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A Rustic Donnington Farmhouse Wedding for a Tattoo Artist

Liv and Owen met when he came in to get tattooed while she was working as an apprentice, aged 18. He got tattooed over the years by someone else in the studio, but every time he came in they would chat. It wasn’t until six years later that they went on their first date, but four years on from that they were married.

“The inspiration for our wedding was to have something homely!”, said Liv. “Our home is quite rustic and cosy and so when we visited Donington Park Farmhouse, we got the feeling of our home. Exposed brickwork, reclaimed wood, so beautiful in layout and the general aesthetic of the converted barn/courtyard was everything we could have wished for!”

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Eyes Wide Shut Meets Friday 13th Wedding

Soraia and Hugo’s dark and spooky wedding was held on Friday 13th in Oliveira de Azeméis, Portugal. Although they didn’t have really specific inspiration or references they went back to when pulling together the theme, they wanted it to be dark, yet meaningful to them. The bride wore her mother’s wedding dress, for example, which she had altered into her own style including adding a hooded cape!

“Every little detail was meaningful,” the bride told us, “like my dress, the date we chose (Friday 13th) and the dark but beautiful decorations,. We used a coffin to put the beverages at the reception and a little coffin to put the rings in. Our first dance was inspired by the demon dance from Eyes Wide Shut.”

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Ideas for Your Wedding Website Which You May Not Have Thought of

After you pick your wedding date and location, one of the first things you’re going to want to do is put together a wedding website. Traditional paper invites are awesome (we’re huge fans of print at Rock n Roll Bride!) but having something online will make it SUPER easy for your guests to get all the vital info they might need before your big day.

In the whirlwind that is wedding planning, it is so easy to forget some really important things, but fret not, today we are here to help! Here are some vital, but often forgotten, pieces of information which we think you should definitely include.

Your ceremony arrival and start time

It’s a good idea to include a start time for your ceremony but also a recommended arrival time too. If your ceremony starts at 1pm, advise people to start arriving from 12:30 for example, to avoid any confusion or stragglers showing up at 1 on the dot!

If your reception is being held somewhere else, how to get between locations and how long the journey is

Everyone has Google Maps on their phones of course, but an idea how long and how easy the journey is between venues will certainly be appreciated by a lot of people. Also advise if there is public transport or they have to drive/ carpool.

Gift info… even if you’re not having a gift list! 

It’s frightfully British to feel like a gift registry or asking for cash is very grabby. That’s not the case at all and actually, it makes your guests’ lives way easier if they know what to buy you. Most people will want to give you a gift so a suggestion that, if they’d like to, you’d love XYZ actually helps people out a lot!

Dress code… even if it’s come as you are

Figuring out what to wear to a wedding can be stressful for guests, so to make it easier on them, be specific but not demanding. Avoid telling people exactly what to wear but if you’re having a theme, or you have any guidelines, let them know! 

For example, if you’re having a festival wedding and most of the day is being held outside, make them aware that they need to wear field-appropriate footwear and bring a jacket for the evening. 

A weather check

While, of course, we can’t guarantee the weather, letting people know to pack things like sunscreen, insect repellent or an umbrella just in case will certainly be appreciated.

Accessibility 

This one is easy to forget, especially if you don’t have to think of it for yourself, but it’s a super helpful thing to include for your guests. Add any details you have about ramps and wheelchair accessibility, accessible bathrooms and hearing loop information at your venue(s) can be added. Also, if you have any neurodivergent guests, include details about the measures you are putting in place for them too. Weddings can be a big stressor for Autistic people, for example, so this extra attention and thoughtfulness will be approached. 

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Moissanite Engagement Rings: A More Ethical Option

We’re experiencing unparalleled times; pandemics, wars, prices rises and increasing environmental issues. It’s easy to feel a bit gloomy, but – in the immortal words of D:Ream – things can only get better (she says, with fingers firmly crossed!)

Over the last few years, we’ve had time to rethink everything – including engagements and weddings – with couples having to postpone, or scale back plans, many are reassessing what’s really important. And with many wanting to make more sustainable choices, there’s a real shift away from some wedding traditions, which frankly, feel a little out-dated.

According to the Independent Newspaper, millennials are turning their backs on unethical and expensive gems – but it’s not just millennials. Spending a huge amount on a diamond engagement ring just isn’t a priority for so many couples these days with many putting their hard-earned cash into buying a home, a honeymoon-to-remember or the wedding itself instead.

Changing times

Before COVID, excess was king. Influencers seemed to have everything, and we were urged to chase that dream too. But now many are asking – do we want to get into debt for a diamond ring we can’t afford? Do we want to risk contributing to conflict or blood-diamonds?

The good news is, there’s a way which will not only save you money, but is 100% guaranteed conflict free and you won’t have to compromise on style! Simply switch the diamond for a sparkling moissanite.

What is a moissanite?

