This is definitely a wedding I wish I was at. Louisa and Richie sure do know how to throw one hell of a party! The styling for the celebration was really centred around their venue – the basement of Shoreditch Town Hall called The Ditch. An unusual choice maybe (and one with no natural light!) but it fit perfectly with what the couple wanted. Louisa’s dress was designed by Catherine Deane. She wore Badgley Mischka and her veil was vintage.
“We just wanted our wedding it to be a big ol’ party with all our friend and family”, began the bride. “We didn’t stick to a script or colour theme or particular look. Every detail was there because we thought it was cool or beautiful or unusual. We weren’t trying to be shabby chic or retro or Rock and Roll, we were just being ourselves.”
When Freixenet, the Spanish cava producers, got in touch to ask if I wanted to have a party on them, and share the results on my blog, I nearly fell off my chair. Talk about my dream job! Then they told me they also wanted to include the chance for my readers to win enough cava to keep their wedding rocking well into the wee hours and I almost did a backflip!
Now I’m no wine snob, but I’m not going to lie to you, I initially thought there must be some kind of catch. When it comes to fizz I know what I like, and more importantly what I don’t like. What if it was horrible? Would I have to fib my way through this post and tell you otherwise..? But I need not have worried. When we cracked open the Cordon Negro, their flagship product, and took a sip, we were all suitably impressed.
There’s nothing that evokes childlike wonder quite like mermaids. I don’t think there’s any girl who watched The Little Mermaid as a kid and afterwards didn’t wanted to be one… So when this shoot, although not strictly wedding inspired, landed in my inbox, I knew I wanted to share it with you. It’s pure fantasy but that doesn’t make it any less fabulous.
“I have a real love of fantasy shoots because you can completely let your imagination run free and bring your ideas to life”, wrote photographer Heline Bekker. “Gwenda, who played our mermaid, and I both work in the wedding industry and we do a lot of styled bridal shoots together. But we often talk about doing shoots just for us, something different, something not at all wedding-related, so we can spread our creative wings. Most of the time though, it just finds its way back to weddings…not this time though!”
We all have fears. It’s human nature to want to protect yourself from something you perceive to be a threat. Which is why putting yourself out there as a creative is so scary. No matter what we might say, no matter how much bravado we might have, deep down we all want to be accepted and appreciated for what we do.
But being afraid is not something to worry about. It’s how you react to your fears that is the most important thing.
Most entrepreneurs are truly afraid of one thing – failure. But I want to let you in on a little secret: failure is an important part of success.
If you never make any mistakes, you’ll never learn anything. Looking back at your mistakes, or failings, is like looking back at that old boyfriend and wondering what the hell you were thinking. Sure, you might internally cringe at your terrible judgement, but I bet you learnt something valuable when they broke your heart. Although it might be painful, remembering what happened will also remind you just how far you’ve come.
The misconception many entrepreneurs have around failure, is that they think it will forever define them. I promise it won’t. I have made terrible errors in judgement and some incredible (and very public) faux pas in my time. Do I regret them? Sure. Do I wish they’d never happened? For the most part, actually no. Each misstep has taught me a very important lesson.
Most of the time our fears come down to being scared of what other people will think. But don’t let other people’s judgements stop you from doing what you really want to do. You can’t control what people think of you, you can only control your own actions.
(I couldn’t resist…)
Devan and Keith were married in New York’s Lower Eastside. Their incredible venue was The Angel Orensanz, the oldest Reformed Synagogue in the US. The bride wore a black Vera Wang gown but with it she rocked her T.U.K. Creepers – don’t you just love that?!
“I’m not sure if I can accurately ascribe a particular theme to our wedding because we weren’t necessarily going for one”, Devan explained. “We received various comments about its unconventionality, though that really wasn’t the aim either. We simply approached our wedding planning by choosing things that felt meaningful and personal to us, and based a lot of our decisions (like food and music) on what we liked, really sort of oblivious to tradition or trend.”
“It made the task of planning a bit daunting at times (not being restricted to a theme left us with an overwhelming range of choices), but it really all paid off in the end. In different ways, we’re both the type of person who really needs something to have meaning for it to feel like a worthwhile choice. I can honestly say that every tiny detail was intentionally and purposefully selected. The end result was a wedding that felt very honest, personal, and ‘us’ (cliché, I know), in every single way.”
“Although we didn’t have a theme per se, we are definitely drawn to vintage, gothic, macabre, and Victorian aesthetics, so that’s reflected quite a bit in our wedding. We’re also very literary obsessed and admittedly rather on the nerdy side, both of which came out in some subtle, and perhaps some not so subtle, details (our wedding favors, which were a special edition of Pride & Prejudice designed by Keith, the inscriptions on our rings, our officiant’s book, which yes, sort of served as our something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue, and of course Keith’s suit).”
I’ve been dreading it for months, but today I woke up a thirty year old. I almost can’t believe it! It’s true what they say though, time sure does fly when you’re having fun!
It feels like just yesterday that I met Gareth (aged 17), we started dating (aged 18), we got married (24), I started this blog (24), I produced a print magazine (27), we launched The Blogcademy (28) and I designed my first headpiece collection (29) ..! Needless to say I’m pretty damn proud of how much I’ve achieved so far.
Talking of achievements, a lot of you have been asking how I got on with my 30 before 30 list. Well I actually nearly did them all (OK so I didn’t read a book or manage to launch my digital product just yet… it’s coming soon!) But today Gareth and I are going on a spa day AND he just surprised me with a birthday trip to Barcelona TOMORROW so I will have achieved my “go on a random adventure” wish too!!
Now, I certainly couldn’t let this momentous occasion go by without a little gift for you guys as well. So, for 24 hours only, you can get any headpiece from my collection with Crown and Glory at a whopping 30% discount! Simply enter discount code ‘happybirthdaykat’ at the checkout. Valid until 7.59 am GMT tomorrow, (Wednesday 8th April).