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Modern Industrial Wedding with All the Feels

I hope you’re ready for some Monday morning feels because Lori and Lach’s wedding has got ALL THE EMOTIONS. They were married in Melbourne in June (on the same weekend they first met in real life after chatting for months on MySpace!) at The Budgie Smuggler, a super cool, industrial-style warehouse event and gallery space.

They wanted to make the day feel as much like ‘them’ as possible so that meant great food, a casual atmosphere and no extra fuss. “It was so important for our day to be about us with our closest family and friends joining us for the celebration”, said the bride. “We decided against a lot of the norms of wedding planning, we saw each other before the ceremony and we didn’t have a sit down meal. I didn’t wear a veil and we were two of the last people to leave the night – it was so important to us to enjoy the day for as long as humanly possible!”

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Gothic Fairytale Wedding Inspired by Tim Burton

Amy and Andy had a very clear vision for their October wedding: Halloween and Tim Burton. They wanted to use their day to celebrate his magical films that they both grew up with and loved dearly. They also touched upon Halloween by using orange, purple, black and silver in their decorations.

They were married on October 21st (as close to Halloween as they could get) at St Augustine’s in Westgate-On-Sea near Margate. “Halloween has always been a huge yearly event for our family and always one of the happiest so we wanted to choose to celebrate every anniversary as close to it as possible!” Amy began. “For our venue, we wanted somewhere that was a blank canvas and we were delighted to find that St Augustine’s had everything we wanted. It was filled with Victorian and gothic décor with rich reds and gold. They also have a stunning chapel within the building. The gardens were filled with willow trees and made a beautiful backdrop for our photographs.”

“After discovering Rock n Roll Bride magazine we stocked up on every issue to build our confidence and expand our knowledge down the ‘non-traditional’ route to creating a wedding. We raided TK Maxx’s Halloween section the year before. We mixed all of this with an enchanted forest feel to give it a sparkly Halloween base in which we could build upon. Everything we made incorporated some of the smallest additions from the characters and script to make our guests feel like they had entered in to Halloween Town.”

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Pot Luck Backyard Wedding… Where They Filmed a Music Video!

You are just not READY for the wedding that’s about to hit your eyeballs. After we featured Nancy and Boogie’s beyond cool fashion editorial inspired engagement shoot last year, I had a sneaking suspicion that their wedding would be similarly amazing… and it turns out I was bang on the money.

Married in June at a local park with the reception at the groom’s parent’s home, they wanted their wedding to be casual and laid back but also have elements of tradition. “For our ceremony, we wanted to be more traditional but for our reception the theme for all our guests was to dress extremely fashionable and as extra as you can”, Nancy explained. “We’re really into fashion and wanted everyone to be comfortable and themselves, so what better way to make that the theme for our big day?”

The bride kept things low key yet super stylish in an Urban Outfitters dress paired with Forever 21 shoes and jewellery. She did her hair and make up herself. They skipped having bridesmaids or groomsmen, the groom’s mother and aunt made the cakes and Nancy even put together all the flowers herself (costing a total of $6 for bouquets and $4 each for the centrepieces). For food, they ordered pizza and chicken wings which they served pot luck style, alongside lots of delicious treats brought in by their friends and family.

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Rock n Roll Vow Renewal at Sacré-Cœur

Is there anywhere more romantic than Paris in the winter? Alice and Simone, who met and were engaged within four months, always regretted not having a professional photographer for their wedding three years ago. So, when they decided to renew their vows on the streets of Montmartre, hiring someone amazing to capture the day was top on their list of priorities.

“We sorely regretted not hiring a professional photographer to capture our wedding”, said Alice “We then tried to incorporate pieces from our original wedding and also found some incredible vendors that truly represented our Rock n Roll style!”

“It was not your fairytale type of ceremony. We wanted to be ourselves on that day and wore what we felt comfortable in and what would reflect US — leather jacket, jeans, boots, fishnet stockings, green andblack heels, edgy looking large ring, etc. All the pieces that you wouldn’t expect to see at a classical ceremony, but felt right for us.”

“We knew we didn’t want our ceremony to feel official and, well, strict. So, we found the most amazing officiant who’s not only a woman, has tattoos and is rocking the most stylish pastor outfit we’ve seen (which is already quite cool, right?) but also very chilled person and is a lot of fun to be around — we knew we found the right one! We laughed a lot during the ceremony, as you can see.”

