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Being the Voice of a Revolution When the Revolution is Already Won

I started writing this article about a year ago. I found it in my drafts this morning, and although the context and reason for me starting to write it has moved on, actually a lot of the notes I’d made on the subject still made a lot of sense. So please forgive me if it feels a little muddled and disjointed, but I wanted to revisit the topic and finally publish it.

I started putting digital pen to digital paper when I received the below comment on an Instagram post:

“I’ve been following your blog for about 8 years now and it’s great to see a personal post from you again. I used to love your tips and perspective on things as much as the weddings you featured. Where that became less so I moved to following on Facebook and the group which have been equally as awesome but for very different reasons – such as community spirit and support. It’s become an entity in itself. I kind of miss the lead you took in your blog which led to this revolution in weddings. As much as I love the magazine, I don’t always have the kind of time I’d like to sit and read a physical product. Plus the last page is kinda final, whereas a blog is endless. Great for insomnia or staying up with kids who won’t sleep! I also understand that businesses are hard work and evolve and one person can only do so much. You’re doing an amazing job, and I’m proud to be an ‘official’ Rock n Roll bride after being featured in December.”

Her comment about being the lead in a revolution in weddings really made me smile and think back to 2008-2011 when I was just starting out, and how really, really UPSET and mad I was about everything I saw in the wedding industry! I was definitely a lot rantier back then (and it got me into trouble regularly – not that I really minded!) In a way I miss it, it was nice to have a mission, but also, it’s pretty amazing that something I’ve created has achieved what it set out to do.

There almost doesn’t NEED to be a revolution anymore because, for the most part, being an alternative bride is much more accepted. I’m regularly interviewed by newspapers about the ‘trend’ of alternative weddings (particularly so around the royal wedding because y’all Meagan is a woman of colour and did a speech don’t you know?) It makes me internally chuckle and feel happy that being a weirdo or an outsider no longer has such a stigma attached to it… but also eye roll really hard all at the same time!

So, what’s next? Do I just need to resign my post now? Have we done everything that needs to be to change the wedding industry? WELL, ACTUALLY NO.

Although so much of the industry has changed in the past decade, particularly stylistically (the huge variety of dress styles, lots more budget-friendly options, bride rocking tattoos being seen as less of an unusual thing) there is still a LOT that needs to change. And while I don’t really have the time, or inclination, to sit down and write blog post after blog post about all the things I see wrong in the wedding industry as much as I did in 2011, there are still issues I’m fighting against every day with the work that I do, particularly with the magazine.

For example, did you know that no mainstream wedding magazine in the UK has ever put a black model on their cover? Do you know that a lot of them still don’t feature same sex weddings? I’m sure you all see the bombardment of weight loss stuff surrounding weddings that still happens too. Even with the uprising of body positivity, the wedding industry is still light years behind, relentlessly pushing the fantasy of the fairytale wedding complete with the princess bride.

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Get Those Once in a Lifetime Items with a Prezola Gift List

At one time or another we’ve probably all dreamt of going all out and splashing on that thing we’d really love to own but could never, ever afford (mine is a copper bath if anyone’s asking!) A statement piece of art, a fancy yet oh-so-out-of-our-price-range piece of furniture, or maybe just booking that once in a lifetime, 5* honeymoon.

Yet planning, and paying for, a wedding can really take it out of you (and your wallet!) so you’d be forgiven for thinking that now isn’t really the time to finally take the plunge… Well, my friend, I may just have a solution for you.

A wedding gift list is, traditionally, a way for your friends and family to help you set up for married life. This usually entails new pots and pans, towels, crockery, the odd crystal vase… but what if you either already have that stuff, or you really don’t want it? Wouldn’t it be way cooler to be able to ask everyone to club together to help you splash out your dream items without the awkwardness of asking for cash? WELL NOW YOU CAN!

Prezola are one of my favourite gift list services (in fact, if you pushed me, I’d probably say they were the favourite) for so many reasons, not least of all because of their fantastic group gifting incentive. This means exactly what you’d expect – it enables your guests to contribute to any item over £80 on your list meaning you don’t have to feel guilty for adding something expensive like a new bed or hot pink velvet sofa to it. You can now add those larger items that one person would never be able to buy you on their own and your guests can contribute as much or a little as they’d like.

Prezola work with some of the most fantastic brands too which gives you way more options than a high street store gift registry. Swoon, Lombok, Made.com, Sofa.com, Dyson, Smeg, Graham and Green, Habitat and The White Company are all on their books.

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Rock n Roll Bride: THE BOOK!

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I have been obsessed with writing and publishing wedding content for over a decade. I love sharing inspiration and planning advice every day on this website and in each issue of our print magazine. When people ask me what I do for a living I usually reply by saying I’m a magazine editor and blogger but from today I’m now able to add something else to that list – published author!

YES, THAT’S RIGHT, I ONLY WENT AND WROTE A BLOODY BOOK!

