Why You Should be Hated: A Guest Post by Chris Barber

Perhaps supported by some kind of celebrity culture, but it seems to be widely accepted that in order to be deemed as ‘successful’ in mainstream society you have to be liked by as many people as possible. You have to have a certain number of ‘likes’ on your facebook page. You need as many followers as possible on twitter and your most recent blog post is only as strong as the number of comments that sit at the bottom of it. While this is not all together wrong, I’d like to start thinking about the other side of the coin for a minute.

Think of someone you admire. Someone that is regarded (by you) as successful. It doesn’t matter if they’re successful financially, creatively or because of their social status, but that same person that you obsess over is certainly also going to hated by someone. Not just disliked. Hated. It almost seems a given these days, that in order to really make a difference, you have to ruffles some feathers… and as well as connecting with some people in the way you present yourself you will, in turn, repel others.

I like Freddos. There’s people out there who hate Freddos. OK, bad example. Everybody loves Freddos. But you get my drift. There’s people in every walk of life who cause a stir. They make, say or do something that people oppose. History is crammed with examples of people who took a stand for what they believed in.

Martin Luther King, Shakespeare, Avedon, …Kat (!!)

Led Zepplin sounded like Led Zepplin. Picasso always painted like Picasso. All of these people have faced ‘haters’ at some stage in their lives and careers. Usually because they’ve challenged convention, gone against the grain, took a stand, created something new or stood up for what they believed to be right. They spoke in their voice and broke a silence.

These people exist in creative industries, too. They’re the ones who ignore everything that’s going on and create the work that they ‘feel’. Personally I think doing this contributes to what separates an artist from any other wedding vendor and even if I don’t always agree with what they say, do or stand for, I admire them greatly for it.

Despite my best attempts to avoid it, my work has hit criticism in the past from photographers with a very different approach to my own. In turn this has has made me question whether I should make changes to my approach based on their taste and their vision or to keep developing my own style. I’m pleased to report that after much soul searching I chose the latter!

“How many haters does it take to change a lightbulb? None. They fear change, even if it can make the world a brighter place” – Unknown

It’s OK to be hated. In fact, it’s a ruddy good job that you’re hated. If you’re being hated for the work you produce it means that you’re doing something different. It means that you’re singing in your own voice and that people are responding to your work (even if it is negatively). If you’re not being hated you may be too busy blending in or playing catch up with those who are.

In history the most unique concepts are the ones that constantly came under fire and were are deemed ‘unsuccessful’ at the time. For example, The Beatles were rejected by HMV, Columbia and Decca before eventually being signed by Parlophone. The Beatles then wen