Mis-matched jewel tones and a peacock theme were the order of the day for Sheila & Austin’s small and intimate wedding. The couple found the planning of their destination wedding in St. Petersburg difficult and enlisted the help of the bride’s Mother with all the organisations but really put their hearts and souls into creating the prefect wedding.
There were mishaps and hilarious moments but at the end of the day Sheila told me that none of that mattered as they were just so pleased to be getting married. “Don’t sweat the small stuff when it gets close to the wedding,” she told me. “That being said if you have the time customize your wedding, for me it was a great creative outlet. We handmade everything except for the food really. The hardest being we hand made our beach reed, peacock centerpiece wreaths. Luckily I only needed 6! As far as centerpiece tools I got the peacock feathers from eBay and reeds from TJMAX. Just dismantled other decorative house pieces. And my menu holders were picture frames. Really look everywhere for inspiration!”
“Basically we did things our way. We had non-traditional readings, video game music for ceremony music (Final Fantasy VII Piano Collection), sneakers for the grooms, a blue prom dress as a wedding dress, only 56 people attending (did an earlier dance for all our other friends), DJed it ourselves, had a honeymoon registry, had people RSVP via online (greener and cheaper!), designed everything ourselves & honestly didn’t give a care what people thought! But everyone loved it because it was us, and they were here to support us. And we were so happy to have done it.”
“Really as I see my other friends in their wedding processes, and it was a piece of advice someone gave me, all I have to say is this is the one party that you throw that is about you and your husband not everyone else. Have fun, don’t feel ashamed for your tastes & just have a blast!”
“We both decided that although we wanted our wedding to be amazing, we weren’t going to spend a stupid amount of money on it,” explained bride Lauren when I asked her about her big day. “We weren’t prepared to pay more just because it was labelled as a “wedding product”. Plus, most of the wedding-related stuff that’s available isn’t really “us”. I bypassed the usual wedding dress shops and went straight to the high street, and found everything exactly as I wanted at a price I was willing to pay. Tim wore a suit he already had from Next because none of the hire places had slim fitting suits. We wanted invitations with skulls and studs and splattery writing but didn’t want to pay a professional to design and make them for us, so I did it.”
“Neither of us wanted to do something just because it was expected. I didn’t want bridesmaids (ALL of my friends are awesome, not just those wearing matching dresses), we got married on a Thursday (much cheaper!), my Mum walked me down the aisle as I don’t know my Father, we had a unity candle (which is something our registrar had never heard of…?), we didn’t have a receiving line… We kept the traditions that we liked, or that family requested, and ignored everything else. We didn’t get caught up in the idea of the day being perfect, and of me being a pretty princess for the day, and prepared ourselves for the fact that in life, things go wrong, and weddings aren’t any different. When things went wrong (venue closing down with five months to go, registrar taking ill on the morning of the wedding and the replacement not having copies of our readings, etc) we took it in our stride.”
“It didn’t occur to us to change the way we look for the wedding. There was no way I was going to dye my hair, take out my lip ring or get contact lenses (no disrespect to anyone who does this – each to their own), and Tim wanted to wear all black despite it not being a “traditional” way for a groom to look. We wanted to feel like us, and for the day to reflect us and our tastes. I guess we’re just naturally Rock n Roll!”
Lauren & Tim really did keep themselves at the centre of their wedding plans. As she explained, they didn’t do anything just becuase it was expected at a wedding. I love their attitude and I love their wedding!
Zack & Alene wanted a casual, fun and nerdy wedding – something that was perfect for them. “We knew all along that we didn’t want to do a traditional dinner and dancing wedding, and there was never a chance of there being a church ceremony (neither of us has ever attended a church service outside of weddings and funerals),” the couple explained. “We settled on an afternoon of games and hors d’oeuvres because we’re both nerdy, think appetizers are exciting, and I like to go to bed early. It’s not our proudest tradition, but Zack and I go to my parents’ house most Saturday evenings and play games with them – it’s one of the highlights of my week, and we always have fun, so we decided to extend that feeling to our guests. The reception space was filled with couches and ottomans, and then we had a few little tables brought in – it was laidback and jolly, and the games gave even people who didn’t know anyone else something to talk about and bond over.”
They didn’t want to conform to what anyone expectaed a wedding to be so they opted for an afternoon and achohol-free reception at Overture Center for the Arts, a performing arts centre. “We don’t drink and we didn’t want to blow our wedding budget on booze, so we had a non-alcoholic bar. Two bartenders were there to mix up non-alcoholic cocktails and make espresso drinks. Since it was the afternoon, no one really minded the lack of alcohol – and they got to try some new things. My specific request had been elderflower syrup, and we had a good time drinking elderflower sodas and lemonades.”
“A couple of time people asked me if I was growing out my hair for the wedding (NO), if I was going to start tanning (NO), and what I was planning to do to cover up my tattoos (NOTHING),” the bride continued. “I didn’t want to look like someone else on my wedding day – I’m a short-haired, alarmingly pale, tattooed woman, so why would I want to hide that? I don’t look like everyone else most of the time, and I didn’t want to look like every other bride. When I told some coworkers that my shoes made me way taller than Zack, they freaked out. I felt like a rock star, though, and Zack’s used to my ridiculous heels, so it was a non-deal.”
