How to…Pose in Your Wedding Photographs – What to Do (& What Not to Do)

kathownottopose1010Before I start, I just want to say one thing…ARGGGH!

Yeah that’s right, I’m posting some pretty hideous (and ahem hilarious) photographs of myself today. I hope you’ll find this slightly scary post both helpful and funny…that’s the idea anyway! So, ready to see me looking haaawt!?

Looking naturally beautiful on your wedding day is something that’s often referred to by some as a bit of a given. “On your wedding day you’ll be so glowingly happy that you will look as stunning and radiant in the photographs as you did when they were taken” they say…and they’re right…right!?

Well yes and no. I’m sure you’re all with me in some degree on this one, that there are certain areas of your body that you’re never going to be happy with. No matter how often your fiancé says you’re beautiful, when you look at a photograph of yourself your eyes are always first drawn to your arms/nose/chin/stomach aren’t they? Yeah me too…

Let’s be honest with ourselves here and say that we are all a little bit worried about how we’re going to look in our wedding photographs. Looking at yourself in a photo can be seriously HARD if you have a hold ups about how you look, and actually even if you don’t. There isn’t a person in the world who hasn’t taken a bad photograph, but if you’re anything like me, you’ll be praying that the happiest day of your life will be reflected as such in the photographs. Not to freak you out any more, but after all these are the photos that will remain on your parents’ and grandparents’ mantelpieces forever.

kathownottopose1069

“Now come on…!” I hear you cry “Kat Williams we’ve seen you in hundreds of photo shoots and you always take a good picture.” Well I’m here to burst that little bubble for ya right now ladies (and gents.) If you could see the photos that end up on the proverbial cutting room floor after one of my shoots…well…you certainly wouldn’t be saying that! And before you say so, no I’m not just being modest. I can take a seriously BAD picture. Just ask all the photographer’s I’ve worked with!

However what I have learnt over the past few years of prancing about in front of the camera, is how to pose (and be posed) correctly. I now know how to position and angle my body to accentuate my good bits and hide my wobbly bits. Today I want to pass that knowledge onto you. The point of this post is not to make you dwell in the parts of yourselves that you dislike, but to celebrate the parts you do like and to learn how to look the very best you can. I am a firm believer that everyone can take a beautiful photograph – all it takes it the right photographer (for you) and some clever posing. I seriously hope you will thank me for it too, because sharing some photos of me looking well…awful…is quite a momentous thing for me!

So last week I met with my friend, photographer David McNeil to take some good and badly posed shots in order to show you what to do and of course not what to do in your wedding pictures or bridal/engagement/trash the dress shoot. Thank you so much for all your comments on last Friday’s post about this subject – we’ve tried to cover all the areas you asked for so I hope you get some ideas of how to look as smokin’ as you feel in your wedding photographs.

OK, deep breath…

Chin / Neck

I was both surprised and comforted that so many of you seemed to have the same most hated area as me! I detest my chin and neck area (what is it with my fat neck!?) It’s so easy to get that awful double and/or dimply chin look in photographs too… argh!

Bad

kathownottopose1004

kathownottopose1003

In order to combat this, raise your chin by a few degrees and twist your head slightly away from the camera. Then, either focus your eyes a point above your natural eye line or look back down the lens. Tilting your chin upwards will elongate the neck, pull the skin tight and smooth out any wrinkles/folds. Even if your photographer is shooting from a low angle (argh scary!) or straight on, this pose will look a million times better than looking straight at and directly down the camera. See…?

Good

kathownottopose1013kathownottopose1017

The most flattering angle for disguising an unsightly chin area is from above. Remember that famous ‘myspace pose‘? Teenagers didn’t hold their phones above their heads and take photos like that by accident! The high angle not only hides any excess skin but also makes the eyes appear to pop and look bigger/brighter. The face also looks softer.

God bless gravity.

kathownottopose1026

Nose / Profile

My God I hate my nooky nose. Just so you know you are unlikely to see a straight-on profile shot of me ever again so count yourselves honoured right now! It is actually quite unlikely that a photographer will want to take a straight profile portrait, but just in case, twisting your face 45 degrees will improve even the most unsightly conk…yes even one as hideous as mine! This next point kind of contradicts with the chin/neck tips, but tilting your chin slightly down will also be more flattering to a bigger nose. Be sure to let your photographer know your problem areas so they can pose you in a way that makes you and your features look their best.

