There is always a lot of chatter around blog land about details details details. Photographers are obsessed with getting couples with detail-heavy weddings so that the blogs and magazine will want to feature them. While this is true (after all wedding blogs and mags are primarily read by brides-to-be who want to see weddings with ideas they can steal for their own big day) do you ever think that this obsession to have a ‘blog-worthy’ detail heavy wedding might be a little excessive?
I’m not one to slag aaaanybody’s wedding off but I do see some weddings circulating around blog land that just seem so…well…contrived. Like a circus almost. Like a made-for-blogs-wedding-circus. The results are pretty much always gorgeous and inspiring but do you ever look at weddings like that and feel depressed or inadequate about your own wedding?
I wonder sometimes if a lot of us have actually forgotten the whole point of the wedding in the first place. Two people, in love standing there saying “I Do”. That’s it. That’s what’s important. Lets not forget that.
I’ve got a couple of really beautiful, super personal weddings for you today…starting with this little beaut all the way from Texas.
Jacklyn & Noah got married at Cibolo Creek, just outside of Marfa, Texas. It was just the two of them and their little boy. They decided they wanted their wedding to be just about them, “under the big sky”. Jacklyn wore a vintage Mexican dress from the 70’s, a 1930’s diamond bracelet that both belonged to her mother and a lace shawl that she had found in Italy at an open air antique market. She carried pink roses and gardenia from their garden for her bouquet which she put with some wildflowers that she collected on the way down. Noah wore a shirt from the 70’s which they found the day before they left for Marfa.
Jenni & George are another ‘inspired by Rock n Roll Bride’ couple who found their photographer Shan after she was featured on the blog. The couple, who got married on the Isle of Man, wanted to incorporate he things they love into their day – the colour purple and all things eclectic, antique and vintage. “I have a love of all things antique and vintage and my favourite colour is purple! So that’s where it began. I bought a lot of the antique bottles from places like eBay, Jurby Junk (!!) and our friend Roger Leece, who found a whole stack of bottles and jars buried somewhere up North apparently!” the bride told me.
They organised and created a lot of the wedding themselves, as they knew exactly what they wanted – ie something that reflected them and not anyone else. They wanted to create something unique, something different and something quiescently ‘them’. “I am not a big fan of your standard table centre-pieces so I decided that using sprays of different wildflowers would really compliment the style of the wedding” Jenni continued. “We had these both at the church and on the tables at the reception. I spent months slowly collecting various bits and pieces from charity shops and high street shops to decorate the marquee with. I am quite artistic and love interior design, so having the chance to design the inside of a whole marquee was something I was very excited about doing.”
I’ve branded this the ‘Quadrophenia wedding’ because of all the fabulous retro British details. Makes you feel all warm and fuzzy inside to be English doesn’t it?
The couple embarked in a lot of diy to make it all super personal and everything from the pub they held it in being called The Britannia to the pork pie ‘cake’; from the Vivienne Westwood shoes (a national treasure in my eyes!) to the red, white a blue throughout were put together to make their theme perfect. The bunting had a union jack vibe, the table plans were quintsentially British themed and the guests were even transported in a open top double decker routemaster red bus.
The day was rounded off by traditional English games including an egg and spoon race and a impromptu kick around with a rugby ball!
Beatriz & Ricardo got married early this month in Cartagena, a colonial city on the Caribbean coast of Colombia. Born here, Beatriz knew she wanted to return back to this special place to get married. They had a gorgeous civil service a few days before the wedding. “Weddings tend to be so cookie cutter and sooo traditional, we were sure we didn’t want that” the bride told me. “The first tradition we broke was not getting married in a church, we decided to just have a civil ceremony; but a friend of us told us that civil ceremonies were so plain and that we should do something special, so we decided to go to the notary to get married in Bogotá a few days before the actual wedding in Cartagena and to have a very special ceremony.”
As many of you will already know, I like to pride myself and my blog on individuality and posting some of the best, exclusive and new weddings out there. However rules are made to be broken right?! I actually saw and loved Alicia & Jack’s wedding a while back on another wedding blog (I even included it in a Thursday Treats post) but when their videographer Thomas of Vantage Point Films sent me the link to their gorgeous video (which hasn’t been seen elsewhere) I couldn’t help but as if I could share some of the photographs taken by Carla Ten Eyck Photography too. Sound good?
“For most wedding vendors, a couple like Alicia and Jack reminds us why we do what we do” Thomas began. “Just when you’re thinking ‘another day, another wedding’, they infuse their cool style into the day, and put the ‘art’ back in ‘artist’ for you. They were hip, they were classy, and two of the sweetest people you’d ever want to work with. Of course it helps when, as a videographer, you get to shadow photographer Carla Ten Eyck all day, as she navigates her hometown of Hartford, CT. It makes my job a lot easier when the photographer is on the top of their game.”
I then got to speak to the bride, Alicia who explained that unlike a lot of ‘girlie girls’ she had never been one to fantasise about her wedding day. She is sooo the perfect Rock n Roll Bride inspiration! “Unlike many of my girly-girl friends, I hadn’t fantasized about my wedding day for my entire life and I certainly had no idea of what I wanted the dress to look like. I tried to go through the motions of trying dresses at the bridal shops- you know, the whole bridal circus…. but as soon as I discovered this Betsey Johnson dress I knew I’d found it. I’d been admiring and wearing her fashion since I was thirteen. This dress just fit me perfectly, in more ways than one.”