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Let’s Get Real About Wedding Night Sex

Your wedding night is for one thing (wink wink nudge nudge) right? Umm, actually…probably wrong. Dr. Caroline West, a lecturer in sexuality studies and host of the Glow West podcast, is here today to talk abut how your wedding night doesn’t have to be a night of passion.

Picture this: It’s been years in the planning. Your wedding day is finally over and it’s wedding night time. You slip out of your beautiful dress, allowing your new spouse to strip you of your silky, special wedding night lingerie, and you consummate your marriage. You slip into exhausted sleep, both happy at such a lovely end to the day.

Well, wake up babe because this is a fairy tale and, as we know, fairy tales don’t often match up to reality. According to a 2019 survey conducted by thevow.ie, more than half of 3030 people (52%) said they didn’t have sex on their wedding night.

Here’s the truth: you’ll most likely be drunk, exhausted, cranky, delirious or a combination of all four. You will most likely pass out the minute your head hits the pillow. Even if you do manage to have sex, it’ll probably be a quickie that isn’t exactly the fireworks you were envisioning. Those cute neck-to-floor buttons on your dress will be a nightmare for your drunken mess of a spouse to undo, and foreplay…? HAHAHA! Forget it.

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Bridesmaid 101: The Evolution of the Wedding Party

Bridesmaids have been getting a bum rap recently. A modern bridesmaid wears many hats. Party planner, counsellor, keeper of secrets… Let’s be honest, they’re basically a one-woman version of the Queer Eye team, and for that, I fucking salute them!

But when did these close friends go from ladies who turn up to the church on the day in a nice dress (exactly what our mother’s bridesmaids would have done) to pre-wedding slave friends? Emotional punching bags that organise everything from strippers to destination getaways, people who by some people’s measures are expected to go into debt to pay for a dress and talk you off a ledge when the napkins that you ordered are delivered without the lacy imprint?

I am hoping you aren’t that kind of bride (of course you aren’t, you’re a Rock n Roll bride!), but the evolution of the bridesmaid has been swift, and I think rather brutal.

In ye olden times, a large group of bridesmaids provided an opportunity for showing off the bride’s families social status and wealth – the more you had, the higher up the ladder you were. The bridesmaid tradition originated from Roman law, which required ten witnesses at a wedding to outsmart evil spirits believed to attend marriage ceremonies (otherwise known as your future mother-in-law! Boom-tish! Sorry). The bridesmaids and ushers dressed in identical clothing to the bride and groom, so that the evil spirits wouldn’t know who was getting married. So, it has a bit of history.

Many of our modern wedding rituals are based on traditions, superstitions and social oddities. When you break them down, they are fairly naff. Unless you’re part of the Kardashian clan (and even that’s a stretch), you’re probably not focused on the symbolism and social hierarchy of the bridal party and the only evil spirit that may mar your day is tequila.

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A Decade in Wedding Trends: From Vintage Tea Cups to Food Trucks, a Nostalgic Look Back at the Last Ten Years

Batsheva Hay

A brand-new decade is here and it’s made us come over all nostalgic. Rock n Roll Bride was launched in 2007, so we’ve seen a hell of a lot of wedding themes and trends come and go. With the help of our friends at Most Curious (who are pretty darn excellent at predicting trends IMHO) we thought it would be fun to look back at the last ten years and have a bit of a laugh at our own expense. For your viewing pleasure, here’s a nostalgic glance back at the last decade in wedding style.

The 2010-2012 Starter Pack

Top row:: Princess Lasertron, David McNeil Photography, Tux & Tales Photography
Middle row: Elizabeth Rose Events, Emma Case Photography
Bottom row: Little Photography Studio, Sally T Photography, Shell de Mar Photography

Taxidermy was your go-to table centre, with no question of ethics (or taste) regarding the stuffed roadkill squirrel that was holding your table names. Wedding dresses went tea length and 50s inspired and you definitely need some kind of miniature hat, chin length birdcage veil or heirloom jewellery to complete your look.

Real flowers are not needed in an age where bouquets could be made of buttons or brooches and guest books are drunkenly written via much bashing of keys on fusty, hardly working typewriters. Jam jars used as vases, floral bunting and gingham were the decor items of choice, Inexplicably, moustaches on sticks were also everywhere.

The 2013-2015 Starter Pack

Top row: Free People. Joanna Millington, Nick Tucker Photography, Karina Jensen
Bottom row: Ellie Gillard Photography, Modern Vintage Weddings, Alistair Vertard, Helios Images

If you were getting married mid-2010s then you’d likely have gone for a more boho vibe. Converse trainers started being worn instead of ankle-crippling heels. Your dress would have almost certainly included lace, fringing or bell sleeves, or you may have opted for one of those brand-new separates (long skirt and cropped top vibe) that were starting to make an appearance.

Feather headdresses briefly became a ‘thing’ before everyone realised what cultural appropriation was. Bridesmaids in mis-matched outfits started to gain popularity. Living rooms stared being be set up outside so that your Nan could find herself sitting on a Chesterfield sofa in a field, being brought Prosecco or ice cream from a cart. What’s not to love?

