My Top Ten Most Effective Weight Loss Tips for Brides

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Hurray, you’re engaged! Have you started your pre-wedding weight loss regime yet? YOU HAVEN’T!? Oh my goodness, there isn’t a moment to lose –  make sure you read this before it’s too late!

1. Look in the mirror everyday and tell yourself you are beautiful and incredibly blessed to be marrying the love of your life. Even if you don’t believe what you’re saying at first and you feel utterly stupid even thinking about doing it, do it anyway! If you fill you brain (and your mouth!) with positive, lovely words about yourself rather than ugly and nasty ones, you’ll eventually start to believe them.

2. Realise that losing weight will not alter how you feel about yourself long term. Sure, you might get into a smaller size wedding dress, but you’ll still have the same insecurities. Instead of fixating on how you can make yourself thinner, become obsessive about working on your self-esteem and confidence instead. The results will last much longer.

3. There are no quick fixes or miracles cures. As alluring as it might sound, you won’t undo thirty years of bad choices, behaviours and habits in thirty days. So take all those magazine articles promising that shit and throw them in the bin. Or better still, have a sacrificial burning in the back garden.

4. Talk to your fiancé about how you feel. Let them reassure you that they love and want to marry you the way you look NOW (and they will, I promise!)

5. Rapid weight-loss is almost always followed by rapid weight gain. Realise that even if you do lose weight for your wedding you’ll likely end up putting it back on afterwards when you revert back to your normal eating habits. Who wants to look back at their wedding photos and think “Gosh, that doesn’t even look like me”, or “UGH I was so thin then, now I’m just a fat wife”? If you do end up losing weight then putting it back on you’ll only end up feeling bad about yourself again – it’s a vicious circle!

6. Wanting to get healthy and look after your body is a good thing, it’s not something to be discouraged. However my only hope is that you’re doing this because you want to make yourself feel better generally, not because you’re punishing yourself for being ‘bad’.

7. Take the money you’re planning to spend on that faddy diet plan and splurge on something extra amazing for your wedding. How about your dream photographer or a baller honeymoon!?

8. Buy a wedding dress that fits you. There is nothing worse than adding to the inevitable pre-wedding pressure with the worry about whether you’re going to be able to zip up your dress or not! If you do lose weight, then great! You can find a seamstress to take it in, but don’t set yourself up for failure by trying to reach impossible goals.

9. If you want to feel better in your body take up some gentle exercise, cut out the crap, drink less wine (that’s my problem!) and you will probably lose a few pounds. Wanting to lose weight to feel good about yourself is not a bad thing, but starving yourself will only make you feel terrible.

10. Two words: wedding cake.

Beautiful girl, you are a gorgeous, wondrous, unique and magical creature. There is no-one else on this planet like you. Your fiancé loves you FOR YOU and your self worth has absolutely nothing to do with your dress size, your pot belly or your bingo wings. The human body is an incredible machine, just look at all it’s done for you! It’s been working hard since the day you were born – keeping you alive, getting you from A to B, powering it’s way through every single day – so give it a goddamn break if it’s looking a little ropey around the edges!

I don’t want you to beat yourself up about wanting to lose weight, goodness knows you don’t need me making you feel worse about yourself, but please don’t fall into the trap of thinking a fad diet will solve all your problems or that thinner automatically equals better.

You are all so beautiful. Whether you’re a size 6 or a size 26, remember you are marrying someone who loves you unconditionally – yes, every last inch of you.

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25 comments

  1. Gem

    All brides to be should read this before wedding dress shopping and the inevitable “what size will you be on the day?” conversation with most wedding dress shops.

  2. Eileen Leavers

    I adore this post! So, so, SO true! A lot of pressure gets bunged on for wedding day weight loss. I pretty much did exactly as you’ve said. I focused on the day, my dream dress, and I don’t regret a single moment from our wedding. I really hope anyone feeling doubt reads this and does so whenever they need a pick me up.

  3. Laura

    Such a brilliant and truthful post. I can’t tell you the amount of drivel I’ve read online / in wedding mags generally about this type of stuff. Love your site and mag, and love what you’re doing! It’s a really positive thing x

  4. Emily

    With six months to go until my wedding this is exactly what I needed to hear! Thank you! Xx

  5. Ria

    This is great! I remember thinking about losing weight when my then-fiance and I got engaged. We had 2 years to prepare and I thought I also had 2 years to lose weight. Well, I had better things to do: planning the wedding. Had I starved myself so much, I would have been angry all the time. I DIYed most of my wedding details and it was the most stressful thing I had to do. If I cut back on calories I would have barked at everyone who crossed my path, if not, I may have passed out at some point. On our wedding day, I was at my normal weight, had my period and wore the “wrong” underwear (no Spanx here)… but it was the best day of my life.

  6. Zoe

    Genuinely adore this post! I wont let my partner get down on one knee until I reach my goal – but after reading this – and some of the posts on the FB chat MONSTER that you created 😉 – Im starting to feel a lot more positive about my body…Still a long way to go but hopefully i’ll give in soon and let him put a ring on it! Especially seeing the pictures of the B.E.A.utiful brides, and not even taking in what size or shape they are!

