients with similar hair texture to yours? Does their style and work reflect the style you want to recreate for your day?

♥ If they don’t, then it may be worth reaching out to ask them if they are comfortable working with your hair type and curl pattern. It’s much better to find out before you book them, than to get to the day and they have no clue what they’re doing!

♥ A good stylist will always ask questions about how you style your hair regularly to find out what is working and what may not be working for you. They’ll also have the correct products for your hair texture. If they don’t or they ask you to bring your own, run an absolute mile. It is not OK for them to ask you to provide something for their services because of your hair texture that they would not if you were white.

♥ It’s a good idea to book a trial with two or three hairdressers to compare them as well as to have the chance to try out a variety of different looks and styles.

♥ Finally, remember that your wedding morning is also one of the most important mornings of your life. You want to feel relaxed and taken care of so make sure that you like the person you choose! You’ll be spending a good few hours with them (not to mention if you do trials in the run up too) so liking them as a person is imperative!

Photos by Maxeen Kim – Hair & make up by Makeology Brides – Images submitted by Queen of Hearts Floral Design
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