Guess who I hung out with this week?! The amazing Harnaam Kaur aka the Bearded Dame aka the flower beard bridal lady aka my new best bad ass friend! After I featured her shoot and I realised she lived in Slough, which is literally 20 minutes from where I live in Reading, I emailed her almost demanding that we meet for coffee. Well, that quick coffee turned into a four hour gossip sesh, shopping marathon and lunch date! Now only is she hella inspiring — I could listen to her talk for hours — but she’s totally hilarious, humble and just flat out lovely!
But the excitement didn’t stop there, in other news this week my baby sister Rachel got engaged!!! I’ll be honest, I’ve already been sending her links and ideas every single day and have started booking her wedding dress appointments with gusto! I’m trying not to get carried away but it’s hard not to. This is going to be the coolest, most awesome wedding ever!
Congratulations Rachel and Jamie! (Here they are modelling at the Photography Farm a couple of years ago – totally bride and groom material right!?)
Photo by Lisa Devlin
Gosh, what a week! It’s a short and sweet edition of Thursday Treats, but that’s OK! All these links are definitely work checking out…
Weddings & Weddingy Things
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♥ Epic Star Wars themed pre-wedding shoot
♥ Patriotic courthouse wedding
♥ 30 unique guest book ideas
♥ Bohemian love shoot in the woods
Hello Miss Lovely
Hayleigh and Marc met at an alternative nightclub in 2010 so they always knew their wedding would be quite non-traditional. “We went for a bohemian-esque evening wedding however tried not to go over the top with our decorations”, said the bride. “We really wanted it to be about us and our families, not the ‘stuff’. Whilst I had hundreds of photos saved on Pinterest not a lot of those ideas made it to the big day!”
“The bouquets and headpiece were made by me, my mother and my godmother the day before the wedding”. she continued. “We went to the local flower market and picked out anything that we wanted. It ended up costing approx $200 including the wire, tape and ribbons and a few hours of laughter! We also made our own rug and cushions. I picked out all of the fabrics and my mother and her sister made the amazing creations. I decorated some small bottles and vases for the bar tables to put flowers in.”
Why does wedding food get such a bad rep? Dry chicken, inedible beef, boring vege options? Why, on arguably the most extravagant day of your life, are people happy to serve up sub-par grub to all their friends and family?!
While it’s true that catering for big numbers can be expensive and tricky (you’re probably never going to please everyone!) there must be catering companies around that understand this turmoil and want to do something about it… right?!
Introducing Sausage and Pear! Husband and wife team Ross and Claire cater weddings and events in London, Hampshire, Dorset, Devon, Surrey, Wiltshire, Berkshire and Somerset. They launched their company because they were passionate about creating show stopping and delicious food that was also creative and different to the usual wedding fare.
Have you considered a posh hog roast, or an afternoon tea? Maybe you’d like to serve pie and mash or fish and chips? How about an Asian influenced menu or a giant sharing platter that all your guests can just dig into? Sausage and Pear can help! They can even provide you with a mobile bar and the marquee to hold everything if you want.
“We love designing new ways for people to eat on a wedding day”, they told me. “We want our food to be forever be remembered! We love to match the food we provide to the theme of the wedding too and work with our couples to provide something everyone will love eating. We even use things like edible flowers, grass, wooden and vintage props to enable your guests to experience our array of different textures and flavours whether you’re having a posh or rustic feast.”
Amanda and Keith wanted a small wedding on their own terms, so they headed up to Juniper Hotel & Bistro in Banff National Park for an intimate ceremony followed by a great meal with their small number of guests.
“Our wedding was inspired by our flare for tattoos and being our crazy selves”, said the bride. “We wanted something small that reflected our love of being outside and of being different to other people.”
“We loved doing a first look. Cassie, our photographer, had us hide out in the woods behind the Juniper. She instructed Keith to stand facing the tress and not turn around. I could tell he was nervous. I was giggling the whole time I was walking up to him, excited and nervous. Then he opened his eyes and all of a sudden my nerves went away. We were both laughing hysterically. We were finally getting married!”
Don’t get me wrong, a wedding is undoubtedly a very important day, but it is not your one shot at happiness or your singular life defining moment. By that I mean, even if the day was a complete disaster and everything that could go wrong did, the actual act of getting married is just one little flash in a life full of potentially joyful occasions!
The pressure the wedding industry puts on couples is ridiculous. “Oh it’s the most important day of your life!”, “This will be the best day you’ve ever had!” they squawk. And yes, while it is undoubtedly a special day, it does not have to be the “best day of your life”.
Our wedding was was absolutely one of my top five life highlights, but I feel like claiming it was “the best” would be a bit of a lie. That’s not to say that our wedding wasn’t completely amazing, but so was buying our first house, quitting my day job to blog full time, launching my own magazine… There are many more days in my life that I’ve loved and boiling your complete happiness down to one very specific and pre-planned moment only sets you up for disappointment if things don’t go exactly to plan. It also makes you put an extreme amount of pressure on yourself to make everything utterly perfect.
Can you think of any other event in your life that you have amazing memories from that was planned to the very last second? Of course not! Most of your fondest times had a bit of spontaneity around them – those nights out you didn’t even bother to re-do your make up and ended up on a wild adventure, the time you bumped into this cute guy and ended up falling in love, when you booked a last minute holiday and had the most amazing two weeks ever! These moments of unexpected joy are rarely pre-planned to the last minute detail, and I think there’s something to be said for letting your wedding be a bit like this too.
Dave and Laura both grew up by the sea, so although they got married in the middle of London, they wanted to bring this into the day. They had a church ceremony followed by an informal party afterwards.
“We are both from coastal cities and we wanted to bring the sea to central London”, said the bride. “We fed our guests with fish and chips and picked a beautiful venue on the water that looked like the inside of a ship. We did everything ourselves, from Dave grafting to set up the venue with his groomsmen and me investing weeks into making all the table decorations and finishing touches.”