Marlie and Ben’s love story is like something out of a rom-com – they met officially in 2010, but were too shy to speak to one another. They spent a few years politely waving at each other when their paths crossed, until Ben came to Marlie’s rescue while she was stuck in the pouring rain and they finally spoke. They moved in together six weeks later!
Eight years after this, they had just witnessed one of Australia’s first gay weddings and felt so moved by the experience. “We had always said we would only get married when Australia had marriage equality,” explained Marlie. “That day Ben said ‘Let’s do it’, and we cried so many happy tears as we knew it was the best decision ever!”
They wanted their wedding to be non-traditional, relaxed, fun, and very true to themselves. They didn’t set on a particular theme, just making decisions based on the things they loved to create a day that was very authentic to them.
For Marlie and Ben, this meant meant holding their day at an urban winery where all their guests could let loose and enjoy the day. It meant serving pizza on the dance floor and having a punk-rock reception. It meant choosing a photographer who got their relaxed style and didn’t make them pose for photos. It meant smashing the patriarchy and re-appropriating old traditions into something relevant to them. “For us, marriage means equality, and celebrating love!” explained Marnie. “We stayed true to our style and personalities and it went down a treat. When you realise people are there to celebrate YOU, not some weird wedding version of you but the REAL YOU, you can get on with focusing on whats important for you, instead of what you think is expected of you!”
Josi and Max wanted their wedding day to be different from every other wedding that they and their guests had attended. They took inspiration from all the things they love – fashion, art, Star Wars, Guns ‘n’ Roses, classic Viennese culture and good coffee – to create a day that was more of a big party than an elegant gathering. They just wanted it to feel very true to them.
With a €20,000 budget, they DIY’d the elements that they could, and called in the expertise of professionals and friends and family elsewhere. In lieu of flowers, the bride and her mother dressed the venue with palms, ferns and exotic leaves bought at the flower market in Vienna. “I wanted to create a 1920s feeling,” explained Josi, “so we created the arrangements ourselves a couple of days before the wedding.”
OH MY GOD, oh my god, oh my god. Let me COUNT THE WAYS in which I absolutely adore this wedding. Lusea and Nancy’s incredible wedding style just radiates on pure JOY and their day perfectly bridges the gap between tongue-in-cheek and hand-in-heart. Plus, they had McDonalds as their wedding meal. RELATABLE ICONS.
“We didn’t have a set mind of what kind of wedding we wanted,” Lusea and Nancy say, “we knew more of what we didn’t want. We didn’t care for wedding favours, fancy cars or flowers, so we didn’t have any. The things that were important to us both were our dads walking us down the aisle, and having a space where all 22 kids could run riot.”
They were even open about where in the world to get married. “After looking at a few in Cornwall, Kent and London, and even considering eloping in Las Vegas we came across The Old Dairy in Hackney. We said yes to our venue after the first visit, even though it was really hard to see what we were working with as they had a set built in it at the time. It just had the right vibe for us. We loved how raw and stripped back it was, and knew it could handle how much colour we wanted to inject into it without it feeling too much.”