Bad

kathownottopose1049

Good

kathownottopose1014

Arms

Another biggie with you guys was the not liking the tops of your arms. This one is actually pretty straight forward – simply keep them away from your body and don’t lean on them so they smoosh out! Having your hands on hips is an easy one, but even just keeping them slightly away from you body (but remember to keep your shoulders relaxed and down) will work wonders. This will stop the arms smooshing and looking wider. Observe…

Bad

kathownottopose1037kathownottopose1041

Good

kathownottopose1039kathownottopose1042

Another obvious thing to avoid if you hate the tops of your arms is strapless dresses. Why oh why would do bride’s do this to themselves? Luckily for you lot, non-strapless dresses are a lot more readily available these days so there really is no excuse for this fashion faux pas.

Another thing to think about it your positioning in terms of the things around you – i.e. if you’re next to a wall don’t lean on it too hard. Again this will make everything smoosh out. Instead lightly lean on the wall – almost just brushing it with your body.

Bad

kathownottopose1091

Good

kathownottopose1093

Stomach / Waist

Apart from the obvious advice of wearing a 50’s style dress to accentuate a smaller waist (hello, look at my outfit!) there are some things you can do to make you look tinier. Firstly twist your body 45 degrees (a good photographer should be able to tell you the exact point where your waist looks it smallest) and put each leg in a slightly different position (again, your photographer should be able to direct you toward which positions look good). Put all your weight on one leg (usually the back) and give it some wiggle (stick out those hips!)

Bad

kathownottopose1032

Good

kathownottopose1035

Have you ever noticed how celebrities pose on the red carpet…they all adopt a similar pose and this is not a coincidence!

Way-hey slim arms, toned thighs and tiny waists!

Legs

As with slimming the waist, to have hot looking legs in photographs it’s all in the angles. Point those toes, bend those knees and position each leg differently. I like to think of these poses as ‘dolly poses’ or ‘awkward legs’ – weirdly with legs, positions that feel a bit unnatural or uncomfortable look really great in photographs! It’s all about shifting your balance from one leg to another…

Bad

kathownottopose1084

Good

kathownottopose1090

Hips / Bum

Shake what your Mamma gave ya! Quite simply, lean forward and push the area you want to hide away from the camera (hence creating the illusion that it’s smaller – perspective at it’s best.) This tends to look better (and sexier) if you are at a slight angle to the camera too. Check it…

Bad

kathownottopose1086

Good

kathownottopose1056

Please excuse my stupid face in this photo…I’m pretty sure it was funny at the time!

Smile (teeth) / Eyes

I was honestly surprised at how many of you said you hated your smiles and teeth! In a similar way to eyes, natural emotion is the number one trick here and a forced or closed-mouth smile to hide your teeth will never look good (seriously, we tried for ages to get a natural and nice smile out of me with me lips closed…impossible)

Bad

kathownottopose1072

Good

kathownottopose1075

A good idea is to think happy/sexy/excited thoughts (hopefully you wont have to do this on your wedding day!!) and really commit yourself to these feelings. It sounds utterly ridiculous I know, but honestly if you are thinking and feeling sexy and confident it really will come through in your expression. Compare – a forced & unemotional eyes and smile vs a natural & confident expression. See the difference?

Bad

kathownottopose1030

Good

kathownottopose1026

Keep smiles and eyes soft and confident. You know the expression ‘smile with your eyes’? well this is what they’re talking about.

As a side note, looking directly down the lens takes confidence but creates a dramatic image (when the emotion behind those eyes and smiles is right.) Looking down slightly will create a more demure effect, whereas eyes (and chin) up to the sky will give the impression of confidence.

kathownottopose1107

Hands

Think loose, think relaxed, think soft.

On your weding day or in a bridal shoot you will often have something to hold (bouquet/husband!) to keep your hands busy, but it’s important to be soft and natural with your hands whether your holding something or not. It sounds simple, but when I do photo shoots I’m always getting told off for having stiff hands!

