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An Elegant & Funky Downtown Wedding: Shavonda & Naomi

Shavonda & Naomi both wore white for their elegant but funky wedding in Sacramento, CA. Shavonda actually wore two dresses – the first, a customised gown from WToo (loving the short front!) and for the reception a sexy short number from BCBG Max Azria. Naomi’s suit was a mix of trousers from New York & Co, a vest from Bebe and a shirt from Express.

The wedding was held at Beatnik Studios, an amazing studio space in downtown Sacramento.

“Our wedding was completely and utterly ‘us’,” Shavonda wrote. “The things we agreed upon when we first began the planning process was that we had to have the following criteria: 1. Our wedding must be reflective who we are as a couple. 2. No churches, chapels or traditional wedding venues such as country clubs, ballrooms, etc. 3. We wanted our guests to have a different experience and didnt want them to feel like they’ve already been to our wedding a thousand times before. 4. We wanted to honor and incooperate our support for the LBGT community in as many ways as possible.  5. No weekend wedding. 6. No seating arrangements, sit-down meals, or buffets. 7.  It had to be FUN!!”

“I think we did a really good job of making sure all of those criteria were met.  We ended up with a purely Shavonda & Naomi experience.  Every detail that went into planning our wedding kept our guests in mind.  We asked everyone what their favorite and least favorite parts of weddings are and then we made sure to include and avoid those things. We took all of our photos prior to the ceremony so that there was no awkward time in between the ceremony and reception.  This also allowed people to start eating right away.  We also made sure that guests were greeted with wine and champagne as they arrived so they could unwind after work since our wedding was on a Thursday night. We didn’t have seating arrangements so guests were welcome to wonder and mingle among themselves.  We also included them in our ceremony by have a ring warming so they could bless our rings and feel as if they are a tangible part of our marriage.”

“We live in California so having a taco truck was a must! Plus everyone loves street tacos and they were a huge hit with our guests.  We made sure to have plenty of alcohol so there was beer, wine and 3 different cocktail options.  As an interior design student, the decor and aesthetic of wedding was incredibly important to me.  We wanted things to be very streamlined and modern so we only used one type of flower throughout the venue other than the florals in my bouquet.  I wanted my girls in cute cocktail dresses and awesome accessories.  I gave them 7 dress options to choose from and though they all live in different cities and states, they all chose the exact same dress!  I didnt want them to carry bouquets because its too expected so we went with clutches instead.”

“My dress was my design as well.  I found a style that I liked from WToo and edited to my specifications with the help of the designers at the bridal shop.  I wanted to wear designer jewelry, but knew I could never afford it, so I borrowed it at a fraction of the cost, only $40 for the week from Bag Borrow or Steal!  My wife’s ensemble was much more difficult because she didnt want to wear a man’s suit so it took us a while to piece together her wedding day garb.  In the end our wedding day was full of love, beauty and creativity.  From the venue, to the taco truck, to the attire, to the photography, I’d say our wedding was a breath of fresh air when compared to your traditional wedding.  I’d say that’s pretty darned Rock n Roll!”

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A DIY, Lesbian Wedding: Natalie & Sarah

Natalie & Sarah were married at El Rio, a bar in San Francisco. “My friend described our wedding as ‘A backyard picnic with 52 pieces of flair’. I wanted it to feel like a big huge queer love fest,” newlywed Sarah told me.

“Our wedding was Rock n Roll because it was a queer wedding first and foremost. We had so much wiggle room to shape our event to be exactly what we wanted it to be. We were able to incorporate some traditional aspects, like the ring exchange, and do away with others that had no meaning to us like a bouquet toss or smashing a piece of cake in one another’s face. Although Nat and I can’t legally get married in the state of California we’re looking forward to taking a trip to New York to do it soon! I have a full sleeve of tattoos and wanted to feel sexy at my wedding, so I opted for a short dress that showed off my sleeve & some cleavage.”

