I can’t wait to see what her dress is like.”
“I bet it’ll be underwhelming.”
“Basque waists are the mason jars of 2025. That dress will look so dated in a year.”

Planning a wedding is hard enough without also being subjected to a running public commentary. And yet, that’s exactly what’s happening on TikTok right now. Every detail is open for critique, whether it’s the dress silhouette, the centrepieces, or the way someone walks down the aisle. Not just behind closed doors, but in your own comment section, where onlookers are ready to openly judge your every decision and brazenly discuss why they don’t like what you did.

And it’s not just celebrities or influencers anymore. You don’t need a following. Any video can go viral. One short clip is all it takes to invite unsolicited feedback from total strangers. And it’s not polite disagreement. It’s brutal. Judgemental. And painfully public.

We used to say you needed a thick skin to post online. Now you need the emotional resilience of a rhino to survive it unscathed.

So, what do you do? You draw the line. You stop planning for the algorithm. You stop designing your day around what strangers might think and start protecting your peace. Share what you want to share because you love it, not because you’re hoping someone else will.

“Never complain, never explain” is a famously cold PR strategy associated with the British royal family. Say what you will about them, but in this context it’s not bad advice. This isn’t a crisis. You don’t owe anyone a statement. You don’t need to justify, apologise, or explain your wedding choices to people who will leave a mean comment and forget about you ten seconds later when they scroll to the next video.

Just remember, your wedding is not a performance. It doesn’t need to be on trend. It doesn’t need to be dissected, analysed, or approved by people scrolling on the toilet.

It just needs to feel like you. And be remembered by the people who were actually there.

The internet might convince you your wedding exists to be consumed. It doesn’t. You don’t owe anyone an aesthetic. You don’t owe anyone hauls, outfit reveals, or “my biggest wedding regret” videos. You are allowed to keep things private. But you are also allowed to share everything and anything you want without having to brace yourself for commentary from people who don’t matter. Seriously, turn off the comments if it all gets too much. You are absolutely allowed to create your own digital boundaries.

And if you do choose to share? Do it somewhere that uplifts and celebrates your weird, wonderful, rule-breaking choices (ahem… hi, yes, that would be us!) Because at Rock n Roll Bride we have always championed the outsiders and the misfits who do things their own way. And if anyone feels the need to write snark, rest assured – we’ll delete their comments and block them for you without a second of hesitation!