There’s so much to love about this super sweet and intimate Central Park elopement. Mostly the fact that Clara and Jean Pierre did EXACTLY what they wanted. Their only focus was themselves which meant they could have an authentic day that was all about them and their love.
There was one element of tradition though: Clara did something old, new, borrowed and blue! Her dress was borrowed from Rent the Runway and her something old was her shoes which she also wore to her prom. Her something new was her necklace, and her something blue was her awesome leather jacket from Free People.
This is a bit of a different kind of feature for us, but one I really hope you find inspiring and helpful. We were submitted this photo shoot by wedding photographer Emmy Gaines of Searching for the Light. She wanted to shoot a real couple and to show that even if someone has a disability they can still live their life to the fullest. So often, less able-bodied people are ignored by the wedding industry (thankfully this is slowly changing!) but on Rock n Roll Bride we want to champion the fact that EVERY BODY deserves to get married, to have the same wonderful experience and to be treated respectfully by their suppliers and vendors.
“I was inspired to do this shoot inspired because I face similar disabilities as the model, and we brainstormed together what work best to capture their relationship and her disabilities”, writes Emmy. “The inspiration was to create a scene that showed disabled or other chronically ill brides, that despite the challenges they face that they too can have their dream wedding. Being a photographer that loves adventure, I wanted to show that just because a bride or groom faces disabilities doesn’t mean that a couple has to sacrifice their dreams.”
As well as publishing their gorgeous images, I wanted to talk to the couple, Mairead and Lawshaw, about their experience too.
Hi guys! How did you meet?
Lashaw and I met in college in 2013. We had never crossed paths at school before our computer music class, which was a prerequisite for graduation. In this class we hit it off, and always tried to sit next to each other. Pretty soon after this, Lashaw asked me to study for an upcoming exam and we found that we had a great connection. I think it was unexpected for both of us, but we just went for it and our relationship has ended up being the greatest gift I could ask for! We have been together for 5 and a half years now and hope to get married in the next few years when we both complete graduate school.
What accessibility issues have you faced when planning your wedding and what would be your advice for others with limited mobility doing the same?
While we have not started planning our wedding yet, there are many potential accessibility issues that we will have to navigate. One of my most obvious concerns is finding a venue that is wheelchair accessible and ADA compliant. This is important both for me and for the community of other chronically ill friends I will be inviting. Our dream location would be a beautiful outdoor location by water, we will have to get creative to make that workable! Another potential barrier I see is my extremely limited diet and food allergies. We will have to find a catering company that can be careful of cross contamination and make a meal that works for me and also pleases our guests.
When I got engaged I was completely perplexed at the impetus put on choosing your wedding perfume. Sure, we all know smells are lovely and that scent is the strongest sense associated with memory so therefore nice perfume = nice wedding day memories all flooding back when you wear the same one again… But there were hundreds of articles about it seemingly everywhere I looked.
I like smelling good as much as the next regularly showering person, but do I think it’s the be all and end all of wedding memory perfection? I do not. HOWEVERRRRRR, I’m not a complete anarchist so I do have some (hopefully nice and realistic) pieces of advice for picking what you’re going smell like on your wedding day.
Know your tastes
My advice for choosing which perfume to wear is shockingly similar to pretty much all my advice surrounding planning your day your way, JUST PICK STUFF YOU LIKE.
But seriously, if you usually don’t wear any perfume at all there’s no reason why you now need to turn yourself into an expert perfumer just because you’re getting married. If you usually wear something quite masculine then this is where you ought to start (my go-to is Jo Malone’s Oud and Bergamot which is actually a unisex scent but I am OBSESSED with it) or if sweet, girly perfumes are your jam then check out Dolce and Gabbana Light Blue. I’m also a big fan of the body spray, not gonna lie. Impluse have just bought out a load of new fragrances and they’re cheap as anything. A great way for experimenting with scent without spending your entire wedding budget on it.