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The Pre-Wedding Freak Out

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Dear Kat

My girlfriend and I got engaged in June and we’re getting married quickly, over Christmas this year. Having to plan a wedding is such a short amount of time is causing so much stress between us. We are mostly paying for everything ourselves and our budget is also very small, just £1000.

I am doing a lot of the decorations myself to save money, and we’re hosting it in our own house (this is all whole other stress!) My sister is making the cake and we’re catering it ourselves. We’re both hoping to find second hand or high street dresses too. I don’t know how to cut costs more than we already are but we keep fighting about the expense of everything. I’m trying to convince her I’m doing the best I can, but we still argue constantly about the wedding.

I’m worried our wedding is going to be rubbish because our budget is so small and because I’m not as naturally creative as some of my friends. I’ve been to their weddings recently and they’ve all been SO COOL. I know it’s not supposed to be a competition, but I can’t help but feel our wedding is going to be uncreative and boring in comparison.

While getting married is supposed to be one of the happiest times of your life, there’s also a whole heap of stress that can come with it. Organising such a big event (even if it’s a small wedding!) is a part of that, but today’s couples also put a lot of extra pressure on themselves to have the most unique day possible.

While our parents might have worried about what their weddings said about their status or bank balance (the bigger the better!), modern day brides and grooms have a whole other set of pressures. Now, it seems that it’s more about using your wedding to show just how damn cool and laid back you are. “Oh no, it was so easy, I just threw this wedding together in a few weeks… and oh yes and I handcrafted everything completely on my own… in my sleep. I was such a laid back bride dontyaknow? Oh this old thing, it’s just something I came up with because it’s ‘so us’!”

I guarantee that all those cool as cucumber couples will have had their own moments of pre-wedding freak out too. So first of all, don’t beat yourself up for having moments of panic. It’s perfectly normal.

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Here are just a few pieces of advice that will hopefully help you in your moments of dismay.

Realise that it’s just one day

Yes, getting married is a big deal, but as ironic as it might be for me to write on a wedding blog, it’s just a wedding. It’s only one day in your life and it’s supposed to be fun! Weddings are about celebrating your love and they’re a nice way to start married life. They are not compulsory. If you wanted, you could run off to the register office and get married quick as a flash! Everything else is just accessorising.

Just remember, how this day goes does not define the rest of your life. So chill out and stop demanding so much from yourself.

Ask for help

It’s almost impossible, especially with a low budget or DIY wedding, to do everything yourself. You are not Wonder Woman! While it’s awesome that your family are helping you with things for the wedding, I bet there are other things you can outsource too.

Even if it’s just the decorations; grab a few bottles of wine, gather your besties, and have an afternoon of crafting together. It will be much more fun than struggling with papier-mâché and sticky back plastic all on your lonesome!

You also need to ask for help from your girlfriend. Sit down with her and discuss how you’ve been feeling. Be calm and open and listen to what she has to say too. It is vital that you move forward together and you do this thing as a couple. There is a lot of “I’m doing this” in your email. It is both of your wedding days after all.

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Thursday Treats: The Excitement is Real!

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Emma Xie by Alexander Neumann  for L’officiel Paris

Happy Thursday babes! I hope you’ve all had a fabulous week, even if the weather has been as shithouse around your parts as it has been around mine. It’s definitely Autumn now huh!?

This past seven days I’ve basically been doing the same thing as last week – freaking out/ preparing for my talk at Way Up North and finishing issue 5 of the magazine. Not long now! We go to print next week and it’s on sale November 5th. I can’t wait for you to see the new issue, I’m probably going to say this every single time but I think it’s the best one yet. Yep, the excitement is real!

I don’t have a lot of links for you today. I’ve been spending most of my time manically working so I haven’t been mooching about online much, but a small selection of links is better than no links at all, right?

Weddings & Weddingy Things

15 wedding dos and don’ts
♥ Summerless south coast of Australia wedding
Colourful and creative Jewish wedding
Big Sur elopement
Relaxed theme-free wedding
Stylish Alamo Motel wedding


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Rustic, Family-Centric Wedding

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There was one thing more important to Jamie and Zach than anything else at their wedding – family. “We wanted all of our loved ones with us to make a day full of amazing memories”. said the bride. “Having our grandmothers as our flower girls was by far the best decision we made. My mother also walked me down the aisle.”