I am so EXCITED about sharing Josephine & Radney’s wedding today! I first met Filipino photographer Josephine Sicad when she submitted some of her own photographic work for features on Rock n Roll Bride and I was instantly smitten with her vintage aesthetic and beautiful and genuine portrayals of true love! So when she told me that she herself was getting married, I literally couldn’t wait to see the results….and I DIE at how fabulous they are!
The couple got married at Vistamar Boardwalk in Mactan Cebu City, right on the beach in a DIY heavy, eclectic vintage style wedding. Josephine in particular worked really hard to create something beautiful and unique for their nuptials. First up, Josephine crafted her own unusual bouquet from vintage necklaces with fabric flowers on them and a recycled egg beater (!) as the ‘stem’. She even used the left over beads and things from the necklaces in the centrepieces! She found this awesome bike pendant which she disassembled to craft Radney’s boutonniere. In keeping with the bicycle theme, the couple chose to ride to their reception on a bike instead of getting in a car – which they decorated themselves.
The invitations were created from their engagement photos, taken by a Josephine herself (I featured them here!) and were put together by her best friend Govinda. “I made the lay out for the rest of the invitation, while my husband doodled our wedding monogram (bride & groom on a bike)” Josephine explained. Instead of traditional favours, the couple gave vintage plates to their guests! It was a last minute idea that they put in because they fell in love with them and wanted to use them somehow!
Finally, the couple threw a “Best Vintage Attire” contest to help their guest get into the theme. ” We wanted to encourage them to wear as much as vintagey tones in line to our wedding theme,” Josephine explained. “At the end of the party, we awarded the best one with a vintage mini-jukebox radio I had bought. For the rest of the party, we threw out questions on ‘How will you know the Bride & Groom? And anyone who got an answer correct was allowed to pick any quirky item decorated from the centerpieces to take home.”
Dottie is dottie (!?!) about…erm…dots so that’s exactly the theme she wanted to go for in her wedding! She and JP were married at Christ the King Church in CA followed by a polka dot themed wedding at Elements Venue at the Ice House.
The bride (real name Amanda) wore a gorgeous Mori Lee dress, customised with a polka dot sash (and a polka dot garter!) which matched JP’s tie, made by Elmmies. The polka dot theme continued into the cake, the linens and even the groom’s socks!
“So Dottie loves polka dots to death & that’s how she picked up the nickname Dottie,” Christina, their photographer, told me. “They are a super fun & totally madly in love couple that know how to live life to the fullest! We LOVE all of their fun faces & big smiles! Not to mention they’re epic style. They are the happiest, nicest couple around. They’re the type of people that can make you laugh until your belly hurts & horchata comes out your nose & ohmygosh, the reception was filled with tons of the best goodies that life has to offer. They spent their honeymoon at the happiest place on earth…but of course, DISNEYLAND!”
Rennie & Joe are the coolest. The couple, who have known each other for 19 years and were first loves, still felt marriage was important to them even after all that time. “Most would think that it must be boring to marry after such a long time and that we might just be going through the motions,” Rennie told me. “On the contrary, our decision to marry was not because we felt we “had to” – we decided to marry after all this time because we are more madly in love than ever and still best friends. We created our ceremony around our wishes to deepen our commitment to each other and profess our love in the presence of those who are most important to us.”
The couple both adore all things vintage and so they fashioned their wedding around this vibe, with an edge of Rock n Roll to suit their quirkly style. They did a lot of the wedding design themselves too. “Joe bought a nice suit and had the entire thing re-cut to look like a mod 1960’s suit,” continued the bride. “I ended up making my dress from a vintage pattern, as well as three flower-girl dresses. We emptied flea market vendors of their milk-glass and record selections (don’t worry – we only chose the records that were too scuffed to play!!) to make the table decorations. It was a lot of work, but we loved all of it… it was wonderful to have so much control over our plans.”
“Joe was very good about participating in the plans – he definitely had a vision for the wedding. Our ‘get-away-car’ was a 1973 Norton Commando, which he spent the past two years restoring. Music was especially important to both of us – we had an incredible mix of soul, rock n’ roll, punk, old country (it is Nashville, after all) and reggae from our own personal record collection.”
“Joe and I walked down the aisle together – I’m close to my Dad, but at 30 years old, I am definitely my own woman. We chose Otis Redding’s “That’s How Strong My Love Is” because it has a lot of significance in our relationship. I would not have predicted myself to be a crier, but when we began our walk down the isle, I just bawled. In fact, about half of our guests cried tears of joy right along with me, so at least I wasn’t alone!”
“Because most of our guests came from several hundred miles away, I wanted to spend as much time with them as possible. With that in mind, we hired help for the perishable portion of the wedding. Our caterer took care of everyone (vegan, veggie and gluten-allergic guests) and our baker made unbelievable vegan & gluten-free cupcakes. The florist did a lovely job using locally grown, seasonal flowers.”