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Navigating your Way through Planning an LGBTQ Wedding

It's 2020 and so planning an LGBTQ wedding shouldn't be any different to planning a straight one. While there have been HUGE, incredible strides made all over the world in the last few years, parts of the wedding industry are still (STILL!) outdated and hetro-normative as fuck. Hayley of Wedding Business School has recently set up a FREE online course for wedding suppliers to help educate and improve the lack of inclusivity and diversity she's personally experienced. Today she's sharing some practical tips and advice on how you can best navigate your wedding planning when you are an LGBTQ couple, too. Hayley, we love you! Over to you...
It’s 2020 and so planning an LGBTQ wedding shouldn’t be any different to planning a straight one. While there have been HUGE, incredible strides made all over the world in the last few years, parts of the wedding industry are still (STILL!) outdated and hetro-normative as fuck. Hayley of Wedding Business School has recently set up a FREE online course for wedding suppliers to help educate and improve the lack of inclusivity and diversity she’s personally experienced. Today she’s sharing some practical tips and advice on how you can best navigate your wedding planning when you are an LGBTQ couple, too. Hayley, we love you! Over to you…

Yay! You’re engaged! No doubt you’ve already started pinning inspo to your Pinterest board, started discussing who would make a great ‘I Do’ crew and thinking about venues. You may have both already faced some ‘opinions’ from family and friends on what they feel you should do for your wedding day. As an LGBTQ couple planning your wedding, you may notice as you go along that things are a little different for you both. Now, of course, it definitely shouldn’t be like this, but in a day and age when we still need Pride and LGBTQ awareness, things may be challenging sometimes. The great news is that you can definitely overcome any challenges with some prior contingency planning!

My wife and I got married last year and even though I’ve worked in the wedding industry for 13 years, I was still a little taken back, to put it mildly, at some of the challenges we faced… And I’m not even talking about the reaction to the relaxed ‘dress code’ we had either! We found ourselves regularly educating our family, guests and wedding suppliers on what we wanted and how to be fully inclusive. This took us back as you can imagine – who would have thought that in 2019, the wedding industry could still be so LGBTQ exclusive?

One of our bridesmaids bought us a pile of wedding magazines when we got engaged (not Rock n Roll Bride I must add!) As we sat down to go through them, I noticed a similar theme; none of them had any LGBTQ content whatsoever. How could I relate and plan my wedding using these magazines that were outdated in their view of modern day weddings? Blogs were a saving grace for us and showed us ‘real world’ weddings that were full of originality, inclusivity and diversity, rather than the well staged photo shoots featuring the same ‘Mr and Mrs’ narrative.

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Casual meets Rock n Roll Winter Destination Wedding in Ireland

Americans Sean and John chose to travel to Ireland with a gang of family and friends to get married at Lisnavagh House in County Carlow. With the wedding being in February the weather was pretty insane – they even got a surprise snowstorm! They had a dress code of black and green which worked really well as it made for some really dramatic photos.

The theme was very much influenced by the season and location of the day. They wanted it to feel intimate, casual and fun with an edge of rock ‘n’ roll. “We were inspired by who we are as people for the wedding theme”, they told us. “We are from Los Angeles and flew across the world to get married. We are gay and we also didn’t have a traditional wedding party.”

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Victorian Cabaret with a Bisexual Colour Scheme

Sebastian and Ramesh were married at Wilton Music Hall, a music hall with original cast iron pillars, balcony and decor in Whitechapel, London. Their choice of venue is what really set the theme for the day.

“Our theme was ‘Victorian cabaret with a bisexual colour scheme!’” the couple explained. “A lot of it started with the venue, Wilton Music Hall. Since we had a genuine Victorian music hall to work with, it seemed like it would be a shame not to take that and run with it.”

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Seventies Western Elopement on the Outskirts of Las Vegas

Listen, if loving Vegas elopements is wrong then I don’t ever want to be right. When Audrie and Morghan decided to get married, they knew early on that a big, fancy, expensive wedding was not for them. They wanted to do things entirely on their own terms (and on their own!) and so Vegas was the perfect spot for them.

Inspired by (in their own words) sexy, seventies vintage cowgirls, they planned their wedding with a $5000 budget (which included the honeymoon!) and a goal to have a wedding that would kick their marriage off as they meant to go on.

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Colourful Yet Casual King’s Road Celebration

Mike and Markus wanted an easy-going wedding. To them, that meant shunning a lot of tradition and having only friends there, no relatives at all. They chose Chelsea as their location as Markus’ parents got married there and because it’s one of the favourite neighbourhoods in London.

“It sounds like a cliché, but honestly I would say that all the people that came together on our day made our wedding what it was, “Mike explained. “Many of our guests had never met each other before or even spoke the same language (since they came from many different countries just to be with us). There was only 40 guests but 14 different languages all together and they all came from eight different countries! As we are an international couple, I would say that our wedding was an urban modern multicultural event and a reflection of the current society that we live in.”

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Gender Fluid Scottish Wedding at the Venue Where they had their First Date!

Chris and Douglas were married at the same place that they went to on their first date and got engaged at, Cromlix House in Kinbuck (owned by Andy Murray!) They had a four year engagement but planned the wedding itself in just three months,

An unconventional couple, not only is there an age difference but Chris is also gender fluid, meaning sometimes he’s Chris and other times she’s Fiona. That and the fact Chris and Douglas both love to express themselves through fashion, meaning they wanted truly unique outfits to say their vows in. They both worked with Ansar Rahman at Atelier Rahman. Chris’ was a suit and full length train combo! He also chose to wear a full face of make up on the day with a specialist makeup artist attending.

“90% of the time when I socialise, I’m Fiona”, Chris told us. “I chose not to dress female for our wedding for a combination of reasons, primarily wanting to be seen how the majority of my family know me (elderly relatives/my two young sons). I also wanted to have our photographs showing me as Chris, with that added flair of make up and a bespoke outfit showing some feminine aspects. My bridesmaid Rachel in the full length blue dress is also gender fluid and my closest friend, being my support on the day.”

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