Bad

kathownottopose1058

Good

kathownottopose1059

A good tip would be to shake them out and start again if you feel yourself tensing up. Relax your arms, shoulders and hands and move them where it feels natural – a slight curve of the fingers always looks better, and more natural than straight and witchy hands too! A good photographer should be able to spot this for you and call you out on any witch-hands.

Posture / Shoulders

Finally, and most importantly – commit yourself to the pose you’re being put in. A lot of the time an over exaggerated pose can feel ridiculous in ‘real life’ but looks great in photos. This is why it’s so important to book a photographer that you 100% trust.

Bad

kathownottopose1062

Good

kathownottopose1064And of course someone who makes you laugh is always good. Natural laughter always makes a great photo, even if your face is a little scrunched up…

kathownottopose1007kathownottopose1071

David’s Top Tips

I asked David, who took these photos, if he wouldn’t mind sharing some of his top tips too. He’s as big a poser as me so he jumped at the chance! (ahem, I kept the out-takes in because they made me laugh. As I hope you can tell, this post is pretty much all about not taking ourselves too seriously!)

Oh and apologies for the background noise. We tried to find a quiet coffee shop, looks like we didn’t do so well on that one! D’oh…

My Top Tips

♥ The poses listed above are things that work for me and my body shape (although most are relevant no matter what your shape or size). For something a little different, taking a look at the models in fashion and wedding magazines. This is a good starting point to see what looks good and why. Of course not all of these high fashion poses will be suitable for your wedding day, but it’s certainly worth noting the shapes the model’s bodies make. Ask yourself why they’ve been posed like that and what the overall effect on their body is. Does the positioning make them look slimmer, taller or curvier? Does it accentuate or hide a certain feature?

♥ Another important thing to do is practice practice practice! You will feel silly (believe me) but it’s so worth it. Stand in front of a full length mirror (or if you’re really brave, ask a friend or your fiance to take some photos of you) and literally just get posing! It’s a funny thing about photographs, sometimes you think you look hot to trot in the mirror but when you see yourself in a photo, the result isn’t quite what you imagined! Your eyes work very differently to a camera lens which explains why most high fashion models look incredible in editorials, but in real life look a bit like lanky aliens…it’s all in the posing and the camera work baby!

♥  ♥  ♥

I really hope you’ve found this article helpful and I haven’t just subjected myself to ridicule by sharing my fat arms, wobbly chin and wide waist for nothing! Comments will be a million percent appreciated…

kathownottopose1015

Suppliers

287 comments

  1. Amazing tips! Everyone should practice this before getting snapped. Im gunna get my pose on next time I am being photographed.

  2. Christie

    I read this 5 minutes after you posted it while battling insomnia (reader/fangirl from Texas) and loved it! Great article and I like how you put yourself out of your comfort zone for our sakes!

  3. Thanks for the great tips Kat! I’ve been doing the chin one and 45 degree body angle for a while but I MUST adopt the leg thingy.

    You know how you can look at yourself and say, “I hate my nose” but everyone else thinks it’s lovely? We’re always way more picky with our looks than others are. So how can we expect a photographer to know what we’re sensitive about? Also, most woman wouldn’t be too happy if their photog said, “Turn 45 degrees to hide those massive hips.” I think this post will not only help brides be more aware of how to fix their issues, but also to prevent some potentially awkward conversations with the photographer.

    Oh, and BONUS! How about when you’re posing for a non-professional photo? Like, while on vacation or whenever. These tips will be really helpful for those times when you don’t have a professional behind the lens.

  4. Zoe

    My apologies, folks, it seems that by having my own view as a seasoned professional photographer it is considered attacking. It was most definitely not meant in that vein, and in fact quite the reverse. I was simply saying what anyone who knows their profession, whatever it is, would say – ‘trust me to do what I know’. But I am sorry that has caused offence. What a shame that unpleasantness has to take over discussion.

  5. Krista

    So helpful thanks so much for all this killer info. I’m gonna look so hot in my next pictures!!!

  6. I’m jumping in a bit late but this is a great post! I will certainly be bookmarking this for our wedding next year so both myself and my future husband can be as relaxed as possible in front of the camera.

