Wedding Perfection is a Goddamn Lie

Shane Shepherd

December 16, 2013


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You’ve been lied to. The wedding magazines, the TV shows, even the wedding blogs… scrap that, especially the wedding blogs… have been deceiving you since day one. (Wedding) perfection does not exist. There are too many variables, too many things that can go ‘wrong’. But you know what? That’s OK.

Sure, the DIY projects you’ve been slaving over may not be as perfect looking as the ones on Pinterest.

Yeah, maybe your groom doesn’t want to wear that ever so cute patterned bow tie you saw some other dude rocking on his wedding day.

Maybe it’ll rain, maybe your dress will get a little muddy, maybe your divorced parents will have a fight…


A wedding is not supposed to be Pinterest-perfect. Your wedding is not a photo shoot. Your wedding doesn’t have to get featured on a blog or published in a magazine.

The internet is stuffed full of amazing wedding inspiration and ideas. You could go back and forth right up until the day about what you’re going to do or how you’re going to make your wedding the coolest/ quirkiest/ most epic one ever… ┬áBut you know what won’t change? The person you are marrying, the vows you’ll say and the look you’ll give each other as you walk down the aisle.

Your feelings for each other won’t change if you have a steampunk wedding or a vintage wedding or a bloody unicorn walking you down the aisle (although if you are doing the latter, please send me the photos because that sounds friggin’ awesome). The most important part of the wedding will be there whatever dressing you give it – the two of you.

Your wedding is about you guys standing up in front of your nearest and dearest and promising to love each other forever.

And THAT, dear reader, is what makes the perfect wedding. The rest of it can just jog right on.