This week’s wedding Post It Note was submitted by Carina of the fabulousÂ Love Me Do Photography. I loved reading the ideas she presented in her article, some of which I’d never even thought of. We’d love to hear your thoughts and ideas for getting those boys involved in the comments section too so get those thinking caps on!
Letâ€™s face it, weddings are very ‘bride heavy’. We gush about the brideâ€™s dress, hair, shoes, and everything else feminine that goes into a wedding. But really, the wedding (and marriage) is about two people coming together; most often being a bride and a groom (Â Iâ€™ve havenâ€™t noticed this problem inÂ same sex weddings so kudos to you!)
I’m not looking into getting in a debate over men vs. women here. We can have a whole talk about equality, but that’s not what I’m getting at. I just think that it would be pretty cool if we make a little room for the guys to express themselves through the styling of the wedding. Iâ€™m talking about your wedding and how much more awesome it can be if the groom is celebrated as much as the bride. In a sea of frilly decor, I can barely see the groom and I silently say to myself, â€śWhere has your manhood gone?â€ť
Maybe most guys arenâ€™t into picking out the flowers, and they donâ€™t need things like their hair and make up done, so thatâ€™s understandable. But most of the grooms Iâ€™ve interacted with have a great sense of style and are quirky and fun. Also most grooms Iâ€™ve met are so in love with their brides, that theyâ€™ll agree to anything as far as the wedding planning goes, and that’s where I want people to stop and take a breath.
Times are changing and the metaphor of the bride as a present for the groom is being outgrown. Nowadays, instead of the brideâ€™s parents throwing a wedding for her to be sent off to the groom, couples are planning and paying for their wedding themselves. Letâ€™s make sure thereâ€™s room for some male and female style here!
If youâ€™re the bride and youâ€™re trying to figure out the planning, Iâ€™m sure you run things by your fiance for his opinion, but maybe have him be responsible for a few factors. Maybe you pick the flowers and he picks the DJ. Or better yet, pick everything out together and make sure youâ€™re allowing him to weigh in any opinions, tastes or responses. Donâ€™t just allow yourself to get what you want if he might want something a little different.
If he just doesnâ€™t have time, or doesnâ€™t have any desire to do any of the planning, how about planni