    Another fab post Kat!

  7. carol

    This post is awesome. there is a good chance i will NOT be looking like Rufus from Kim possible in our wedding pics.

  8. bellepaige

    so so so so so very glad that you posted this! ive discovered your blog late last year after my bestie got engaged and i started thinking of ideas to suggest to her. i actually just emailed her a link to the article to make sure she reads it. i myself am always self conscious in front of a camera, professional or wielded by an excited family member, and it definately shows in any pics i take. my bestie can be the same at times, and shes not a fan of being the center of attention so i think these tips will help her (and me) feel a lil more relaxed. funny thing is shes beautiful to begin with and i dont think she takes bad pictures EVER, but i know she does feel this way at times. but im sure she’ll feel more at ease with your tips under her belt…or sash rather. so thank you on her behalf!

  9. This is all fabulous even if you did manage to do the whole post without my favourite word SMIZE. Genius tips, I am now expecting great posing from all my Rock n Roll Brides. Are you listening Katie Woo?

  10. I enjoyed reading this fabulous post yesterday (and have been walking around at a 45 degree angle with my hand on my hip and arms away from my body ever since) but I have enjoyed reading the comments even more!

    Nothing like a nice cup of tea and a little controversy to start the day.

    Confidence is King – a Bride will be photographed constantly on her big day, by the pro but also by parents/friends/aunties/elderlies with winding disposable cameras from Boots… any advice that arms the Bride with the confidence to hold her head up and work it, increases her confidence and this looks good at every angle.

    Nice one, Kat. *sticks arm out, leans forward, looks down and pouts* MWAH!

    Cx

  11. Kat, this post has really got me thinking, I have already commented and thanked you for it and then last night (while trying to sleep) I couldn’t stop thinking about it! I think it is good to have a photographer who can direct you but without your own self-confidence about you look and how you will look in photos it will never work. I have been married before and am due to marry again next year. My ex and I had a lovely photographer and she was brilliant but she really struggled positioning me naturally as I HATED having my picture taken. In most of the shots I look wrong somehow, this wasn’t her fault at all.
    I have recently had a baby and as part my pregnancy and after my partner took photos of me and my bump and then photos after for my blog, in doing this I gained a huge amount of confidence about myself and my body. I also discovered many of the ‘tricks’ you have outlined here about how best to stand and where to take the photos from, especially to hide the dreaded chin/nose shots (it’s such a relief to hear it’s not just me who feels this way).
    I would recommend to anyone getting married to get your digital camera out with your fiance, put on a cool outfit and go out and play! Try the different positions and camera angles suggested and find what works for you. When you see that you can look amazing you will feel so much more comfortable on your wedding day. If you can do a pre-wedding photo shoot with your photographer that’s great too (I married in Iceland before and only met my photographer once there). I cannot wait to marry my partner, he is a fantastic man and I know we will have beautiful photos and I will look confident because I feel confident.
    Thanks again for a great post! x

  12. From someone who hates having her photograph taken I found this post really helpful!

    We all have ‘body issues’, whether it be wobbly arms or chubby ankles etc (personally I have rubbish legs). I think it can only be a good thing to know beforehand how to improve the appearance of these by slight changes to your posture.

    Of course it is important to put your trust into your photographer but personally it would give me so much more confidence to have these little tips in the back of my mind.

    From a clients perspective, I would not book a photographer that was so against me gaining knowledge in this way. It’s not about telling you how to your job, it’s about body awareness!

  13. Great post Kat, I too have posted it on my FB page so that brides-to-be can take a look. I am a professional photographer and I don’t find this in any way threatening or dangerous! Empowering brides to feel confident about how to stand for photographs has only got to help us all out – it is surely easier to slightly adjust a positive pose to look even better than it is to start from scratch.
    With regards to trusting your photographer to know what they are doing that is all well and good if you are a mind reader, but as already mentioned people often have body image issues that may seem completely irrational to the rest of us. Pre-wedding shoots are so useful for this as you can often get a surprising reaction about an image that you felt was beautiful but had no idea that the bride hated her nose/chin/upper arms……
    As for the photography, it was there to illustrate the points. Yes you could have sat down with David and pulled out the best example of every point from his portfolio, but it wouldn’t have had the same impact as your post did by illustrating how to do it badly and how to do it well within the same shoot.
    It looks like you had a blast as well 🙂
    Loved it and keep the top tips coming