Sarah’s dress was a bridesmaid’s dress from Lula Kate which she ordered in white to save money. She also wore shoes by Jeffrey Campbell and DIY veil and jewellery. Natalie wore a hired tux from Men’s Warehouse, but to say it was a bit of a rubbish experience is an understatement.. You can read all about the drama on their blog soyourenGAYged.com.

“We were on a very tight budget, but didn’t want our guests to know it, so we tried to do everything we could to make it feel like a small intimate gathering with all of your best friends in attendance,” Sarah continued. “We also served gourmet comfort food to our guests – fried chicken, baked beans & mac n’ cheese. Yum! We also tried to keep most of our money within the LGBT community, so the venue was owned by a lesbian, our caterer was a lesbian and most people who helped out day of were all from within our community too. We decided who read their vows first by playing rock, paper, scissors and it was a huge hit.”

The couple also DIY’d a lot to save money including the flowers, “They were hand sewn by yours truly because we ran out of money and I wanted to have some damn flowers!” Sarah laughed. “I handmade my bouquet with fake flowers and incorporated some vintage pins in it that I’d asked for as a gift for my bridal shower. My maid of honor did flowers for many years, so she made their bouquets out of fake flowers we bought the day before at a store. They turned out so well – she took hours to glue all of the pearls to the inside of the red flowers.”

“Our dessert table was designed by a fabulous friend who hung some of the desserts from a tree. Almost everything at the wedding was a DIY project completed by either myself or my amazing team of friends. We did 3 first dances, so that I could get in a cha-cha with my Mom.”

“The DIY altar and photo backdrop was my favorite DIY project. I blogged about it here. The photo’s in front of it turned out so so good!”

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Gay Marriage Legalised in New York

I just woke up to this wonderful news and I couldn’t let this day pass without a quick WOOHOO to all the LGBT friends of the blog! I look forward to seeing and featuring many more fabulous same sex wedding from here on in. Go New York!

Plus, this photo blew me away…I would have loved to see this is real life.

Photography Credit: via neighborhoodr

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Michelle & Deborah’s Romantic Parisian Themed Wedding

Michelle & Deborah’s touching ceremony was one of the main reasons I wanted to share their wedding with you all today. Quite apart from all the beautiful and individual details the couple put into their day, the readings and poems that they selected for their ceremony made this wedding really special and signified their relationship perfectly.

They chose Shakespear’s Sonnet 116, a section from the children’s book  “I Like You” by Sandol Stoddard and “I carry your heart with me” by E.E Cummings for their vows. Finally, in order to include the fight for equality, they read the Massachusetts ruling on marriage. They thought it was so simple and basic and spelled out what marriage meant to them in a perfect way.

“FROM GOODRIDGE V DEPT OF HEALTH (Mass. 2003): Marriage is a vital social institution. The exclusive commitment of two individuals to each other nurtures love and mutual support; it brings stability to our society. Without question, civil marriage enhances the “welfare of the community.” It is a “social institution of the highest importance.” Civil marriage is at once a deeply personal commitment to another human being and a highly public celebration of the ideals of mutuality, companionship, intimacy, fidelity, and family… Because it fulfils yearnings for security, safe haven, and connection that express our common humanity, civil marriage is an esteemed institution, and the decision whether and whom to marry is among life’s momentous acts of self-definition….It is undoubtedly for these concrete reasons, as well as for its intimately personal significance, that civil marriage has long been termed a ‘civil right’.”

“We just really liked the definitions of marriage,” Michelle explained. “Again, we chose our readings because they all held a significance in what marriage should be regardless of legal status (strong and steadfast, childlike at times, a basic human right, always honest, the beauty of partnership).”

The couple had been lucky enough to spend some time in Paris so chose a Romantic Parisian theme for their wedding. The croquembouche (cake) was a nod to their love of French culture and flamboyant presentation. They even cut it with the traditional sword.

