Author Archives: Ellie Kime

Romantic & Charitable Winter Wedding with a Lord Of The Rings Theme

Emily and Dave’s December wedding was a romantic candlelit affair, inspired by their love of Christmas and Lord of The Rings, and full of some of the most heart-warming stories we’ve ever seen in a wedding – including loads of charitable elements! Oh yeah – and there’s an Obama cardboard cut-out there as well, because Emily loves Obama…

“My obsession with Christmas definitely had an influence on plans,” Emily says, “but we tried to keep it subtle and cosy rather than going OTT with Santa and elves. We got married at the Red Lion at Burnsall, a beautiful country pub in Yorkshire with exposed beams, tartan chairs and a wood burning fire. We were lucky that our reception venue, Cracoe Village Hall, had an entire room we could dedicate to the kids, where we had a Christmas tree, electric toy train, kids’ Christmas activity packs and letters to Santa with sweets. For the adults, we had barrels of beer and cider on ice as well as baskets with blankets to stay warm in winter, a Christmas BBQ from Big D’s BBQ – and our favours were homemade hot chocolate packs too!”

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Wedding Planning & Taking Care of Your Mental Health

This week (May 14th-20th) is Mental Health Awareness week in the UK and one of our amazing freelance writers, Ellie Kime, is here to talk about the importance of taking care of yourself as you plan your wedding.

DIY wedding décor, giant floral arrangements and gold sequinned wedding dresses are, of course, super exciting, but nothing is more important than your mental health. Literally, no thing. And your mental health waits for no-one, regardless of whether you’re planning a holiday or planning a whole wedding.

How many times have people asked you about the ‘happiest day of your life’, expecting bouncing and bubbles and LOTS of squealing, whilst you’ve been sat there absolutely distraught and totally suffocated at the idea of the whole thing? How do you cope with wedding planning, famous for being super stressful, when you’re suffering with your own mental health? With 1 in 5 people suffering from mental health issues (and 1 in 4 in young women), know you’re not alone. We’ve compiled a few ways that you can be kind to yourself in the run up:

Talk to your partner

Be open with your partner about how you’re feeling. There shouldn’t be a stigma attached to mental health, and your partner should understand you better than anyone. Struggling with the incessant demands of wedding planning isn’t a reflection of how you feel about them and your relationship, so don’t feel ashamed in explaining how you’re coping. You’re in this together, in sickness and in mental health. And as cliché as it sounds – although let’s face it, clichés are famous for a reason – together, you can be a stronger force than just one.

Enlist help and delegate

Similarly, if you can, talk to your nearest and dearest so they can help you navigate the next few months of planning. Feelings of worthlessness often come alongside depression, but those around you will want to help in any way they can. Delegate the tasks that are really worrying you to give yourself more head space. Alternatively, look into hiring a wedding planner. A good wedding planner will organise your day exactly how you’d want it, so you can release the worrying and stress-inducing parts of planning without losing control over the process as a whole. There’s lots out there who’ll do the jobs you’d never dream people would do!

Don’t feel guilty if you’re not enjoying it

There’s this whole mythical aura surrounding weddings that everyone adored the whole planning process, from choosing venues to finalising food orders. Some couples do, don’t get me wrong, but the idea that every couple does is an airbrushed Instagram-esque alternative reality. Most of the real weddings we get submitted for publication mention how stressful the planning process was, so don’t feel guilty if you’re not enjoying it – it’s not just you!

Let’s face it, you got engaged because you’ve found the love of your life, not because you’re a highly decorated events coordinator with military precision, so don’t feel bad for not enjoying everything all the time.

Make things as easy as possible

Also, don’t feel guilty for taking an easy route if it’s there. Sure, you could DIY the shit out of your wedding, or you could have these exact candles sourced from very specific markets in Marrakech, but if it’s not important to you and not worth the struggle, don’t feel bad.

If finding suppliers is stressing you out, ask your venue for their recommendations – you’ll minimise the worry of finding them in the first place, but you’ll also minimise the stress on the wedding day itself, as they’ll know the venue inside out.

If the idea of going down the aisle in front of your guests is making you panic, don’t have an aisle, or come in with your partner on your arm, so you don’t have the pressure of their reaction with everyone’s beady eyes staring. And I know there’s nothing more infuriating than people telling you to ‘just stop’ when it’s important to you; but that’s not what this is about. It’s about finding the easiest way to do what you must, so that it’s as kind on you as possible. Do whatever you can to make you the most ‘you’ version of yourself at that point in time.

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Rustic Farm Wedding with Surprise Wrestling Match!

Yes, you read that right. A surprise wrestling match!

Lorna and Chris’ classic and idyllic farm wedding was held at Skylark Farm, Northamptonshire. With a warm colour palette of buttery yellows, their beautifully rustic ceremony was held in front of “the old-faithful Pinterest PVC pipe backdrop”, which they totally nailed! The rustic DIY theme continued into the reception, where Lorna had crocheted all the favour bags and jar cosies with some help from Chris’ mum. “Wedding DIYs can be really satisfying,” Lorna says, “but also really stressful if time management isn’t your thing, as we found out!”

OK, so let’s get to it. It really is as exceptional as I’ve built it up to be: THE WRESTLING. “We knew early on that we would incorporate a wrestling theme into our day as its something we enjoy watching together and has been a big part of our relationship.” Lorna explains. “We still wanted a fairly classic rustic look for the wedding, so we kept the wrestling theme to the centrepieces, table plan and entertainment. Truth be told, we did start looking at YouTube videos of brides and grooms making wrestling themed entrances down the aisle…but eventually decided that was a step too far for us!”

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Urban Wedding With Retro Cool… & a Gold Sequinned Dress!

Taryn and Mark’s day was a masterclass in urban cool with retro beginnings. As they’re from different sides of the Atlantic, the location was super important to them and refined elegance shone through at their venue, the achingly impressive Refinery Bar, Bankside, London. They wanted their wedding to reflect the fab location as well as harking to some retro styling – and just look at Taryn shining like a film starlet in that metallic Badgley Mischka number and perfect berry lip. Be still, our beating hearts!

Taryn and Mark met for impressive rooftop views of London before making their way into their ceremony together. “We went for a ceremony that was brief, but very meaningful,” Taryn explained. “It was officiated by my oldest friend Tessa, and featured readings by Mark’s ten-year-old daughter, Astrid, and eight-year-old nephew, Digby.” They said their vows in front of a lush foliage wall bursting with fronds of greenery which stood out amongst the slick industrial vibes of the restaurant’s interior.

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Indian-Inspired Vegan Wedding Under The Stars

Jodie and Tom’s bright and beautiful wedding was totally magical – an “Indian evening under the stars” as they called it – set in Oakham. Jodie explains, “Our wedding was a fusion of inspiration from lots of different cultures, with Mexican burritos alongside Cornish pasties, Moroccan star lanterns and a British Bake Off table, but our main inspiration was India. We wanted the wedding to be about the senses, colours, textures, sounds and scents, which India is of course brimming with, and we just felt it captured our ideas for the day!”

“As part of my company, Hattie and Flora, we use so much colour and wanted to celebrate this. We dressed Kew Gardens for their annual Orchid Festival in 2017, which was a celebration of India,” She continues. “This got me thinking for the wedding and I was truly inspired by the floral displays the Kew team put together – they used dried flowers to make garlands hanging from the ceiling, and we made some smaller versions for the day from flowers my Mum grew in my parents’ garden.”

Jodie’s own bouquet featured breathtaking neon pinks and oranges and super interesting textures, to match her bespoke embellished wedding dress, and Tom’s party all had homemade pompom buttonholes.

Jodie and Tom also went to India for their honeymoon. “It was the first thing we decided once we got engaged,” Jodie recalls, “as it was somewhere we’d always dreamed about visiting since our days of sending each other love letters from our universities at opposite ends of the country. Ten years later, we were planning our wedding and booking our dream adventure together – it really did feel like a trip we were always going to take together. We went with a company called VegVoyages, a fully vegan travel company who pride themselves in off the beaten track adventures and focus heavily on cultural immersion.”

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Romantic Rustic Jewish Mountain Wedding

Emyli and Matt’s Denver wedding was rustic and romantic, understated and unbelievably pretty. Inspired by the mountains and an open bar, they brought slick style to the gorgeous wildness for their guests, drawing on their love of the outdoors, motocross, and Emyli’s Jewish traditions for a celebration with serious flair.

Emyli walked down the aisle in a beautiful backless halterneck Sarah Seven dress (and gorgeous lilac hair that’s total #hairgoals) to Hans Zimmer’s You’re So Cool. “Looking back, I wish I’d walked slower down the aisle but I was too excited!” she says. “The sun came out just for our ceremony underneath a chuppah on the Strawberry Creek Ranch lawn and it was perfect. Our small dog, Sarah, fell asleep during the ceremony – in spite of us trying to keep it super short and sweet – so I guess it was a little boring!”

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