Kristin and Eric were married on 28th December and so they wanted their wedding to have a festive, gilded vibe. They day was held at 1927 Events, a historic space in Seattle. “The time of year really guided our choices”, wrote the bride. “We always wanted a wedding close to the holidays, so we really went for a romantic cocktail and dinner party vibe rather than a wedding. We wanted it to feel really informal instead of the traditional agenda burdened wedding.”
“I’ve had several people tell me how connected they felt to Eric and me that night and that they weren’t just audience members watching from afar”, she continued. “That made me feel like our wedding was so special. In fact my favorite thing about our wedding was how much me and Eric just felt like hosts of a great party celebrating our marriage. We wanted to create a party for people and not a formal gathering. We cherished all our guests and wanted them all to feel important, and also have an amazing time. ”
If you’re getting married in America during 2015 then you’re going to want to pay attention to this! Brazilian photographers Grasi and Dani of Rocker in Love have spent the last eight years conquering the Southern American market, but have recently decided they want to expand and have a play north of the border. So, they’ve decided to embark on an epic year-long tour, around the United States, shooting weddings as they go!
The reason I’m so excited to share this with you today is because they particularly love working with alternative couples who want to have fun with their wedding photographs. They love pushing themselves to be as creative as possible, they’ve even recently started creating amazing cinemagraphs for each of their lucky couples. Like, whoa:
Starting in Florida in January, Grasi and Dani are going to travel all around the US for the whole year, wrapping up in Alabama in December. Although they have a rough itinerary of where they want to go and when, their dates are completely flexible. They’re travelling around in a motor home and so are more than willing to make a quick detour if your dates don’t exactly match up.
At the end of the tour, they plan to publish photos from each wedding in a book about American weddings. Amazing!
Most of our friends now have children. If we invited them all to our wedding there would be nearly 35 kids, we were only planning a guest list of 75 and don’t know how to let people know without upsetting them. We know some people will struggle to get sitters but I’m worried it will turn into a screaming child frenzy if we invite them all. Do we do a blanket no children or invite some, the ones we are closest to and risk upsetting people on the day? Added complication is my two nephews will be there who will be 1 and 3 and my flower girl who is 6. Any help/advice appreciated! – Sarah-Jane
Sarah, I completely empathise, this was the exact situation we had with our wedding too! While we didn’t have a flowergirl or ring bearer, we did have a couple of nieces and nephews there, but chose not to invite our friend’s children.
I want to kick off my reply by saying I am not anti-children, or criticising people who choose to have them, but they’re not really for me. While some people can’t imagine their wedding without kids running around all day, I certainly fall into the camp of those who can.
Although proper wedding etiquette states that unless there is a +1 on the invitation, only people whose names are on the invite should actually rock up, there will always be some people who ignore, or don’t understand, this and will assume their whole brood is more than welcome. To avoid any potential confusion we phoned our friends with kids to explain the situation outright. Pretty much everyone was fine with this, and some were thrilled to have a night away from their sprogs! Babysitters for the win!
If you’re struggling to figure out how to explain why some children (like your flowergirl) are invited but others (like your work friend’s three little darlings) are not, then you can always cite ‘budget constraints’, or ‘space limitations’ as the issue, even if it’s not true.
Shaun and Samantha wanted a casual wedding that would reflect them as a couple. They opted for a modern, urban location, Hotel 64 on Gordon, in the heart of Durban. “We decided on the casual route, canapé food served all night, cocktail tables rather than table settings and a constant string of all types of music”, began the bride.
“We also served frozen margaritas instead of ‘headachy’ champagne and had a black, bronze, copper and gold colour scheme. It all really came together beautifully. The flowers were causal collections too, with no table being the same! We created an enchanted bubble for ourselves that night. We really could have been anywhere on Earth!”
Jess and Matt were married at a cemetery. Although this might sound a bit ‘weird’, they thought it was anything but, “Many people get married in a church, and pretty much all churches have graveyards so our venue was not too far from the ordinary when you think about it”, Jess said. “Arnos Vale is a place we hold deep affection for, so the surroundings were the focal point and the building was an aside.”
“As neither of us are religious or keen on upholding tradition were very eager to do things our way, creating a day that was so obviously ‘us’ every step of the way”, she explained. “We only the kept the traditions we want and threw out those we didn’t. We got dressed on the morning of the wedding together – we get ready with each other every time we go out, trusting each other implicitly to be honest about how the other looks. We are each other’s mirror, so to get dressed with anyone else would’ve started the day on completely the wrong note.”
I get a lot of emails from readers asking for wedding planning advice and recommendations. My inbox bulges with them! Rather than replying to them all one by one, I’ve decided to try something new… and a little bit scary!
On Sunday 29nd June at 4pm GMT I’l be hosting a LIVE online Q&A session where I’ll try my darnedest to help you navigate the tricky world of wedding planning! Whether you need some supplier recommendations, ideas on where to find the most amazing sparkly shoes, help resolving a family drama or just some feedback on your fabulous theme idea, I’m your gal!
No question is too big or too small, and even if you don’t have any specific things you want to ask me, I hope it’ll be a fun way to break up an otherwise boring Sunday afternoon.
To RSVP to the event simply visit my page on Google+. You can also submit your questions ahead of time by hitting the Q&A button, or you can ask them live as we go along. I’ll be with you for about an hour, and I’ll try and fit in as many questions as physically possible in that time. Eeeek!