Melyssa and Emily met on the internet in 2005 – back when it was the scary way to meet people! Emily was in America and Melyssa, Australia – they exchanged emails and the rest, as they say, is history.
When it came to planning their September wedding, they wanted a day that felt intimate, light-hearted and as if they were just chilling out in their lounge. With a $9,000 budget, they set about to create just that. Firstly they found their ceremony venue – Blenheim Beach Reserve in Vincentia, NSW, and then they hired an AirBnb just up the road for their reception.
The whole thing was planned in just a few weeks – with Emily’s family deciding to come out on holiday from the U.S with little notice, the couple jumped at the chance of having both their families on one continent and planned it quickly.
They brought the lounge vibe into their ceremony by hiring mismatched chairs, rugs and a coffee table to set as their backdrop. They walked down the aisle together with their three children; having been together for 15 years already, they didn’t want to walk down separately, and wanted to begin their union as a family unit.
Another personal touch was the inclusion of a coffee during ritual; “Every decision we make, large or small, are always taken over coffee,” the couple explained. “Conversations and plans are made with a coffee first, so it only made sense that we include it in our wedding day!”
When it came to planning their August wedding, Jess and Hanna wanted to celebrate both Jess’ English background and Hanna’s Austrian one. They chose Colosseum XXI in Austria, the city where they first met, as their venue.
“We didn’t really have a theme so to speak”, they told us. “However, we chose the colour dark green and white roses and used that throughout. The bridesmaid dresses, invites, flowers and table decorations were all green and/or white.”
It’s 2020 and thinking that makeup is “just for girls” is about as old fashioned as racing to blockbuster for 11pm on a Sunday to return your VHS tapes. But, if you identify as a man or non-binary, where can you go for the best advice? YouTube is obviously a great resource and there are plenty of influencers of all gender identities rocking the most incredible looks, but for your wedding day you may want something a bit more subtle. Plus, doing a face that looks great in a highly edited selfie is very different to creating a look that lasts all day. Makeup artist Natalie Flewitt has been working with male and non-binary clients for years, and today she’s sharing some of her top tips. Over to you Natalie!
Bridal magazines are, on the whole, aimed at women and while you may see plenty of great makeup tips and product recommendations, how do you know if they’ll work for you? While obviously any person can wear whatever the hell they like, if you don’t ever see yourself or your gender represented, it can be confusing.
There are a few differences between biologically male and biologically female skin. It’s not a con or a marketing ploy when you get skincare targeted at different genders. There is often more to it than them just smelling like a rich woodland rather than a flower garden. Biologically male skin is thicker and contains more collagen (so it stays bouncier and youthful for longer), it also produces more sebum so it’s oilier with larger pores, and often has more melanin so it can have more pigmentation… Then there is obviously facial hair. With all this in mind, nothing bad is going to happen if you use face cream aimed at a different gender, but you will get better results by using a product created with your skin type in mind.
Over the years, I have provided makeup services and lessons for many people from the LGBTQ+ community and here are my top tips:
Before any good makeup artist takes a brush to your face, they will prep your skin with products specifically aimed at your skin type and condition. This is going help make your skin look amazing and make your makeup last, rather than just cover any areas of concern with a mask of full coverage foundation.
A dermatologist or beauty therapist who provides facial and skin treatments will be able to advise you of your skin type. If your budget won’t stretch to seeing a beauty therapist, an advisor in the cosmetic and skincare section of a department store will also be able to guide you. Remember, you’re not obliged to buy the products they have recommended from their counter and it’s ok to walk away if you want to think about it.
Whatever your skin type, start cleansing, moisturising, exfoliating and using treatments (such as masks, oils and serums) and SPF in the run up to the big day. For optimum results, start this at least three months before the wedding. In my experience, and whatever your skin type, cream, milk, oil, and balm cleansers are better than anything soapy and foaming, and liquid exfoliators containing salicylic or glycolic acid are more effective and kinder to your skin than the ones with gritty bits in.
Fiona and Allana wanted their summer 2019 wedding to reflect their personalities and their love story. They met at primary school (although were in different years so they didn’t really know each other) and reconnected when they both started working at the same place. Although neither of them were out at the time, they instantly clicked, knowing what they were feeling for each other was more than just friendship.
Married at The Three Kings in Falkirk, Scotland, their day was all about sharing their personalities with their closest friends and family. “We tried to incorporate little bits of our personalities all throughout the day”, Fiona told us. “Our table plan was made up of our favourite bands, some of which we had went to see live together. My favourite colour is blue, there are sapphires in both my engagement and wedding rings and that’s also Allana’s birthstone. Royal blue was our primary school colour too! Everything just fit. The day after, all our family and friends just kept saying what a great, happy, colourful day it was. I know all weddings are supposed to be, but everything just felt so right, you know?”
This April wedding was a strong female-led affair with both brides being walked down the aisle by their mothers and the cake and flowers being made by Carleigh’s. She even surprised them by putting pictures of some of their favourite people on the bouquets – those that had either passed away and were unable to attend their special day. “Carleigh’s bouquet had a photo of her dad, and Sara’s bouquet had a photo of her grandmothers who raised her”, they explained.
As they had a micro wedding with only nine guests, they were able to keep things fuss-free and inexpensive. The ceremony was led by Sara’s best friend, who is an ordained minister. Our wedding theme was ‘Metallic Fairy Dreams;”, they continued. “Our main inspiration was Sara’s pink suit which came from ASOS.”
Sara hand-painted Carleigh’s ‘Just Married’ jacket and they used an AirBnB as the location. They were pleased they were able to have their dog with them too, “Unfortunately he broke his leg the day before our wedding (and got it amputated two days after).”
This couple spared no expense to have the wedding of their wildest dreams! Harout and Rosario’s love story is like something out of a movie. They met in an LA art gallery, becoming best friends and within a few months of knowing each other, fell in love. For their winter wedding they wanted to reflect their love story and planned an opulent and glamorous day with a rich, luxurious feel. Their colour scheme was white with accents of gold.
“Our wedding theme was The Gay Royals!”, they laughed. “We dressed as modern-day gay kings, or in our head what they would look like! We really wanted a winter wonderland look but more luxurious.”