There’s nothing more exciting than planning your wedding, whether you go for a large lavish affair or a more understated, personal day, there is always plenty to think about and arrange! But with all the excitement and celebration going on around you, it’s very easy to get caught up in the moment and forget that your wedding is about more than just the day itself.
When you’re in a relationship, you obviously get to know each other pretty well. But sometimes it isn’t until you actually get married that you start to consider the more serious stuff. Some of these topics can be uncomfortable to talk about, but making sure you do so is vital if you want your marriage to last the distance.
Money is one of the main things that couples fight about. Getting on top of your joint finances before you walk down the aisle, and maybe even establishing a few ground rules, will help you nip some of the disputes that can arise in the bud.
It’s a good idea to sit down and access a free credit report like this one from Experian CreditExpert for each of you, this will allow you to identify any potential problems, and find ways to address them. Its is particularly important that you discuss your individual attitudes to money. Even if you plan to keep a lot of your finances separate, arguments about bills, past debts or one partner’s perceived overspending can cause problems very quickly.
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Oh hasn’t it been a glorious week!? I don’t know about where you are but the sun has really been shining down on the south of England. It’s felt so good to be able to soak up some much needed some vitamin D (even if it is mostly through my office window!)
On Monday my friends Lucy and Debs came to stay. They are some of my oldest ‘wedding industry friends’, we met and fell in love with each other waaaay back in 2009 I think! They both live in Sheffield which means we’ve been proper rubbish at seeing each other recently so it was amazing to have them here. We went out dancing until 4am! I didn’t think I still had it in me but when the bar you’re in is playing Offspring, Green Day and Nirvana all night long it’s difficult to tear yourself away!
Apart from all that debauchery I have been working really hard on the secret thing I keep alluding to but am not quite able to tell you about just yet. I’m hoping I can spill the beans within the next few weeks… eeek! Any guesses what we’ve got planned?! If someone guesses correctly, maybe you’ll win a prize haha!
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With a bride named Alice who’s a lover of Disney and Tim Burton, having an Alice in Wonderland themed wedding seemed like the perfect fit! She married Sven in Berlin on April 18th.
“Our wedding was crazy, funny, colourful and fancy”, she told me. “It was basically what our brains look like! We did a lot of DIY but also had help from our amazing wedding planner, Svenja.”
If there’s one thing I know Rock n Roll brides want more than anything else, it’s to put their own stamp on their wedding. From what you’re going to wear, to the cake you’re serving, and from the DIY décor to the quirky invitations you’ll send out, it’s all about being unique, being yourself and most of all, having fun! Which is why I’m always thrilled beyond belief when I get to share amazing companies that reflect this ethos with you!
You’ve probably heard of zazzle.co.uk before. They are the home of custom products, from both big brands and indie designers. With manufacturing facilities in California and the UK, you can be sure that these designs are produced to the highest standard – one of the reasons they’re so happy to stand behind their 100% satisfaction policy.
However did you know they also offer a service where you can design your own wedding stationery!? As well as base designs ready to customise to perfection, Zazzle lets you create your own designs from scratch and see them in real-time on the site! Image placement, font, shape, paper type, mug size, shirt style, poster size – all those options mean your products will be unique to you, every time!
“We believe that weddings – like the love that brought two people to the point of celebrating of the start of their marriage – should be the happiest reflection of your personality”, they told me. “Cheesy? Yes, but also 110% true.”
There’s something so unique about weddings in New Orleans. The traditions of the city are rarely seen elsewhere, making this a really special place to say “I do”. Wesley and Allison travelled from Memphis to tie the knot there in March.
“Initially, I wanted my wedding to feel like you just stepped into a garden party from the Edwardian era”, Allison told me. “When we decided last minute to cancel all of our plans and have the wedding in New Orleans, we knew we would be able to get away with adding lots of confetti, crystals and champagne… because New Orleans is bright and fun and magical!”
Planning a wedding is one of the most stressful times in most people’s lives. All that expectation, all those people to please, all that money being spent, wanting to make everything just perfect… It’s no wonder that there are whole reality shows about brides flipping the hell out!
While they might be seriously entertaining to watch from the outside, if you’re not careful it can be all to easy too start to exhibit some of those trademark bridezilla tenancies yourself. Here are some things to think about to help prevent you turning into a terrifying monster,
Realise that people aren’t out to hurt you
If people make snarky comments about something to do with your wedding, please remember that they are not criticising YOU as a person! It can be all to easy to take things to heart when it comes to weddings, especially if you feel you’ve put your all into something. People on the outside don’t always realise this, or know how personal the choices you’re making are.
So if someone pulls a face at the fact your not wearing white, that you’re serving fish n chips instead of a fancy dinner or that you’ve booked an Elvis impersonator as your officiant just shrug it off and realise that although it might not be to their taste, THAT DOESN’T MATTER. It’s your wedding and the fact that they might not pick something doesn’t mean it’s not the right choice for you. Don’t take these things to heart.
Think about other people’s feelings
However it can be VERY EASY to get wrapped up in the “Its my day and what I say goes” mentality. Do not turn into a brat. People want to be there for you but it also doesn’t mean that they need to be at your beck and call 24/7 or that they are your punching bag.
Your friends and family want to celebrate with you (and might have travelled a lot way to do so) so be gracious and kind at all times. Especially think about your parents’ feelings. Remember they have probably been looking forward to this moment since the day you were born so don’t turn your nose up too high at their opinions. Let them down gently if you don’t agree with something they’ve suggested.