The 2016-2017 Starter Pack

Top row: Devlin Photos, Vanilla Photography, Nicki Komorowski Photography
Middle row: Dionne Kraus Photography, Ellie Grace Photography, Camera Hannah
Bottom row: Erin Wallis Photography, Camera Hannah

Gigantic flower crowns hit the big time and defined an entire generation of brides, their bridesmaids and even their dogs. Grooms, and indeed all groomsmen, all started to arrive in cowboy boots, man buns and definitely beards, with extra points for Stetsons and any other Arizona desert appropriate wear… even though your wedding was in Swindon.

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Alternative Wedding Rings for the Ultimate Non-Traditional Commitment

Rings by Iz & Co.
Photo by Devlin Photos for Rock n Roll Bride magazine

The exchanging of the rings is one of the most exciting and personal moments in any wedding. You also have to look at your wedding band every day, so making sure your rings are personal and authentically you is super important for even the most non-traditional couples. Whether you want something minimal or a ring that’s never been seen before, there are plenty of unique ring options out there.

The Great Frog

Chances are you’re already familiar with The Great Frog (and if you’re not, check them out immediately – their skull rings are legendary) but you might not know that they do their own range of wedding rings, too. All of their wedding bands can be created in silver or gold, and each is handmade for you. They have everything from the deceptively simple to more unusual geometric styles, so you’re bound to find something that speaks to you.

Sofia Zakia

One way of making sure your wedding bands are unique to you is to get them engraved. Sofia Zakia has a range of out-of-this-world wedding rings, including these utterly beautiful constellation bands which you can have etched with the constellation of your other half’s zodiac sign – I can’t think of a better way to match without really matching.

If the zodiac’s not your thing, there’s also a huge range of gorgeous rings made with different stones and diamonds, inspired by everything from goddesses to the cosmos. A ring inspired by a Greek goddess is definitely something I’m on board with.

Kipkalinka

For those of you a little more inclined to head towards the dark side, you should head over to Kipkalinka’s Etsy page. Her wedding bands are dainty but still full of character, with an amazing variety of metals and jewels so you can find something that suits your bad ass personality. Those simple skull bands would make amazing matching couples rings, whilst her various coloured diamonds would make the perfect showstopper.

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The Rock n Roll Bride Wedding Planners are BACK!

In May this year Veronica Dearly and I launched our wedding planner, something we’d been working on for the past year and were so excited to finally release to the world! It turned out you guys were pretty darn thrilled with the idea too and we sold out of all of our stock in just a 24 hours!!

We always planned to restock them as quickly as possible, but sometimes there are bumps in the road. I won’t bore you with all the details but it has taken us a lot longer than we’d hoped for to finally be able to get them back. However I am OVER THE MOON to let you know that we’re almost there!!

You can now PRE-ORDER your Rock n Roll Bride Wedding Planner and they will start shipping from mid-December. Could this be the perfect Christmas present to YOURSELF? I think so!

The planner comes in a super fancy A5 ring binder and is going to make you so damn organised you won’t know what to do with yourself. It’s like a modern day Funfax for alternative brides!

The planner is broken up into four sections: Calendar and Timeline, The Nitty Gritty, Fun Stuff and Notes. The 12 month calendar is where you’ll jot down all your appointments and generally plan your life (it’s date-free meaning you can start using it right away), and the planning timeline will let you know what to do and when. There’s even a budget checklist to keep you on track.

The Nitty Gritty section is where we get down and dirty with every aspect of the planning process. I’ve shared my tips for each important bit (from choosing your dress, writing your invites, managing your guest list and RSVPs, choosing your cake/ flowers/ decor etc) and I’ve even written you some madlibs to make writing your own vows a breeze (you’re welcome).

Plus, of course, there is oodles and oodles of space for you to scribble your notes, ideas and general wedding musings, and plenty of fun surprises along the way. Postcards! Stickers! Hilarious Veronica Dearly drawings!

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The Rock n Roll Bride Wedding Planner is Here!

Pinterest, Instagram, blogs, Facebook groups… there are so many amazing online resources to help you plan your wedding. Yet there is still something so satisfying about ripping pages out of magazines, jotting down ideas and keeping all your plans in one, offline space.

Enter: The Rock n Roll Bride Wedding Planner!

It’s time to take a welcome break from your screen and rediscover the joy of writing lists, scrapbooking ideas and keeping everything nice and organised.

I’ve teamed with my girl, stationery diva Veronica Dearly, for this and I am SO EXCITED about what we’ve created. In fact, I might just burst!

The planner comes in a super fancy A5 ring binder and is going to make you so damn organised you won’t know what to do with yourself. It’s like a modern day Funfax (OMG remember those?) for alternative brides!

The planner is broken up into four sections: Calendar and Timeline, The Nitty Gritty, Fun Stuff and Notes. The 18 month calendar is where you’ll jot down all your appointments and generally plan your life, and the planning timeline will let you know what to do and when. There’s even a budget checklist to keep you on track.

The Nitty Gritty section is where we get down and dirty with every aspect of the planning process. I’ve shared my tips for each important bit (from choosing your dress, writing your invites, managing your guest list and RSVPs, choosing your cake/ flowers/ decor etc) and I’ve even written you some madlibs to make writing your own vows a breeze (you’re welcome).

Plus, of course, there is oodles and oodles of space for you to scribble your notes, ideas and general wedding musings, and plenty of fun surprises along the way. Postcards! Stickers! Hilarious Veronica Dearly drawings!

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