Heather and Matt found wedding planning super enjoyable. They loved spending so much time together, making all the decisions as a team and going to wedding fairs! For the theme of the day they wanted to focus on the outdoors, and even for the indoor portions, they chose things that reflected their love of nature. Influenced by all the wonderful bees in the lavender surrounding the venue, their woodland theme was born.
On their tables they had tree trunk slices and wild flowers in jars. “We made all of the place cards and tried to add personal touches like hanging photographs were we could, neither of us are that crafty but we tried our best!” Heather laughed.
They chose Venachar Lochside as the location for their stunning October wedding and Mazz and Alex made all their decisions for the day based on what did or did not spark joy. The bride wore a full purple/ dusky rose ensemble – from her Rosie Red Corsetry dress, painted shoes (which she did herself!) and even her freshly dyed hair. The flowers were a mix of purple and red, to compliment Alex’ tartan, and they had pumpkins all over the place to reflect the season.
“My dress was a nice dusky rose colour with a pale blue top corset to combine the colours in our two family tartans”, she explained. “I also LOVE fairies and fairytales, and my favourite story in the whole world is Peter Pan, so I painted an amended Peter Pan quote on my shoes, and asked Rosie to sew a crescent moon with some stars, and the second star to the right to be bigger than the rest as a reference. We also decorated the wishing well with pages from a fairy story book we found in a charity shop when we went to give notice, and used the same book to make our confetti cones.”
Barbara and Scott had a big, family-centric wedding in Scotland in a polytunnel on the grounds, Colstoun House, a beautiful house and stable conversion. With colourful seasonal wild flowers, local hops and lots of personal touches. Their centrepieces included Disney princesses, dinosaurs and gin bottles for each table.
“We wanted the ceremony to be as relaxed as possible”, Barbara began, “neither of us particularly enjoy being in the limelight, so we kept it fairly casual. We had a couple of readings from some close friends, which I believe some of our guests found quite unorthodox. Beyond that it was fairly traditional in the format, but mixed with some personal touches by our Humanist celebrant reminding our guests about part of our story together before closing with a traditional Scottish hand-fasting.”
Ty and Aaron spent just $1000 on their wedding because they eloped! They used Simply Eloped to help them plan the day, and chose Nelson Ghost Town, which is a 45 minute drive from Las Vegas, as the location. They found the whole process easy and stress-free because they left everything to their planner and they had no guests to deal with. All they had to do was choose their outfits and show up – what a dream!
The ceremony, officiated by Timeless Connection, was short and sweet and they read their vows to each other underneath a rugged and beautiful arch with cacti and mountains as their backdrop. Afterwards they wandered around the town with their photographer, Alycia, and found different locations to take their photos.
Are you a woman thinking of popping the question this month? Take a leap of faith in the comedy writers at Speechy, who tell us why a leap day proposal is not the one.
Wait, what? Every four years thousands of women celebrate a patriarchal tradition that grants them a lame 24 hours to show some agency and ask their significant other for his hand in marriage? What kind of low-key aspirational feminism is this? Sorry, I’m done.
Here’s five reasons why women should absolutely propose, just not when we’re told to…
What’s the craic?
So the story goes, an Irish nun lobbied St Patrick – or Paddy as he was known then (probably) – till he agreed that women, bored waiting for their altar-phobic fellas, should be allowed to do the deed themselves. But only on one day. Every four years.
He even weaved in a caveat so men could refuse the proposal if they gave the woman asking a pair of gloves (to hide her embarrassment at not sporting an engagement ring). Still want to do what some bloke in a funny hat told you?
Tommy Fury (of Love Island and boxing fame) recently told OK! Magazine ‘any man who lets a woman propose is not a man’. Sorry mate, you’re cute and everything, but any man who finds a woman taking charge of her own destiny emasculating needs to get in the bin.
There’s a long history of societal aversion to confident women. It doesn’t help that the narrative surrounding marriage is often centred on women trying to ‘trap’ men, who mostly recoil in horror.
Tommy also said, ‘if you weren’t meant to follow your gut, you wouldn’t have one’, which we can’t argue with to be fair. If your instincts are telling you you’re ready to propose, go for it. But do it your way, on a day you choose.
Hear the sound of retailers rubbing their hands together with glee? Yep, everyone from Premier Inn to Poundland is exploiting this quadrennial trend, with proposal packages and men’s ‘token’ engagement rings. Capitalism has never been friendly to women – tampon tax much? A leap day betrothal might sound like Hallmark Heaven but it’s nothing less than fuckery for feminists.
It’s about as original as a romantic snog in the rain
If a Hugh Grant film is the epitome of your relationship goals, you probably should get yourself down to Poundland for some bling. But there are cooler ways of proposing. Do something hyper-specific to the two of you. Board game pub regulars? Mime asking for his hand in marriage during a round of Articulate. If he’s in a band, get his mates to tie your proposal in with a bespoke performance of The Clash Should I Stay or Should I Go Now, complete with seething mosh pit.
‘I have to do it now cause like… in another four years I’ll be…’ gasps
What? More awesome? With better taste in table décor? At the peak of your career? Financially killing it? Time is not the issue here.
There’s a hybrid wedding trend we’re seeing a lot these days – not quite an elopement, but definitely not a big wedding either. Jay and Brian knew this was what they wanted for their nuptials. They didn’t want to entirely run away and do it on their own, but they didn’t want to host a ton of people and drop a huge amount of money on it either. So, they found a comfortable mid-way point and married at Hackney Town Hall, followed by a meal at a local restaurant with just 14 guests (and their sausage dog, Duncan!)
“We didn’t really have a theme, we were just true to us”, Jay explained. “We honestly just wanted to celebrate our love and get married, we didn’t want a big wedding as we aren’t like that as people so we just tailored the entire thing to simply be a really nice day for everyone.”
Nothing about their wedding done in the traditional way. They didn’t want photos but they hired Costa Sisters who shoot and film (the images in this article are stills from the video) and they used a photo booth to get a shot to keep of everyone there. After the ceremony they went to the tattoo shop where they both work as artists, to cut a cake and get tattooed.