Chris and Douglas were married at the same place that they went to on their first date and got engaged at, Cromlix House in Kinbuck (owned by Andy Murray!) They had a four year engagement but planned the wedding itself in just three months,
An unconventional couple, not only is there an age difference but Chris is also gender fluid, meaning sometimes he’s Chris and other times she’s Fiona. That and the fact Chris and Douglas both love to express themselves through fashion, meaning they wanted truly unique outfits to say their vows in. They both worked with Ansar Rahman at Atelier Rahman. Chris’ was a suit and full length train combo! He also chose to wear a full face of make up on the day with a specialist makeup artist attending.
“90% of the time when I socialise, I’m Fiona”, Chris told us. “I chose not to dress female for our wedding for a combination of reasons, primarily wanting to be seen how the majority of my family know me (elderly relatives/my two young sons). I also wanted to have our photographs showing me as Chris, with that added flair of make up and a bespoke outfit showing some feminine aspects. My bridesmaid Rachel in the full length blue dress is also gender fluid and my closest friend, being my support on the day.”
Amy and Alex’s wedding is a little different to a lot of the Vegas elopements we feature, because they didn’t actually have their ceremony photographed. However, I’m pretty sure you’ll agree that their post-nuptial portraits by the iconic Ashley Marie Myers are epic enough to publish all on their lonesome!
Their look for the day was kind of sparkle meets cowboy, with Amy rocking a gorgeous midi length all-over silver sequin Ganni dress, and Alex in an authentic cowboy hat and boots and vintage bolo tie.
“We met in a now defunct club in Southend-on-Sea”, began the bride. “We knew of each other before through mutual friends but that’s the night we really hit it off. Our elopement theme was Quentin Tarantino meets David Lynch.”
Their inspiration to elope was just the fact that they wanted to do things entirely on their own terms. Vegas gave them that and then some and luckily all their families understood and were happy for them to do their own thing. Of their £8000 total budget, their flights were the most expensive part but everything else ended up being much more affordable than a wedding back home would have been, plus they got an amazing holiday out of it!
Creating a realistic wedding budget is so easy. It definitely won’t feel about as enjoyable as stubbing your toe while suffering gastro, and having to listen to Jingle Bells on repeat. Nope.
Here’s a plan to help you create a realistic wedding budget that’ll make your planning journey free from awkward whisper shouting matches with your beloved feat. phrases like, “DO WE EVEN NEED THIS?”, “MY GOD, DID THEY ADD AN EXTRA ZERO?”, and “MONEY DOESN’T GROW ON TREES SHARON!”
Strap in Marry-ers!
Step 1: Get engaged to your dream human. Be super excited. Kiss and intercourse lots. Instagram the shit out of your news. Start a Pinterest board for your radical wedding.
Step 2: Go out to celebrate numerous times. Chat excitedly with your beloved over celebration booze. What sort of wedding do they want? What do you want? Should you get a live band and a DJ? Hold up, what about two DJs who can battle each other, because remember you met at that gig! What should your budget be? Let’s cartwheel down the aisle together! And so forth.
Step 3: After you’ve consumed 1.75 bottles of upper mid-range sparkling (because it’s a celebration, we’re engaged FFS!), decide your budget is £12,000. That’s heaps, you agree. People who spend £50,000 are ding dongs, you giggle together. We’ve got this, insert high fives and a semi-inappropriate public pash.
Step 4: The next day, open a god forsaken spreadsheet. Spend 3.5 hours colour coding the columns and rows. We’re non-traditional you know, we MUST have a colourful spreadsheet.
Step 5: Start adding wedding budget line items to the rows – you know the ones; dress, suit, reception, cars etc.
Step 6: Add monetary values to next to each wedding line item, by wildly guessing a) what you think they’re worth/ you are willing to pay, and b) what your work friend Susan paid for her wedding in 2003. What could possibly go wrong? Remember, it’s gotta add up to your magical £12k that you made up after drinking 1.75 bottles of upper mid-range sparkling.
Step 7: At the bottom of column B, impress yourself by doing a SUM equation in your spready, and total up the cost of ALL. THOSE. LINE. ITEMS.
Step 8: Freak the fuck out, start shouting things like, “THAT’S KARDASHIAN MONEY!”, “OVER MY DEAD BODY!”, and “NO YOU CALM DOWN!”, to your fiancé. Throw yourself dramatically onto your bed, convinced you’ll never be able to marry your boo, unless you can work out how to become a ‘Nigerian prince’ in your own personal internet scam, because everyone knows it’s pointless trying to rob a bank these days.