  14. Hi again. I’m a bit surprised at all the negativity people apparently have been spreading about me. I’ve heard from people who’s read stuff about me on FB and Twitter that is stemming from my replies in this blog post. That’s pretty low, but it’s great to get more traffic to my blog. So thank you, even if I’m sure that wasn’t your intention! 😉

    Oh, and maybe check those first seconds of the video again, girls…. the Photographer, HE (if you’re so hung up on gender) says “Trust your photographer”. And what have I’ve been saying in a few comments? Uhmm…. exactly that!

  15. Laura

    Thank you so much for this!

    I won a couples lifestyle shoot with the amazeballs Greyeye phography today and am totally sh*tting myself! Will be learning these hints by heart!

  16. J Metz

    I’m not a pro photographer – I’m just a guy looking to get better at being both in front of, and behind, the camera.

    I was going to read the article and then move on (and will probably be politely invited to do just that), when I started reading through the comments. I noticed that Petra echoed some of my own thoughts – namely, how some of the examples didn’t seem to work – and watched her get eviscerated for being “too harsh.”

    This surprised me, since she was merely pointing out that some of the examples didn’t quite do what the article said they were supposed to do. In other words, weren’t executed the way they could have.

    From my perspective – and being an amateur at best, I don’t think I’ll be the only one who thinks this – if I were to take some of the “bad” examples and some of the “good” examples, remove the captions and review them, I’d be hard pressed to figure out which ones were which. Some of the “bad” look okay to me (and I’d be fine receiving as a customer) and some of the “good”, well, weren’t.

    I can’t help but wonder, for instance, how the “leg” maneuver is supposed to help under a wedding gown, but that’s just one example.

    Then I saw that I wasn’t the only one who noticed, as Petra pointed out some of the things I was thinking. Heaven forbid someone disagrees with the post! The response to her common-sense criticism seemed *way* over the top and completely disproportionate to what she actually said.

    After all, just how is someone supposed to respectfully disagree without evoking the wrath of so-called “professionals?”

    Is this what qualifies for professionalism in the photographic world? When I find someone for my own wedding, is this kind of name-calling and disrespect from wedding photographers I should expect?

    FWIW, I’d much rather have someone with a constructively critical perspective handle this important day for me, than people who would rather try to convince me that something is “good” through sheer bullying.

  17. John Doran

    Having read the article and the comments I am personally on the fence.

    Having a relaxed couple on the day is by far the best means to good, clean images. The article is great to show the difference between a well posed shot to a badly posed shot. But as said, if the bride and groom spend time learning how to pose, dance, practice speeches and god knows what else… How stressed out on the day will they be??

    Whilst knowing how to stand and be posed can be a good thing, it can also be a very, VERY bad thing. Bad habits are learned, and as such are harder to break. If the couples find a photographer they love, then the photography will show that. It will reflect trust and a relaxed attitude.

    If the couple are trying too hard to pose, then the photographs can end up looking too stiff and forced.

    Weddings are meant to be fun, why try and learn how to pose for the day when the professional you are paying should pose you? If you haven’t got a pro, great…. A good understanding will help with the photography.

    But… Again… To learn how to pose on your wedding day whilst a good idea in theory will lead to additional stress on the day. Have faith and trust your photographer. This is why you pay them. Just like the hair stylist, the florist, the bridal shop for the dress, cake, limo hire, etc etc.

    It has nothing to do with pro photographers having “control” or having to be soley responsible… It has to do with the final product…. You looking your best on your wedding day and having photographs to show your children and grandchildren how good you looked “back then”.

    Kat, I commend you on the thread and the idea behind it. Really useful to a degree, but I do urge anyone to take it with a pinch of salt. It’s not a dig, it’s not meant to belittle the thread. This is my humble opinion. But… Too much to learn for a wedding will result in additional stress and that is not a good thing on a wedding.

    John.

