Post-It Notes – 28th October 2011: Being YOU & Commenting Correctly


Photography Credit: Nathan Russell Photography (full wedding to come next week)

I’m keeping it simple this week. You know this already but I do like to reiterate and repeat the fundamentals of the Rock n Roll Bride’s ethos occasionally.

Plan your wedding your way and forget what the rest of the world is saying you should (or shouldn’t) do. If you like something that’s ‘trendy’ in the wedding scene, who cares – rock it out. If you like stuff that would freak out most of the population then hell yes that’s got to be in your big day. If you don’t like ‘stuff’ at all then forget it.

Be you.


If you have a website or blog which you link to your business, then commenting on other people’s blogs is a great way to make connections, get involved and (hopefully) drive people to check your site out too.

However there are certain unwritten do’s and don’ts when it comes to blog commenting and it’s sometimes hard to keep up. Apart from people purposely spewing out spam comments (luckily most of which get caught by anti-spam plugins) many of the ‘rules’ that are being broken are done so by people who simply don’t know any better. So here are a few simply tips to get you started…

♥ Using your vocation instead of your real name is a big no no – logging in and commenting as ‘Wedding Photography London’ for example. Not only can your comments get accidently picked up as spam but it’s rude (if someone does this on my site constantly I’ll end up deleting their comments because it’s obviously they’re not wanting to add to the discussion, they’re simply wanting to generate some Google juice) annoying and really doesn’t help your SEO or Google rank (imagine how many other people have the phrase ‘Wedding Photography London’ in their website metadata! Google algorithems are constantly evolving and quite simply it’s nigh on impossible to ‘cheat’ your way to the top of Google by using tricks like this.

Be genuine with your comments, and if people are interested in what you’re saying, they’re likely to check out your site eventually. Your blog traffic will grown organically. I promise.

♥ Do not add a link to your own site within your comment – again it’s rude and can get picked up as spam if done over and over. Also most people won’t click it. Instead, add your blog url into the log on form and your name will become clickable through to your site instead.

♥ Don’t be rude or mean! Debate is good but out and out meanness is not. The blog owner has the right to publish or delete any comments they wish. My blog is not a democracy, it’s mine – and if your commnets are unnecessarily defamatory they ain’t getting published. No question.

♥ Sign up for Gravatar –  a globally recognized avatar system. It’s easier for people to appreciate and be familiar with a photograph of someone’s face rather than just text.

Hope this helps and happy commenting!


  1. Was so tempted to leave a comment doing all of the ‘no-no’s’ above :p

    I’ve never really thought about leaving comments to make connections and drive people over to my site – I often have thoughts about people’s blog posts but don’t bother to actually leave a comment in case people think they’re silly ideas and it actually puts them off visiting my site!

    I think I need to suck it up and put myself out there a bit more…

  2. Great advice as always, people always forget that it’s your day, do it your way! Who cares if your great-aunt-thrice-removed hates the color purple, if you want purple have it!

    Oh and I can’t wait to see the full spread of photos from that gorgeous wedding, the teaser looks amazing!!

  3. Great advice on commenting Kat.
    I’m commenting on here to do two things:
    1) Say that the photo above is awesome
    2) Test that my shiny new Gravatar picture works as per your suggestion

  4. Thank you for the wonderful advice!!
    It’s never enough, really!
    Specially when so many people around you are saying that you’re crazy, strange and things like that.
    Thank you again!! 🙂

  5. I thought i’d check to see if my Gravatar works too – thank you Kat, I always wondered how to get one! x

  6. its always good to have a reminder… there are some days when i’ve had it up to here (points to head) of people criticizing our wedding plans – coming on here make me think ‘what the hell – forget about what they are saying do it your way!’ thanks for the tips too – its always tricky knowing what to put when you are commenting – you don’t want to annoy anyone! xxx

  7. The Business Note about commenting is all good information. I seem to have inadvertently followed most of your points anyway which means it’s probably a good idea to go ahead and get me one of those global avatars! Thanks for the tip!

  8. Wee kat, Only last week I was thinking how do they get them there little pics up?? I nearly wrote and asked but I thought you might think STALKER, but you read my mind…so you Stalker!!
    Now will it work, If so thanks kat are a clever lady x

  9. Thanks for this – Months ago, when I was a newb to the wedding blog world, I was terribly jealous of those Gravatar commenters and couldn’t figure out how they did it! I know the etiquette of commenting must seem so obvious, but it’s a learned thing like everything else. And reminders help.

  10. I found this post very useful ! & the comments are looking great with lots of lovely pics…didn’t have one of me so went with Paddington, better than the faceless cludeo piece ! ( well hopefully, if I’ve done it right ! )

  11. I’m just getting going with my blog and find your post-it notes mega helpful, so thanks v much for doing them.

    This is also my first comment on any blog EVER where I’ve linked my name to my site this is an epic moment for my tiny fledgling blog , haha 🙂 Just need to sort out a gravatar now and I’ll be like a commenting wonder machine…

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    thats so freaky that you just commented Alexandra, im just uploading your DIY blog post to blog this week now!

  13. Thanks for all the tips Kat, I’ve just set up Gravatar so I hope it works *fingers crossed*. I have been guilty of a couple of no-no’s in the past from not knowing any better but I will be sure not to make them again!

    I love reading your blog (even though I am happily married), great work 🙂

  14. Really helpful blog, especially with the Gravatar theory.. I have just moved from tumblr to basic wordpress and its all starting to come together thanks to the post it notes! Thank you x


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