Laidback New York City Hall Elopement

Niamh and Jasper kept it real and romantic with their wedding, secretly eloping to New York to get married. After a run of deaths in both of their families, they decided they wanted to have something happy instead of sad to celebrate – and they created something beautiful, too.

“We had the standard New York City Hall ceremony,” they say, “which was actually really nice and much more intimate than we thought it could be, considering the style and speed and amount of weddings taking place all at the same time. The man who married us was called Angel Lopez, so we got married by an Angel in New York!”

Niamh’s wedding outfit was a baby blue House of Holland skirt, a Skate tee, and some lush  Jeremy Scott x Melissa mules, whilst Jasper wore Nigel Cabourn trousers, a Carhartt shirt and a Finisterre t-shirt. Just like their ceremony, it was relaxed and totally gorgeous!

After their ceremony at city hall, Niamh, Jasper and their two witnesses went for drinks on the roof at the Crown, wandered around Chinatown, and then had dinner at Prime Meats Brooklyn, fitting in some dreamy portraits beneath the Manhattan Bridge too.

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The “Fuck It!” Bucket

Stressed out with wedding planning? Aleisha McCormack of The Bridechilla Podcast is here to show you how to throw all that wed-stress into the Fuck It Bucket!

There’s something pretty freaking empowering about saying no to things that you thought you needed but you don’t.

To get married, you really only need three things: you, your partner, and someone to marry you. That’s it. All of the other stuff is fun (and sometimes unnecessary) icing on the cake and those extras are often the things that stress us out the most.

The concept of being a Bridechilla, well my interpretation, is all about simplifying the wedding planning process and removing all of the extra tasks, stress, and stuff that we’ve been told over and over again that we need when in reality, they are entirely optional. It’s about enjoying the process and focusing on what matters the most… that you’ve found your fellow weirdo and you and that weirdo are planning an awesome party together.

The concept of the fuck it bucket isn’t new (people have been putting stuff in it for years!), however in this instance I was inspired by a Reddit/Weddit thread, where couples listed all of the details and worries that they were going to ditch. My interpretation of the Bridechilla fuck it bucket is that it is a magical vessel where all of your wedding expectations, tasks, and unfinished DIY projects go.

The fuck it bucket (FIB for short) comes in handy when disposing of the things that you initially thought were important, but six months (or six minutes) in you realise aren’t worth it. It can include traditions, expectations, trends, gifts and well-intentioned DIY projects can all find a new home in the FIB. Everyone’s FIB contains different things, and that is A-OK.

Recently a wedding planner I had as a guest on the Bridechilla Podcast suggested that we should reverse the process by putting everything in the FIB to start with and by doing this only retrieving things that are really important. Start simple and add-on.  Here are but a few suggestions of things that you can place in the FIB and watch burn.

EXTRA WEDDING EVENTS

The day after party/brunch/lunch can be an excellent way to share some more time with your guests, but like many wedding-related events, they can also feel like an extra production. What used to be just “Let’s meet for a brunch or a BBQ,” has turned into “Let’s plan a third wedding.” Some people create fully catered events with staff and fancy china – who has the time? (or the budget?) If you are keen to host a day-after event but lack time and money to organise it, consider asking your in-laws or extended family to host the event (which is a great job to pass on, especially if they are keen to help). If you just want to call it a day at the end of your wedding and go home or off to a honeymoon somewhere delicious, then chuck the day-after events straight into the FIB and move on with your life.

GIFTS, GIFTS AND MORE GIFTS

One of my favourite things to chuck straight in the FIB is gifts.

Gifts for the bridal, gifts for the parents, gifts for the driver that drove you to the venue. I mean, we seem a little bit obsessed with giving people gifts. Don’t get me wrong; I love gifts – I love receiving gifts, I love giving gifts. But at the moment, we are going through a gift-giving renaissance. And the renaissance needs to end because The Bridechilla community is swamped with messages from Chillas saying:

I don’t know what to give this person as a gift.
I feel stressed about having to find a gift.
I haven’t got time to think about a gift.
Do I need to give them a gift?
How much should I spend on the gift?
When should I give them the gift?
Do I need to give them a gift to say, “Would you be in my bridal party?”
Do I need to give them a gift to say, “Thanks for organising”?

No! Stop it! Stop with the gifts. It stresses me out, man. And again, it’s like the gift bag. The thought is lovely, but no one’s going to judge you, or think any less of you, if you don’t give them a special wine bottle with a personalised label that says “Will you be my bridesmaid?” And another special box of perfume to say “Thank you for being my bridesmaid.” A card, or something handwritten and delightful, is perfect and much more personalised and thoughtful, especially if you’re on a budget. Excess gifts are in the FIB now.

