New Year’s Eve might not cross everybody’s mind as a date to get married, but for Tyler & Martin it couldn’t have been more perfect!
“Martin and I are a little obsessed with The Flaming Lips,” Tyler explained. “He introduced me to the band early in our relationship. He took me to my first show…it was New Years Eve, Halloween and pure happiness all in one night! Iâ€™ll never forget watching another couple get engaged that night and telling Martin that would be a pretty awesome way to do it. Apparently he filed that information away. A couple years later during our yearly pilgrimage to Bonnarooo, Martin proposed to me under a shower of confetti and balloonsÂ while The Flaming Lips played ‘Do You Realize.’ It was perfect.”
“We chose New Years Eve as our date because it would mark a new beginning for us and everybody else there”, she continued. “We knew we were taking on a challenge by having a NYE wedding – Wayne Coyne even expressedÂ his concern to us when we met him after a Flaming Lips show a couple months before the big day. Wayne invited us to come to Oklahoma City to be married onstage. He even gave us his phone number because he wanted our New Year’s Eve to be perfect, an unbelievable proposal from a generous musician. While we declined his offer to be with our family and friends, we did our best to keep his spirit alive in VA Beach that night (the signed poster with Wayneâ€™s digits and message of ‘Iâ€™m worried about New Years Eve’ will always hang in our home!)”
The wedding was held at Virginia Museum of Contemporary Art. “We chose a venueÂ that not only embodied things we love – modern architecture, education, theater, art – including an amazing hanging colored glass sculpture by Dale Chihuly, but also served as a very spiritual setting for two artists to join their lives.Â We embracedÂ the day, our love for music, and the joy of creating – making our decor full of paper goods we designed ourselves and NYE staples like party horns, streamers, hats and sparkly things like disco balls everywhere!”
“I know neither of us will ever forget our ceremony. When we saw the amazing Chahuley sculpture housed in our ceremony space, we knew we had to get married right underneath its colorful explosion. To do that meantÂ re-configuringÂ the norm and creating a ceremony space ‘in the round.’ In addition to shaking up the layout, we also decided to make the ceremony itself our own â€“ drawing from unconventional prayers, writing our own statements of intent, selecting wooden wedding bands and even choosing music by Phish and The Beatles.”
“On New Years Eve it all came together and was amazing. As we stood in the center of our family and friends, we were overwhelmingly surrounded by their love and support. I cried as I read my promises to Martin (no one was surprised there) and th