“One of the reasons we picked the Montmartre and Sacré Cœur in particular as our vow renewal ceremony location (apart from its famous beauty) is the fact that three years ago we got married just a few streets away, at the Mairie du 18ème arrondissement. Our ceremony was very small and intimate — just us, the officiant and the two photographers, but it felt like we were just two of us there. I walked up the side stairs of the Sacré Cœur where Simone was already waiting for me, it was a bit like walking down the aisle, but in our own way. Then Michelle started the ceremony and it was very emotional yet very relaxed, we laughed all the way through it.”

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Goth Punk Budget-Friendly Wedding

Inspired by punk rock, Day of the Dead and Culture Clash, Amy and Niall planned their August wedding on a £5000 budget. They included nods to their Scottish and Italian/Indian heritages as well as elements that defined them as a couple such as serving a fully vegetarian menu. The family-only ceremony was held at Bedford Town Hall with their low key, DIY reception hosted at The Pavilion in Bedford Park.

“When planning for the wedding we wanted the basic essentials as we’re very non-materialistic and were uncomfortable about being centre of attention!” the bride explained. “Once the essentials were in place the little personal touches that represented our identity as a couple gave it that unique feel. We wanted to celebrate our families coming together and the merging of our different cultures.”

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Being the Voice of a Revolution When the Revolution is Already Won

I started writing this article about a year ago. I found it in my drafts this morning, and although the context and reason for me starting to write it has moved on, actually a lot of the notes I’d made on the subject still made a lot of sense. So please forgive me if it feels a little muddled and disjointed, but I wanted to revisit the topic and finally publish it.

I started putting digital pen to digital paper when I received the below comment on an Instagram post:

“I’ve been following your blog for about 8 years now and it’s great to see a personal post from you again. I used to love your tips and perspective on things as much as the weddings you featured. Where that became less so I moved to following on Facebook and the group which have been equally as awesome but for very different reasons – such as community spirit and support. It’s become an entity in itself. I kind of miss the lead you took in your blog which led to this revolution in weddings. As much as I love the magazine, I don’t always have the kind of time I’d like to sit and read a physical product. Plus the last page is kinda final, whereas a blog is endless. Great for insomnia or staying up with kids who won’t sleep! I also understand that businesses are hard work and evolve and one person can only do so much. You’re doing an amazing job, and I’m proud to be an ‘official’ Rock n Roll bride after being featured in December.”

Her comment about being the lead in a revolution in weddings really made me smile and think back to 2008-2011 when I was just starting out, and how really, really UPSET and mad I was about everything I saw in the wedding industry! I was definitely a lot rantier back then (and it got me into trouble regularly – not that I really minded!) In a way I miss it, it was nice to have a mission, but also, it’s pretty amazing that something I’ve created has achieved what it set out to do.

There almost doesn’t NEED to be a revolution anymore because, for the most part, being an alternative bride is much more accepted. I’m regularly interviewed by newspapers about the ‘trend’ of alternative weddings (particularly so around the royal wedding because y’all Meagan is a woman of colour and did a speech don’t you know?) It makes me internally chuckle and feel happy that being a weirdo or an outsider no longer has such a stigma attached to it… but also eye roll really hard all at the same time!

So, what’s next? Do I just need to resign my post now? Have we done everything that needs to be to change the wedding industry? WELL, ACTUALLY NO.

Although so much of the industry has changed in the past decade, particularly stylistically (the huge variety of dress styles, lots more budget-friendly options, bride rocking tattoos being seen as less of an unusual thing) there is still a LOT that needs to change. And while I don’t really have the time, or inclination, to sit down and write blog post after blog post about all the things I see wrong in the wedding industry as much as I did in 2011, there are still issues I’m fighting against every day with the work that I do, particularly with the magazine.

For example, did you know that no mainstream wedding magazine in the UK has ever put a black model on their cover? Do you know that a lot of them still don’t feature same sex weddings? I’m sure you all see the bombardment of weight loss stuff surrounding weddings that still happens too. Even with the uprising of body positivity, the wedding industry is still light years behind, relentlessly pushing the fantasy of the fairytale wedding complete with the princess bride.

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