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Desert Bohemian Meets Rock n Roll Wedding in Joshua Tree

I would say Jess and Kenny’s wedding day was nothing short of magic, but that would be wrong: it was nothing short of spiritual and stunning. As lovers of the desert, and frequent visitors to Joshua Tree for quick getaways, they knew they had to get married out there. They also wanted to incorporate a little of their Native American background into the day, mixed with their love of Rock n Roll. What resulted was a desert bohemian wedding that is the stuff of dreams.

Jess and her bridal party got ready in old band t-shirts before changing into their deep red bridesmaid outfits (which they’d all chosen themselves), whilst Kenny and his party all looked slick in black suits in a Reservoir-Dogs-meets-rock-band photo shoot against the desert backdrop. Jess’ wedding dress was a strapless dress from Pronovias, which she wore with knee-high lace-up camel coloured boots from Nine West.

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We Already Live Together, Do We Need a Wedding Gift List?

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Traditionally, the reason to have a wedding gift list is to help your wedding guests know what to buy you (let’s face it, most people will want to get you at least a small gift) and to help a young couple set up their first home together. These days, while the former still rings true, most couples do live together long before they get married. But just because you think you’ve already got everything you might need, doesn’t mean you should forgo a wedding registry entirely.

If your guests are going to get you something anyway, there’s nothing wrong with helping them out by giving them some ideas. If you don’t have a gift list you may just end up with lots of stuff you don’t really want or need.

The good news is that the wedding gift list has moved on a LOT in the past few years, and leading the way is one of my favourites, Prezola.

Time to Upgrade

This is your chance to upgrade everything you’ve just bought because it was cheap (or inherited and made do with) over the past few years! A wedding list is the perfect opportunity to get things that you might not be able (or want) to spend your own money on but will really enjoy once you own them. Things like fancy bedding, a matching crockery set, a branded vacuum cleaner: these are all things we got on our gift list and are still using and enjoy ten years later!

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Issue 21 Now Available for Pre-Order!

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Confidence. It’s something we all strive to have right? We want to feel comfortable in our own skin, we want to love ourselves, we want to be able to see what sassy, gorgeous goddesses we really are.

But we struggle. We look in the mirror and feel disappointed with our lot. We look at other people and think “Why is that not me?” Well you know what, today I want to remind you that YOU ARE FUCKING FIERCE. Yes, you reading this right now. You’re a total BABE. No matter what your outward appearance, no matter what kind of clothes you wear, no matter if you have “on fleek” eyebrows or insta-worthy make up skills. You are a one-of-a-kind powerful goddess. You have the potential to be whoever you want to be. YOU ARE FIERCE.

My friend and photographer of this most epic of magazines covers, Lisa Devlin, shared it a few days ago in a private Facebook group for wedding photographers and wrote the following… I know she won’t mind me sharing what she said because, without wanting to toot my own horn too much, it made me really, really happy.

“You know I was saying how I feel like it’s all work, work, work right now? It’s so easy to get absorbed into that feeling and not step back and see the bigger picture. I’ve just seen this, the next cover of Rock n Roll Bride magazine and I told Kat that it’s probably my favourite cover of the magazine yet. I can’t wait to see it on the shelves surrounded by vanilla same old, same old covers.

I fucking LOVE that she is a mixed race girl with a shaved head and yet that is nothing to do with why she was in this shoot or why this shot made the cover. She is there because she exudes confidence, joy and being your best self, loving life and wanting to include others in that.

To me that is what this magazine is all about and Kat’s philosophy to business. Most of us are in the ‘alternative’ market and could we just imagine for a second where we would be putting ourselves if her blog and magazine didn’t exist?

I’m going to do my best to keep my head above water for the next few weeks and remind myself to celebrate all the good things. I am so proud of this cover, proud of the team effort that goes into the shoots and chuffed to bits that I shot this. So, what if you think about it, are you chuffed to have achieved recently?”

Thank you Lara Elliott for coming along to the editorial shoot for this issue and sharing this behind the scenes peek for us. And yes, it really was as fun a day as it looks!

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The Big Lebowski Inspired Wedding Powered By Nature… and Tacos!

Kelly and Buck were married in September in an outdoor ceremony at Riveredge Nature Centre in Wisconsin, with a barn reception at the same venue.

Kelly, a print maker and paper artist extraordinaire, met Buck through her best friend Molly. They soon discovered a shared love for drawing, and Kelly, who works as an Admissions Counsellor for a Milwaukee art college, encouraged Buck to pursue his passion for drawing professionally. Buck picked up an apprenticeship and now works as a tattoo artist.

Heavily inspired by creativity and nature for their decor choices on the day, Kelly, together with best friend Molly created all the paper florals by hand; the reception decor, the bouquets and the flower crowns from crepe paper. Place names and table numbers were displayed with handwritten delicate paper leaves. The couple also included deer in their decor, with antlers on the top table and adorable an golden deer cake topper too.

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