Reunited ten years after dating as teenagers, Ellis and Bekki’s paths crossed again at a nightclub, and as Bekki told us, “That was that!”. They married at The Barns at Lodge Farm in Epping, with a wedding that was totally in line with their laid back country lifestyle, but with a touch of glam. Defying wedding traditions, the couple did their day their way, with no first dance, no cake cutting, and elements that reflected their characters, with lots of music and a laser pigeon shoot.
Ellis and Bekki used the venue to influence their theme and colour palette. Neutral tones and natural fabrics accentuated the boho vibes, with a stunning macramé backdrop by The Knot Tribe as the centrepiece of the ceremony.
With a budget of £15,000, they borrowed props from their own and friends’ homes and used vintage bottles with sprays of gypsophila as well as candle sticks, vases and table linens. Pampas grass displays were made by Holly & Ivy Flowers, and a friend loaned some rugs to create an aisle. Bekki placed all the décor with help from a friend, to ensure the room was exactly how she has envisioned it. She told us, “It was an absolute mish mash of borrowed items and charity shop purchases. We pulled in loads of favours and saved thousands.”
If you’re not aiming for a day full of fun when you plan a Las Vegas elopement, you’re not doing it right! Jeff and Nikki put the emphasis firmly on having a good time, tossing convention aside and customising every part of their day to celebrate their quirky passions. With Elvis officiating at the Graceland Chapel ceremony, the couple crafted a wedding day that was fun, low maintenance and completely on-brand for them!
Jeff and Nikki managed to keep the whole thing secret from friends and family back home, which sounded fun at first, however Nikki explained, “At first, an elopement sounded ideal: to whisk ourselves away from our everyday lives and have a fun weekend getaway, returning to shock our family and friends with our surprise wedding. However, as the time got closer, I started feeling guilty for hiding such an exciting event from my close circle because I was so thrilled, it was hard to contain my excitement.” But a secret elopement gives a certain feeling of freedom, as she added, “We loved not having to worry about traditional expectations or coordinate for anyone other than ourselves and our two witnesses.”
A chance meeting in a San Francisco gallery set Shannon and Trevor on course for a unique and chic rock and roll wedding under the glorious Californian sun. They wanted to make sure their day didn’t feel like an uptight affair, rather a party they wanted to hang out at with their friends and family. With live music and no sit-down meal, Shannon and Trevor stuck to their motto of “Do whatever you want”.
Trevor is a musician and, having missed enjoying music with friends throughout the pandemic, their wedding day celebrated the return of rock and roll. They chose the Phoenix Hotel as their venue, a favourite of music lovers. Shannon told us, “The venue already has a rock and roll theme with a large record collection and a great outdoor area with a whimsical feel.” And with fire pits, a pool and strings of lights and paper lanterns to dress their gorgeous, leafy outdoor space, very little additional décor was required, saving time and money. They did dress the aisle, with a neon ‘Til Death’ sign and wooden arbour marking the space for their vows.
Starting their relationship as ‘frenemies’ in a local bar, arguing over which beer was superior, it was fitting that Cass and Mat’s wedding was held in their favourite pub, The Royston Hotel, in Richmond, Australia. Fifteen years after they met, the couple wanted their day to be like the best night at your favourite pub with your closest buddies. With a relaxed vibe and informal dress code, they cranked up the music and cracked open the drinks.
“We wanted the atmosphere in the pub to mimic the feeling you get in those last few minutes, when you’re eagerly waiting for your favourite band to step on stage.” Cass explained. Music was an integral part of the day, with Mat putting a lot of time and thought into creating a playlist for the ceremony to amp up the excitement. They chose You Make My Dreams Come True by Hall & Oates after they had been officially married, and the bridal party then walked out to Dean Martin’s Not the Marrying Kind.
After a year when most hen parties were either cancelled or hosted over Zoom, we asked you what you thought a new year could bring for this rite of passage…
Hen do, bridal shower, bachelorette party – wherever you’re from and whatever you call it, the celebration of the transition from Miss to Mrs is a time-honoured tradition and a good excuse to kick up your heels to mark the beginning of a new era.
We asked some of the members of our private Facebook group what their frets and fears were about planning a hen party in this new world we now live in. The response was clear – an overwhelming theme of uncertainty, being unsure of what to plan due to continuing local lockdowns, money worries and asking too much of friends.
So, what are the options? Do we plan differently, or throw caution to the wind and blow up the inflatable genitalia for a traditional L-plated bash? Ultimately, it’s got to still be a unique and awesome event, so here are some ideas to help you decide how to best celebrate.
It’s safe to say that a lot of control was taken away from 2020/ 21 couples. So, plan something that you can control. A safe bet is keeping your hen party outside in the fresh air, and that’s likely where you’ll be able to celebrate with more people, feeling comfortable and safe. Not always practical in the cold weather, but warmer months bring the promise of posh picnics with bespoke hampers and a fun theme, a small local music festival with authentic hay bales, or a punt down the river with champagne. Perfect for a smaller group, and easier to keep socially-distanced if needed.
If you and your friends are happy being inside, take control of your surroundings and hire a space – a small independent theatre for a movie night, an afternoon tea river cruise, or hire a countryside accommodation for the weekend and hunker down with fluffy blankets, monogrammed pjs, old movies and your body weight in popcorn alongside a few friends.
With new restrictions, local lockdowns and the ever-looming presence of Covid-19, weddings seem to be balancing on a knife edge. Here at Rock n Roll Bride (I mean, its a wedding industry wide feeling TBH!) we feel such anguish for those couples who planned a 2020 wedding and have now had to push back. Today, writer LJ Stocks shares six ways you can still make your postponed wedding date special.
If you’ve been planning your wedding for a long time and have dreamt joyful singing, jam-packed dance floors and tight hugs from your closest friends and family, having to postpone your day is, to be blunt, a huge disappointing pain in the arse. Maybe you’ve opted to have a smaller Covid secure ceremony with a big party planned for next year (fingers crossed!) or maybe you’ve pushed back entirely. Whichever camp you’re in you’ll have had to make tough decisions and it sucks balls.
For those of you who can see the date of your postponed wedding approaching, I think it’s really important to still mark the day, rather than see it pass by without a mention. As well as recognising the hard work and planning that you’ve put in, it’s an excuse to take a break from this hellish year and do something fun with the one you love.
Because if we don’t take every opportunity for fun at the moment, life is just going to start dragging us down! So, chin up girl, let’s take a truly weird situation and make it fabulous.
Here are six ideas for rocking your ‘supposed-to-be-wedding’ day.
Take a day off
Meet up with your bridal party (as long as the numbers adhere to whatever the social distancing guidelines are in your town/ country at the time…) Socially distanced fun with your bridesmaids and best men will mark your day in style. Picnic in the park? Day out at a theme park? Dinner at your favourite eatery? Grab your face mask and just get super silly for the day.
Photo shoots are back on! See if your wedding photographer is still available and frolic in fields, build sandcastles on a beach or get moody around a sunset fire pit to capture memories on the day that should have been your wedding. I love the idea of making a real occasion out of the day. Rather than pretending it doesn’t exist, mark the day with some epic shots to look back on in years to come. It’s all part of your wedding and marriage journey.