  18. As most brides no doubt who read this site will be trusting to luck somewhat by booking a budget ‘Wedding Photographer’, I think this article is really useful.

    You only have to look at most of what’s out there to realise that someone should be giving bride’s a clue because 9 times out of 10 it’s not going to be the camera swinging buffoon who’s last week reinvented him/herself as God’s gift to Wedding Photjournalism.

    Oh yes and don’t forget ladies, most WPJ style photographers will most likely have taken that fly-on-the-wall approach just so they can avoid having to deal with people – one of the most important parts of what we do and of course, when it comes to creating those lovely posey fun and fashion shots they really won’t have a clue either.

    So many thanks Kat for putting this out there, because what with things the way they are right now, not everyone can afford to hire someone who knows what they’re doing. 😉

  19. Late to the party on this as havbe not been able to check the blogs. I was really looking forward to this and was not dissapointed – so helpful. I feel a lot better now! Thank you!

  20. Hi Kat,

    Just liked to say good work on the posing article, most of my brides always ask how they should pose to not show certain aspects that they are not happy with etc.

    I will be directing brides to view your article, it gives them something to think about and to discuss with me as to what will work best for them.

    I am aslo quite surprised by some of the comments and reactions, for me its a great article and useful guide, well done you.

  21. Post author

    Corinne – your comment just made my week! That was exactly the idea behind the post, to make brides that read my site feel a little bit happier and more confident going into their wedding shoot. Mission achieved. Hurrah!

  22. Post author

    To the people getting hung up on the unflattering low angled shots – did u actually read the post before you commented? ….”Even if your photographer is shooting from a low angle (argh scary!) or straight on, this pose will look a million times better than looking straight at and directly down the camera.”…that is all.

  23. Post author

    J Metz – this is a general guide.I’m not expecting brides to adopt every single pose idea, just use the ones they feel a relevant to them.for example the leg one as you mentioned wouldn’t be applicable to a bride with a long dress of course.however a lot of the Brides that read my blog are wearing short 50s style dresses hence why I included it

  24. Christina

    I have mixed feelings about this post. I am a full time photographer and can see the intent of this post as positive. However, there can be positives and negatives from a post like this. For me, I do my job well and work with my clients to achieve what they want. I talk about posing, angles, body position, all of that before getting started with a session. So I guess this post is harmless to me personally. However, I could see how the wrong couple might question every thing their photographer was doing during a shoot (when they don’t need to). You see, only the photographer can see through the viewfinder. The couple may think they are positioned correctly, angled properly, etc., after reading this. However, the well trained photographer will be the one seeing the couple, only they really know and can see. Would you really feel comfortable spending $$$$, then overrulling your photographer when you can’t even see yourself?

    I think the real test would be for newbie photographers. A seasoned pro will be able to do the work and pose correctly without hesitation. Couples should know right away if their photographer is poor at posing. I think this post is good for posing for friends, realitives, etc. However, having strong communication with your photographer is important. Good photographers will not just know how to pose, but they will look you up and down to understand how best to position you. Talk about these things with your photographer. It certainly does not hurt to understand some basic posing, but lean on the photographer as they are the expert.

  25. this is a kick-ass post Kat, and i must admit i´m more than a bit bewildered by the neagtive responses! i´m not sure about all the other wedding togs here, but i know that at the weddings i shoot, theres a whole lot more going on than just photography, its a hectic, busy, crazy, (stressful) day where i never get quite as much time to shoot my couple as i would like because, well, its their freaking WEDDING, not my photoshoot, so real life tends to get in the way.

    therefore, i absolutely LOVE that you are putting these tips out there, because if all my brides knew a bit more about why i want them to keep their chin up/tits out/weight on the back leg to make their bum look tighter, the whole process would run waaaay smoother and be less awkward for all involved… maybe i´m having a blonde moment, but i don´t see how this is a bad thing?

    you just keep rocking the boat, Kat… love your work!!