Moissanites are a brilliantly sparkly, colourless stone, with a similar appearance to diamonds. They were discovered in fragments of a meteorite in 1893 by the scientist Dr. Henri Moissan, when they landed from space – yes, SPACE – and initially mistaken for diamonds.

As meteorites containing the gems are rare, scientists developed a thermal growing process to create the crystals in a lab, simulating natural conditions to replicate the silicon carbide gems.

The process takes two to three months to create a single stone, which is then cut in specific angles and proportions to enhance its brilliance. Moissanites are available in all of the same shapes as diamonds. Flawless Moissanite sells amazing flawless stones available in various shapes and sizes, from a classic 0.50ct (6.0 x 4.5mm), right up to a whopping 5.00ct (12 x 10.0mm)!

Moissanite durability

Natural diamonds are made from carbon and are the hardest known mineral, however moissanites come a very close second. Moh’s hardness scale measures a gem’s ability to withstand surface scratching and diamonds rank at the top at 10, with moissanite only just below, rated between 9.25 and 9.5. For perspective, glass ranks at 5.5, so a moissanite is a very robust choice for every-day wear.

As they’re a natural mineral, like a diamond, your moissanite will never lose its sparkle, get cloudy or become dull, if you keep it clean. These brilliant gems are highly scratch resistant and will never tarnish.

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Glam Vintage Vegas Wedding at the Neon Graveyard

Amber and Christopher are a couple who weren’t afraid to buck tradition so an intimate wedding ceremony, held at the oh-so-cool Neon Graveyard in Las Vegas was perfect for their glam, retro inspired day them!

“We wanted a wedding that was more ‘us’ and was fun”, Amber told us. “We don’t really love dancing or the traditional wedding activities. We were married by an Elvis that we didn’t tell our guests about beforehand! We asked our guests to wear their Vegas best which included feathers, sequins and fun prints.”

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Chronically Fabulous: How to Plan a Wedding When You’re Chronically Ill or Neurodivergent

Rochelle, who has a number of chronic illnesses and is an ambassador for M.E Support UK, married Dan in 2014. Today she talks to us about what she learnt during her wedding planning, and shares some valuable tips for those of you in currently doing the same.

I’ve been married for eight years this year and if I could do it all over again I would; unfortunately, not because it was so enjoyable, quite the opposite in fact. There was so much going on in our lives at the time, that I ended up bombarded and smothered by things that in the end, just didn’t matter.

I was diagnosed with a multitude of chronic illnesses in 2013. I have M.E, Fibromyalgia, Endometriosis, Hyper-mobility, Costochondritis and Asthma. I had Asthma before meeting my fiancé but the rest all came hurtling at us in one giant, F-off curve ball at full speed just six months after we got engaged.

I got so absorbed in what I thought were huge issues at the time – for example, the weight I gained from not being as mobile anymore. It made me feel embarrassed and I was not feeling confident enough to go and try dresses on, so I settled and I really regret diminishing myself and our day.

I did most of the planning by myself, sitting up in bed, or with my now husband, who, added twist to our story, is neurodivergent. He was very involved in the planning but this was a requirement for him as he was never going to be able to be one of the “Tell me where and when and I’ll be there” partners. His anxiety levels didn’t allow it, he needed clear, concise information for all aspects which meant a lot more organisation required on my part.

Chronic illness takes so much away from those affected by it every day so I want to share some advice I learned in hindsight from my own experience to make sure you have the memorable celebration of your love that you deserve.

Make it Your Day

Seems obvious right? Your celebration should one hundred percent be about you and the person you love. However, once other people start to get involved it’s easy to start questioning your vision and decisions. As a chronically ill person, you need to think about your own health and make that a priority at every step. It’s not selfish, it’s survival.

Don’t listen to what others deem a ‘proper’ wedding (In fact if someone suggests your wedding isn’t a proper wedding then I would definitely strike them from the invite list!) and instead, make it the day you and your partner want and need it to be. Others will try and muzzle in and give their opinions all the time but at the end of the day, it’s your experience and you will regret not doing it your way.

Ask for Help

I let my complex of being a ‘burden’ stop me from doing a lot of things in my wedding experience. It ended up that I did most of the planning and organising by myself and on the day of our wedding my husband was ferrying people back and forth to the venue and almost missed our ceremony! It is not something I recommend at all for stress levels or your moral, I have no fun or meaningful memories of planning my day.
Be a Team

It’s ironic that the day of love and commitment you are planning for you and your partner can actually be one of the most argument-inducing subjects and times in your relationship. For anyone who is chronically ill, stress can be a huge trigger for flare. As my husband is neurodivergent, he isn’t always the best at communicating, especially when there is pressure or in a time sensitive situation.

We used an approach, that we actually still to use to this day, for any stressors or conflicts during planning. We planned a time in the day where we could begin discussions calmly and without distractions.

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