Step 9: Don’t talk about the wedding for 13.8 days due to extreme cost-related forlorn-ery (it’s def a word and a thing). Meanwhile, secretly Pinterest the shit out of cool stuff for that rad wedding, while wondering if you have the chutzpah and criminal connections to run a successful internet scam. How hard is it anyways, to ask strangers via email if they can mind your £7.4 million for you (a prince/astronaut/petroleum company exec)?
I’ve got news for you, friend, you went about making a wedding budget ALL WRONG.
“What are you talking about? I made a flipping spreadsheet, which included a goddamn formula!” you shout back enraged, spit flying.
Me in hushed, soothing tones; “Spreadsheets usually ARE the answer to everything, but in this case, you need to shut down Excel and back away from those line items.”
Here’s how to set a realistic wedding budget. And it doesn’t start with pound signs…
They didn’t want a particular theme for their August wedding, but Kim and Beanie did know they wanted to incorporate certain elements, namely the purple and green to represent the Scottish side of the family and macramé to represent the English side. The bride’s mother is a huge knitter so they felt it was a great way to merge both sides.
Their inspiration came mostly from Rock n Roll Bride, the Rock n Roll Bride Facebook group and other weddings they saw on Instagram. “There was never any direct inspiration other than what we would see online and in the magazine”, Kim said, “We mainly wanted our day to represent us so we would think about what we wanted to have and the best way to run with it. I wouldn’t say it our day was super unique, but it was definitely different to the type of wedding our friends had attended before. For many it was the first time they’d attended a humanist ceremony, worn a kilt or seen smoke bombs. We also had zero children in attendance and a I chose to wear a purple dress!”
As we kick off 2020, I’m not sure I can think of a more perfect feature than this roaring 1920s themed vow renewal! And OMG is she a beauty! We feature quite a few vow renewals, but not often those of LGBTQ couples, so I was super excited to hear all about Kaitlin and Stephanie’s love story. The day began life as a styled shoot, but they decided to renew their vows for real. They were married in Paris originally so wanted nods to this throughout too.
“We met at a theatre where we were both bartending in October of 2010”, they began. “We instantly became good friends as we bonded over our love for musical theatre and teaching. In 2011, we both joined forces at a local high school drama program. At the time, Kaitlin was already in a long-term relationship with a woman and Stephanie was in and out of unhealthy relationships with troubled men. We knew that we faced a barrage of judgements and questions from our families and friends, and that there would be serious consequences if we made the choice to be together. We knew that this would literally change our lives as we knew them, yet we found the courage and together.”
A brand-new decade is here and it’s made us come over all nostalgic. Rock n Roll Bride was launched in 2007, so we’ve seen a hell of a lot of wedding themes and trends come and go. With the help of our friends at Most Curious (who are pretty darn excellent at predicting trends IMHO) we thought it would be fun to look back at the last ten years and have a bit of a laugh at our own expense. For your viewing pleasure, here’s a nostalgic glance back at the last decade in wedding style.
The 2010-2012 Starter Pack
Taxidermy was your go-to table centre, with no question of ethics (or taste) regarding the stuffed roadkill squirrel that was holding your table names. Wedding dresses went tea length and 50s inspired and you definitely need some kind of miniature hat, chin length birdcage veil or heirloom jewellery to complete your look.
Real flowers are not needed in an age where bouquets could be made of buttons or brooches and guest books are drunkenly written via much bashing of keys on fusty, hardly working typewriters. Jam jars used as vases, floral bunting and gingham were the decor items of choice, Inexplicably, moustaches on sticks were also everywhere.
The 2013-2015 Starter Pack
If you were getting married mid-2010s then you’d likely have gone for a more boho vibe. Converse trainers started being worn instead of ankle-crippling heels. Your dress would have almost certainly included lace, fringing or bell sleeves, or you may have opted for one of those brand-new separates (long skirt and cropped top vibe) that were starting to make an appearance.
Feather headdresses briefly became a ‘thing’ before everyone realised what cultural appropriation was. Bridesmaids in mis-matched outfits started to gain popularity. Living rooms stared being be set up outside so that your Nan could find herself sitting on a Chesterfield sofa in a field, being brought Prosecco or ice cream from a cart. What’s not to love?
The 2016-2017 Starter Pack
Gigantic flower crowns hit the big time and defined an entire generation of brides, their bridesmaids and even their dogs. Grooms, and indeed all groomsmen, all started to arrive in cowboy boots, man buns and definitely beards, with extra points for Stetsons and any other Arizona desert appropriate wear… even though your wedding was in Swindon.