This elephant themed, vegan love-fest wedding makes me so happy! Abigail & Zak actually got married last October so this wedding was really a celebration of their love and partnership involving all their friends & family.
“We wanted it to have a theme of elephants, loyalty, and compassion” they told me. !That’s why we had the paintings of our parents there and also why our “favors” were gifts bought from heifer international (bees and trees) in our guests’ honor. The most important part of our vision was that we were already married last October, so we didn’t want to pretend this was something it wasn’t. We wanted it to be a celebration of our partnership, and our friend who introduced us was our celebrant at the party. We did our vows in the past tense, and most importantly, we wrote and read our marriage manifesto about what partnership and marriage means to us.”
“We had an all vegan snacks and dessert buffet (we wanted to be able to eat everything at our own wedding!) we used as many local products (flowers, beer, etc) as possible. Our cake was homemade by a good friend. We had no strangers there, which was important. Friends catered, photographed and bartended.”
“Since between us we’ve lost three parents, rather than have photographs and candles (which seemed a little funeral-y) we had a good friend who is a local artist do portraits of our parents so that they would be recognized there, but in a more lighthearted way. We also incorporated heirlooms and special items from our grandparents and parents in the decorations.”
Architects Sybil & Jon planned an outdoors, Robin Hood style wedding – complete with campfire, archery and tents – at the bride’s parent’s house, for July 30th this year. Jon explained that they wanted the ‘feel’ of the wedding to be similar to the scene in the woods from the original film of Robin Hood. They wanted everything to be relaxed and very informal and so had tractors as their transport, a folk band and a rustic, natural style of flowers. “Sibyl was very keen to use English flowers and wanted them to look like they had been picked from the garden.” their wedding planner, Kate told me. ” Anne Bell sourced the flowers from a walled garden in Hertfordshireand created beautiful colourful arrangements in jars on each of the tables along withbouquets for Sibyl and her bridesmaids. The church was decorated witha stunning candle stick display and pew end arrangements tied with raffia. As an added touch the couple also quickly decorated the tractor!”
Sybil wore a dress that had originally belonged to her Grandmother and that her Mother had actually worn for her wedding as well. It was a ‘day dress’ which was made from embroidered linen that she brought in Jamaica when she lived there in 1948. The bride’s mother then altered the dress into a top and skirt and wore it on her wedding day in 1973. The bride’s mother then altered the dress again with a slightly different mid-drift section for Sibyl to wear. Sybil teamed this very special gown with a Jenny Packham headpiece and sandals by Charlotte Olympia, in Lois leopard print. She also wore an antique watch which her Mother had given her as a gift as which had also belonged to her Grandmother.
There is always a lot of chatter around blog land about details details details. Photographers are obsessed with getting couples with detail-heavy weddings so that the blogs and magazine will want to feature them. While this is true (after all wedding blogs and mags are primarily read by brides-to-be who want to see weddings with ideas they can steal for their own big day) do you ever think that this obsession to have a ‘blog-worthy’ detail heavy wedding might be a little excessive?
I’m not one to slag aaaanybody’s wedding off but I do see some weddings circulating around blog land that just seem so…well…contrived. Like a circus almost. Like a made-for-blogs-wedding-circus. The results are pretty much always gorgeous and inspiring but do you ever look at weddings like that and feel depressed or inadequate about your own wedding?
I wonder sometimes if a lot of us have actually forgotten the whole point of the wedding in the first place. Two people, in love standing there saying “I Do”. That’s it. That’s what’s important. Lets not forget that.