  7. There is WAY too much shaming of women in the media these days so this post is both powerful and necessary. Love yourself ladies, self-respect is a precondition for a successful life and a successful marriage.

  8. Georgina

    Thank you for this Kat. I’ve been going through such a conflicting set of an emotions since getting engaged; on the one hand, as an ardent feminist and believer in doing things our own way, I’ve been determined to not get sucked in to the wedding pressure of looking a certain way on the big day.

    On the other, a lifetime of body image issues have come back with a vengeance every time I think about being photographed at the wedding, or even how my (wonderful, supportive, who thinks I’m crazy for worrying) fiance will react when he sees me that day.

    It’s taken me six months to realise that instead of letting either those traditional wedding standards and pressures, or my own insecurities, get to me, I’m focusing on being happy and in love on my wedding day, which is the only thing that matters. I’m done with trying to be perfect – on my wedding day, or any other day, for that matter!

  9. Samantha lyster

    Brilliant post, and so true that the body is a machine that needs the right fuel. Think of your body as the most valuable possession you will ever own, and treat it accordingly. Health is far more important than looks, and on the day you want to have the energy to out do your guests on the dancefloor!

  10. sarah

    Thank you for this. It’s so important for people to hear it. I went through many traumas and self-inflicted pressures about this. Thankfully I really tried not to cave in to pressure (and have a wonderful husband and friends who helped me along the way when I had confidence crisis) and I was a curvy size 14 on my wedding day and I felt incredibly beautiful and loved. I actually felt really proud of myself for not dieting and just coming as me. I wanted to be a positive role model as when I saw ‘normal’ sized brides looking beautiful it really helped me to resist the call for starvation! It was a huge boost for my self esteem. It really will be the last thing on your mind ladies xxx

  11. Veronica

    Absolutely amazing post to read.
    I bought a dress that fits me, but I have daily panic attacks, worrying I’ve piled on the pounds and it won’t fit on the day! I beat myself up about my weight on a regular basis (I always have) and reading this has made me think twice about worrying so much! There is so much pressure on women, even more so when they’re becoming brides!

  12. Natalie Garland

    This is such a fab article! I got married a year ago I was so scared about going wedding dress shopping.I read so many articles about having to lose weight.. This article is so lovely to see. I went to the couture company in Birmingham they created my dream dress and our day was perfect. I felt confident and looking back the photos I’m so happy and glad that’s it’s just me being me xx

  13. Bloody brilliant. Freaking awesome advice not just for brides but for all those lovely girlies needing a boost to get their self esteem back on track. I am taking heed too 🙂

  14. Thank you for this! I worked with someone who decided to get a smaller size dress to fit into, went on the 5:2 diet and then had a dilemma over eating an apple. Women worry far too much!

  15. I went gluten free for the 6 months before our wedding and I SWEAR BY THIS. You HAVE to eat, it makes your hair and skin glow. DO not STARVE yourself!!!!! Cutting gluten and dairy really made me feel my best…. I just posted all our wedding photos on my blog.

    xx. Keltie Knight

  16. Thank you so much for this! Excellent, excellent post. This list should be a mantra for every bride-to-be!

  17. Jem

    Briefly, for a second, I thought “oh shit, now i hate RRB” thank you for this post. I wish this post could be expanded to all women. This made me SO happy! this is the kind of stuff we need more of xxx

  18. I was glad to read this post. I’ve seen quite a few Brides over the years desperately trying to create an image of themselves that they feel everyone else will like. There’s definitely nothing wrong in wanting to become a bit healthier but sometimes we forget to be happy for who who we are!! Great post!!

  19. Reading the title to this post, I honestly thought you had sold your soul!! I love that you still tell it how it should be & are a rare voice of reason in a 15-year-old-model-‘bride’-industry (we tend to forget how old these covergirls are), where retouching insecurities sometimes rates higher than just celebrating the wedding day you’ve saved for, planned & just want to enjoy. If we all just concentrate on being beautiful inside, we raditate it on the outside. Thanks, Kat – endless kudos to you. x

  20. Post author

    haha how could you doubt me Chloe!? I’m still the punk kid that started blogging about weird weddings back when we first met!

  21. laura

    Thank you for this, I’ve just emailed to my fiancé incase I need reminding! I’ve always had a turbulent relationship with my weight & actively have to make sure I don’t slip into old habits of being hard on myself & denying myself things as ‘punishment’, although I’m much better now on the whole I still struggle & have decided to avoid possible triggers altogether (heres looking at you bridal magazines!)

  22. It’s no wonder women go to great strides to look their best on their wedding day. I think proper diet and regular exercise is the best option for weight loss. Thanks for share your helpful tips 🙂

  23. Brilliant post, then true that the body could be a machine that desires the correct fuel. consider your body because the most beneficial possession you’ll ever own, and treat it consequently. Health is much a lot of vital than appearance, and on the day you would like to possess the energy to out do your guests on the dancefloor!

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