I have been so desperate to tell you about this and I can’t quite believe I am finally typing these words, but Rock n Roll Bride: The Ultimate Guide for Alternative Brides is being released on January 8th and it’s available for pre-order right NOW.

If you’re wondering how this all came about then let me rewind for a minute and start the story from the beginning… Believe me, keeping all this quiet for the past six months has been one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to do!

I have secretly wanted to write a book for a very long time. I first started thinking about doing it around five years ago. My plan back then was to self-publish, but the enormity of the task overwhelmed me so it never got off the ground (remember this was before we had the magazine so I knew literally nothing about offline publishing). For the last few years the book idea has been stuck in the back of my mind as something I’d like to revisit again one day, but without an agent, or any real knowledge of the book publishing world, I had no clue where to begin. Let’s face it, I’m a busy girl, and the thought of having to write and pitch a book that may or may not even get picked up felt a bit soul-destroying.

Then, early this year I received an email from Ryland, Peters and Small, inviting me to meet with them to pitch a book idea to ME! Serendipity was clearly on my side this time as I’d just signed with my manager who would be able to help me navigate the negotiations and all that slightly scary stuff too.

Long story short, not only did the team at Ryland, Peters and Small totally ‘get’ the Rock n Roll Bride brand and ethos but they loved all my content ideas! Their books are completely stunning and really visual with lots of gorgeous photographs, which I’m sure you know I am ALL about too. They were happy to give me almost entire creative control but using their experienced team to make it a reality – AKA the dream scenario! It was a match made in heaven and I was so excited to get started.

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Vintage Meets Rockabilly Wedding in Brazil

High school sweethearts Camila and Vinicius wanted to combined their love of vintage, music and rockabilly styling for their July wedding. They wanted the day to feel informal and enjoyable for their guests while not costing a lot of money. Marrying in Brazil, they also wanted to buck as many Brazilian wedding traditions as they could!

“The main inspiration for the wedding was vintage and rock culture”, began the bride. “As a source of reference, I used many alternatives weddings that I had seen on Rock n Roll Bride throughout the years. What’s more, my dress did not follow the regular rules of being long and conservative. I made my own headpiece which was a simple clip with metal spikes.”

The outdoor ceremony also began by ignoring tradition. “In Brazil, bridesmaids and groomsmen don’t walk up the aisle with the bride and groom”, she explained. “We decided to mix a Brazilian ceremony with some of the English and American concepts that we’d been inspired by on Rock n Roll Bride. The ceremony was held outdoors in a beautiful, but simple, venue. We had a large house in the background and the altar was placed on a cute garden with natural plants.”

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Issue 22 on Sale Today + A Peek Behind the Scenes

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Yay, issue 22 is in stores today! We’re stocked in WhSmiths, Sainsburys and independent newsagents up and down the UK. If you’d like a bonus sneaky peek inside the issue you can see some previews here.

This issue is packed with 165 pages of brand new weddings, planning advice, decor and style ideas and oodles of inspiration to help you pull off your perfect, alt wedding day.

You may have seen a few shots from this issue’s editorial floating around social media already and below is a fun little video we made on the shoot. Thank you to the Ioannis of Reel Emotion Weddings for coming along and capturing all the action!

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It’s Back! Join us at The Eclectic Wedding Extravaganza in November!

I’m not supposed to have favourites, but if there was one wedding fair that I loved more than any others, it would be The Eclectic Wedding Extravaganza.

There are many, MANY fantastic alternative wedding shows about these days, but unlike the others, EWE is catered for exactly the kind of brides (and grooms!) who read and love Rock n Roll Bride. If you want to do your wedding your way, if you aren’t afriad for people to think your ideas are ‘weird’, if you’d rather cover your hair in glitter, get a dress designed especially to show off your tattoos and wear a pair of Irregular Choice shoes rather than some fancy designer kicks – well this is the wedding show for you!

Plus, it’s run by some of my favourite people in the UK wedding industry – Jo of The Couture Company and Sassy of Assassynation. The most genuinely lovely, genuinely caring, bad ass babes who have the same attitude to life, business and weddings as I do. Quite simply, Rock n Roll Bride + The Eclectic Wedding Extravaganza = a match made in heaven.

Which is why, for the second year running, I am thrilled to let you know that this is the only wedding show we’re appearing at!

If you’ve ever wanted to flick through the Rock n Roll Bride x Veronica Dearly Wedding Planner, grab a copy of Rock n Roll Bride magazine (everyone gets a back issue in their goodie bag and we’ll be selling the current issue for a discounted price on the day), or try on our veil collections with Crown and Glory then this is THE wedding show for you.

PLUS I’m very excited to share that Jo and I are collaborating on some jackets (!) which you may have seen me sneaking on Instagram over the past few months. They’ll be available online really soon and we’ll have samples at the show if you’d like to see them in person too – eek!!!

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