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The wedding was held at John James Audubon Center at Mill Grove in Pennsylvania. The day had a laid back, rustic theme. “All of our escort cards, place cards, favours and decorations we hand made by my sister Nicole,” Jamie continued. “I can’t thank her enough for how much time she put into everything.”

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Five Reasons Why Our Wedding Entertainment Sucked (& How You Can Avoid Doing the Same)

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There’s very little I would fundamentally change about our wedding. Sure, the styling would be very different if Gareth and I were to get married now, but in terms of how the day played out, it was petty much faultless. Except for one big thing – our entertainment.

Having never booked a live band before in my life, I had no idea what we were looking for. So when a friend of my mother’s said she went to a wedding recently where the band were “great” and they came in under the budget we’d set aside for them, I was sold. “Easy”, I thought, “that’s another thing ticked off our ridiculously long to do list.”

So our band didn’t suck completely. They knew how to play their instruments and the singer was pretty decent, but we made a couple of major mistakes when booking them which meant they really weren’t the right choice for our wedding.

1. We didn’t do our research properly

As I said, when it came to booking our band, I really just saw it as another chore that needed to be done. We didn’t do our research AT ALL. Not only did we not go and hear them play beforehand, but we didn’t so much as listen to a CD of their music. Sure, they were just playing covers and by looking at their set list we could see they could perform the kind of music we were after, but it’s a very different thing to be able to play Nirvana and to actually be able to pull it off.

Warble Entertainment are the easy option for brides and grooms who want to see lots of entertainment ideas but don’t know where to begin. On their website they list thousands of musicians covering a wide range of styles including rock, pop, jazz, swing, soul and motown. The site also allows you to search very easily by wedding theme, location, price and genre. Most importantly, you can also see and hear examples of what they do to right there on the website.

2. We dictated what they played

Another major mistake we made was giving the band a strict set list. I had an idea in my head of what kind of music I wanted (and more importantly what I didn’t want) and expected them to follow it to the letter. I completely ignored the fact that I was booking trained musicians, who’ve probably done a million performances and know way better than me how to put together a set. What a diva bride I must have seemed like!

Once you find a band or artist you love, TRUST THEM. You’ve probably booked them because you like their style, so let them do what they do best.

3. We didn’t think about the timeline

For your guests, there can be a lot of waiting around at certain points of the day, like when you are getting your pictures taken, or just before the evening party commences. So instead of leaving people to their own devices, it’s always nice to throw some unexpected entertainment into the mix!

Walkabout entertainment, such as a magician, is a great way to keep guests amused and Warble Entertainment have you covered for these too! They list hundred of unique, non-musical entertainers on their site. How about a caricaturist, lookalikes, stilt walkers, crystal ball jugglers, mime artists, lookalikes or even living trees!?

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Disney Lovers’ Bruce Springsteen Inspired Wedding

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Getting engaged at Disneyland Paris was the guiding force behind Steph and Greg’s May wedding. They wanted a day that reflected their love of all things Disney, without breaking the bank. They spent less than £6000 on their special day.

“Every time I told anyone what we were having at our wedding their response was always ‘That’s just so you two!’ and I think that really summed up our day”, explained Steph. “It’s not every day that you go to a Disney/ Bruce Springsteen themed wedding! We really just wanted everyone to feel like they were at a party, rather than a formal wedding, as it was really a celebration of us as a couple, and we’re not at all serious people.”

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“The table names were all Disney World rides that we loved and our guestbook was a replica of the adventure book from Up. My bouquet was made entirely from Disney World park maps! We wore mouse ears in the evening and had Mickey and Minnie on top of our cake. We also both love Bruce Springsteen so I walked down the aisle to If I Should Fall Behind and our band for the evening were a Bruce Springsteen tribute, The East Street Band.”

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Scaring The Shit Out of Myself in Sweden

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There are certain things that come up in my line of work that I think “You know what, I really should do this, but I’m terrified.” It happened when I quit my full time job, when I first travelled across the world on my own and when we decided to start our own publishing company… And it happened again when I was invited to speak at Way Up North, Europe’s first wedding photography summit being held in Stockholm. Although I was scared, I found myself saying yes. I mean being asked to be in a line-up with some of the most amazing wedding photographers on the planet is kind of a big deal. I would have been a fool to turn it down.

I’ve been in a prolonged state of panic ever since I signed up (am I REALLY going to do this!?) and next week it’s finally here. It’s happening. I’m flying to Sweden next Monday to speak in front of 500 wedding photographers about why they should be blogging. AND I AM TERRIFIED.

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