This article features explicit images. Those of a sensitive disposition might want to check out some of the other engagement shoots we’ve featured in the past instead.
I must preface this feature by letting you all know that this is an explicit photo session, and one that not everyone will be comfortable looking at. But in the spirit of Rock n Roll Bride being about self-expression and doing whatever is right for you and your partner, I really wanted to share it! There are a lot of NSFW photos featured below and while I personally think they’re really tastefully done and the story behind them is one worth sharing, I understand that not everyone will agree.
Couple’s boudoir shoots are actually nothing new. For many, they are a really beautiful way to capture their relationship and genuine connection in an unforced, natural way. Some of the more raunchy shoots, such as this one, feature the couple mimicking having sex.
OK for those of you still reading, let’s begin by hearing from the couple themselves. I was keen speak to Charlie and Mark and find out what made them want to be photographed in such an intimate way for their engagement shoot.
“We chose to go with a more intimate shoot for a couple of reasons”, they said. “Both being creative (he is a photographer by trade) we actually take a lot of photos of each other and together, some being nudes and certainly more intimate. We both feel pretty comfortable in front of a camera and also we both felt very comfortable around Sarah, who photographed this session.”
Sarah and Ant were married on the Isle of Wight with just 14 guests including their four young children. They were determined to do things on their own terms, to not spent an enormous amount and to make every element truly special.
“Our wedding was relaxed, alternative and bohemian”, said Sarah. “We wanted something handmade, fun, colourful and all our own. We handmade as much as we possibly could. We travelled down to the Isle of Wight with our ten guests and our four children for a small elopement style wedding. We wanted everyone to have fun and enjoy themselves but be as relaxed as possible. All the decor was made and put together ourselves. We used a huge amount of crepe paper streamers to create a colourful canopy, along with tulle pom poms, wax paper bells to hang from the ceiling and wrapping paper pinwheels, as a backdrop for the ‘cake’.”
The bride, a talented seamstress, even made her own wedding dress for around £100!! “I have always had a good idea of what I want my dress to look like, but not a lot of places cater for the ‘boho’ look that I was going for”, she explained. “Being a family tradition to make your wedding dress, I made mine form scratch. Being a keen seamstress, I made it for around £110 and took around four weekends with my mum sewing up a storm. My shoes were bought from eBay as new, I wanted something colourful and bit more bohemian, and I even wore frilly socks. My headpiece was made by my talented brother Connor, the night before the wedding!”
Can a woman who’s fought for equality still be comfortable as a bride? In an industry that’s dominated by sexism (I mean an engagement ring is a symbol of ownership and it’s only the woman who’s expected to change her name… and don’t even get me started on the fact that the whole wedding thing is automatically assumed to be the woman’s domain). Well, weddings and marriage don’t always look that great. But if it’s the commitment you and your partner want, there’s no reason why you have to leave your feminist beliefs behind when you say “I do”. Becky Hoh-Hale, founder of the Most Curious Wedding Fair, is here today to talk you through the options.
As the founder of a wedding show, it can be hard to reconcile my career of choice with my feminist beliefs. I can sometimes feel myself explaining what I do with an element of guilt, almost apologising for my role in sending more sisters off to the patriarchal shackles. But The Most Curious Wedding Fair takes the idea of a wedding day and offers it up to couples to own it, and this allows me to rest easy in our quest for equality. So, I thought it would be interesting to look at how women in 2018 can and are reconciling their empowered selves with those wedding rituals less palatable to the bad ass bride.
As you are here already on Rock n Rock Bride, it’s likely that sticking to tradition is not top of your list of priorities, but similarly you’re reading this because marriage is important to you and you want it for you and your partner. Hell, you may not even want to lose all the romantic symbolism set up by some of the time-honoured wedding traditions. So let’s go there, what do these traditions mean? What are their origins? How can you change them up, slip in important feminist acts and reclaim your wedding?
The Wedding Dress
First up, let’s talk about the dress. I think we all know what the virginal white angelic gown associated with brides is meant to symbolise (although this assumption is actually completely inaccurate as it was originally blue that was seen as the virginal colour because of the Virgin Mary. The white wedding dress only became popular after Queen Victoria opted to wear it when she married Prince Albert!)
Whether a white wedding dress is a symbol of whether or not you’ve had sex yet or not (and honestly, even your Gran is probably pretty much up to speed on where you guys are at with that, having lived together for three years already) if you think about it, it’s always going to be an act of rebellion to wear something other than traditional white or ivory.
Now we don’t want to ruin everything… but apparently even the damn cake cutting is about your hoo-hah. There’s different stories about the tradition, at best the couple could cut it together but she had to feed the groom a piece to signify her servitude to him and at worst the bride would do it alone to symbolise the loss of her virginity (eye roll). Do with that what you will. So if you’re worried about the symbolism, definitely cut it together and feed it to each other!