Ruby and Lukasz hosted their cat themed wedding party in October but they were actually legally married a year earlier. “We were broke, we’d just moved countries to the Isle of Man and we just wanted to get married so we eloped and got pizza afterwards!” Ruby explained. “This time we wanted a big party to share with our loved ones. Our budget for the party was £5000 which was pretty spendy for us, but I think it meant we were able to spend more on the things that really made it special like the photographer, the venue and the food.”
Although they were already legally married, they decided to have another ceremony that their friends and family could be a part of. “We thought about just having a big party but we decided we wanted to do the ceremony again too”, she explained. “The first time went so fast and felt so impersonal so we looked online for non-religious ceremonies on the Isle of Man. The IOM Freethinkers are a humanist society which embodies our own beliefs about life and spirituality so it was a perfect fit.”
The format of Jess and Tim’s wedding was pretty unusual, but it ended up really working for them. Due to some restrictions they were unaware of when they booked their date, they weren’t able to have their ceremony on the day they’d planned for, so ended up having a small intimate ceremony in February, followed by their big reception in March. Luckily they loved doing it this way around, and now have two wedding anniversaries to celebrate (bonus!)
“We think keeping the ceremony private for immediate family and throwing a separate party afterwards was actually really perfect for us,” said Jess, “because it gave us quality time with our family in a sentimental moment that perhaps many other guests don’t really care so much about. We both liked being able to enjoy that moment privately and it allowed us to be more present rather than stressing about the usual formalities. We were then able to mingle more freely and party with our extended family and friends in a larger and more relaxed space.”
Morgan and Stu both love autumn so they knew they wanted to incorporate autumnal colours and flowers in their wedding. Morgan also LOVES Halloween so they decided their theme should be ‘ Til Death Do Us Part’.
“I LOVE HALLOWEEN!” began Morgan, “What makes Stu such a special person is that, yes he does like Halloween, but he knows how much I love it and he lets me go with it! He didn’t want our wedding decor to be too Halloween party with blood and guts but just to stick true to the ‘Til Death’ theme.”
“We just tried to make everything about us. As selfish as that might sound, we wanted to celebrate us publicly (and legally) joining our lives forever. We didn’t try to think about if something was considered traditional or alternative. We felt pretty strongly that we would not be married in a church by a priest or pastor because neither one of us is religious. We picked our own readings for the ceremony, our own ‘I do’s’ (which came from a line from the movie, Moulin Rouge) and our own vows. Despite my feminist views, my dad walked me down the aisle but it was more about having him a part of our day. My wedding dress was mostly black and my ring is a black pearl with two skulls on either side. Oh and I had a Man of Honour instead of a Maid of Honour!”