  26. Petra, you should keep in mind that your way is not the only way and your style is not the only style of photography that couples want. Your attitude of “trust me 100%” actually makes me wary as a wedding pro and as a bride to utilize your services and comes across to me and obviously a lot of other people as dictatorial. We wedding pros need to keep in mind that we provide a service to our couples and that it is they we work for, not our own aesthetics and ideals. Our jobs are to coach and advise, not to boss them around or drag them kicking and screaming in to our pre-conceived vision of what their wedding/photos should be. They are paying us, not the other way around.

  27. Kristen, I hope that people hire a photographer for their style, either it’s in your view “Old Fashion” or not, as that’s how you’ll be happy with your photos, with a photographer that understand you.

    And I’m giggling at the thought of me being old fashion when I say that a bride should trust me. It’s more like I have confidence in what I do and that I can produce what is on my website (and culture differences might make YOU feel that I’m old fashion, but being a lifestyle photographer in Swedish is pretty modern right now).

    To me “old fashion” is super posed images, preferably taken in a studio, not life style photography. And as a professional I end up with clients that both want super posed (stiff) wedding images, as well as more life style images, where nothing is posed at all… and I tend to guide my clients, not pose every little finger.

    Like I also said, the idea behind this post is not bad at all, even if some of the “good” samples weren’t that great…. and mainly I wonder how many things a bride really has to worry about on her wedding day. I mean, no wonder there’s tv shows about bridezillas. So many stressing things for a bride to keep track of, and on a day that should be fun, full of love and laughter. I just want my couples to enjoy their day and have fun and trust what I do.

    I have NEVER said I boss my clients around. I don’t know where that came from. But I do tell them to trust my skills as a photographer, as they hired me for what I show them on my website and blog. But that doesn’t mean I dictate anything. If a client want super posed image, either in old fashion style, or in more editorial style, I can do both. That’s why they should trust me.

  28. Kathryn

    Well…this has certainly caused a stir! I took the post to be a lighthearted and fun ‘how to’ for any anxious brides&grooms. I loved some of the images because they made me realise that it isn’t only me who manages to look ridiculous in pics at times.
    Kat- Im getting married in 3 weeks (aaaahhhh!) and first came across my photographer, before I’d even got engaged, when you featured him on your blog- my what an influence you’re having on my wedding 😉 with the winning combo of these poses plus his genius- I think it’s all going to be fine 🙂
    Thanks

  29. Kathryn

    Dylan McBurney! I live locally to him & love how he works. We booked him to do my little sis’s wedding last September too so there’s a bit of a legacy going on…it’s pretty hard to het what you want&need for weddings so I am very thankful to have been introduced to an alternative that fits with what we’re trying to create on the day- fun, friendship and hopefully many joyful moments 🙂 ooh- as well as a lot of love

  30. Post author

    cant wait to see the pix then Kathryn! (ps, we spell our names the same…fun fact of the day!)

  31. Kathryn

    Well I can’t wait to show you them! If I look like a dork…well you have permission to add them to the ‘how not to pose’ section of your post…at least I know that my Betsey Johnson clad bridesmaids will look fabulous anyway 😉
    – loving the fun fact!

  32. interesting post…I can guarantee all the brides out there that if they choose the right (experienced, professional) photographer they won’t need to worry about how to pose – there’s plenty for a bride to think about on her wedding day, the last thing that should bother her is how to ‘pose’. check your photographer’s work, thoroughly, and if you don’t like what they’re doing, book one you do.

  33. Kimmy

    I love this article! Even though I will take my photographers advice on the actual day of the wedding, I am excited to start “practicing”. I do not feel very comfortable with myself below the neck, so I am going to take some time to try and get familiar with pictures being taken of me. I am a very nervous person! I would hate to be so nervous and unfamiliar on my wedding day and not have the look I know I want. I don’t think this article is saying everyone should put their chin the same way and they will look perfect every time- it is just saying some people can become more comfortable with picture taking and will probably like the end result better if they try out some of the tips before hand. I am going to show my fiance about the folding of the arms and closed-lip smile (he is known to do this). I am having a friend of ours take some engagement photos for us and will try to keep these tips in mind instead of just standing there all tense. Thanks again!

  34. Quite the battle here.

    If this helps the couple be a little more comfortable in front of the camera then great, it will make things easier for everyone. But at the same time, they can’t take this as gospel and ignore the photographer and start telling them how it’s going to be done.

