Charlie and Barney wanted a fun and laid back wedding that was all about being themselves. Their dress code was ‘come as you are’ and their invitations made it clear that it was going to be a party wedding! “We got everyone drunk by 3pm because of the Jagerbombs”, Barney wrote. “By the time the DJ started in the evening, it felt like a giant house party, which is what we always wanted.”
“Almost everything was unusual”, he explained “and the most important thing for us was to make it a true reflection of our personalities (we are somewhat known amongst our friends for throwing parties, for always being the last ones standing on a night out, and for enjoying a Jagerbomb or five). We were also determined that no one should be bored. Charlie wanted it to be a handfasting ceremony, which started to shape the day because it meant we would have two ceremonies. The first was a small, very intimate and very secret civil ceremony in the morning, attended by a handful of immediate family, just sat around the library of Oxon Hoath, casually perching on the sofas. It was meant to be as relaxed as possible, and despite Charlie turning up half an hour late, it was surprisingly stress free!”
Jason and Alexis’ home grown wedding was held at at The Sargent Center in Hancock, New Hampshire. They wanted a weekend long affair, with all their guests camping and staying with them. With the bride being a writer, the wedding had a literacy feel. She wrote the ceremony herself their were book and poetry references throughout the wedding.
“Home grown and alternative are the first words that come to mind”, began the bride when I asked her about their theme. “We wanted something different, while still appealing to older family members and those who expected a more traditional wedding. Most of our friends have been married in the woods, in fields, in barns, so this was expected for their inner circle, but their families were blown away by the whole weekend affair.”
“As a writer, I wrote the ceremony, which consisted of quotes from Harry Potter and Hugo’s Les Miserables. For their vows, we took turns reading from the children’s book, I Like You by Sandol Stoddard, a book which I had given Jason several years ago.”
The couple really wanted to put themselves into their wedding, with nods to all their favourite things throughout the weekend.
Aaron and Cariad were hitched at Willesborough Windmill in Ashford, Kent. They fell in love with it as the owners were super laid back and allowed them to do whatever they liked! Their day was fun, casual and all the colours of the rainbow.
“We actually got married on the weekend of our 10 year anniversary”, began the bride. “Our inspiration for the wedding was just to be unique and alternative. When we started planning a wedding we soon realised there was no way we could afford a venue big enough to house everyone we loved, so we invented this thing called The Wedding Tour. We got married at the windmill with our close, local family and friends and then we packed up all the decorations and took the reception on tour!”
“We had parties throughout the rest of the month, which was cool because we got to wear out wedding outfits a bunch of times and had four colourful wedding cakes! It was a bit more money on top (but nowhere near as much as a big wedding in a venue that asked for £3000 just for hire) and it was more tiring that we had expected, but we definitely got more quality time with guests and made a lot more memories than if it was just one day.”
DIY Village Hall Wedding
There are a few things about planning a wedding that can come as a bit of a surprise. Things you just assume are one way but you then find out are actually completely the opposite! So to try and eliminate those “What the hell..?” moments, I thought I’d tell you about them right now!
Here are some things you might not know about weddings.
1. The confetti shot will need to be staged
Those fabulous, spontaneous looking confetti shots outside the ceremony – all totally staged. I don’t know why I assumed these would just happen, but no, they need to be set up by your photographer. Not least of all because you normally walk back up the aisle and leave the room before your guests do!
If you’re doing a confetti shot, your photographer will organise your guests once they’ve all come out. You’ll then go back inside and walk back out again – ta da! spontaneity at it’s pre-staged best!
The other thing worth noting for this iconic shot, is that if you want it, you’ll need to provide the confetti. Some guests will bring some, but most of them will forget. Oh, and when it comes to confetti always remember, the more the better!
2. If you want to provide your own booze you’ll have to pay for the privilege
Corkage? What the eff is that about?
If you want to try and save money by bringing your own alcohol into your venue (instead of buying it from them) you’ll have to pay a fee per bottle to do so. I think it’s usually around the £10 mark, which means that your £3 bargains from your booze cruise to France no longer seem like such a cheap alternative after all.
If you find a venue that doesn’t charge corkage then book them immediately I say!
3. You need to apply to be married at least 16 days in advance
In England and Wales you need to give notice to marry at least 16 days in advance at your local registry office. Your dream of rocking up to the court house and saying “I do” that same day isn’t actually possible. If you want a church wedding the notice period is even longer. The Church of England required that the banns of marriage are read at four consecutive Sunday services before they can legally marry you.
4. Children cost just as much as adults
It happens to the best of us. You see your dream purchase, something you’ve been searching out for ages… and then you see the price – YOWZER, that’s nearly a mortgage payment right there! Ugh, why do bad things happen to such good people?!
I had the idea for this post when I fell in love with these babies. So pretty but soooo expensive! Someone on Facebook said I easily do a DIY version (genius!) but first I needed to find a similar base shoe.
I pulled together this post but then I started thinking… maybe I could help you out in the same way? If you’ve seen something you love on your wedding planning travels, but it’s way out of your budget, shoot me an email and I’ll see if I can find you some more affordable options.
Let’s kick this baby off with a few more silver shoe (my current obsession) alternatives.
Jimmy Choo Trey wedges vs ASOS Polished pointed wedges
Kate Spade Andrea Sandals vs Boohoo Becca snake thong
While planning their colourful and DIY heavy wedding for May this year, disaster struck. Stu and Lisi’s flat burnt down, bringing with it nearly all of the things they’d collected for their wedding so far! Starting over must have been massively stressful, but they were still able to pull off the DIY wedding of their dreams in a relatively short time frame!
“Our theme was colourful boho, with a little vintage inspiration”, wrote the bride. “We love boho décor, and we needed to have loads of colour to match our personalities. There are a lot of boho themed weddings recently, but very few that incorporate so much colour and vibrancy. We aimed for fuss free décor, and we had to have flowers, flowers and more flowers. The more colour the better, and you can see from our wedding cake that we carried through that notion from décor to food!”