“They choose the perfect location – the elegant Astin Mansion – they also did the table flowers and catering,” photographer Katherine O’Brien continued. “Michelle said that Deborah thought that spending money on bouquets was silly when they just die a few days after so she told her she could make her a bouquet that would never wilt and thus her fabric/book flower project began. She got the newspaper flowers Etsy and mixed with her own. They also used Etsy for their bridal party gifts – each attendant got a cool vintage pinup flask and the cute cloth love birds were from The Girl in Yellow. The main wedding cake looked like a stack of books from Shakespeare to the Merry Wives of Windsor.

“Instead of favors for their guests the couple made a donation to the Pride Community Center. It  is their area’s first LGBT community gathering place and is providing a much needed resource to youth and adults in our area. At first they thought they we were going to donate to the Human Rights Campaign, but realized it was more important to give locally, and see their donation help within their own community.”

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Michelle & Deborah’s Romantic Parisian Themed Wedding

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Michelle & Deborah's touching ceremony was one of the main reasons I wanted to share their wedding with you all today. Quite apart from all the beautiful and individual details the couple put into their day, the readings and poems that they selected for their ceremony made this wedding really special and signified their relationship perfectly. They chose Shakespears Sonnet 116, a section from the children's book "I Like You" by Sandol Stoddard and "I carry your heart with me" by E.E Cummings for their vows. Finally in order to include the fight for equality they read the Massachusetts ruling on marriage. They thought it was so simple and basic and spelled out what marriage meant to them in a perfect way. "FROM GOODRIDGE V DEPT OF HEALTH (Mass. 2003): Marriage is a vital social institution. The exclusive commitment of two individuals to each other nurtures love and mutual support; it brings stability to our society. Without question, civil marriage enhances the “welfare of the community.” It is a “social institution of the highest importance.” Civil marriage is at once a deeply personal commitment to another human being and a highly public celebration of the ideals of mutuality, companionship, intimacy, fidelity, and family… Because it fulfils yearnings for security, safe haven, and connection that express our common humanity, civil marriage is an esteemed institution, and the decision whether and whom to marry is among life’s momentous acts of self-definition….It is undoubtedly for these concrete reasons, as well as for its intimately personal significance, that civil marriage has long been termed a 'civil right'."

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Kelly & Dani’s Same-Sex, DIY, Fire Dancing Wedding

I am friend’s with a lesbian couple who hope to get married one day (you should check out their cool video blog Niche Girls by the way!) so whenever I get sent beautiful same-sex weddings I always send them over to them to inspire them…and to make them cry! Kelly & Dani’s beautiful Californian wedding certainly hit the spot on the tears stakes by the way…there were floods I’m telling ya! Anyway I digress.

Kelly & Dani were married at Highland Ranch in Philo in a beautiful and intimate ceremony followed by a DIY reception at the same venue. Both brides wore Siri dresses and Fluevog shoes. The venue provided all the food but the cake was made by friends. For décor the couple chose wild flowers. “What makes Kelly & Dani Rock n Roll is that they’re both very beautiful ladies who are not afraid to profess their love to each other,” explained photographer Caroline. “They included their closest family and their dog, Trout in their celebration. They also had fire lanterns and Kelly’s sister fire danced as well as officiated the ceremony! They had a hand fasting ceremony and I personally love their coordinating dresses!”

Much love indeed. Hold back the tears everyone…

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A Sunday Kind of Love – New York Lovers

I’m hoping to go to NYC this year. I love the city but I’ve only been once, when I was 21, and I think it’s high time I did it again. So when I was sent this gorgeous video by Jonny Draper this week it got me very excited indeed.

Just sit back, relax and soak up the gorgeousness that is NYC…plus the LOVE of Karey & Kate. Huge congrats to the happy couple!

Happy Sunday everyone!

Karey & Kate’s New York Wedding from Jonny Draper on Vimeo.