    Assuming the couple put some effort in their search for a photographer then it’s safe to assume they like the photographer and their style and can trust them with their portraits.

  35. Hi Kat – thanks so much for posting this. I’m a photographer and I’ve linked to this from my Facebook page too as it’s great advice not only for brides but for anyone having their photos taken. 🙂

  36. Becky

    I can agree with Petra on trusting the professional and I can agree with J Metz on being allowed to be critical and voice different opinions (that’s what this whole blog is about isn’t it?).

    However I think it was the implication (in some of Zoe Photography and Petra’s comments) that just by looking at this post I’ll ruin my wedding photographs that annoyed me; by tilting my head up to stop my neck looking fat, I’ll be over-posed, taking trust away from the professional and overly stressed as I try to learn how to pose? I just can’t see how basic good posture turns me into a bridezilla with too much knowledge who is unable to trust their photographer?

    Also Petra I think that people mean ‘old-fashioned’ not in terms of the style of the photographs that are taken but rather the approach that you described at working with clients. More ‘modern’ approaches of working would mean encouraging clients to voice their preferences about poses in order to collaborate with them. In this case the dialogue with clients is seen as a positive and creative thing rather than a negative thing which gets in the way of taking the photographs. This is not me commenting on your personal approach as I have no experience of this!
    It’s such as personal thing as some brides will want to discuss poses with their photographer (while still trusting them), others want their photographer to totally guide them and many don’t want posed photographs at all! It just emphasises how important it is to find a photographer who gets you.

    It seems pretty unlikely that anyone who reads this post will suddenly decide they have become such an expert they will now dictate to their professional photographer exactly how they should shoot the wedding. And it seems clear that Kat wasn’t intending that by writing this. The intention was to make brides feel more confident about their wobbly bits. Surely nobody disagrees that confidence is beautiful?!

  37. Crikey! Many under garments being twisted a little too tightly.

    Kat, I get your post…I really do and you’re right. Get the pose right by taking care of the client and the photographer will capture beauty and elegance or provocative and daring. Do this correctly and the need for the liquify tool largely goes away.

    Now, the comments by Petra and Zoe. I really don’t see what upset many so much. I wonder if the criticism of David was the catalyst. I read their comments as supporting your post but questioning simply how well, pictorially, the ‘Goods’ were demonstrated. And it was their opinion and to my brain, not aggressive just expressing an opinion.

    Fundamentally, I think we can all agree that the couple should first of all like the photographer and her/his style. After that it distills to how the photographer runs their business and how they communicate with the client. Client looks at website, sees lots of images which they later discover are posed then that’s the style, if they book, the client wants. Or perhaps it’s the polar opposite…little or no posed shots (think Mr Ascough for one) and that becomes their creative choice of wedding photography.

  38. Frank Millar

    Lots of interesting points … all I want to comment on is the very first picture of the article kathownottopose1010 ……I can’t stop smiling ever time I look at it 🙂

  39. Hey!

    Gosh, didn’t expect this much of a response! Thanks to everybody who has commented – I hope you understand this blog article in the way it was meant to be received – a fun, light-hearted, look at little things you can do to give you a confidence boost on the day.

    It was never supposed to be an article telling photographers how to pose their subjects (and I would never claim to be THE authority on that!) – more little tips any bride can implement, regardless of what their photographer does. Small nuggets of information you can use to make sure you feel that little bit more confident in your photographs. I’m amazed people think this information is dangerous.. guess the tips must be good then 😉 We’d have shot very differently if our post was aimed at photographers.

    It’s upsetting that a post intended to be fun, and designed to generate confidence has gone a bit bad. I know it isn’t nice to be attacked in public, but from reading the comments, I don’t think anybody has said anything particularly nasty. It can all be in the interpretation, and online often isn’t the best place to have an argument…. maybe best to just let it go?

    Again, I’m so pleased at the (mainly) positive reaction, and whatever you do with the info, I know you’re all going to look fabulous on your wedding day as the main thing that makes a good photograph is happiness. Combine that with a pinch of confidence, and you have the makings of truly amazing photographs.

    Votes please on who you want featured in our Grooms How (Not) to Pose…!

Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *