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I Ruined My Friend’s Wedding

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Kate Moss for Vogue, April 2012

Dear Kat
I fucked up (to put it mildly!) and I need your help… advice… anything. I’m an aspiring wedding planner. I’m just out of university and when a friend asked me to help her plan her wedding I was thrilled, honoured and terrified all at the same time. I’ve always wanted to go into events and even though I’ve never planned anything as big as a wedding (and I told my friend this) I was super excited to be involved.

I worked my arse off in the run up and on the day, and I feel like I did a pretty good job considering it was my first go. BUT there were some things that didn’t go perfectly and now my friend is pissed and blaming me. For example the flowers were delivered late, the cake started to sag before it was cut and she hated the hair and make up artist I booked (even though she agreed to her, and had a trial, beforehand).

I appreciate her feedback on how I could have done things differently. After all this was my first wedding and I know I have a LOT to learn. But I can’t help but be massively crushed. Not only is my friendship effectively ruined but I feel like I never want to try and plan another wedding again!

I don’t know if you can help me or if you can say anything to really help me feel better, but do you happen to have any advice on how to deal with this? We all have to start somewhere, right?
Sarah Jane

Aww Sarah Jane I am so sorry this was your first planning experience. Being involved in someone’s wedding is a huge deal and a massive amount of pressure. From reading your email I am convinced that you did the very best you could despite your inexperience.

While you can’t change what’s already happened, the first thing you need to do is apologise, even if you feel you did the best you could at the time. While the flowers being a bit late, the cake being a bit saggy and her not liking the person who did her face might seem like pretty minor misdemeanors, you do need to look at it from her point of view. Yes, she is your friend, but in this situation she was first and foremost your client. And the customer is always right.

Ask her if there’s anything you can do to make it up to her, and go out of your way to do anything that she might ask you. Think of something nice you can do for her to show how very sorry you are. How about a canvas print of one of her favourite wedding images? Try your very best to build those bridges.

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Dry Lake Bed Elopement: Stephanie & Sebastian

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Stephanie and Sebastian travelled from their home in Germany to have a teeny tiny elopement ceremony on a dry lake bed just outside of Vegas. The bride wore a homemade dress and headpiece, and she arranged her own bouquet with flowers from Whole Foods. They brought lawn flamingos as décor and Mexican blankets to use as props for their photos.

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“We tried to skip all the typical Vegas wedding things and keep it simple and cool”, wrote the bride “so we just head out of town! Luckily we found our wide open space in the middle of the desert and got married beside our beautiful friends. My friend played on the ukulele and sang after the ceremony which was very emotional.”

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Eighties Heavy Metal Wedding: Jill & Simon

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Well it doesn’t get more quintessential Rock n Roll than this! Jill and Simon met online and instantly connected over their love of heavy metal, eighties metal and Iron Maiden in particular. When they decided to get married there was only one way they were going to celebrate – with an all out heavy metal themed bash!

“I guess we were our own biggest inspiration for the wedding theme”, the bride began. “When we decided to actually have a wedding, all we knew is that we wanted a really cool rock party with a sprinkle of hitching. So we said ‘fuck it’ to the wedding norms and did our own thing. We created our own heavy metal matrimony full of high spirits and kick ass music. Our friends and family expected nothing less and were huge supporters of our ideas through the entire process.”

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“We both live for eighties metal and hard rock so it was only natural to try inject it into every wedding day crevice possible. Everything from the invitations, our outfits, the favours, décor, cake, music for the whole day, and dress code had rock flavour. Our cake was a Marshall Amp with dials that went up to 11. For the dress code, we encouraged everyone to unleash their inner rock star and dress with rock or heavy metal flair. We were so thrilled everyone jumped on board the crazy train and bust out the tight leather pants, tatts (real and fake), teased hair, studs, denim vests, band shirts, and rock legend impersonations. It was so incredible to see and definitely boosted the day up to a whole other level of wonderful.”

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English and Nepali Fusion Wedding: Sarah & Sudaman

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Sarah and Sudaman wanted their wedding to reflect both their cultures, English and Nepali. The reception was held at Buckinghamshire Railway Centre in Quainton. They took the space and added their own personal style to it which that meant lots of colour! Sarah wore a dress made for her in Nepal and Sudaman wore a traditional Nepalese attire also made for him in Lalitpur, Nepal.

“I moved to Nepal three years ago to teach English”, began the bride. “On my first day I was introduced to Sudaman and was advised that he was the man to go to for a party, a wild night out or help learning guitar. I called upon him for all of the above and our relationship blossomed!”

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“This was actually our third wedding ceremony, a blessing really”, she continued. “Our first two (!) ‘real’ weddings were a year ago in Nepal, one a typically Hindu, Nepali affair and the other a simple, Christian gathering. Nepal is our home and therefore part of who we are; we wanted to share some of the country’s rich culture with family and friends in the UK whilst also embracing some quintessentially British traditions.”

“So we had a country church, a steam train, local food, speeches and the me in a white dress, but walked down the aisle to a Nepali folk band, Kutumba, and the groomsmen wore topis and dhaka material ties. We had rhododendrons, Nepal’s national flower, adorning the reception tables.”

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20 Sparkly Wedding Items That You Need in Your Life. Now.

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Attention all magpies! Stop what you are doing! This is not a drill! I’ve scoured the interwebs and the archives of Rock n Roll Bride in search of the sparkliest and most obnoxiously glittery wedding related items. If bedazzling everything you own in thousands of sequins and crystals is your idea of a heaven then you’re going to LOVE THIS POST.

I’ll take one of each please.

1. Balloon garlands

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Source: Glitter and Junk Wedding

2. A to die for all over sequin dress

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Source: Gibson Bespoke

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Shotgun Waterside Wedding: Rick & Catie

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Rick and Catie had a shotgun wedding. After being together for five years they decided it was time one Wednesday night… and they were married on their friend’s waterside dock that Sunday! They spent just $600 to get hitched with the photography, catering and cake all being gifts from very generous friends.

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Catie wore a dress from Anthropologie with Target shoes. Rick’s outfit came from J Crew and Banana Republic. They were determined not to spend a fortune. “After five years together we decided to get married on a Wednesday night and held the ceremony and party that Sunday,” began the bride. I had never dreamed of a big white wedding. After being a bridesmaid four times the thought of doing that to others was less than ideal. My dress was far from white and I actually picked it out sight unseen while looking for something to wear to a friend’s wedding. I called and purchased it over the phone thank goodness one of my 20 guests lived in Raleigh and snagged it on her move back to the island Friday. It fit like a glove, didn’t need a single alteration. I think it’s funny that Rick wore white! His only stipulation was the he got to roll his sleeves so we could see his tattoos.”

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